The Single Muslim Ramadan Plan

Ramadan is a gift from Allah, the Most Loving Guide.  (And it's only a WEEK away!) That means we're about to experience a month of spiritual training designed for us to increase our level of consciousness. However, as the Prophet, peace and blessings upon him, said: "One may fast and get nothing from their fast but hunger. One may stand in prayer at night and get nothing from their prayer but a sleepless night." [Collection: Ibn Majah] How can we ensure our level of consciousness rises with each passing day during the blessed month?

A couple of years ago, I taught a live event called, "Meet and Marry the One", and as a framework for the event, I realized that there are a handful of powerfully transformative qualities that - if we embody them - we actually BECOME 'the One' that everyone is looking for. And it turns out the "becoming" the One, is actually the secret to attracting the one.

The best month of the year is coming up. Originally, I was thinking I would keep the doors of the Meet Him & Marry Him program open until February 14th, because, ya know, I'm a hapless romantic at heart. But the voices of my better angels took over and told me this is a completely made-up Hallmark occasion, and Ramadan is coming up pretty soon afterwards, and there are far more pressing things to talk about.   

After coaching hundreds of people on this, I think it's fair to say that the one of the hardest things people find about trying to use online marriage websites and apps like MuzzMatch is the time wasters. Sure, the creeps are bad too - but you can just delete and report them.  But the Time Wasters are like wolves in sheep's clothing.  They appear to be decent guys. And you think you're doing the right thing by going along with them, waiting for them to make the next move, BUT…  …There is no next move.

A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away… Back when I was at university, there was a guy who was part of some kind of weird political Muzlamik organization. (Muzlamik is a made up word - it means kinda' sorta' tryin' to be Muslim or Islamic but not really).  And, one day the Muzlamik political guy got really clever. When the UK and the US had just gone to war with Iraq, all the students on campus (including the vast majority of the Muslim students), joined the "Stop The War" campaign and organized the 2 Million man anti-war march in London. But for some reason, this particular character didn't like the way we were all going about it - campaigning side-by-side with all those lefties. Something had to be done about it.  

A lot of my messages lately have been about supporting people to overcome their inner blocks and creating effective strategies so that they can find a wonderful partner for marriage.  But just in case that's not your goal… here are my top tips on how to stay single forever...

Believe it or not, there are some single people out there who have been too busy having zero success in their marriage search to take an hour out of their jam-packed schedule of terribly disappointing 'dates', to check out this training:  www.mamoonyusaf.com/MHMH   

A couple of months ago, I received this email from a sister.  My response will follow. QUESTION:  As Salaam Alykum Mamoon I want to share something with you. I totally understand that as Muslims we sometimes use the word "date" to mean to court and it doesn't mean date in the American context of going out endlessly and become bf/gf. However, there is a huge problem with that.

When you're single, it can seem like a long, never-ending journey - from meeting someone who's not a complete weirdo… all the way through to figuring out whether or not they could be a good life partner, and then deciding whether or not you really want them to be the one you spend the rest of your life with. And unfortunately, generally speaking, advice for Muslims on this is virtually non-existent.  For some mystical reason, Muslims are single, then suddenly get married… but nothing ever happened in between.  

Over the last decade, I've done 1000s of coaching sessions, and a lot of them have been with single Muslims. And during those sessions, I've received 1000's of questions.  Everything from: "How should I respond to this text?" to… "How come this guy isn't getting back to me?" to… "Should I go out with this guy again, or am I just wasting my time?" to… "We're both madly in love, but our parents aren't on board."