619: How to Manage Your Perfectionism

At the age of 7, our guest today was selling greeting cards door-to-door.  By age 14, he owned a small international import business.  By age 21, he was teaching at the University of Minnesota, and during the next 15 years, he was selected as the “Outstanding Faculty Member” by two different universities. At age 36, our speaker retired from teaching and opened his own speaking, training, and executive coaching company.  That position has allowed him to deliver more than 3000 programs around the world.  Of course, you may already be familiar with Dr. Zimmerman.  You may have heard him speak at a conference, or perhaps you’ve seen him on Fox News, CNN, on the CBS Morning Show.  And you may have read his books, several of which have become #1 best-sellers on Amazon.com.  In this episode, Alan and Cindra talk about the: The 12 Keys to Peak Performance and Extraordinary Relationships Why most people live smaller than they should be His LASTING acronym and how it can help you to be your best more often His 3 legged stool to help you understand your purpose more deeply And, his 8 parts of balance.   HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE  LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. Z’S JOURNEY TO THE EXTRAORDINARY – Remember to use the code “CINDRA” for $100 Off FOLLOW SIGN UP FOR THE FREE MENTAL BREAKTHROUGH CALL WITH CINDRA’S TEAM TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MENTALLY STRONG INSTITUTE Love the show? Rate and review the show to help us reach more and more people. We appreciate you!  

The World’s Best choose courage instead of fear. They feel the fear, but don’t let it keep them from doing what they want to, have to, or were designed to do. As Jimmy Johnson, the coach who led the Dallas Cowboys to two consecutive Super Bowls, once said, “Do you want to be safe and good, or do you want to take a chance and be great?”   This Week's Power Phrase: “I embrace my fear and choose courage.” Quote of the Week: “Do the thing that you fear to do and keep on doing it…that is the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer your fear.” - Dale Carnegie (American author)

Flying an airplane is a challenging activity, even in clear skies and perfect weather… Now imagine you are flying a plane in combat. The enemy on the ground is trying to kill you by shooting down your plane. All while you are trying to save the lives of YOUR TEAM on the ground who are under attack. That's exactly what Martha McSally did as an A-10 fighter pilot in the Air Force.  Martha's life has been spent overcoming things like fear, self-doubt, trauma, adversity, and obstacles.  After arriving at the U.S. Air Force Academy for basic training at 18, she was told that it was against the law for women to become fighter pilots.  So what did she do? She decided that’s exactly what she would do and became the first woman in U.S. history to fly a fighter jet in combat!  Plus, she later became the 1st woman in U.S. history to command a fighter squadron….which meant, in combat, she was the first one in and the last one out! She deployed 6 times to the Middle East and Afghanistan, flying 325 combat hours, earning the bronze star and six air metals.  After serving our country for 26 years in the Air Force and retiring as a full Colonel, Martha was elected to Congress. She served 2 terms in the U.S. House of Representative and was appointed to the U.S. Senate after Senator John McCain’s passing. As you can imagine, she has had a front row seat, and been an active participant, in shaping the world we live in… always in service to others. Now, Martha continues to serve by sharing her hard-learned life and leadership lessons through keynote speaking, online courses, and beyond.  In this episode, Martha and Cindra talk about the: The ways fear holds you back from your dreams  How you can “Drop the Drag” How to intentionally shape your identity And, she openly shares how she has worked through trauma in her own life to help us understand how we can work through ours.   HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE  LEARN MORE ABOUT THE YOU 3.0 RETREAT MARTHA IS HOSTING MARTHA’S WEEKLY COACHING ON FACEBOOK FOLLOW SIGN UP FOR THE FREE MENTAL BREAKTHROUGH CALL WITH CINDRA’S TEAM TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MENTALLY STRONG INSTITUTE Love the show? Rate and review the show to help us reach more and more people. We appreciate you!    

In this episode, Dr. Cindra shares how everyone has limiting beliefs that hold us back. We explore in this episode how to recognize your limiting beliefs and the steps to address your limiting beliefs. Power Phrase this Week: “I choose powerful beliefs about my future.” Quote of the Week: “If you accept a limiting belief, then it will become a truth for you.” - Louise Hay

You are here because you want to be the best that you can be. You have high standards for yourself. You want to gain the competitive advantage. That is what Lynne Jensen-Nelson is here today. After earning her master’s degree, she rose through the ranks from front line sales to corporate executive leadership.  Now through her skills in keynote speaking, workshops, and business strategy, Lynne transfers key lessons learned from years of experience to organizations across the country. Lynne founded Conversion-omics Speakers & Consultants to help organizations create true competitive advantage.  Today this company has grown to 90+ professional speakers and consultants who are experts in virtually all topic areas. Her goal is to bring the INFORMATION, MOTIVATION, and INSPIRATION you need to take your event or project to the next level.  In this episode, Lynne and Cindra talk about the: 4 components of Competitive Advantage How to consider your mindset, skillset, and toolset to gain a competitive advantage The 4 P’s of Confidence The 2 most important things you should do for those you work with And, language to use and language to lose   HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE LEARN MORE ABOUT LYNNE AND CONVERSION-OMICS HERE FOLLOW SIGN UP FOR THE FREE MENTAL BREAKTHROUGH CALL WITH CINDRA’S TEAM TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MENTALLY STRONG INSTITUTE Love the show? Rate and review the show for Cindra to mention you on the next episode.

 As a high achiever, it is good to strive for success and have high expectations. These high standards keep you going, striving to be your best. When you strive to be your best, you help others around you do the same. But perfection is unattainable. Instead, consider striving for excellence instead and Dr. Cindra shares with us how to do just that. Power Phrase this Week: “I am kind to myself when things don’t go perfectly moving on quickly to protect my confidence.” Quote of the Week: “At the root of perfectionism isn’t really about a deep love for being meticulous. It’s about fear. Fear of making a mistake. Fear of disappointing others. Fear of failure.” - Michael Law  

Finding your flow zone starts with your mind and channeling your focus to the present moment. Your mind is a muscle; it takes daily practice to master it. Flow is like a muscle—the more you train and experience flow. In this episode, Dr. Kamphoff shares the 3 barriers that get in the way of flow for you. Power Phrase this Week: “My mind is like a muscle. I train my mind to increase my chances of finding flow.” Quote of the Week: “Flow is being completely involved in the activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies.” - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi  

You're here because high performance is one of your mindsets. You're already good at what you do and you know there's still more that you can do on your journey both personally and professionally. One of the most famous high performers in the world of business and finance is Warren Buffett. He is ranked as the number one investor of all times and is now one of the world's richest men. Warren said, "You can improve your value by 50% just by learning communication skills and public speaking."  That's why I wanted you to meet our special guest, Joel Weldon. Joel is my personal speaking skills coach and a Hall of Fame professional speaker, He is the creator of the Ultimate Speaking System for entrepreneurs and business owners as well as executives to speak even more effectively by following one of the most important mindsets ordinary speakers just don't have. If you rated yourself using a 1 to 10 scale on your ability to speak in front of a group, made up of your ideal audience members, what would that number be right now? It can be anywhere from one which would mean, I'm terrified to speak and I hate it to 10 which would be, I love to speak and I'm amazing at it.  Wherever you are on that scale, the mindset that Joel is going to share with you can help you be an even better speaker and communicator. Joel has been paid to speak at over 3,000 events and has personally coached well over 10,000 speakers. He is considered one of the highest performing speakers and speaking skill coaches in America. I have seen how he can turn an ordinary presentation into an extraordinary one. You will too.  In this episode, Joel and Cindra discuss:  How to start and end a presentation or speech  His NFV Formula to connect with the audience How ordinary speakers get it wrong How to choose the best story to tell And, how to start a story   HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE LEARN MORE ABOUT JOEL WELDON AND HIS ULTIMATE SPEAKING SYSTEM  FOLLOW SIGN UP FOR THE FREE MENTAL BREAKTHROUGH CALL WITH CINDRA’S TEAM TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MENTALLY STRONG INSTITUTE Love the show? Rate and review the show for Cindra to mention you on the next episode.

Your big dreams allow you to step into your own unique potential. And when building your career and pushing forward, it’s easy to spend too much time thinking about and planning the future. In this episode, Dr. Cindra shares when to focus on the process vs. your destination, or the outcome. Power Phrase this Week: “I take my goals on step at a time focused on the process.” Quote of the Week: “If you focus on the process and not the outcome, you’ll have better results.” - Joe Madden

Maura Nevel Thomas is an award-winning international speaker, trainer, and an author on individual and corporate productivity and work-life balance, and one of the most widely-cited authority on attention management. Maura’s clients include the likes of Google, Old Navy, L’Oréal, and NASA. She is a TEDx speaker, and author of six books on the topics of attention management and personal and organizational productivity. She has columns in Forbes and Harvard Business Review.  Maura earned an MBA from the University of Massachusetts and has studied the field of productivity all over the world for more than two decades. In this episode, Cindra and Maura discuss:  How productivity advice gets it wrong   Her Empowered Productivity System  10 signs that you need to master attention management When multi-tasking works and doesn’t work And, her communication guidelines for leaders  HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE LEARN MORE ABOUT LAURA  FOLLOW SIGN UP FOR THE FREE MENTAL BREAKTHROUGH CALL WITH CINDRA’S TEAM TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MENTALLY STRONG INSTITUTE Love the show? Rate and review the show for Cindra to mention you on the next episode.