#103 | Series on Trust: (Part III) What is your Motive? Can you be trusted?

As we approach Valentine's Day on 14th February, we are rebroadcasting this episode with Cliona Somers on Waiting and Dating – what advice do you need? Are you tired of scrolling dating apps and losing heart that you will ever discover your life partner? Join us as we dig into the top 10 tips for those waiting to date. And for those dating how to get the best out of dating - the pitfalls to avoid and joys to experience. ------------Hearts + Minds Official website - hearts-minds.ieIG - @heartsandmindsireFB - Hearts+Minds | FacebookEmail: [email protected]+Minds events in Dublin, Belfast, Cork, Galway and Navan

This is the fourth podcast episode in our series on trust. In the previous three episodes, we shared simple tips and tools for building trust, focusing on the essential building blocks: understanding and motive.In today's episode, ''Can You Get the Job Done?'', we explore the third essential building block of trust: ability.While we may be trustworthy in many areas of our lives, we might lack ability in a specific one. Ability is closely tied to the desire to learn and also requires self-awareness. Hit the play and listen to how the capacity to adapt and learn can help us build skill sets that improve our abilities and trustworthiness.Listen to the other episodes in the series:#97 | Series on Trust: (Part I) How to build up trust?#101 | Series on Trust: (Part II) Understand me don't try to persuade me - First step in Trust#103 | Series on Trust: (Part III) What is your Motive? Can you be trusted?------------Hearts + Minds Official website - hearts-minds.ieIG - @heartsandmindsireFB - Hearts+Minds | FacebookEmail: [email protected]+Minds events in Dublin, Belfast, Cork, Galway and Navan

Join us in this insightful episode as we explore the fascinating concept of psychological immunity and the key elements that contribute to it. We dive deep into the question, 'What is psychological immunity?' to understand its importance and impact on our well-being.  We explore the role of friendships in building psychological immunity. We share personal stories and examples, showcasing the power of supportive relationships and emotional connections.  We discuss the virtues that can be considered the superpower of human beings - kindness, honesty, hard work, and forgiveness. We explore how these virtues contribute to building psychological immunity and provide insights on staying strong when facing life's unexpected challenges and problems.  We focus on practical tools and daily routines that can help you maintain psychological strength. Discover valuable tips and strategies to integrate into your daily life.  We also address the critical question of when to seek professional help. Our guest, Bridget, founder of Wilfrid's House, shares her inspiration behind establishing this counselling and emotional support centre, highlighting the importance of professional guidance.Subscribe to our podcast - it makes a world of difference to us!Hearts+Minds on SpotifyHearts+Minds on Apple PodcastsLinks:Wilfrid's House: https://wilfridshouse.org//https://www.linkedin.com/company/wilfrids-house/------------Hearts + Minds Official website - hearts-minds.ieIG - @heartsandmindsireFB - Hearts+Minds | FacebookEmail: [email protected]+Minds events in Dublin, Belfast, Cork, Galway and Navan

Advent can be a bit of a blur for most people. And yet, if you can give it a moment it can really make an impact on these last few weeks before Christmas. It is a time of opportunity - or grace as we would say in the Catholic tradition. God is coming and we cannot wait! But in the midst of the rushing, frenetic activities, how can we shift our focus?In this podcast episode, we discuss the attitudes of the first family to do the first Advent, Mary, Joseph, and the Child. How did they stay calm and serene in the midst of so much uncertainty? Mary trusted everything would be okay even though there was no plan for the newborn. There seemed no angry outbursts on the part of Joseph even though he seemed to have failed in his first steps of fatherhood.  We explore Advent as a time to prepare to love others as they are and to accept whatever our Christmas holds because God is coming to us where we are and we can always love others because we are always loved by God.------------Hearts + Minds Official website - hearts-minds.ieIG - @heartsandmindsireFB - Hearts+Minds | FacebookEmail: [email protected]+Minds events in Dublin, Belfast, Cork, Galway and Navan

Today, we have a fascinating guest who will be sharing her insights on the courage to create. Emelia Silva is an artist and songwriter with a degree in Global Jazz Studies from UCLA. She has been singing across various genres for the past 18 years.In this conversation, Emelia opens up about her family background, life story, influences, and motivations. She reflects on the significance of growing up in an environment that nurtured her passions and the transformative power of music.Emelia also discusses the importance of living with love, even amidst life’s challenges, by focusing on what is essential and considering the most loving response to each situation.Find Emeli on: - The main music streaming services- Instagram: @emeliasilvamusic------------Hearts + Minds Official website - hearts-minds.ieIG - @heartsandmindsireFB - Hearts+Minds | FacebookEmail: [email protected]+Minds events in Dublin, Belfast, Cork, Galway and Navan

This is the third episode in our series on trust, and today we will explore another essential building block: motive.We’ll dive into why motive is crucial, look at John Gottman's "index of betrayal"—a metric that signals when a marriage may be in trouble—and see how the right motives can actually help increase trust.We'll also explore motive in the workplace, reflecting on how my own approach fits with the team and where my work aligns well with others.We invite you to engage in this insightful conversation and to share this episode with your friends. RESOURCESThe Speed of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything by Stephen M.R. Covey;The Way of Trust and Love by Jacques Philippe;  Trust by Dr. Henry Cloud. ------------Hearts + Minds Official website - hearts-minds.ieIG - @heartsandmindsireFB - Hearts+Minds | FacebookEmail: [email protected]+Minds events in Dublin, Belfast, Cork, Galway and Navan

Chiara Degenfeld is joining us for part III of the Theology of the Body series, where we will explore why being engaged is so special.Today, we will talk about engagement, embracing the journey, and making the most of your engagement to grow as a couple.We will explore how a couple can build a strong foundation for their marriage during the engagement, the importance of discovering their fiancé's communication style, and the benefits of taking a marriage preparation course that covers the emotional, practical, and spiritual aspects of it.Chiara explains how couples can foster a deep emotional connection during the engagement phase and the difference between wedding planning and preparing for the sacrament of marriage.Lastly, she shares the role the sacraments of Mass, Confession, and the Eucharist played in her spiritual preparation for marriage. Listen to the first two episode of the series:#98 | Series Theology of the Body: (Part I) Did you know you are sacred?#100 | Series Theology of the Body: (Part II) How can porn affect my relationship?RESOURCES 👩‍❤️‍👨 Marriage Courses - https://alphaireland.org/the-marriage-courses ------------Hearts + Minds Official website - hearts-minds.ieIG - @heartsandmindsireFB - Hearts+Minds | FacebookEmail: [email protected]+Minds events in Dublin, Belfast, Cork, Galway and Navan

This is the second podcast in this series called "How Can I Build Trust", and in this podcast, we're going to dig into the first essential building block, which we touched on briefly in the last podcast, which is listening and understanding.We're going to explore what it looks like to be understood, dig into a bit of brain science and discover what hostage negotiators have to teach us about building trust and some red flags in the area. And finally, to finish the golden rule: treat others as you want to be treated.Listen to the first episode of the series:#97 | Series on Trust: (Part I) How to build up trust?RESOURCESThe Speed of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything by Stephen M.R. Covey;The Way of Trust and Love by Jacques Philippe;  Trust by Dr. Henry Cloud. ------------Hearts + Minds Official website - hearts-minds.ieIG - @heartsandmindsireFB - Hearts+Minds | FacebookEmail: [email protected]+Minds events in Dublin, Belfast, Cork, Galway and Navan

Chiara Degenfeld is joining us again today for part II of the Theology of the Body series.  Today's topic, we will address the difficult topic of porn and how it can affect your relationship.Chiara discusses some disturbing statistics about porn in men and women;  how porn leads to addictive behaviour and distortion of the perception of pleasure. She explores how porn addiction typically starts and how to address porn in a relationship. She shares experiences of how people can overcome porn addiction, how to establish open communication with one's partners, seeking help and the path to recovery.  Finally, Chiara discusses how parents can address porn with their children and how to create a safe environment where children feel free to communicate openly with parents about porn on social networks and devices.Listen to the first episode of the series: #98 | Series Theology of the Body: (Part I) Did you know you are sacred?RESOURCES 🎥 Documentary on pornography → Brainheartworld.org📚 Book → Delivered: true stories of men and women who turned from porn to purity – Matt Fradd🌐 Website → The porn effect: www.theporneffect.com🌐 Website → covenanteyes.com (protection on devices)📰 Article → Addiction, and the need for more leadership: https://thosecatholicmen.com/articles/a-good-catholic-porn-addiction/🗂️ More sources on pornography → http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/human-life-and-dignity/pornography/index.cfm------------Hearts + Minds Official website - hearts-minds.ieIG - @heartsandmindsireFB - Hearts+Minds | FacebookEmail: [email protected]+Minds events in Dublin, Belfast, Cork, Galway and Navan

In this episode, we dive into the difference between self-development and holiness within the Catholic tradition. While self-development focuses on personal achievements and self-fulfilment, we discuss why this alone is not enough to truly satisfy someone's life. Instead, we explore the path of holiness - an invitation to grow in our unique personalities while striving to become more like Jesus.Throughout the conversation, we address the potential pitfalls of self-development when pursued in isolation, such as envy or comparison, and highlight the transformative power of holiness in cultivating inner peace and purpose. We emphasise that holiness doesn't mean losing our individuality but enhancing it through a deeper relationship with Christ.By the end of this episode, we hope you'll understand that the goal is not perfectionism but a genuine commitment to living according to Christ's teachings and that true success is found not in worldly achievements but in the ongoing spiritual journey of becoming the person God calls us to be.Resources "Friends of God", St. Josemaria Escriva de Balaguer; "The Practice of the Presence of God" by Brother Lawrence; "Searching for and Maintaining Peace: A Small Treatise on Peace of Heart" by Fr. Jacques Philippe;  "Coached by Josemaría Escrivá: Lessons in Discipleship" by Fr. John Henry Hanson, O. Praem.------------Hearts + Minds Official website - hearts-minds.ieIG - @heartsandmindsireFB - Hearts+Minds | FacebookEmail: [email protected]+Minds events in Dublin, Belfast, Cork, Galway and Navan