371. False Endings

A couple months ago I spoke a message called False Endings, and we have heard so much feedback about this message, I wanted you to hear it. Stay to the end because the last story - might surprise you. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + Havilah's Site: http://havilahcunnington.com + Truth to Table: http://truthtotable.com + Truth Academy: https://thetruthacademy.com/

This week, we’re talking about hitting a relational wall—you know, when you love the people in your life but also kind of can’t stand being around them? Yep, that one. It’s one of the hardest walls to face because we’re only half of the equation, and it can feel messy, exhausting, and honestly, pretty lonely. In this episode, I open up about how I’ve navigated relational shutdown, what Proverbs says about gentle answers (and why gentleness isn’t weakness), and the tools I use to move toward connection without losing myself. I’ll show you how to write the message you won’t regret, ask better questions that invite instead of accuse, and set boundaries that protect without punishing. Need help navigating those hard conversations? Grab my free Conversation Cheat Sheet for practical phrases to open hearts, not wounds. Link here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/12jQPfFVk5_fujPmE_KAfnu4B9MK5yR_v/view?usp=sharingAnd if you want to go even deeper, check out my book I Do Boundaries—it’s your guide to loving people without losing yourself - https://a.co/d/4T3ABPK

This week, we’re talking about what it feels like when your body hits a wall—when you’re doing all the things, but still feel like you’re dragging yourself through the day. I’ve been there. From chronic exhaustion to physical pain that forced me to stop everything, I’m sharing my own story of burnout and the wake-up call it gave me. If your body is waving the white flag, this is your reminder that it’s not betraying you—it’s begging you to listen. In this episode, I offer simple, real-life strategies to start restoring your health with intention, not guilt. Ask yourself: What’s one thing my body is trying to tell me today? And what’s one habit I can stop or start that will honor my physical health? Let’s build rhythms that let us thrive, not just survive.Get I Do Hard Things: https://a.co/d/cWL9Q8K

This week, we’re talking about hitting a mental wall—when your brain feels like it has 67 tabs open and half of them are buffering. You’re doing the things: sleeping, hydrating, showing up... and still, you're exhausted, foggy, and stuck in thought loops that won’t quit. I’ve been there too. In this episode, I share real strategies that help me when my brain taps out, from interrupting the spiral to brain-dumping everything on a piece of paper (yes, everything). We’ll unpack why your brain isn’t broken—it’s just overloaded—and how to reset, refill, and reframe. Ask yourself: What’s one thought loop I need to break this week? And what’s one small action I can take to reset my mental state? Let’s get honest and get our minds back.Join The Clarity Challenge: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6YSlWk3sWVpgdDvvMh0ufQpYrSfoRShx

This week, I’m kicking off a brand new series all about hitting the invisible walls in our lives—you know, the ones that show up out of nowhere and leave us stuck, exhausted, and wondering what just happened. I had a whole different plan for this month, but I hit one of those walls myself and knew we needed to talk about it. Whether it’s mental, spiritual, physical, or even environmental, these walls can sneak up on us and take us out if we don’t pause and pay attention. In this episode, I walk you through how I’ve learned to name the wall, ask what it’s trying to protect me from, and remind myself that it’s not a dead end—it’s a doorway. So take a breath, friend. You’ve done nothing wrong. The wall is real, but so are you.

This week, I’m talking about what it feels like to think you’ve missed your moment—like maybe God handed your calling to someone with a prettier feed or better timing. If you’ve ever found yourself scrolling and spiraling, thinking “I should be further along by now,” you are not alone. I’ve been there. I share a personal story about a big opportunity I turned down, how it looked like I got left behind, and the truth God showed me about His timing. You are not behind—you are becoming. So let me ask you: What if God’s delay is actually divine? What’s being built in you right now that couldn’t be built in the fast

This week, I’m talking about something we don’t often say out loud—what happens when burnout starts to look spiritual? You know that moment where you’re still called, still committed, but your capacity feels like it got hit by a truck? Yep, we’re going there. I open up about my own experiences with soul fatigue, what Scripture really says about growing weary in well-doing, and how to recognize the signs before you hit that breaking point. I also share three questions that have helped me check in with myself: Am I running from something or running toward something? What’s fueling me—obligation or overflow? Am I resting to recover or scrolling to escape? Let’s be honest, let’s be kind to ourselves, and let’s talk about how we keep showing up when quitting sounds like relief.Author School Guidebooks: havilahsauthorschool.com/guidebooks

Waiting on God can feel like watching water boil—slow, frustrating, and honestly, a little painful. In this episode, I get super real about what it’s like to be in a waiting season and the lies we start to believe when things don’t move fast enough. I share how God used my single years and silent seasons to build something in me that couldn’t be rushed. So if you’ve ever thought, “If God loved me, He’d answer,” or “Everyone else is moving forward but me,” or even, “Nothing is happening,” this one’s for you. Because sis, you’re not forgotten—you’re being forged.Author School Guidebooks: havilahsauthorschool.com/guidebooks

In this episode, I open up about what it feels like when God goes silent—and how that silence can shake our faith to the core. If you've ever felt like your prayers are hitting the ceiling or like you're on “read” with heaven, you’re not alone. I talk about how silence doesn’t mean absence, and how divine delays are often God’s strategy to develop us in hidden places. I also share some honest reflections, practical tools for getting through the silence, and three questions to help you get real about where you’re at: - Am I exhausted or spiritually malnourished? - Am I praying or performing? - Am I showing up to be seen or to stay aligned?

Hey friends! I’m so glad you’re here for this parenting episode—it’s a special one because I’ve got my husband, Ben, joining me, and we’re diving into your top parenting questions. From navigating the dating convo with your kids (yes, even the 6-year-olds asking about boyfriends!) to figuring out when and how to discipline without losing your mind—we’re going there. We're not claiming to have it all figured out, but we’re sharing what’s worked (and hasn’t) in our own wild and wonderful journey raising four boys. It's honest, a little messy, and totally full of grace. Let’s do this together!Checkout my parenting course with Lisa Bevere - Moms of Men: https://truthtotable.com/moms-of-men/