#180 Feeling Exhausted by Constant Growth & Wishing You Had a Vice in Sobriety (feat. My Mom)

One of the scariest things about getting sober can be the fear of how it will impact our social lives and our friendships. I got sober at 27 years old, and now at over 5 years sober, I'm sharing all the ways that my sobriety changed my social life!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my community, the Happiest Sober Hub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter for FREE sober tips & inspo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my sober merchGet 10% off NA drinks from the Zero ProofGet 10% off the Brick app and gain back control of your screen time!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch my sober vlogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my Amazon storefront⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShopMy favourite things⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, my mom joins me for a conversation inspired by a recent Happiest Sober Hub meeting. If you've ever struggled with feeling exhausted or burnt out by your own desire (or pressure) to constantly be growing and working on yourself in sobriety... or if you've ever felt resentful that other people "get to" do whatever they want while you're doing the hard work on yourself... or if you've ever wondered "don't I deserve a vice, too?"... then this episode is for you!Get 10% off the Brick app and gain back control of your screen time!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my community, the Happiest Sober Hub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter for FREE sober tips & inspo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch my sober vlogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my sober merch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my Amazon storefront⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShopMy favourite things⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week's episode is for anyone who struggles with feeling like they need to prove themselves in sobriety - whether that's proving that you're still fun sober, that you're doing enough in sobriety, or that your decision to quit drinking was justified. I share my own experience with these struggles and some reframes to help you let them go!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my community, the Happiest Sober Hub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter for FREE sober tips & inspo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch my sober vlogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my sober merch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my Amazon storefront⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShopMy favourite things⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, my mom and I are answering a question from one of our happies: "How do I avoid complacency in sobriety?" Whether you're in early sobriety or long-term sobriety, this conversation is a super inspiring one about how to stay connected to your sobriety and the BIG, happy life you want to live after getting sober!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

One thing that can be an obstacle in making our sobriety stick (and that so many people may not even realize they're doing) is placing conditions on our sobriety. Believing you can only stay sober in certain circumstances, or that you aren't capable of staying sober when life gets hard. But as long as we place conditions on our sobriety, we render ourselves powerless. The truth is, life IS going to happen sometimes - and unless we make our sobriety unconditional, then we never fully have power over it. When we decide we aren't drinking no matter what, and we are capable of getting through absolutely anything sober, THAT is when we step into our power. My mom and I chat in depth about this mindset shift in this episode.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my community, the Happiest Sober Hub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter for FREE sober tips & inspo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch my sober vlogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my sober merch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my Amazon storefront⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShopMy favourite things⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, my mom and I chat all about letting go of other people's opinions of our sobriety! I share a recent encounter I had with a drinker that would've definitely bothered me in early sobriety, but that I was instead able to laugh off. We also talk about how to identify our own inner voice rather than the voice keeping us stuck. And we answer a listener question: how to let go of the fear of judgment not about being sober, but about being "such a mess" that we needed to get sober in the first place? We cover SO much in this conversation and it's one of my favourite ones we've had in a while!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my community, the Happiest Sober Hub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter for FREE sober tips & inspo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch my sober vlogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my sober merch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my Amazon storefront⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShopMy favourite things⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Has someone in your life recently started a sober journey and you're wondering how to best support them? This episode is for you! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my community, the Happiest Sober Hub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter for FREE sober tips & inspo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch my sober vlogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my sober merch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my Amazon storefront⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShopMy favourite things⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episode, my mom and I have a very open and unfiltered discussion about navigating the pressure of the beauty standard at this time in our lives. I share openly about the pressure I've been putting on myself as my wedding day approaches later this year and why I want to let that go. We also talk about untangling our worth from the way we look, our thoughts on letting ourselves age, and working through struggles with body image. When we get sober, sobriety becomes about LIFE and working through our challenges without alcohol. That's why we're bringing you this conversation today. It's not as focused on sobriety in terms of specifically "not drinking"... but it is an honest conversation between two sober women who are committed to growth and doing our own work in sobriety. I hope this one resonates with those who need it right now!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my community, the Happiest Sober Hub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter for FREE sober tips & inspo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch my sober vlogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my sober merch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my Amazon storefront⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShopMy favourite things⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you're on a sober journey but you still struggle with thoughts of romanticizing drinking, this episode is for you! In this TBT solo episode, I share ALL my tips and reframes to help you stop romanticizing alcohol in sobriety!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my community, the Happiest Sober Hub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter for FREE sober tips & inspo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch my sober vlogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my sober merch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my Amazon storefront⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShopMy favourite things⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, we're talking all about building new habits in sobriety, and taking advantage of neuroplasticity to rewire our brains! I chat about breaking the habit of drinking, replacing it with healthier coping mechanisms, AND how to use sober tools to our advantage when it comes to staying consistent with other habits in our lives.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my community, the Happiest Sober Hub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter for FREE sober tips & inspo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch my sober vlogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my sober merch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my Amazon storefront⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShopMy favourite things⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.