5529 The Benefits of FAFO!

What sparked the idea behind your recent poll and proposal video to reconsider paid private calls?What are your thoughts on the result of the poll and subsequent comments?Stef I am currently seeing a woman, I would not say she is my girlfriend I just have chatted with her a few times and she gave me her phone number. Anyway I saw her Instagram page by random accident, maybe not completely random as the algorithm probably recognised that my phone number is on her contacts list. Anyway, I saw her Instagram page and I decided to take a look, it has several pro Aboriginal posts. This woman does not know the truth about indigenous Australian history and if she did would she still put these posts praising Aborginal culture on her Instagram? My question is Stef how do I break the news that Indigenous Australian ‘history’ as presented in Australian schools, universities and the Australian media is a lie. I want to show her your presentation on Indigenous Australia History. As Schopenhauer wrote ‘making women angry is not a good idea if you want to reproduce’. Dating today is hard and younger generations are having less sex than ever but on the other hand a commitment to truth telling is one of the most important virtues. How do I go about telling her this truth or should I just accept the fact that she is female and she can continue living on with this delusion as most females don’t have to deal with objective reality to survive. I too was constantly presented with the false history of indigenous Australian History and Culture during school and college but I accepted the reality of the true history when I saw your presentation. As she is female I don’t see any likely outcome other than her becoming hostile to the truth and resultantly seeing me as an enemy. Stef as you have stated women don’t like to hear the truth and women are particularly susceptible to government propaganda, which leaves me in a tough situation because if this is really how women in general think then how can I balance the line between exposing her to the truth about her leftist delusions whilst also doing it in a way where she doesn’t get mad and leave me? Unfortunately Stef this leftist type of ‘virtue’ signalling is on virtually every woman’s social media so I don’t think I have the luxury of just leaving and miraculously finding the super rare women who isn’t into this woke nonsense. To clarify this woman is not Aboriginal, she claims to be from some Aboriginal tribe but she is as pale as a British woman, it’s possible she may identify as an Aboriginal in the same way Elizabeth Warren identifies as Native American. She may believe being aboriginal gives her special status or she may have 1-2% indigenous blood and identify as indigenous despite the vast majority off her blood being European. White looking Australians identifying as Aboriginal is quite common over here. This may complicate things further if I decide to break the news to her & show her your presentation about ‘The Truth about Indigenous History’. To give you more information this woman was actually a good conversationalist on the few times I chatted with her and did not treat me in the vapid narcisstic manner many women display towards men these days. So I think there is enough good qualities present in this woman that all is needed is the right approach to educate her about the truth of Aboriginal Australian Culture & History. Stef have you ever educated a woman to make the truth more accessible to her in a less confrontational manner and how do you recommend I go about doing it? Would it be deceptive of me to ignore these differences until a later date in a relationship. To clarify she is 26 so not super late stages in the egg count, but yeah I shouldn’t be wasting more than 1 year of this woman’s life before bringing this up. What do you think would be the best way to tell a woman that her woke programming is all a big lie and that she should stop identifying as Aboriginal as she is almost certainly at least 95% British. Why would she ignore at least 95% of her ancestry to identify with this culture, why would she do it, why do so many women seek some sort of special status by claiming to be Aboriginal or Native American when they are not or it is only a tiny fragment of their ancestry at most?You've constantly asked for feedback on your books, and I think I have something valuable to mention regarding your fictional work. I've noticed this right from the start but it took me years to get my head around it and come up with something that hopefully makes sense.Your dumb, low-IQ, or shallow characters do not feel genuine. The example that I have in mind is the guy in the Just Poor novel who gets his head smacked by his partner when trying to sell the stuff they produced at their "co-op" farm. His actions and overall behavior are in line with how a real-life dumb person might behave, but his inner dialogue and the way he expresses his ideas often seem way more complex than they should be.I was born and live in a country in Eastern Europe with an average IQ of 86 and I've met a large number of low-IQ people throughout my lifetime. They have significant difficulties in articulating their ideas and they have a limited vocabulary so the way they speak is inferior to how the Just Poor guy I mentioned speaks and thinks.This next example hopefully clarifies my case even further. I got a similar sense with Arlo in The Present. He acted and behaved just like a shallow, self-absorbed individual but his inner dialogue and some of his speeches showed a lot of depth and meaning.I initially thought that it might be difficult for a brilliant, high-IQ, and profound writer to create characters that are somehow the opposite of himself. On the other hand, you do seem very able to create evil characters.Another explanation is that it is easy for you to create smart, passionate, productive, funny, engaging, gross, evil, and violent people in your stories because you've had close contact with such traits throughout your lifetime, but you've had very limited contact with dumb or shallow people. What do you think? Am I misinterpreting your characters or are there any challenges when writing the type of people I mentioned?HI Stef. Have you ever made a list of must read books? like maybe your top 10, or even 100? Thank you.hi Stef! I am about 5 months into a serious relationship with a woman who I'd one day like to marry. I often have, or at least try to have, very in-depth conversations with her about our past, about emotions, etc, but I notice she gets sort of vague and foggy and I feel she isnt truly opening up with me.When I press her on this, I get responses such as she is afraid of being vulnerable, afraid of rejection, afraid of change, stuff like this. I feel like when I try to dig deeper, I inevitably hit a wall. And while I do my best to be totally open and honest with her, I struggle with getting her to be as open and honest with me.What can a man do in a situation like this in order to convince a girl to open up about herself more? Is it a matter of patience, or should I keep pressing it?Some background that could help: She was raised in what appears to be a nice family with 6 siblings. She's kind and considerate with others. But she seems to have an aversion to being up-front and moving forward in life, and she's always been somewhat socially recluse; she doesnt have many friends, and isnt very close to anyone outside of her family.I would greatly appreciate your help on this. Thank you, Stef!Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!NOW AVAILABLE FOR SUBSCRIBERS: MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING' - AND THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI AND AUDIOBOOK!Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, the interactive multi-lingual philosophy AI trained on thousands of hours of my material, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022

Sunday Morning Live 16 June 2024Happy Father's Day!In this heartfelt episode, we delve into the profound significance of honesty in relationships, exploring themes of childhood trauma, parental dynamics, and the value of truthful communication in fostering genuine connections. We discuss the art of taking responsibility during conflicts, the power of genuine apologies, and the transformative potential of empathy and personal growth in navigating relationships with grace. Delving into childhood victimization, we unravel the dynamics of self-blame and coping mechanisms, advocating for honesty, direct communication, and the power of authenticity in forging meaningful connections. Personal reflections on missed opportunities and the importance of fostering connections before it's too late underscore the significance of embracing vulnerability and genuine communication.Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!NOW AVAILABLE FOR SUBSCRIBERS: MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING' - AND THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI AND AUDIOBOOK!Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, the interactive multi-lingual philosophy AI trained on thousands of hours of my material, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022

"hi again, I have a fun question, that is tongue and cheek. In your book the Art of The Argument, on page 108, last paragraph it talks about activity in the female brain, that generally differs from the male brain. Specifically the Dorso-medial prefontal cortex and the right amygdala. I'm summarizing that men tend to be more analytical in thinking, and women are more emotional. If we are wired differently, and of course there are always exceptions, should we as a society go back to more traditional roles in society, like more men in politics, arena's of science etc, and women being teachers and more nurturing professions since we are literally wired differently?""Many young people at my work have no interest in having children, even though they are completely capable of doing so. Even people in their late 20's and early 30's say they don't want kids. All the reasons are for selfish reasons, such as children are too expensive or they just want to "enjoy life", or that waking up all night is too much stress for them to take care of an infant. Is not having children on purpose even if completely capable of doing so immoral?"Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!NOW AVAILABLE FOR SUBSCRIBERS: MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING' - AND THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI AND AUDIOBOOK!Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, the interactive multi-lingual philosophy AI trained on thousands of hours of my material, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022

"I felt a connection with show 5484, which is why men won't commit to women in their thirties. I felt it very well describes my experiences dating. I'm a gentleman in my early thirties and I've really struggled to find someone that is family oriented and someone that I think I could connect with. I've become a little jaded towards young women given the plethora of bad experiences I've had."Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!NOW AVAILABLE FOR SUBSCRIBERS: MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING' - AND THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI AND AUDIOBOOK!Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, the interactive multi-lingual philosophy AI trained on thousands of hours of my material, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022

Wednesday Night Live 12 June 2024Join us in this conversation where we navigate a range of topics, from tech rants to roommate experiences and discussions on hazing in frat houses. We delve into reflections on regrets, exploring deathbed confessions and contemplating what regrets we might have if we knew our time was limited. Our dialogue deepens as we touch on suppressing emotions, unfulfilled dreams, friendship dynamics, and the challenges of self-expression. We emphasize the importance of authenticity, emotional processing, and addressing suppressed emotions for personal growth and fulfillment. Sharing personal experiences, career reflections, parenting anecdotes, and insights on societal pressures, we spark engaging discussions with our audience on self-improvement, societal influences, and moral decision-making. Throughout our exchange, we seamlessly transition between personal stories, philosophical musings, and audience interactions, exploring the essence of truth, authenticity, and self-ownership.Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!NOW AVAILABLE FOR SUBSCRIBERS: MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING' - AND THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI AND AUDIOBOOK!Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, the interactive multi-lingual philosophy AI trained on thousands of hours of my material, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022

In a recent discussion, I debated the concept of peaceful parenting with Bob, who argued that children inherently have lower moral standing than adults. I countered by emphasizing the increased moral responsibility towards children, highlighting that they deserve higher moral considerations. We delved into the topic of consequences for parental actions like spanking, advocating for interventions that prioritize education and anger management over punitive measures. Acknowledging the power imbalance between parents and children, I stressed the need for tailored approaches that prioritize the child's protection and well-being. The discourse illuminated the complexities of balancing discipline with the child's welfare and underscored the importance of proactive interventions to uphold the best interests of the child in challenging situations.Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!NOW AVAILABLE FOR SUBSCRIBERS: MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING' - AND THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI AND AUDIOBOOK!Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, the interactive multi-lingual philosophy AI trained on thousands of hours of my material, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022

In this episode, I discuss dating and family dynamics with a caller who shares struggles from childhood to adulthood. We explore the impact of past traumas on relationships, emphasizing self-awareness and emotional vulnerability for meaningful connections. Reflecting on personal growth and resilience, we highlight the importance of honesty and self-reflection in overcoming internal conflicts for genuine relationships.Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!NOW AVAILABLE FOR SUBSCRIBERS: MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING' - AND THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI AND AUDIOBOOK!Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, the interactive multi-lingual philosophy AI trained on thousands of hours of my material, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022

Sunday Morning Live 9 June 2024In this podcast episode, we discuss the impact of early childhood experiences on development, focusing on parental wisdom and daycare influences. Conversations span moral analyses of media, societal impacts of the pandemic, and personal reflections on daycare experiences. We touch on diverse topics like ethics in gaming and selling products, emphasizing growth and innovation in content creation. Lastly, we highlight the importance of embracing novelty and seeking continual improvement in our creative endeavors, guided by audience feedback and a commitment to excellence.Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!NOW AVAILABLE FOR SUBSCRIBERS: MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING' - AND THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI AND AUDIOBOOK!Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, the interactive multi-lingual philosophy AI trained on thousands of hours of my material, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022

Friday Night Live 7 June 2024In this episode of Friday Night Live, we discuss retirement savings, health maintenance, and societal changes. We delve into the importance of investing in health, sexuality in relationships, and challenges in mixed-culture marriages. We conclude with reflections on parental authority and ethical communication. Tune in for insights on health, relationships, and personal growth.Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!NOW AVAILABLE FOR SUBSCRIBERS: MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING' - AND THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI AND AUDIOBOOK!Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, the interactive multi-lingual philosophy AI trained on thousands of hours of my material, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022

Hi Stef, I just want to say, despite listening to you for close to a decade now, I have only recently started to feel comfortable with the idea that other people’s negative emotions do not necessarily (and in most cases) have nothing to do with me or my actions, including my parents! Logically I have known this for a while thanks to you, but it only recently feels like I am beginning to feel it and believe it. I actually found humor (after initially feeling some guilt) about a random angry person I came across this morning. Well I think the humor came from my own realization of the absurdity of feeling guilt or anger because of someone else’s actions or emotional state, who doesn’t know me and has nothing to do with me. My parents sort of fit this category actually.For my question - When you encounter scenarios like this,I.e. random angry person, someone calls you rude over a simple misunderstanding, how is that jolt of guilt or pain or shame halted or ‘sandboxed’ so it can be evaluated? (or is there not even this ‘jolt’?) I think there is something fundamental I am missing about this. Thanks a bunch, Stef!What are the steps I could do to become more self expressed as opposed to self erased , I've defooed already .A bit like the "30 year old virgin " caller , I spend a lot of my time in my head carefully weighing things up , a mixture of self censorship and appeasement .Note that : When I defooed , at the time it was more of a knee jerk reaction as opposed to anything based on reason and evidence and proper philosophical principles and virtues , later on as I listened to you (big thank you ) I had more language to describe what I instinctively experienced with the Foo.I think the real question is : how do I move from a mode of bomb disarming / hyper vigilance to a mode of cool relaxed /creative expression?Hey Stefan! I've got a small group of local moms unfamiliar with your work but who are earnest about improving their parenting and being the best moms they can be. I mentioned your Peaceful Parenting book, and they're definitely interested. Could I share it with them in order to start a PP book club? I would, of course, encourage them to donate if they find your work valuable.Thank you for clarity regarding the components to a proper apology~Since starting your journey of RTR & self-knowledge, would you say you have fewer occurances where you need to apologize, more occurrences, or about the same? 🧮🤔Does decreasing frequency of occurances where we need to apologize (not for the same transgression -- concerning genuine apologies) help indicate progress in self-knowledge, or indicate we may be flying close to the sun of vanity? 🪽🌞Hi Stef, how do you identify the line between what would be considered ‘Banter’ or jokes and when it could be considered closer to verbal abuse or designed to cause hurt.I find lad culture nauseating but I do have some exposure to it in a golf group I am part of. A recent comment from a friend from that group really struck a nerve . I don’t want to be over sensitive but the comment whilst a joke had an undertone that seemed aimed to do just that.I know this is also important to know when you make a joke yourself and don’t want to hurt other people .Thanks in advance for any information.Stef, I’d like to hear your thoughts on the intellectual discipline it takes to maintain healthy skepticism without devolving into unhealthy pessimism.I’m sure you’ve touched on this before, but I’ve only recently “discovered” you and while I’m going through your older stuff, I skew towards listening to your most recent contentContext: I had my kids late (first one at 40-I’m mid 50s now) and while I want them to have healthy skepticism, I don’t want to embitter them with the worldview my difficult life has led me to.In short, I want them to be skeptical but still have the capability to experience “Joie de vivre” without making them misanthropesI’m sure I could had worded this better, but I hope you get what I’m driving at even if I haven’t captured it with sufficient languageI love my kids. I want them to avoid bad people and decisions but still retain the capacity to enjoy the company of good people and consider their futures optimisticallyBest regards and keep up the good work!Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!NOW AVAILABLE FOR SUBSCRIBERS: MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING' - AND THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI AND AUDIOBOOK!Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, the interactive multi-lingual philosophy AI trained on thousands of hours of my material, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022