Ep #316: Why We Shut Down Others’ Feelings (And How It Starts in Us)

#317: If you're the person everyone comes to with their problems, or if you find yourself exhausted from managing others' emotional states, this week's episode is for you.Here's the truth: Your tendency to take on others' emotions isn't just a personal quirk – it's deeply rooted in systems of oppression and societal conditioning that have taught us to prioritize others' feelings over our own.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/317

#316: Have you ever caught yourself trying to fix someone's feelings instead of just listening? In this week's episode, I dive into why we sometimes shut down others' emotions and how this habit often starts with our own relationship to feelings.This conversation is crucial for anyone who wants to build deeper, more authentic connections with the people they care about. Whether you're the one doing the shutting down or you've been on the receiving end, there's something here for you.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/316

#315: Are you stuck in an emotional loop, unsure if you're feeling your feelings or just wallowing?In this episode, I dive into the difference between processing emotions and getting stuck in them. You'll learn why feeling your feelings is a radical act of self-respect and how it can transform your relationship with yourself, how to spot the signs of wallowing, and practical tools to shift into genuine emotional processing.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/315

#314: Do you ever find it hard to let yourself truly feel your feelings?In a world that values constant productivity, it's easy to see emotions as inconvenient roadblocks. But what if feeling our feelings is actually the key to deeper connection with ourselves and others?Join me on the podcast this week as we unpack the role of perfectionism, fear of rejection, and societal conditioning in blocking our emotional expression. Together, we'll explore gentle, somatic practices to help you reconnect with your body and build the capacity to feel.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/314

#313: How do you keep your relationship loving and friction-free?In this special pre-Valentine's Day episode, I'm joined by my amazing wife Billey to share some of the practices and tools that help us stay present, emotionally generous, and deeply connected with each other.From reframing with "of course they did" to asking for "do-overs" when we miss the mark, to transmuting negative energy through Tonglen meditation, we cover many simple yet profound ways to show up as the partners we most want to be.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/313

#312: Do you ever catch yourself labeling feelings like anger or sadness as "bad" or "negative"? In a world obsessed with toxic positivity, it's easy to internalize the message that certain emotions are unacceptable. But the truth is, emotions are not moral - they're messages from our bodies that deserve to be heard. In this week’s episode, I explore the role of shame, cultural conditioning, and emotional outsourcing in making it hard to feel our feelings. Plus, I share a simple somatic practice to help you start reconnecting with your emotions in a gentle, compassionate way. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/312

#311: Do you ever find it hard to let yourself feel your feelings?  If so, you're not alone. But here's the good news: you can absolutely build the skill of feeling your feelings safely and gently. It's not about diving in all at once, but taking tiny kitten steps to show your body that it's okay to feel.  Tune in to learn three key reasons why it can be so challenging to allow your emotions, and how to start allowing your emotions in a way that feels manageable and safe for you. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/311

#310: Do you find yourself shoving down your feelings just to get through the day? What if I told you that those emotions you're avoiding are actually the key to the calm, clarity, and joy you've been seeking? In this week’s episode, I explore why allowing our feelings is so vital for our well-being and relationships. I share practical tools for sitting with big emotions, even when it feels scary, and I invite you to imagine what life could look like if you treated your feelings as wise guides, not enemies that are an inconvenience.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/310

#309: Do you feel stuck in a job or life situation that no longer serves you? Are you afraid to make a change, even though you know it's what you truly want?In this week's episode, I’m joined by coach and former attorney Goli Kalhoran to dive into the art of quitting - and why it's actually an essential skill for crafting a life true to YOU. We talk about learning to trust your own wisdom, quieting the noise of external expectations, and finding the courage to pivot (even if it means "failing" a few times along the way). Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/309

#308: Have you ever found yourself in a challenging situation where you felt triggered and unsure of how to respond? In this powerful episode, I share a recent experience where a man started verbally attacking me for simply explaining some science. But thanks to my somatic practices, I was able to stay grounded, present, and not let his words make me doubt myself. This is the gift of being in our bodies - the self-trust and choicefulness that allows us to respond instead of react, even in challenging situations. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/308