Why We Want Other People to Want What We Want

The Psychology of Approval & Self-Trust     Have you ever loved something right up until someone else didn't? You love the dress—until you see your friend's face. You're excited about an idea—until someone you love says, "Really?" You know exactly what you want—until someone else doesn't understand it. Nothing about the thing itself changed. So what did? In Episode 157 of Elevate Your Mind, Master Hypnotist and Subconscious Expert Rebecca Wiener McGregor explores why other people's reactions can have so much influence over our own experiences, preferences, decisions, and sense of certainty.   Human beings learn about the world partly through one another. From childhood, we watch faces, reactions, approval, disapproval, enthusiasm, and hesitation. But somewhere along the way, useful information from other people can become something else: permission. I n this episode, Rebecca explores: • Why someone else's reaction can make you question something you genuinely liked • How approval and belonging become connected in the subconscious mind • Why we sometimes want people to want what we want • The difference between being witnessed and being validated • Why disagreement can feel like distance in close relationships • How other people's fear can enter our decisions • What happens when likes, comments, reviews, and reactions become mirrors • How to receive outside perspectives without handing away your authority • Why self-trust doesn't mean refusing other people's opinions   There's also a subtle relationship question underneath the entire conversation: How often does "I want you to understand me" become "I need you to agree with me"? Being connected to another person doesn't require experiencing everything the same way.   And self-trust doesn't mean your first thought is always correct. It means you can remain connected to your own experience while receiving someone else's.   Rebecca leaves you with a deceptively simple question: WHAT DID I BELIEVE BEFORE I SAW THEIR REACTION?   ASKING FOR A FRIEND Have something you'd love a Master Hypnotist to unpack? Send Rebecca the awkward question, the relationship question, the subconscious pattern you can't explain, or the weird thing you do that makes absolutely no sense to you. And yes—you can absolutely be Asking for a Friend. Your question may become a future episode of Elevate Your Mind.   Connect with Rebecca Wiener McGregor 🌐 Website: https://rebeccawiener.com💛 Coming Home: https://rebeccawiener.com/coming-home ✨ Miracle Mode: https://rebeccawiener.com/miracle-mode Weekly Masterclass: Your Subconscious Mind is Running the Show: https://RebeccaIsLive.com Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elevate-your-mind/id1452739330 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2l6Qcat2RrE7tIsl0jiIST?si=f6b19dc92b4c460a 📚 Books & Resources: https://rebeccawiener.com/books Rebecca Wiener McGregor is a Master Hypnotist, Subconscious Expert, Leadership Coach, TEDx Speaker, and creator of the Whole Life Happy™ Method. For more than 22 years, she has helped leaders, entrepreneurs, and women understand and transform the subconscious patterns influencing the way they think, feel, behave, lead, love, and live. #Confidence #SubconsciousMind #Hypnosis #Psychology #Neuroscience #Leadership #SelfConfidence #Mindset #EmotionalHealing #PersonalGrowth #RebeccaWienerMcGregor #ElevateYourMindPodcast ________________________________________ Find Rebecca on socials: Facebook: iamrebeccawm Instagram: iamrebeccasue TikTok: @iamrebeccasue8 YouTube: @elevateyourmindwithrebecca LinkedIn: iamrebeccasue ________________________________________

Why does beauty affect us so deeply? Why can walking into a beautiful room change how you feel before you've consciously thought anything at all? Why does a beautiful notebook make you want to write? Why do certain objects instantly bring back memories? Why can being near water, walking through a garden, listening to music, or watching a sunset shift your entire state? In Episode 156 of Elevate Your Mind, Master Hypnotist and Subconscious Expert Rebecca Wiener McGregor explores the fascinating relationship between beauty, the brain, the subconscious mind, memory, creativity, environment, attention, and pleasure. Beauty is often treated as decoration—something extra we add after everything important is finished. But human beings have been creating beauty for thousands of years. We paint. Make music. Decorate our homes and bodies. Plant gardens. Create patterns. Arrange flowers. Design beautiful everyday objects. Why? And what is happening in the mind when we encounter something we find beautiful? In this episode, Rebecca explores: • Why beautiful environments can affect the way we feel • How your surroundings communicate with your subconscious mind • The relationship between environment, attention, and behavior • Why certain objects become emotionally connected to memories • How scent, music, color, and sensory experiences trigger associations • Why a beautiful workspace can invite creativity • How our environments can become cues for habits and identity • Why clutter isn't simply about having "too much stuff" • Why we save the beautiful dishes, candles, perfume, stationery, and journals • The psychology of using and receiving beautiful things • Why nature, water, flowers, sunsets, and awe capture our attention • How beauty and pleasure fit into a meaningful life • The difference between experiencing beauty and performing beauty for other people   One idea sits at the heart of this episode: Your home is one of the conversations your subconscious lives inside every day. And perhaps beauty doesn't have to impress anyone to matter. It only has to reach you. This isn't an episode about interior design or making your life look perfect. It's a conversation about perception—and what beauty may be doing to the mind that encounters it. And there's one question I'd love you to carry with you after you listen: What is already beautiful in your life... and are you letting yourself experience it?   Asking for a Friend Have a question you've always wanted to ask about the subconscious mind—or simply about being human? Your question can be about psychology, hypnosis, relationships, money, confidence, leadership, creativity, beauty, your home, habits, manifestation, grief, identity, or a weird thing your mind does that you've never understood. The awkward questions are welcome. The vulnerable questions are welcome. And yes... you can absolutely be Asking for a Friend. Send me your question and it may become a future episode of Elevate Your Mind.   ✨ Connect with Rebecca Wiener McGregor 🌐 Website: https://rebeccawiener.com💛 Coming Home: https://rebeccawiener.com/coming-home ✨ Miracle Mode: https://rebeccawiener.com/miracle-mode 📚 Books & Resources: https://rebeccawiener.com/books Rebecca Wiener McGregor is a Master Hypnotist, Subconscious Mind Expert, Leadership Coach, TEDx Speaker, and creator of the Whole Life Happy™ Method. For more than 22 years, she has helped accomplished leaders, entrepreneurs, and women understand how the subconscious mind shapes everyday life so they can create lasting transformation from the inside out. #Psychology #SubconsciousMind #Hypnosis #PersonalGrowth #Neuroscience #Leadership #Mindset #EmotionalHealing #Habits #Confidence #RebeccaWienerMcGregor #ElevateYourMindPodcast ________________________________________ Find me on socials: Facebook: iamrebeccawm Instagram: iamrebeccasue TikTok: @iamrebeccasue8 YouTube: @elevateyourmindwithrebecca LinkedIn: iamrebeccasue ________________________________________

Why do we rehearse conversations in our heads that haven't happened? Why do we replay arguments that are already over, imagine what someone might say, practice our responses, or suddenly come up with the perfect comeback hours later? And what happens in your brain and body while you're having a conversation with someone who isn't actually there? In Episode 155 of Elevate Your Mind, Master Hypnotist and Subconscious Expert Rebecca Wiener McGregor explores the psychology of imaginary conversations, overthinking, mental rehearsal, the subconscious mind, and the nervous system. Mental rehearsal is powerful. Athletes use it. Performers use it. Speakers use it. Hypnosis uses the remarkable relationship between imagination, the subconscious, and the body. But we're also rehearsing things accidentally every day. Arguments. Rejection. Embarrassment. Difficult conversations. Things going wrong. Sometimes we're preparing for the future. Sometimes we're trying to rewrite the past. And sometimes the mind is searching for resolution from a conversation we never got to finish. In this episode, we explore: • Why you rehearse conversations in your head • Why imaginary conversations can create real physical responses • How overthinking and mental rehearsal affect the nervous system • Why we replay arguments and conversations from the past • What happens when you rehearse a difficult conversation before it occurs • The difference between rumination and intentional mental rehearsal • How athletes, leaders, speakers, and performers use visualization differently • How hypnosis uses imagination to create new subconscious experiences • Why rehearsing someone else's response can interfere with the real conversation • How to use mental rehearsal to practice presence, confidence, receiving, and resilience   One of the central ideas in this conversation: Your mind can create emotional memories of futures you've never lived.   And the question I want you to carry with you: If your mind is going to rehearse anyway... what do you want it practicing?   🎙 Subscribe to Elevate Your Mind for conversations about the subconscious mind, hypnosis, psychology, neuroscience, manifestation, relationships, leadership, confidence, creativity, habits, emotional healing, money, identity, and the fascinating ways our minds shape the lives we live.   Asking for a Friend What's something you've always wanted to ask about your mind—or simply about being human? Send me the awkward questions. The vulnerable questions. The relationship questions. The money, sex, jealousy, resentment, confidence, grief, success, habits, manifestation, and "does anybody else do this?" questions. You can absolutely be Asking for a Friend. Your question may become a future episode of Elevate Your Mind.   Rebecca Wiener McGregor is a Master Hypnotist, Subconscious Mind Expert, Leadership Coach, TEDx Speaker, and creator of the Whole Life Happy™ Method. For more than 22 years, she has helped accomplished leaders, entrepreneurs, and women understand how the subconscious mind shapes everyday life so they can create lasting transformation from the inside out. ________________________________________ Find Rebecca on socials: Facebook: iamrebeccawm Instagram: iamrebeccasue TikTok: @iamrebeccasue8 YouTube: @elevateyourmindwithrebecca LinkedIn: iamrebeccasue ________________________________________

Why do some people seem naturally confident while others struggle with self-doubt—even when they're equally capable? Is confidence really the answer? Or is something much deeper happening beneath the surface? In this episode of Elevate Your Mind, Master Hypnotist and Subconscious Expert Rebecca Wiener McGregor explores the relationship between confidence, the subconscious mind, and the nervous system. After more than twenty-two years helping people transform subconscious patterns, Rebecca has observed something fascinating: Your nervous system isn't asking, "Am I confident?" It's asking, "Am I safe?" In this episode, you'll discover: • Why confidence often disappears under pressure • What happens in your body during interviews, presentations, difficult conversations, and moments of uncertainty • Why your nervous system responds before your conscious mind does • How safety and confidence are connected • Why confidence may be something that naturally grows rather than something you force   If you've ever struggled with public speaking, leadership, dating, setting boundaries, asking for what you want, or simply believing in yourself, this conversation will give you a completely different way of understanding confidence.       Asking for a Friend Have a question you've always wanted to ask about the subconscious mind, hypnosis, relationships, confidence, money, leadership, emotional healing, manifestation, habits—or simply being human? Send it to me. The questions that feel the most vulnerable are often the ones that help the most people. Your question may become a future episode of Elevate Your Mind.   Connect with Rebecca Wiener McGregor 🌐 Website: https://rebeccawiener.com💛 Coming Home: https://rebeccawiener.com/coming-home ✨ Miracle Mode: https://rebeccawiener.com/miracle-mode Weekly Masterclass: Your Subconscious Mind is Running the Show: https://RebeccaIsLive.com Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elevate-your-mind/id1452739330 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2l6Qcat2RrE7tIsl0jiIST?si=f6b19dc92b4c460a 📚 Books & Resources: https://rebeccawiener.com/books Rebecca Wiener McGregor is a Master Hypnotist, Subconscious Mind Expert, Leadership Coach, TEDx Speaker, and creator of the Whole Life Happy™ Method. For more than 22 years, she has helped accomplished leaders, entrepreneurs, and women understand how the subconscious mind shapes everyday life so they can create lasting transformation from the inside out. #Psychology #SubconsciousMind #Hypnosis #PersonalGrowth #Neuroscience #Leadership #Mindset #EmotionalHealing #Habits #Confidence #RebeccaWienerMcGregor #ElevateYourMindPodcast ________________________________________ Find Rebecca on socials: Facebook: iamrebeccawm Instagram: iamrebeccasue TikTok: @iamrebeccasue8 YouTube: @elevateyourmindwithrebecca LinkedIn: iamrebeccasue

 Is Your Subconscious Proving an Old Story? Why can two people experience the exact same event and remember it completely differently? Why does one criticism outweigh ten compliments? Why do some beliefs seem to follow us—even after our lives have changed? In this episode of Elevate Your Mind, Master Hypnotist and Subconscious Expert Rebecca Wiener McGregor explores one of the most fascinating things about the human mind: Your subconscious is always looking for evidence.   After more than twenty-two years helping people transform subconscious patterns, Rebecca has observed that our minds naturally highlight experiences that reinforce familiar beliefs—even when our circumstances have changed. In this episode, you'll discover: •  Why your subconscious filters what you notice •  How old stories continue influencing present-day experiences •  Why your nervous system responds before your conscious mind has time to think •  How relationships, leadership, money, confidence, and everyday moments are shaped by the stories your subconscious has learned •  Why transformation begins when you recognize the filter—not when you criticize yourself   One question sits at the heart of this episode: What story has your subconscious been trying to prove?   And perhaps an even more important one: What evidence have you overlooked because it didn't fit that story?   If you've ever wondered why certain patterns seem to repeat—or why you keep seeing the same evidence over and over—this conversation will give you a completely new way of understanding yourself.   Asking for a Friend Have a question you've always wanted to ask about the subconscious mind, hypnosis, relationships, confidence, money, leadership, emotional healing, manifestation, habits—or simply being human? Send it to me. The questions that feel the most vulnerable are often the ones that help the most people. Your question may become a future episode of Elevate Your Mind.   ✨ Connect with Rebecca Wiener McGregor 🌐 Website: https://rebeccawiener.com💛 Coming Home: https://rebeccawiener.com/coming-home ✨ Miracle Mode: https://rebeccawiener.com/miracle-mode Weekly Masterclass: Your Subconscious Mind is Running the Show: https://RebeccaIsLive.com Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elevate-your-mind/id1452739330 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2l6Qcat2RrE7tIsl0jiIST?si=f6b19dc92b4c460a 📚 Books & Resources: https://rebeccawiener.com/books Rebecca Wiener McGregor is a Master Hypnotist, Subconscious Mind Expert, Leadership Coach, TEDx Speaker, and creator of the Whole Life Happy™ Method. For more than 22 years, she has helped accomplished leaders, entrepreneurs, and women understand how the subconscious mind shapes everyday life so they can create lasting transformation from the inside out. Find Rebecca on socials: Facebook: iamrebeccawm Instagram: iamrebeccasue TikTok: @iamrebeccasue8 YouTube: @elevateyourmindwithrebecca LinkedIn: iamrebeccasue

Why is it sometimes easier to work for something than to enjoy it once it arrives? Why can a compliment feel uncomfortable? Why do some people become more anxious after paying off their house, finding healthy love, achieving financial success, or finally slowing down?   In this episode of Elevate Your Mind, Master Hypnotist and Subconscious Expert Rebecca Wiener McGregor explores one of the most overlooked aspects of personal growth: Receiving.   After more than twenty-two years helping people transform subconscious patterns, Rebecca has observed something fascinating: The life you've been praying for can feel unfamiliar when it finally arrives.   Together, we'll explore: • Why your nervous system responds to familiarity more than circumstances • Why achievement and receiving are completely different experiences • How the subconscious learns to accept love, peace, rest, success, and abundance • Why your body often reacts before your conscious mind does • How repeated experiences of safety create lasting change   This isn't a conversation about trying harder to be grateful. It's about understanding why your subconscious sometimes struggles to receive the very life you've worked so hard to create.   If you've ever wondered why you keep looking for the next problem after everything finally starts going well... this episode is for you.     Asking for a Friend Have a question you've always wanted to ask about the subconscious mind, hypnosis, relationships, leadership, confidence, money, habits, emotional healing, manifestation—or simply being human? Send it to me. The questions that feel a little vulnerable are often the ones that help the most people. Your question may become a future episode of Elevate Your Mind.   ✨ Connect with Rebecca Wiener McGregor 🌐 Website: https://rebeccawiener.com💛 Coming Home: https://rebeccawiener.com/coming-home ✨ Miracle Mode: https://rebeccawiener.com/miracle-mode Weekly Masterclass: Your Subconscious Mind is Running the Show: https://RebeccaIsLive.com Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elevate-your-mind/id1452739330 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2l6Qcat2RrE7tIsl0jiIST?si=f6b19dc92b4c460a 📚 Books & Resources: https://rebeccawiener.com/books Rebecca Wiener McGregor is a Master Hypnotist, Subconscious Mind Expert, Leadership Coach, TEDx Speaker, and creator of the Whole Life Happy™ Method. For more than 22 years, she has helped accomplished leaders, entrepreneurs, and women understand how the subconscious mind shapes everyday life so they can create lasting transformation from the inside out.

Why do we return to the same emotional patterns even when we genuinely want something different? Why can peace feel uncomfortable? Why do some people miss relationships, jobs, routines, or situations they desperately wanted to leave? And what if the answer has less to do with willpower than we think? In this episode of Elevate Your Mind, Master Hypnotist and Subconscious Expert Rebecca Wiener McGregor explores the strange relationship between familiarity, the subconscious mind, emotional patterns, identity, and change.   What if some of the things you've called personality are actually patterns your subconscious has practiced for years?   What if your nervous system sometimes reaches for an old emotional pattern the same way your hand reaches for a light switch in a house you've already moved out of?   And what happens when peace, healthy love, receiving, confidence, or success are the unfamiliar experiences?   This conversation explores those questions—and one question in particular that may stay with you long after the episode ends: Is this familiar... or is it true? Listen in, and then tell me what you noticed. Asking for a Friend Have a question you've always wanted to ask about the subconscious mind, relationships, confidence, anxiety, money, habits, manifestation, emotional patterns, leadership—or something that feels a little embarrassing or taboo? Send it to me. You can absolutely be Asking for a Friend. Your question may inspire a future episode of Elevate Your Mind. _________________________________________________________ ✨ Connect with Rebecca Wiener McGregor 🌐 Website: https://rebeccawiener.com💛 Coming Home: https://rebeccawiener.com/coming-home ✨ Miracle Mode: https://rebeccawiener.com/miracle-mode Weekly Masterclass: Your Subconscious Mind is Running the Show: https://RebeccaIsLive.com Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elevate-your-mind/id1452739330 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2l6Qcat2RrE7tIsl0jiIST?si=f6b19dc92b4c460a 📚 Books & Resources: https://rebeccawiener.com/books Rebecca Wiener McGregor is a Master Hypnotist, Subconscious Mind Expert, Leadership Coach, TEDx Speaker, and creator of the Whole Life Happy™ Method. For more than 22 years, she has helped accomplished leaders, entrepreneurs, and women understand how the subconscious mind shapes everyday life so they can create lasting transformation from the inside out. Find me on socials: Facebook: iamrebeccawm Instagram: iamrebeccasue TikTok: @iamrebeccasue8 YouTube: @elevateyourmindwithrebecca LinkedIn: iamrebeccasue  

After 150 episodes, something has become incredibly clear to me. I've spent more than twenty-two years helping people transform their lives through hypnosis and subconscious change. That work continues to be at the heart of everything I do.   But I've realized I'm fascinated by something even bigger. The human mind. Why do we become who we become? Why do certain experiences stay with us? How does the subconscious shape our relationships, leadership, creativity, confidence, habits, money, gratitude, and the lives we create?   In this special 150th episode of Elevate Your Mind, I'm sharing why the podcast is evolving, what you can expect in the future, and the kinds of conversations I can't wait to explore with you.   If you've ever been curious about psychology, neuroscience, hypnosis, manifestation, emotional healing, leadership, creativity, habits, or the subconscious mind, I think you're going to feel right at home here.   If you enjoy the episode, I'd be so grateful if you subscribed, left a review, and shared it with someone who loves understanding the human mind.   ✨ Connect with Rebecca Wiener McGregor 🌐 Website: https://rebeccawiener.com💛 Coming Home: https://rebeccawiener.com/coming-home ✨ Miracle Mode: https://rebeccawiener.com/miracle-mode Weekly Masterclass: Your Subconscious Mind is Running the Show: https://RebeccaIsLive.com Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elevate-your-mind/id1452739330 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2l6Qcat2RrE7tIsl0jiIST?si=f6b19dc92b4c460a 📚 Books & Resources: https://rebeccawiener.com/books Rebecca Wiener McGregor is a Master Hypnotist, Subconscious Mind Expert, Leadership Coach, TEDx Speaker, and creator of the Whole Life Happy™ Method. For more than 22 years, she has helped accomplished leaders, entrepreneurs, and women understand how the subconscious mind shapes everyday life so they can create lasting transformation from the inside out.   #Psychology #SubconsciousMind #Hypnosis #PersonalGrowth #Neuroscience #Leadership #Mindset #EmotionalHealing #Habits #Confidence #RebeccaWienerMcGregor #ElevateYourMindPodcast

Why can two people with the same qualifications, experience, and opportunity have completely different outcomes? In this episode of Elevate Your Mind, Master Hypnotist, Subconscious Expert, and Leadership Coach Rebecca Wiener McGregor explores how the subconscious mind shapes your reality long before an important moment begins. You'll discover why confidence isn't always about personality, how your subconscious rehearses future experiences, and why old interpretations can quietly influence your relationships, career, leadership, and everyday life. In this episode you'll learn: • How your subconscious predicts and interprets everyday experiences • Why two people can experience the same event completely differently • The hidden connection between safety, confidence, and performance • Why your nervous system influences how others experience you • The difference between an event and the meaning you attach to it • How curiosity can begin changing long-standing subconscious patterns If you've ever wondered why you overthink, lose confidence in important moments, or struggle to enjoy opportunities you've worked hard to create, this conversation will give you a completely new way of understanding yourself. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who loves learning about psychology, hypnosis, neuroscience, personal growth, leadership, and the fascinating ways the subconscious mind shapes our lives.   ________________________________________ ✨ Connect with Rebecca ✨ 🔗 Explore the work: rebeccawiener.com 🔗 Private support: Coming Home 🔗 Ongoing expansion: Miracle Mode   Find me on socials: Facebook: iamrebeccawm Instagram: iamrebeccasue TikTok: @iamrebeccasue8 YouTube: @elevateyourmindwithrebecca LinkedIn: iamrebeccasue ________________________________________

The Hidden Reason You Can't Relax   Why does it take days before you finally relax on vacation? Why do you come home feeling like you need another vacation? In this episode, Rebecca Wiener explores why burnout isn't always caused by your workload and why your subconscious may still be responding to years of responsibility, leadership, and constant preparation.   If you've ever found yourself thinking about work while sitting on the beach, mentally planning next week during dinner on vacation, or wondering why your body can't seem to settle down even when your life is finally good, this conversation is for you.   You'll learn why your subconscious doesn't automatically recognize that life has changed, how invisible vigilance follows many leaders wherever they go, and what it takes for your inner experience to finally match the beautiful life you've built.   This episode explores burnout, overthinking, subconscious patterns, nervous system responses, leadership stress, emotional exhaustion, mental load, vacations, work-life balance, and why lasting change begins beneath conscious awareness.   If this episode resonates with you, subscribe, share it with someone who came to mind while listening, and learn more about Coming Home through the links below.   ________________________________________ 🔗 Explore the work: rebeccawiener.com 🔗 Private support: Coming Home 🔗 Ongoing expansion: Miracle Mode   Find me on socials: Facebook: iamrebeccawm Instagram: iamrebeccasue TikTok: @iamrebeccasue8 YouTube: @elevateyourmindwithrebecca LinkedIn: iamrebeccasue ________________________________________