I Didn't Ask You

Words have meaning.  Words hold power.  Words can hurt.  Words can uplift.  Choose your words wisely.

Small steps forward are still steps forward.  So if all you did during this pandemic was wake up and shower that’s okay, and I’m proud of you.  

If COVID was not enough, along side the midst of other culture tragedies this year, new videos of unarmed black men and women being killed at the hands of police surfaced.  Again. Again. Again. 

Life has taught us to prepare for impact at all times, but when were we ever taught how to bask in the good moments, how to truly embrace all the good.....

The world is full of fear and anxiety right now. My new blog post is to give you a bit of hope and peace. Like is full of unexplainable moments of heartbreak and loss but calm your fears by knowing God is still here and in control.

It is an often occurrence when meeting new people for them ask you where you are from. The next words from your mouth will normally induce a nonverbal response that can be easily depicted on the other person’s face. When you say where you are from, what response do you receive? Positive or negative? Laugher or a shrug? Has the response ever made you angry? I have experienced every reaction you can name after stating that I am from Richmond, Virginia, more specifically the Southside. 

Through our socialization, media, and various other sources, we’ve been conditioned to think that life has a timetable that we are required to follow, and if we are not accomplishing items within that timeline, then we assume those who don’t are failures.

Can we simultaneously balance our careers, family, friends, and side hustles?  Can we truly become the best versions of ourselves, heal from our past, and change our present trajectory?  ABSOLUTELY!  Be that as it may, the cost may be more substantial than you originally considered.

 You worked so hard, putting in extra hours on the clock.  You sacrificed, cried, and gave your all.  However, you didn’t get it.  It hurts.  You feel stupid, ignored, forgotten, and even not good enough.  Being let down, disappointed is one of the worse feelings we all encounter.

Well honey bunches of oats, this summer I did EXACTLY that! I lived my BEST life traveling, attending events, and spoiling myself like crazy...maybe a bit too much.