The Cost of Beating Up on Yourself

Intellectually most of us want lots of constructive feedback. But we also often avoid asking for it and can become emotionally distraught when we believe we’ve received some. Why do so many of us experience this paradox? In this episode we’re going to talk about the Feedback Paradox, one of the ways the messages you’ve been socialized with might be impacting how you think about receiving feedback. Get the full shownotes and this episode's Podcast Guide at https://exceptional.vision/podcast/19.  

“How was I not aware of that…” Today we’re talking about why we miss important opportunities to live our values: Noticing and addressing problematic behaviour in our friend groups, putting our money into businesses that align with our values, and identifying microaggressions and racist policies. I’ll show you why these filters are missing and how to create the ones that are important to you. Get the full shownotes and this episode's Podcast Guide at https://exceptional.vision/podcast/18.

Our brains’ desire to keep us safe is our biggest challenge in leading anti-racism initiatives at work and in the world around us. In this episode you’re going to learn two key tactics for defeating that over-active safety mechanism: creating a vision for who you want to be and programming your brain on the fly.  Get the full shownotes and this episode's Podcast Guide at https://exceptional.vision/podcast/17.

Thriving teams do anti-racist work. Good managers aim to create an environment where every member of our team can thrive. But as an industry we’ve spent too long pretending that our Black team members can thrive in the thoughtlessly-racist default culture of American companies. It’s time to change that, and as leaders it’s our responsibility to drive this change within our companies. Let’s get started together. Get the full shownotes and this episode's Podcast Guide at https://exceptional.vision/podcast/16.

The key to reaching your goals is to stop trying to distract yourself from emotional experiences you’re not comfortable with. That’s much, much easier when you know what an emotion is. Join me today to talk about what an emotion is, why you like some and hate others, and how to get more comfortable with all of them so you can stop distracting yourself and get to work on your dreams. Get the full shownotes and this episode's Podcast Guide at https://exceptional.vision/podcast/15.

It’s time to stop beating yourself up. Many of us spend our lives being mean to ourselves, justifying it as helpful or realistic. But it actually steals our dreams. Today we’re talking about why we beat up on ourselves, why it holds us back, and how to finally break the habit. Get the full shownotes and this episode's Podcast Guide at https://exceptional.vision/podcast/14.

Big things come from small steps. Learn how to take small steps every day to create clear vision, stop distracting yourself, and take massive action (which isn't the same as big action!). Get the full shownotes and this episode's Podcast Guide at https://exceptional.vision/podcast/13.

Anger is an emotion many of us are uncomfortable feeling at work -- but turning it off hinders our ability to fix important problems and feel the biggest positive emotions. Join me and Vivien Yang from Eventbrite as we talk about the benefits and challenges of anger. Plus I’ll teach you how to allow strong emotions so you can handle bigger emotions better. Get the full shownotes and this episode's Podcast Guide at https://exceptional.vision/podcast/12.

Wish you could re-program your brain? Today I’m teaching you the very simple recipe to do just that - all it takes is practice. Plus Sira Laurel joins me to talk about why curiosity helps you move past blocks in your career and projects, and how to create more of it. Get the full shownotes and this episode's Podcast Guide at https://exceptional.vision/podcast/11.

Many of us get derailed by guilt and waste time on tasks that aren’t that important. What if you could easily stay focused on your main priorities instead? Join me as I talk with Ken Struys about how to do exactly that. After that we’ll fix a common problem when creating thought models. Get the full shownotes and this episode's Podcast Guide at https://exceptional.vision/podcast/10, or text MIXEDMODELS to 44222 to have the Podcast Guide delivered right to your email.