174: Untangling Resentment, “Needs” + Patterns of Enduring Unwanted Touch with Dr Betty Martin

Dr. Betty Martin, creator of the Wheel of Consent and author of The Art of Receiving and Giving joins me for a powerful conversation on intimacy, boundaries, and self-trust. With decades of experience in body-based healing, Betty shares simple yet profound insights on how we give, receive, and relate. Whether you're partnered or solo, this episode offers fresh perspective on connection, consent, and reclaiming your authentic desires.In this episode you’ll hear:00:27 Intro13:19 Nuance in Consent and Touch15:15 When 'Yes' Doesn’t Mean Perform27:56 Trusting Your Inner “No”38:57 Owning Your Sexual Expression54:44 Are you making choices from fear or inner knowing?THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTDr. Betty Martin is a retired chiropractor, surrogate partner, and renowned educator with over four decades of experience in therapeutic touch and somatic practices. She is the developer of the Wheel of Consent, a groundbreaking framework for understanding the dynamics of giving and receiving, applicable in both touch and non-touch settings. As the author of The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent, Dr. Martin has trained professionals around the world and now mentors practitioners across a range of disciplines, including psychotherapy, sex education, and bodywork.LINKS:https://www.wheelofconsent.org/Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@BettyMartinWANT MORE?Join me for my monthly Un.done Classes - http://learn.sexloveyoga.com/come-undoneSexLoveYoga: Sensual Awakening Course - https://sexloveyoga.mykajabi.com/sensual-awakeningExhale Sensual Ketamine Retreat | Join the waitlist for the next Femme retreat, coming fall! - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhaleLove and Leather Couples Retreat in California on July 20-23 - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeatherErosynthesis + Entheogens Masterclass - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhale

Author and Rosebud Woman founder Christine Mason joins me to explore what it means to live erotically and powerfully through every stage of womanhood. We dive into her work on aging, agency, and discernment—from embracing our sensuality at any age to navigating later-age motherhood with clarity and choice. Christine shares insights from The 9 Lives of Women, breaking down cultural narratives around sex, aging, and reproductive freedom. We also discuss the importance of body rituals, intergenerational healing, and how staying embodied can support a vibrant, empowered life well into elderhood.In this episode you’ll hear:00:27 Intro07:45 What does it really mean to age erotically?17:41 You Are All Your Ages at Once20:37 Let Your Future Self Guide You Back to Joy27:56 Motherhood, Choice, and the Shifting Narrative44:23 Are you making choices from fear or inner knowing?49:18 The Joy of Growing Older (And Why You Won’t Want to Go Back)THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTChristine is a six-time founder and CEO, with a deep interest in women's wellness and the liberation of all people. She's a futurist, a yogi, tantrika, mother of 4, and grandmother. She's the author of Reverence (2021), The Nine Gifts (2020), The Invitation (2018) and Body Love, as well as 5 other books, and the co-founder a meditation center and medicinal farm on Hawaii. She's appeared on radio, tv, print and podcasts (from NPR to Vogue to TEDx), speaking to entrepreneurship, freeing the mind and body, activism and sexual and intimate wellness. French, German. MBA, Phi Beta Kappa Northwestern University. PhD student in Philosophy and Consciousness at CIIS. She splits her time between the farm (with the chickens, cats and goats!) and Mill Valley, CA.LINKShttps://rosewoman.com/pages/the-team?srsltid=AfmBOoqRofBJeBkLzxh4fRWZUEiLe7-O4EnYFs8UB1AchqssClBVwBmwhttps://christinemariemason.com/https://rosewoman.com/products/the-9-lives-of-woman-sensual-sexual-and-reproductive-stages-from-birth-to-100?variant=46367720210686https://www.amazon.com/Nine-Lives-Woman-Sensual-Reproductive/dp/B0F2CGTYV4170: Menopause Transitions and Plant Medicines with Dr. Suzanne GilbergWANT MORE?Join me for my monthly Un.done Classes - http://learn.sexloveyoga.com/come-undoneSexLoveYoga: Sensual Awakening Course - https://sexloveyoga.mykajabi.com/sensual-awakeningExhale Sensual Ketamine Retreat | Join the waitlist for the next Femme retreat, coming fall! - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhaleLove and Leather Couples Retreat in California on July 20-23 - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeatherErosynthesis + Entheogens Masterclass - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhale

Shownotes:In this episode of Sex Love Psychedelics, I dive into the deliciously tangled dance between love, power, money, and self-worth in modern relationships. I’m joined by my dear friend and powerhouse, Michelle Pound — a love, money, and pleasure mentor who helps men find their queens and women rise into the goddesses they were always meant to be.Together, we explore how cultural conditioning around success and validation shapes the way we love, the hidden ways we outsource our safety to others, and how longing and financial dynamics can quietly erode intimacy. We also dive into the art of reclaiming our emotional power — and why true love begins when we choose ourselves first.In this episode you’ll hear:00:28 Intro01:19 Girl Boss Burnout and the Fantasy of Being Saved02:28 What Are We Really Seeking04:05 Power Imbalances: Where Are We Giving It Away?16:46 Money, Masculine/Feminine Dynamics, and Relationship Power37:20 Healing the Fear of Receiving50:43 Choosing Yourself (Even When It’s Hard)THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTMichelle is a mentor in love, money, and pleasure, guiding men and women who are ready to have it all — deep love, high-level success, and a life that turns them all the way on.Through private mentorship, transformational coaching containers, and immersive in-person experiences, she helps men find their queens and empowers women to rise fully into the goddess they were always meant to be.As a Shibari artist and curator of sacred, sensual spaces, Michelle creates experiences where the body becomes a temple and every moment is an initiation into deeper power, presence, and pleasure.LINKS171: Peter Pans, Wendys, + Love as a [email protected] MORE?Join me for my monthly Un.done Classes - http://learn.sexloveyoga.com/come-undoneSexLoveYoga: Sensual Awakening Course - https://sexloveyoga.mykajabi.com/sensual-awakeningExhale Sensual Ketamine Retreat | Join the waitlist for the next Femme retreat, coming fall! - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhaleLove and Leather Couples Retreat in California on July 20-23 - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeatherErosynthesis + Entheogens Masterclass - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhale

Shownotes:The Peter Pan archetype—why it’s so damn fun, how it sparks playfulness and passion in relationships, and when it starts working against us. From lover boys and lover girls to the shadow side of avoidance, we explore how to embrace the magic without losing ourselves. Is it love, or just a beautifully wrapped distraction? Tune in for insights on balancing spontaneity with emotional depth, so you can cultivate relationships that are both exciting and fulfilling.In this episode you’ll hear:01:32 Why This Episode Almost Never Made It03:19 The Peter Pan Archetype—Flirty Fun or Red Flag?08:26 How Archetypes Help Us Grow in Love12:06 Keeping Romance Alive: The Art of Flirting & Creativity15:56 Are You the Peter Pan or the Wendy in Your Relationship?19:06 Are You Dating the Person or the Fantasy?24:19 Breaking Free from Repeating Patterns in Love28:29 Your Invitation to Play, Love, and GrowLINKS FROM THE SHOWBig Cat Energy (BCE) - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/big-cat-energyWANT MORE?Join me for my monthly Un.done Classes - http://learn.sexloveyoga.com/come-undoneSexLoveYoga: Sensual Awakening Course - https://sexloveyoga.mykajabi.com/sensual-awakeningExhale Sensual Ketamine Retreat | Join the waitlist for the next Femme retreat, coming fall! - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhaleLove and Leather Couples Retreat in California on July 20-23 - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeatherErosynthesis + Entheogens Masterclass - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhale

Menopause is a transition every woman goes through, yet so much of it is misunderstood. This week on Sex Love Psychedelics, I sit down with Dr. Suzanne Gilberg to explore the emotional, physical, and hormonal shifts of perimenopause and menopause. From navigating changes in libido and intimacy to the emerging role of psychedelics in symptom relief, we break the stigma and bring the science. Because when it comes to aging, sexuality, and well-being, knowledge isn’t just power—it’s liberation.In this episode you’ll hear:00:27 Impact of Fires in Los Angeles09:42 Meeting Dr. Suzanne Gilberg10:43 The Perimenopause & Menopause Rollercoaster21:40 Spotting the Early Signs of Perimenopause25:05 How Hormones Shape Your Sex Life34:09 Psychedelics for Women’s Health44:51 Hormone Therapy—Making Informed Choices for Your HealthTHE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTSuzanne Gilberg-Lenz, MD, is a board-certified OB/GYN, integrative medicine practitioner, and fierce advocate for women’s health. Blending Western medicine with holistic healing, she empowers women to navigate perimenopause and menopause with confidence, knowledge, and vitality. As the Chief Medical Correspondent for The Drew Barrymore Show and author of Menopause Bootcamp, Dr. Suzanne is on a mission to revolutionize the conversation around aging, hormones, and self-care—one candid, science-backed, and empowering discussion at a time.LINKS FROM THE SHOWBig Cat Energy (BCE) - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/big-cat-energyhttps://www.facebook.com/askdrsuzanne/https://themenopausebootcamp.com/course/certification-course/https://twitter.com/askdrsuzannehttps://www.linkedin.com/in/askdrsuzanne/https://www.instagram.com/askdrsuzanne/?hl=enhttps://www.tiktok.com/@askdrsuzannehttps://www.youtube.com/user/askdrsuzanne/videosWANT MORE?Join me for my monthly Un.done Classes - http://learn.sexloveyoga.com/come-undoneSexLoveYoga: Sensual Awakening Course - https://sexloveyoga.mykajabi.com/sensual-awakeningExhale Sensual Ketamine Retreat | Join the waitlist for the next Femme retreat, coming fall! - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhaleLove and Leather Couples Retreat in California on July 20-23 - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeatherErosynthesis + Entheogens Masterclass - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhale

Are you attuning to your partner’s needs, or projecting your fears onto them? This week on Sex Love Psychedelics, we’re diving into the delicate dance of communication in intimate relationships. From fears of rejection to cultural conditioning, I explore how self-awareness and presence can shift the way we express desires, needs, and boundaries. Because when it comes to creating a long-lasting, conscious relationship, communication isn’t just important—it’s everything. In this episode you’ll hear: 00:06 Tackling those love, sex, and dating hurdles! 04:30 Are you attuning or just guessing? 15:08 The Role of Words in Communication 21:25 Breaking Free from Cultural Conditioning and Barriers 30:02 Keeping it Real and why congruency is a Total Game-changer 34:56 Practical Tips to Up Your Communication Game 35:39 Addressing Internal Beliefs and Conditioning 36:51 How Therapy Helps Improve Communication LINKS FROM THE SHOW SexLoveYoga: Sensual Awakening Course - https://sexloveyoga.mykajabi.com/sensual-awakening Exhale: Femme Ketamine Retreat - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhale WANT MORE? Join me for my monthly Un.done Classes - http://learn.sexloveyoga.com/come-undone Exhale Sensual Ketamine Retreat in Malibu January 23-26, 2025 - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhale Erosynthesis + Entheogens Masterclass - https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhale

In this episode of Sex Love Psychedelics, I’m chatting with the incredible Maryn Azoff to dive into the magic of vocal activation and how it can take your pleasure, manifestation, and self-empowerment to new heights! Recorded on Election Day (perfect timing to talk about the throat chakra and owning our voice), we uncover how vocal practices like chanting create juicy energy shifts that amplify intimacy, unlock self-expression, and connect us with our wild, authentic selves. Tune in for this playful, powerful conversation on finding your voice and using it to create your reality! In this episode you’ll hear: 00:06 Kicking Things Off! 05:52 Unleashing the Power of the Throat Chakra (and Letting Go) 09:07 Tongue & Voice Magic for Manifesting Dreams 12:13 Sexy Sound: How Voice Fuels Sexuality 13:23 Expansive Orgasms and Kundalini Vibes 24:14 Voice as a Healing Superpower 44:18 Plant Medicine, Surrender, and Finding Your True Voice 48:09 Trippy Tunes: Voice Meets Psychedelic Experiences 51:53 Speak Up! How Voice Transforms Intimacy and Relationships THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUEST Maryn Azoff is a Vocal Transformation Coach, classically trained singer, and “soul emancipator,” dedicated to awakening people to the profound power of their own voice through her unique healing program, The Vocal Transformation Method. With roots in diverse lineages and ancient wisdom practices, Maryn’s approach merges global vocal traditions to help individuals access their authentic voice and true vibrational frequency. Her work guides people toward healing and connection, reactivating the body-mind-spirit connection for wellness within themselves and for the planet. LINKS FROM THE SHOW SexLoveYoga: Sensual Awakening Course Exhale: Femme Ketamine Retreat Maryn’s Vocal Transformation Website Maryn’s Instagram: @vocal_transformation WANT MORE? Join me for my monthly Un.done Classes Exhale Sensual Ketamine Retreat in Malibu January 23-26, 2025 Erosynthesis + Entheogens Masterclass

In this episode of Sex Love Psychedelics, I sit down with Jaqueline Michelle, a sensuality mentor and Shibari practitioner, to dive deep into true sensual embodiment and how we can overcome disconnection from our bodies. Jaqueline shares her powerful journey from childhood trauma to reclaiming her sensuality through practices like yoga, Tantra, and BDSM. We explore the importance of self-regulation, sovereignty, and intentionality in sensual practices, and how mindset work and embodiment can play a crucial role in healing trauma and enhancing intimacy. Jaqueline also delves into emotional layering and the need for authentic, non-performative sensuality. In this episode you’ll hear: 00:06 Intro 06:50 The Journey to Sensual Embodiment 11:52 The Power of Mindset, Emotional Layering, and Conscious Kink 23:53 The Importance of Self-Regulation and Sovereignty 27:42 The Concept of Performance and How it Affects Individuals 32:44 The Power of Presence and Embodiment in Healing 38:11 Unlocking Deeper Connection Through Sensuality in Relationships 45:15 Work into Sensual Liberation and Empowerment THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUEST Jaqueline Michelle is a Sensuality Mentor & Muse and a Sensual Shibari Practitioner. She specializes in empowering women to take up sensual and erotic space in their bodies and expression. She fuses together the philosophies of yoga, tantra, and kink so we may transmit somatic and subconscious programming so we can liberate ourselves from the inside out. LINKS FROM THE SHOW https://sexloveyoga.mykajabi.com/sensual-awakening https://linktr.ee/jaquemich WANT MORE? Join me for my monthly Un.done Classes: learn.sexloveyoga.com/come-undone

What does it take for women to feel safe during sex? In this episode, I explore how safety is shaped by our beliefs, past traumas, and cultural conditioning, emphasizing the crucial role of clear communication and mutual accountability. We dive into the complex layers of safety, consent, and the difficult issue of duty sex, where avoiding conflict can lead to unwanted sex and emotional distress, stressing the need for inner work and an understanding of cultural pressures in shaping our sexual dynamics. In this episode you’ll hear: 00:00 Intro 02:41 Cultural Conditioning and Women's Sexual Needs 09:36 The Role of Communication and Responsibility 12:42 Coercion and Consent in Sexual Relationships 15:45 The Impact of Unwanted Sex on Emotional Well-being 23:30 The Importance of Emotional Curiosity and Responsiveness 29:05 Healing and Supporting the Process LINKS FROM THE SHOW https://sexloveyoga.mykajabi.com/sensual-awakening https://sexloveyoga.mykajabi.com/sensual-sundays WANT MORE? Join me for my monthly Un.done Classes: learn.sexloveyoga.com/come-undone

Dr. Katherine Lawson and I discuss the transformative power of psychedelics, dream work, and trauma healing. We explore integrating mystical experiences into daily life with structured support and the symbolic interpretation of dreams and visions for personal growth. We also explore the therapeutic potential of MDMA-assisted therapy for complex trauma and Dr. Lawson’s journey of empowerment through archetypes and embodied imagination, offering insights into the deep connections between mythology, spirituality, and healing. In this episode you’ll hear: 00:06 Intro 10:00 Mysticism, dream work, and personal growth 20:56 Using imagination to cope with trauma and explore past lives 32:08 Dream analysis and its benefits for personal growth 37:02 Integrating psychedelic experiences into daily life through dreamwork and MDMA therapy 51:11 Healing trauma through therapy and archetypes. 1:00:24 Tapping into Embodied Imagination and Ancestral Wisdom THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUEST Dr. Katherine Lawson is an Integrative Mental Health Specialist, a certified Embodied Imagination® practitioner, consultant, psycho-spiritual counselor, and an international speaker. She has an MA in counseling psychotherapy from the Pacifica Graduate Institute and her doctorate in Mind-Body Medicine, focusing on Integrative Mental Health. She has spent nearly two decades examining the intersections between healing, dreaming, mysticism, and psychedelics. As a BIPOC woman, cancer survivor, and survivor of childhood sexual trauma, she teaches and utilizes holistic therapies for PTSD and other types of unprocessed wounds, as well as sharing stories of healing. She is fascinated by the interactions between the brain, mind, body, and personality and the powerful ways in which societal and spiritual factors affect health and happiness. She is the author of Dreamwork for Growth and Healing - A Guided Dream Journal and the founder of Awake in the Dream School. LINKS FROM THE SHOW https://www.linkedin.com/in/katherine-lawson-ph-d-5b8020b https://www.instagram.com/awakeinthedreamschool/ https://www.awakeinthedream.co/ https://books.apple.com/us/book/dreamwork-for-growth-and-healing-a-guided-dream-journal/id1610640944 https://sexloveyoga.mykajabi.com/sensual-awakening WANT MORE? Join me for my monthly Un.done Classes: learn.sexloveyoga.com/come-undone