Conversation with COACH NYC

In this episode, Dan opens up about his journey into bating — from online rooms to real-life experiences — and how it’s shaped his mental health, confidence, and sense of self.We talk community, kink, and what it really means to feel connected without shame.

In this episode, Johan and Mike dive deep into their journeys within the bator communities, exploring their experiences, community events, and the cultural dynamics they navigate as men of color. 

In this engaging conversation, Johan welcomes Will, new to the bator community, (but not to masturbation), discussing personal journeys, the importance of connection, and the dynamics of the Batemates app.Will shares his experiences with bating, the challenges of body positivity, and the significance of friendships formed within the community.They delve into the differences between bating and gooning, the role of gear, and the importance of representation in the community. The discussion highlights the welcoming nature of the bator community and the shared experiences that bring members together.

In this episode, Johan and his guest explore the multifaceted world of bating, discussing personal journeys, the dynamics of long-distance relationships, and the differences between in-person and online experiences.They delve into the intricacies of edging, orgasm control, and the concept of ruined orgasms, while also highlighting the importance of educational spaces within the community.The discussion takes a significant turn as they address the experiences of people of color in predominantly white spaces, emphasizing the need for inclusivity and understanding.

In this episode, Johan and Scott dive into a candid conversation about identity, self-discovery, and the unique experiences within the bator community. Scott shares his journey of coming out, the challenges of embracing his true self, and the profound connections he's found through bating. They explore the dynamics of masculinity, the importance of community, and the joy of celebrating one's authentic self...

In this episode, Neptune Simone — Batemates team member and proud bator — opens up to B8tem8te about coming out as a bator to his life partner, introducing him to the practice, and navigating self-acceptance along the way. Together, they talk about finding happiness within the community, the early days of Batemates, and how the app continues to shape the bating world as it grows day by day.

In this conversation, Joel Benjamin discusses his journey in the world of Tantra, the significance of sexual energy, and the importance of mindful practices such as masturbation as a form of self-care....

In this episode, Nick Woof and B8tem8te discuss the evolution of the Bator Bro community from an online masturbation group as the BMC, to in-person events that foster deeper connections among participants. The conversation explores the structure of these events, the importance of creating a welcoming environment, and the unique experiences offered, such as the Tug Rug. The discussion also touches on the significance of age and experience in the community, the role of Strokinut in enhancing pleasure, and the future growth of the Bator Bro event.

BatorBalm anyone? Few are the ones who have never heard of the famous masturbation grease in the Bator community. But do you know about Alex, its founder? In this episode, get the privilege to be a part of the journey of the man who created nothing but a pillar for the community, as he opens up about his personal struggles with shame and the role of supportive partnerships in his journey of entrepreneurship for the community. 

The hottest conversation on the podcast yet. You might wanna find yourself a confortable couch or bed to listen to this one bro cause things could get a little hard on your side once the conversation shifts from theory to practice. I mean..what could happen when 2 bators find themselves talking about bating and start hitting that bottle while putting their rings on? We’ll let you guess…Men will be men after all.