655: What to Do When Your Identity Stops Working with Ruby Fremon
Sometimes the tools that have always helped you manage stress suddenly stop working, and keeping a positive mindset isn't enough.
When that happens, the answer isn't to push harder or immediately look for the silver lining. Sometimes you need to acknowledge what you're going through and allow yourself time to get the support you need.
Today's guest, Ruby Fremon, knows firsthand what that feels like. Ruby is an author, coach, and someone I've had the privilege of knowing for years. She's also the author of Potent Leadership and has spent the last several years studying Somatic Experiencing. She works with high-achieving leaders who have reached a point where they know they can't keep living and leading the way they have been.
In 2022, Ruby was at the highest point of her career when a traumatic event involving the death of her dog triggered a very unfortunate series of events. Over the next few years, her mental and physical health declined; she stepped away from the business and identity she had spent years building, and eventually reached a point where she was contemplating taking her own life.
In our conversation, Ruby shares what helped her survive the darkest season of her life and explains why healing doesn't always mean immediately finding the positive in what happened. We also talk about how trauma can affect the way you experience life, practical ways to build your capacity to move through difficult emotions, and how losing the person you thought you were can ultimately help you reconnect with who you really are.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- What happens when the regular life tools stop working
- Why healing doesn't always begin by finding the silver lining
- The importance of acknowledging what you're actually going through
- How Somatic Experiencing can help build emotional resilience
- True regulation means increasing your capacity to experience emotions
- How your identity is usually shaped by past experiences
- How A dark night of the soul or season can challenge your sense of self
- Why high achievers need to stop trying to do everything alone
- Finding the right support can change your healing journey
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