The Science Of Overcoming Perfectionism | Thomas Curran

Practical advice from a straight-talking, formerly incarcerated, occasionally profane dharma teacher.Vinny Ferraro is the Guiding Teacher of the Big Heart City Sangha in San Francisco and has led a weekly sitting group for almost two decades. As a fully empowered Dharma Teacher thru Spirit Rock/IMS, he has taught residential retreats at Spirit Rock, Insight Meditation Society, and the Esalen Institute. Currently, he leads Spirit Rock's Year to Live course and teaches retreats and daylongs through Big Heart City and meditation centers across the country. He is a respected leader in developing and implementing interventions for at-risk populations. leading groups in schools, juvenile halls and prisons since 1987. He has led emotional intelligence workshops for over 100,000 youth on four continents.In this episode we talk about:AlignmentVinny‘s concept of “flashing your basic goodness”Noting practiceThe deep satisfaction in not seeking satisfactionRedirecting awarenessBeing an “empathetic witness” for yourselfWhen to opt for distractionNot taking what’s not yours Vinny’s ancestor practiceWhat is the connection between seeing our family patterns and not taking what is not ours?  How loyal have we been to our suffering?Related Episodes:Get Happier Without Losing Your Edge | Kamala MastersVitamin E: How To Cultivate Equanimity Amidst Political Chaos | Election Sanity Series | Roshi Joan HalifaxNon-Preachy Ethics | Jozen Tamori GibsonSign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/vinny-ferraroAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actionable advice on working with one of the few socially acceptable vices.Whilst striving for perfection might seem logical on some level, it’s not actually attainable. And the research shows it can lead to burnout, stress, anxiety, depression, relationship problems, reduced productivity, and reduced resilience.Thomas Curran is a professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics and is the author of The Perfection Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough. In this episode we talk about:The definition of perfectionism – it’s more than just high standardsThe 3 flavors of perfectionismThe surprising findings on perfectionism and gender Perfectionism VS imposter syndrome The root of perfectionism The variables that lead to perfectionism Thomas’ critiques on capitalism and growth mindsetHow to actually implement mantras like “progress not perfection” and “embracing good enough”4 elements to combat imperfectionism The recipe for achieving inner abundanceHow to make good work without caring what other people think of you?And parenting and perfectionism Related Episodes:Do You Feel Like an Imposter? | Dr. Valerie Young (Co-Interviewed by Dan's Wife, Bianca!) How To End The War With Your Body | Sonya Renee Taylor.The Science of Failing Well | Amy EdmondsonDr. Mark Epstein On: How To Transform Your Neuroses Into “Little Shmoos”The Zen of Therapy | Mark Epstein Weird Dreams, Family Relationships, and Collective Trauma I Dr. Mark EpsteinSign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/thomas-curranAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What is happiness? Investigate how happiness is created, what it’s really like, and learn to access the simple happiness of right now.About Jay Michaelson:Rabbi Dr. Jay Michaelson is the author of ten books, including his newest, The Secret That Is Not A Secret: Ten Heretical Tales. In his “other career,” Jay is a columnist for The Daily Beast, and was a professional LGBTQ activist for ten years. Jay is an ordained rabbi and has taught meditation in secular, Buddhist, and Jewish context for eighteen years.To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “What Is Happiness.”See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Talking creativity and sanity with one of the world’s biggest pop stars.British-Albanian singer-songwriter Dua Lipa emerged as a global pop sensation with her captivating blend of sultry vocals, empowering lyrics, and infectious beats. Born in London in 1995 to Albanian parents, Lipa's musical journey began at a young age, inspired by her father's own musical career. She hosts the podcast Dua Lipa: At Her Service, and her latest album is Radical Optimism. In this episode we talk about:What she means by radical optimism – and how it applied when she literally fell on stageHow she resists the temptation to fully armor herselfHer famous work ethic and packed schedule  Her non-negotiable daily practices, including meditationHer social media hygiene (specially, how to stay sane when nearly 80 million people follow you on Instagram alone)And we have a great conversation about creativity, including how she builds psychological safety with her team in studio and on tourWhy she had to write 97 songs to make this one albumAnd her concept of “writing herself into a good idea” – as she says, “You have to be shit to be good.” Related Episodes:Bill Hader on Anxiety, Imposter Syndrome, and Leaning into DiscomfortPema Chödrön, Renowned Buddhist Nun, On Her One Non-Negotiable Happiness StrategyThe Science of Hope | Jacqueline MattisHope Is a Skill | George MumfordDiscomfort: A Counterintuitive Source of Hope | Sebene SelassieSign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/dua-lipaAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A research-backed plan for getting your sh*t together in every possible sphere.We’re going to talk about some smart strategies today with Emma Seppälä, Ph.D. She is a psychologist and research scientist, with an expertise in the science of happiness, emotional intelligence, and social connection. She is the Science Director of Stanford University’s Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education and she also teaches executives at the Yale School of Management. She’s been on this show before, to discuss her best-selling book The Happiness Track. And today she’s back to discuss her new book, Sovereign: Reclaim Your Freedom, Energy, and Power in a Time of Distraction, Uncertainty, and Chaos. In this episode we talk about:What she means by that term, sovereignThe neuroscience of emotion regulationThe science of intuition – and how to work with it when you’re a critical thinkerHow our past can unconsciously bind us The impact of traumaThe latest evidence for the benefits of meditationAnd how to cultivate what scientists call Positive Relational EnergyRelated Episodes:Three Lessons from a Happiness Researcher | Emma SeppäläThe Scientific Case for Self-Compassion | Chris GermerCan You Really Trust Your Gut? | Amber TamblynSign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/emma-seppala-764Additional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The creator of somatic experiencing shows Dan how to heal trauma through the body. Peter A. Levine, Ph.D., has spent the past 50 years developing Somatic Experiencing. He holds a doctorate in Biophysics from UC Berkeley and a doctorate in Psychology from International University. His work has been taught to over 30,000 therapists in over 42 countries. He is the author of the new book, An Autobiography of Trauma.Content warning: This episode includes discussions of rape and violence.In this episode we talk about:How to do somatic experiencing. You’ll see Dan play the role of guinea pig + make weird soundsThe difference between somatic experiencing and talk therapySomatic experiencing practices we can implement into our livesWhy some people feel horror/terror at the thought of re-occupying the body and how to overcome those fearsWhat the research says – and how these practices around body awareness have gone from the fringes to entering the scientific mainstreamAnd how to move through ancient wounds – and enrich our lives (whether we have trauma or not)Practices to fortify us in times of difficultyFacing mortality Related Episodes:Become An Active Operator Of Your Nervous System | Deb DanaWhat Science and Buddhism Say About How to Regulate Your Own Nervous System | Deb Dana & Kaira Jewel LingoHow to Live with the Worst Things That Ever Happened to You | Stephanie FooAn Ace Therapist Gives Dan A Run For His Money | Dr. Jacob HamHow to Get Out of Your Head | Willa Blythe BakerSign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/peter-levineAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Tap into your ADHD superpowers with a meditation that celebrates your unique wiring. Embrace exploration and self-acceptance.About Jeff Warren:Jeff is an incredibly gifted meditation teacher. He's trained in multiple traditions, including with renowned teacher Shinzen Young. Jeff is the co-author of NY Times Bestseller "Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics," and the founder of the Consciousness Explorers Club, a meditation adventure group in Toronto. He has a knack for surfacing the exact meditation that will help everyone he meets. "I have a meditation for that" is regularly heard from Jeff, so we've dubbed him the "Meditation MacGyver."More information on the group retreat (AKA Meditation Party) at the Omega Institute is here. To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Meditating with ADHD.” See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Buddhist strategies for taming that nagging voice in your head.Ofosu Jones-Quartey, a meditation teacher, author, and musician hailing from the Washington DC area brings over 17 years of experience in sharing mindfulness, meditation and self-compassion practices with the world. Holding a bachelor’s degree from American University and certified by the Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Certification Program, Ofosu is a graduate of the Teleos Coaching Institute and is the male voice on the Balance meditation app, reaching over 10 million subscribers. Ofosu leads meditation classes and retreats nationwide, having taught and led retreats at the Insight Meditation Community of Washington, The Insight Meditation Society, Spirit Rock, Brooklyn Zen Center, Cleveland Insight, Inward Bound Mindfulness and more. As an accomplished hip hop artist under the name “Born I,” Ofosu released the mindfulness-themed album “In This Moment” in 2021. His most recent album is “AMIDA”, a spiritual, Lo-Fi Hip Hop album exploring life, death and his Buddhist faith. Beyond music, Ofosu is an author, releasing his self-published children’s book “You Are Enough” in 2020 and “Love Your Amazing Self” via Storey Publishing in 2022. He lives in Rockville, Maryland, with his wife and four children.In this episode we talk about:The relationship between self-compassion and a successful meditation practiceAll the reasons people resist self-compassion, and his rebuttalsWhether self-compassion is selfishHow to do self-compassion off the cushion, including practices like journaling, written reminders, establishing accountability partners, and simple questions you can drop into your mind when all else failsHow to do self-compassion on the cushion, including practices like body scans, metta, and a check-in practice you can use at the very start of your sitsAnd how to teach self-compassion to childrenRelated Episodes:The Voice in Your Head | Ethan KrossSign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/ofosu-jones-quarteyAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How self compassion works, how to practice it, and what the research says about the benefits.GUEST BIO: Dr. Serena Chen is Professor of Psychology and the Marian E. and Daniel E. Koshland, Jr. Distinguished Chair for Innovative Teaching and Research at the University of California, Berkeley. Her research focuses on the self and identity, interpersonal relationships, and social power and influence. She is a Fellow of the Society of Personality and Social Psychology, American Psychological Association, and Association of Psychological Science. Dr. Chen was also the recipient of the Early Career Award from the International Society for Self and Identity, and the Distinguished Teaching Award from the Social Sciences Division of the University of California, Berkeley.In this episode we talk about:The connection between self-compassion and authenticityAs well as self-compassion exercises that you can incorporate into your daily lifeHow self-compassion influences the desire for self improvementHow it can lead you to be more understanding of other people The connection between self-compassion and good leadership And how self-compassion can apply to parenting as well as to educational realms Related Episodes: How to Make Self-Compassion Work for You | Kristin NeffKryptonite for the Inner Critic, Self-Compassion Series | Kristin NeffSelf-Compassion Ain’t Always Soft | Kristin NeffSign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/serena-chenAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Cara introduces you to the magic of doing less. These gentle no-frills instructions get right to the heart of meditation practice.About Cara Lai:Cara Lai spent most of her life trying to figure out how to be happy, or at least avoid total misery, which landed her on a meditation cushion for the majority of her adulthood. Throughout many consciousness adventures including a few mind-bendingly long meditation retreats, she has explored the wilderness of the mind, chronic illness, the importance of pleasure, and a wide range of other things that she might get in trouble for mentioning publicly. In the past, Cara has worked as an artist, wilderness guide, social worker and psychotherapist, but at this point she’s given up on being an adult in exchange for an all-out mindfulness rampage. Her teaching is relatable, authentic, funny and sometimes crass, and is accessible for many people. She teaches teens and adults at Inward Bound Mindfulness Education, Spirit Rock, Insight Meditation Society, and UCLA; ultimately hoping to become as good of a show-off as Dan. And to help people be happier.To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Put It All Down.”See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.