The Stories We Tell Ourselves | #245

In this episode, Lewis shares one of the most honest things he's ever recorded: a year of journaling the same self-critical thoughts every day, the gap between who he was being and who he knew he could be, and the moment something finally shifted. He discusses what it actually takes to break a cycle, why you can't always do it alone, and what it means to come back to yourself.

In this episode, Lewis shares why the obsession with optimising every part of your performance is quietly making you more fragile, not stronger. He discusses the shift from an optimisation mindset to a maximisation mindset, and why the ability to make the most of what you have on any given day is the real edge that separates the best from everyone else.Join the MindStrong Community - https://onelink.to/mindstrongsportFollow Lewis on Instagram: https://instagram.com/lewishatchett

In this episode, Lewis gives an honest update on life in Barcelona, the slow growth of his business, and where he's taking things next, including the app, new products, and who he wants to work with. He also answers your questions on coaching attitudes, procrastination, comparison, standards, and why waiting to feel mentally ready before a performance is a gamble you can't afford to take.Join the MindStrong Community - https://onelink.to/mindstrongsportFollow Lewis on Instagram: https://instagram.com/lewishatchett

In this episode, Lewis shares why waiting to feel confident before you act is the most unreliable strategy an athlete can have, and what to do instead. He discusses how to create a performer self that is separate from your true self, how to find the trigger that switches you between the two, and why behaving your way into a feeling will always be more consistent than feeling your way into a behaviour.Join the MindStrong Community - https://onelink.to/mindstrongsportFollow Lewis on Instagram: https://instagram.com/lewishatchett

In this episode, Lewis shares why the most underrated edge in sport and high performance isn't the advanced stuff - it's the basics, done with full intention and at a level most people aren't willing to go to. He discusses his concept of raising your floor rather than reaching for your ceiling, and why when pressure hits and chaos swirls, the athlete who wins is the one who can make things simple.Join the MindStrong Community - https://onelink.to/mindstrongsportFollow Lewis on Instagram: https://instagram.com/lewishatchett

In this episode, Lewis shares why exploring your limits and embracing the suffering that comes with it is not something to avoid, but the very thing that separates good from great. He discusses what it truly takes to find out what you're made of, and why being willing to suffer just a little more than everyone else might be the most important edge you can have.

Devesh Patel is a sports psychology researcher whose PhD uncovered the first framework for parental resilience in youth sport. Julie Johnstone is his academic supervisor and a sport psychologist with decades of experience working with athletes, coaches, and families in elite development environments.Why do so many parents struggle to stay composed on the sidelines? Why does watching training sessions make things worse, not better? And what is it that separates the parents who help their child thrive in sport from the ones who quietly make it harder?Expect to learn why parental resilience in youth sport had never been studied before this research, what the official definition of parental resilience is and why it matters for the athlete too, the four psychosocial assets that make up parental resilience, why maintaining perspective is the hardest thing parents are asked to do — and what makes it so easy to lose, how the highlight reel on social media is actively destroying parental optimism, why the non-linear progression of a young athlete creates so much panic, what the "optimism jar" strategy is and why it works, why the parent-coach relationship breaks down and how to fix it, what adaptability really means for a sporting parent and why holding on too long backfires, why resilient parents produce resilient athletes through the mirroring effect, four practical strategies parents can use right now to build their own resilience, and much more.00:00 Why Parental Resilience in Youth Sport Hadn't Been Studied01:30 Modern Pressures Making Parents Less Resilient04:50 Who Was Studied — Sports, Stages, and Methods08:25 Defining Parental Resilience12:50 Asset 1: Maintaining Perspective14:40 Why Perspective Is So Hard to Keep18:45 Do Certain Sports Create Harder Parenting Challenges?24:00 Asset 2: Maintaining Optimism25:20 The Non-Linear Progression Trap31:45 Highlight Reels, Instant Gratification and the Comparison Trap37:40 Asset 3: Perceiving and Utilizing Social Support39:15 The Coach-Parent Dynamic — Where It Goes Wrong43:45 Asset 4: Adaptability46:35 The Danger of Never Letting Go52:35 How Resilient Parents Create Resilient Athletes53:25 4 Practical Strategies to Build Parental Resilience58:35 The Challenge-Support Matrix for Parents01:05:50 Where to Find Devesh and Julie's Work

In this episode, Lewis shares why the story you're quietly telling yourself every day is either building you up or slowly tearing you down, and most people don't even realise it's happening. He discusses what it takes to rewrite that story, and why doing so is one of the most courageous things you can choose to do.Get 30 Days of FREE Mindset Advice⁠⁠Follow Lewis on Instagram

In this episode, Lewis shares why most people are so focused on how things look to others that they've lost touch with what they actually want. He discusses what happens when you let go of the rules you never consciously chose and start showing up as yourself.Get 30 Days of FREE Mindset AdviceFollow Lewis on Instagram

Julianna Pillemer is an assistant professor at NYU Stern School of Business whose research explores creativity, authenticity, and the psychology of online audiences.Why do creators spiral after going viral? Why does reading every comment eventually break people? And is "just be authentic" actually good advice — or is it a trap?Expect to learn what "audience entanglement" is and why it changes everything a creator makes, what a "chamber of despair" feels like and why it's more common than anyone admits, why the algorithm acts like a co-author who keeps hijacking your work, the three strategies creators use to move from dysfunctional to functional entanglement, why the same DM can destroy one creator and inspire another, what rage bait and the manosphere have to do with audience entanglement, the difference between audience capture and audience entanglement, why "just be yourself" is far more complicated than it sounds, what alter egos like Kobe's Mamba Mentality and Beyoncé's Sasha Fierce reveal about authenticity, how to think about authenticity as evolution rather than a fixed state, and what "strategic authenticity" actually means in practice, and much more.00:00 What Is Audience Entanglement? 01:20 When It Starts: The Viral Moment 02:45 Dysfunctional Entanglement05:05 Gaming the Algorithm: Battling Platform Volatility 06:15 The Hate Comment Trap 07:05 Does It Affect All Creators Equally? 14:45 Three Strategies to Escape Dysfunctional Entanglement 19:55 Why Algorithm Changes Reset Your Progress 24:40 Same DM, Two Reactions: The Mindset Difference 37:30 Rage Bait, the Manosphere & Audience Capture 39:40 Audience Capture vs Audience Entanglement 49:25 What "Authenticity" Actually Means 51:25 The Alter Ego Strategy01:05:30 Authenticity as Evolution, Not a Fixed State 01:07:35 Strategic Authenticity: Practical Advice 01:08:40 Where to Find Julianna's Work