#242 - Julianna Pillemer - The Dark Side of Going Viral Nobody Talks About

Julianna Pillemer is an assistant professor at NYU Stern School of Business whose research explores creativity, authenticity, and the psychology of online audiences.Why do creators spiral after going viral? Why does reading every comment eventually break people? And is "just be authentic" actually good advice — or is it a trap?Expect to learn what "audience entanglement" is and why it changes everything a creator makes, what a "chamber of despair" feels like and why it's more common than anyone admits, why the algorithm acts like a co-author who keeps hijacking your work, the three strategies creators use to move from dysfunctional to functional entanglement, why the same DM can destroy one creator and inspire another, what rage bait and the manosphere have to do with audience entanglement, the difference between audience capture and audience entanglement, why "just be yourself" is far more complicated than it sounds, what alter egos like Kobe's Mamba Mentality and Beyoncé's Sasha Fierce reveal about authenticity, how to think about authenticity as evolution rather than a fixed state, and what "strategic authenticity" actually means in practice, and much more.00:00 What Is Audience Entanglement? 01:20 When It Starts: The Viral Moment 02:45 Dysfunctional Entanglement05:05 Gaming the Algorithm: Battling Platform Volatility 06:15 The Hate Comment Trap 07:05 Does It Affect All Creators Equally? 14:45 Three Strategies to Escape Dysfunctional Entanglement 19:55 Why Algorithm Changes Reset Your Progress 24:40 Same DM, Two Reactions: The Mindset Difference 37:30 Rage Bait, the Manosphere & Audience Capture 39:40 Audience Capture vs Audience Entanglement 49:25 What "Authenticity" Actually Means 51:25 The Alter Ego Strategy01:05:30 Authenticity as Evolution, Not a Fixed State 01:07:35 Strategic Authenticity: Practical Advice 01:08:40 Where to Find Julianna's Work

Chris McKenna is the founder of Protect Young Eyes, a leading digital safety organisation helping parents, coaches, and caregivers navigate technology with wisdom and intention.Why is handing a child a smartphone the same as handing them every harmful thing all at once? Why are parents struggling to say no even when they know the risks? And what do coaches, teachers, and communities actually have to do with protecting kids in the digital age?Expect to learn why Australia's social media ban matters far beyond Australia, how Silicon Valley's goals are fundamentally different from yours as a parent, why Chris compares handing kids a Chromebook to a history book stuffed with pornography, the six layers of society responsible for protecting children from addictive technology, what the "seven day rule" is and why every parent should be using it, why banning all technology misses the point and what "right tech at the right time" actually looks like, the dangerous difference between slow and fast dopamine and why sport is one of the most powerful antidotes to screen addiction, how coaches and teachers can be more influential than parents when it comes to changing kids' habits, the personal story that drives everything Chris does, and much more.00:00 Australia's Social Media Ban — What It Really Means03:20 The Berlin Wall Analogy & Why Change Happens Fast07:30 The Six Layers of Protection for Children10:45 Why Technology Is a "Wicked Problem"13:00 The History Book Analogy — Good and Bad All at Once15:45 The Biggest Mistakes Parents Make With Devices17:00 The Seven Day Rule for New Apps22:00 Collective Action — Why Parents Need Each Other27:45 The Smartphone Free Childhood Movement30:30 Right Tech at the Right Time33:00 When Should Kids Get Social Media?36:00 Chromebooks in Schools — Did We Go Too Far?40:30 Physical Education as the Most Important Subject43:30 Slow Dopamine vs Fast Dopamine46:00 How Coaches Can Reclaim Kids' Attention51:30 Chris's Personal Story53:30 What Needs to Change — And Reasons for Hope56:00 Where to Find Chris's WorkTry my app:Get 20% of MindStrong Sport app subscriptions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindstrongsport.com/checkout⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Use code mindstrongpodcast)Get in Touch:⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewishatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewis_hatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠To sponsor or contact the show visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠lewishatchett.com/podcast⁠⁠

Alison Armstrong is a relationship expert and creator of the “Understanding Men” curriculum.Why do men withdraw instead of open up? Why does “If he wanted to, he would” miss the mark? What makes a man stop caring? And what responsibility do both men and women share in creating partnership?Expect to learn why men calculate capacity and “worth it” before acting, how testosterone and estrogen shape communication styles, why timing matters when asking emotional questions, what “frog farming” means and how it destroys attraction, the difference between physical and emotional attraction in men, why men feel responsible for making women happy (and why that’s a trap), what the “cave behind the cave” reveals about men and mortality, how to move from furious to curious in conflict, and much more.00:00 “If He Wanted To, He Would”03:20 Capacity vs Desire: How Men Decide07:00 Feels Like Love, Looks Like Math10:45 Why Men Don’t Answer “How Do You Feel?”15:30 Timing Emotional Conversations19:40 Coaching, Readiness & Emotional Impact26:30 Frog Farming Explained30:10 Why Sexual Attraction Isn’t Enough34:05 What Makes a Man Stop Caring37:00 The Danger of Emasculation40:30 The Cave Behind the Cave46:40 From Furious to Curious52:10 Responsibility in Partnership57:25 You Can’t Make Her Happy59:00 Where to Find Alison’s WorkTry my app:Get 20% of MindStrong Sport app subscriptions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindstrongsport.com/checkout⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Use code mindstrongpodcast)Get in Touch:⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewishatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewis_hatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠To sponsor or contact the show visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠lewishatchett.com/podcast⁠⁠

Dr Phil Clarke is a performance psychologist and researcher.Why do athletes lose control of skills they’ve mastered for years? Why does pressure turn automatic movements into chaos? And can you actually train your way out of the yips?Expect to learn what the yips really are (and how they differ from choking), why perfectionism and fear of judgement make athletes more vulnerable, how psychological and physiological systems interact under pressure, why your internal narrative determines how severe the yips become, how teammates can help or worsen the problem, why pressure training needs to be personalised, how athletes can build a mental “utility belt” to stay composed, and why the yips appear not just in sport, and much more.00:00 What Are the Yips? Full Explanation01:15 The Psychology and Neurology Behind the Yips02:55 Types of Yips: Type 1, Type 2 & Type 305:10 Why the First Yips Episode Is So Important06:55 How Overthinking Causes Skill Breakdown09:27 Choking vs The Yips: Key Differences12:55 Panic, Trauma and Loss of Motor Control14:33 Perfectionism and Fear of Judgement in Athletes18:06 Who Gets the Yips? Pros vs Amateurs20:05 How Your Internal Story Creates Anxiety22:33 Socially Prescribed Perfectionism Explained29:15 How Expectations Increase Pressure in Sport31:57 Can You Recover From the Yips?35:17 Best Coping Strategies for the Yips36:41 EMDR Therapy: Does It Work for the Yips?38:57 Mental Skills That Reduce Performance Anxiety42:08 How Teammates and Coaches Should Support the Yips49:45 Challenge vs Threat: Performing Under Pressure55:35 Why “Be Fearless” Is Bad Advice for Athletes1:00:36 How to Train Under Pressure (Yips Simulation)1:12:13 Personalised Pressure Training for Athletes1:21:33 The Yips Outside Sport (Music, Speaking, Aviation)Try my app:Get 20% of MindStrong Sport app subscriptions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindstrongsport.com/checkout⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Use code mindstrongpodcast)Get in Touch:⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewishatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewis_hatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠To sponsor or contact the show visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠lewishatchett.com/podcast⁠⁠

Dr. Warren Farrell is the author of The Boy Crisis, Why Men Earn More, and Role Mate to Soul Mate. So why are so many boys struggling in school, dropping out, and feeling lost in life? Why are suicide rates among men four times higher than women? And why do so few people seem willing to talk about it?Expect to learn why fatherlessness is the single biggest predictor of male struggles, what “dad deprivation” really does to boys, and how the empathy gap between men and women makes it harder to have honest conversations, why many men are emotionally unavailable, what the “happy wife, happy life” myth gets wrong, and how we can start to rebuild healthy relationships between men and women.00:00 – Why young men are struggling today03:00 – Fatherlessness and “dad deprivation”07:00 – How family breakdown affects boys and girls differently10:30 – What is The Boy Crisis?13:00 – Male suicide rates and mental health gaps16:00 – Why it’s so hard to talk about men’s issues18:00 – The empathy gap explained22:00 – “I wish I wasn’t born male” – the identity crisis in boys26:00 – Feminism, pay gaps, and reframing male privilege34:00 – The difference between male privilege and male responsibility43:00 – How communication breakdown leads to divorce and the boy crisis60:00 – Emotional unavailability in men and where it comes from74:00 – Sport, suppression, and emotional unavailability78:00 – Creating emotional safety in relationships83:00 – What makes a good man85:00 – The importance of fatherhood and role models87:00 – Where to find Dr. Warren Farrell’s workTry my app:Get 20% of MindStrong Sport app subscriptions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindstrongsport.com/checkout⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Use code mindstrongpodcast)Get in Touch:⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewishatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewis_hatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠To sponsor or contact the show visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠lewishatchett.com/podcast⁠⁠

Dr. Sami Timimi is a consultant psychiatrist, psychotherapist, and author of Searching for Normal.Why does it feel like everyone suddenly has ADHD or autism? Are we medicalising normal life? And what if the mental health crisis isn’t biological—but cultural?Expect to learn why ADHD and autism were never true medical diagnoses, how mental health labels became lifelong identities, why resilience can’t be taught but must be lived, how therapy culture breeds learned helplessness, why “mental health awareness” may be harming kids, how social media glamorises illness, and why reclaiming responsibility is the antidote to a culture obsessed with being unwell.00:00 – Intro: Why everyone seems to have ADHD01:00 – The rise of ADHD, autism and mental health diagnoses03:00 – Are psychiatric disorders real medical conditions?06:30 – How ADHD and autism expanded from rare to common11:40 – Why people hold onto mental health labels14:00 – The history of ADHD and “upside-down science”18:30 – How adult ADHD became a global identity24:30 – The link between diagnosis and identity politics30:00 – The danger of victimhood and loss of resilience35:00 – Why resilience can’t be taught—it must be lived39:30 – How overprotection creates learned helplessness43:00 – The false relief of a diagnosis48:00 – Why mental health became a brand52:00 – The beauty of diversity and human uniqueness57:00 – How to build resilience through experience1:00:00 – Parents, coaches, and raising mentally strong kids1:02:00 – Why “mental health awareness” may harm children1:06:00 – Autism rates are skyrocketing—what’s behind it1:09:30 – Redefining what “normal” really means1:13:00 – From mental health to mental strength1:15:00 – How focusing on problems creates more problems1:20:00 – Reframing problems as skills to learn1:22:00 – Can we recover from over-diagnosing society?1:24:00 – Pushback from psychiatry and the mental health industry1:27:00 – Technology, distraction, and social media’s impact1:32:00 – The glamorisation of mental illness onlineFind Dr Sami: https://samitimimi.co.ukTry my app:Get 20% of MindStrong Sport app subscriptions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindstrongsport.com/checkout⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Use code mindstrongpodcast)Get in Touch:⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewishatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewis_hatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠To sponsor or contact the show visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠lewishatchett.com/podcast⁠⁠

Dr Robert Glover is a therapist, coach and an author.Why do so many men struggle to be authentic in relationships? Why does “being a nice guy” often backfire? And how can men live in a way that attracts love, purpose, and connection without chasing status or approval?Expect to learn why women often find “nice guy” behavior unattractive, the three traits that make men genuinely magnetic, why hiding your true self comes across as creepy or even predatory, the cultural lessons Glover discovered from life in Mexico, how therapy and releasing shame can transform your relationships, why social media and AI are disconnecting us from real life, the importance of men finding brotherhood and safe spaces to open up, how to stop over-pathologizing everything as trauma, and why embracing life’s struggles makes you more fulfilled, attractive, and resilient—and much more.00:00 - Dr. Glover’s Love Story in Mexico09:45 - The Three Traits That Make Men Magnetic15:18 - How Shame and Secrets Keep Men Stuck20:54 - Why Looks, Status & Money Aren’t the Answer27:32 - The Pitfalls of Over-Pathologizing Trauma33:41 - Social Media, AI, and Disconnection40:05 - Why Men Must Reconnect with Other Men46:50 - The Rise of the Global Men’s Movement52:17 - Masculinity, the Manosphere & Doing Better58:30 - How to Embrace Struggle Without Fear01:03:44 - Dr. Glover’s Advice to Young MenTry my app:Get 20% of MindStrong Sport app subscriptions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindstrongsport.com/checkout⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Use code mindstrongpodcast)Get in Touch:⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewishatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewis_hatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠To sponsor or contact the show visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠lewishatchett.com/podcast⁠⁠

Laura Vanderkam is a time management expert and bestselling author.Why do so many people feel time-starved—even when they technically have more freedom than ever? Are we really as busy as we think? And how can we design a week that actually reflects what matters most?Expect to learn why most people overestimate how busy they are, how tracking your time reveals hidden patterns of fulfilment or frustration, what high performers do differently with their 168 hours, how to stop reacting to life and start designing it, the myth of balance and what to aim for instead, why “core competencies” matter more than routines, how to build a sustainable schedule without burning out, and how small changes in how we spend time can change everything—and much more.00:00 - Why Most People Feel Time-Starved03:12 - The Truth About How Busy You Really Are06:25 - What Happens When You Track Your Time for a Week09:44 - The Mindset Shift That Changes Everything12:56 - Why Time Management Isn’t About Being Efficient15:40 - “Core Competencies” and How They Reshape Your Schedule18:18 - How to Make Time for What Actually Matters21:06 - The Most Common Time Traps We Fall Into24:22 - Designing Your Week Like a High Performer27:00 - The Myth of Balance and What to Aim for Instead30:10 - The Hidden Emotional Side of Time Management33:27 - Micro Habits That Make a Macro Difference36:42 - How to Stop Feeling Guilty About Time Off39:58 - Why Structure Creates Freedom43:15 - The Power of Anchoring Rituals in Your Day46:23 - What Successful People Do with Their Mornings49:32 - Saying No: The Most Underrated Time Skill52:11 - Time Management for Parents & Caregivers55:25 - Can You Really Do It All?58:49 - Laura’s Advice to Anyone Who Feels OverwhelmedTry my app:Get 20% of MindStrong Sport app subscriptions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindstrongsport.com/checkout⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Use code mindstrongpodcast)Get in Touch:⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewishatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewis_hatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠To sponsor or contact the show visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠lewishatchett.com/podcast⁠

LifeLikeCharlie is a singer-songer writer and content creator with his dogs, Nala and Monkey.In a world moving too fast, are we losing the very things that keep us grounded? What if getting outside, feeling grief, and choosing presence over performance were more powerful than any mindset hack or morning routine?Expect to learn why getting a dog can help your health, how addiction to distraction creeps into our mental health, why social media fame doesn’t guarantee fulfilment, why turning off his comments can protect your peace, what mental strength looks like, how to show up with honesty online, what it means to suffer well, and much more...0:00 - Why Charlie Left the UK for Spain3:30 - The Hardest Part of Living Abroad Alone5:20 - What Getting a Dog in Your 20s Teaches You8:15 - How Talking to Dogs Went Viral10:10 - The Cost of Upholding an Image Online13:45 - Why Going Viral Nearly Broke Charlie17:00 - Turning Off Comments to Protect Mental Health20:40 - Finding Purpose Through Music and Dogs24:00 - How Grief Reshaped Charlie’s Mindset28:30 - The Wellness Trap: Why Routines Might Be Hurting You32:00 - Why Nature Was the Only Thing That Worked35:15 - Advice for Anyone Struggling With Grief38:30 - The Real Cure for Male Loneliness41:10 - The Friends You Need During Hard Times43:00 - Why Presence Is the Ultimate Mental Strength45:10 - What Sam Harris Taught Me About Time47:20 - How to Be Vulnerable as a Man50:20 - Music as Therapy and Creative Vulnerability53:10 - Advice for Anyone Scared to Post Online56:00 - What People Misunderstand About Charlie58:45 - The One Mental Health Myth You Need to DitchTry my app:Get 20% of MindStrong Sport app subscriptions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindstrongsport.com/checkout⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Use code mindstrongpodcast)Get in Touch:⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewishatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewis_hatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠To sponsor or contact the show visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠lewishatchett.com/podcast

Anne-Laure Le Cunff is a neuroscientist, writer, and founder of Ness Labs.So why do we consume so much self-help and apply so little of it? Why do we expect mindset change to be instant? And how can tiny personal experiments actually transform the way we live, learn, and grow?Expect to learn what self-anthropology really is, how curiosity and anxiety compete in the brain, why we’re addicted to information but resist action, how to escape the illusion of control, the 3 mindset traps holding most people back, why cynicism is a coping mechanism, how to shift from a linear to experimental mindset, the science of tiny experiments, how to build a tolerance for uncertainty, why internal signals of success matter more than external ones, and how to change your life one experiment at a time.00:00 What Is Self-Anthropology?01:18 The Neuroscience of Curiosity vs. Anxiety03:27 Info Obesity and the Illusion of Control05:32 Why Most People Don’t Apply What They Learn08:21 The 3 Mindsets That Hold You Back10:11 Why Cynicism Is a Coping Mechanism15:36 Environment vs. Willpower in Changing Your Mindset19:01 Why We Think Mindset Change Should Be Instant22:48 The 7% Rule of Success23:48 Linear vs. Experimental Mindset28:23 How to Build a Tolerance to Uncertainty29:48 The Science of Tiny Experiments31:05 Escaping the “Maximalist Brain”33:21 Human Doing vs. Human Being36:50 Praise That Actually Builds Confidence39:39 How to Build Consistency with Tiny Experiments42:08 Why One Experiment at a Time Is Enough47:16 How to Know If Your Experiment Is Working51:44 Internal vs. External Signals of Success53:51 What If You Love It But It’s Not “Working”?57:25 The Power of Learning in Public1:00:19 Where to Start With Your First Experiment1:04:39 What Anne-Laure Is Experimenting On NowTry my app:Get 20% of MindStrong Sport app subscriptions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindstrongsport.com/checkout⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Use code mindstrongpodcast)Get in Touch:⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewishatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lewis_hatchett⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠To sponsor or contact the show visit: ⁠⁠⁠lewishatchett.com/podcast