243: The Emotional Weight That’s Keeping the Physical Weight On

Ever notice how life hands you a plan… and then immediately laughs and does the opposite?You asked for an elephant-sized breakthrough, and instead you got a hippopotamus-shaped detour. Cool. Love that for us.When things don’t show up the way you expected, it’s easy to think something’s gone wrong.But what if nothing’s wrong and life is just offering you a different lesson than the one you ordered?This week, I’m taking you with me to the African bush, where a simple phrase cracked me wide open:“What the bush gives, the bush gives.”Translation? You don’t control what appears. Your only job is to notice what’s in front of you… and trust that it showed up for a reason.Episode Resources✨ Download The Year-End Self-Reflection Journal to gently explore where you are, what this season has been teaching you, and what you’re ready to release as you move forward.In this episode, you’ll learn how to:✨ Trust the timing of your life instead of resisting it✨ Reframe detours, delays, and disappointments as meaningful guidance✨ Release the need to control outcomes and open yourself to what’s unfolding✨ Recognize what this season is truly asking you to learn✨ Stop chasing what you think you want and start honoring what’s actually hereIf you’ve ever wondered, “Why isn’t life giving me what I asked for?”This episode offers a softer, wiser question: “What if this is exactly what I need right now?”Get Started Here✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to understand the emotional patterns this season has revealed.✨ Take the Self-Love Scorecard to see where you may be resisting yourself instead of supporting yourself.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When your soul keeps nudging you to do something bigger with your life, who actually says, “Sure, let me blow up my whole comfort zone real quick?” No one. But sometimes life gets so uncomfortable that staying the same feels scarier than changing.What if choosing yourself doesn’t require a dramatic leap, just an honest moment of, “Okay Universe, fine… I’m ready.”And to make this whole conversation even juicier, I’m joined by someone who lived this shift from the inside out and made it hilarious in the process: Baus Rufo, comedian, content creator, and host of Dogshow Divas and Kaya Pa Ba podcast. He clawed his way out of burnout and into the most honest version of himself, and he’s here to tell you what happens when you stop playing it safe. Episode ResourcesDownload the Year-End Self-Reflection Journal Pages to get honest about where you are, what needs to shift, and who you’re becoming.In this episode, you’ll learn how to:Catch the body signals that scream “you’re out of alignment”, even if your life looks good on paperHeal the belief that you’re unsupported so you can finally start supporting yourself Befriend your inner critic instead of letting it run your life like a toxic micromanagerReclaim your creativity, even if you think you “lost it” somewhere between meetingsTake zero-pressure steps toward a life that feels more authentic, playful, and aliveTrust your timing instead of spiraling about being “too late” to start anything newIf you’ve ever thought, “Am I running out of time?”, this episode flips that fear into something much bolder: “I’m not too late. I’m just finally choosing what I want.” Get Started HereBook a Relationship Clarity Call to uncover the emotional patterns shaping your love life.Take the Self-Love Scorecard to to see where you may be putting yourself last.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When a year drags you through plot twists you never signed up for, who actually says, “Wow, what a blessing”? No one. But sometimes the moments we’d rather erase end up revealing truths we were finally ready to hear.So what if endings aren’t just for resolutions and champagne toasts… but also for releasing the heaviness, the pressure, and the stories you’ve quietly carried all year long? This week, we’re grounding into real reflection. The grown-up kind. The kind where you look back at your year, take a deep breath, and say, “Okay Universe, I survived that… but also, rude.”Episode Resources✨ Download The Year-End Self-Reflection Journal to help you end the year with clarity and compassion.In this episode, you’ll learn how to:✨ Look at your year with honesty and compassion instead of pressure✨ Recognize the lessons your highs and lows have been trying to teach you✨ Release old energy, old expectations, and old versions of yourself✨ Anchor into your truth and reconnect with who you’re becoming✨ Enter the new year not with forceful resolutions, but with clarity and peaceIf you’ve ever ended a year thinking, “What even was that?”, this episode helps you shift into something softer and wiser… “This is who I am now, and here’s what I choose moving forward.”Get Started Here✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to understand the emotional patterns this year brought up✨ Take the Self-Love Scorecard to see where you’ve been neglecting youConnect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When life knocks you on your butt, who actually says “thank you”? No one. But sometimes the stuff we avoid the most ends up teaching us the best lessons.So what if gratitude isn’t just for the cute, calm moments… but also for the mess, the heartbreak, and the plot twists that make you wonder if the Universe is trolling you?This week, we’re talking about real gratitude. The grown-woman kind. The kind where you laugh, cry, roll your eyes, and say, “Okay Universe, I get it… kind of rude though.”Episode ResourcesBook a Relationship Clarity Call to uncover the deeper emotional imprint you’ve been carrying without realizing itTake the Self-Love Scorecard to reveal blind spots in how you’ve been caring for yourself — the ones you don’t even know you’re neglectingUse the Gratitude Prompts in this episode when you need grounding instead of a cliché pep talkIn this episode, you’ll learn how to:How to honor the moments that broke you without pretending you’re okayThe simple science behind why “thank you” calms your whole systemA five-minute practice that turns pain into perspectiveTiny gratitude rituals for tough daysWhat to say when you can’t even fake gratitude yetIf you’ve ever thought, “Why is this happening to me?”, this episode helps you shift into something stronger and a little sassier… “Why not me, and what is this here to teach me?”Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal@projectlovingmyselfpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever ask yourself, “Why won’t my body let this go… even when I’m doing everything right?”Because a lot times, the weight we carry isn’t physical. It’s emotional.In this episode, we explore how unprocessed emotions get stored in the body, why they show up as physical weight or stubborn symptoms, and how your nervous system plays a bigger role in your health than any diet ever could.Episode Resources✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to uncover the emotional root of what your body has been holding.✨ Take the Self-Love Scorecard to see how deeply you’ve been caring for yourselfYou’ll learn:✨ The emotional patterns that keep your body in protection mode✨ Why willpower and “good habits” aren’t enough✨ How stress, grief, resentment, and unspoken feelings translate into physical weight✨ Simple ways to help your nervous system soften so your body can finally let go✨ Why compassion––not pressure––is the key to real releaseThis conversation is your reminder that your body isn’t working against you. It’s communicating with you. It’s asking to be heard before it can let anything go.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We're talking about the lies we tell—the tiny white ones, the polite ones, and the quiet ones we whisper to ourselves just to get through the day.Because every lie—no matter how small—costs you connection. With others. And with yourself.We’re unpacking why honesty feels so hard (especially in relationships), how to speak your truth without blowing things up, and why it might be the most freeing thing you ever do.Episode Resources✨ Take the Love Blocks Quiz so you can unlearn the patterns that keep you playing small.✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call and uncover what your truth is really trying to tell you so you can stop pretending and start living fully.In this episode, you’ll learn how to:✨ Recognize the 4 core reasons we lie—and what each one is really protecting✨ Break free from the world’s most common lie ✨ Tell the truth in a way that heals, not harms✨ Use a simple honesty framework that builds trust instead of tension✨ Hear what your body is trying to tell you when you’re not being honest with yourselfIf you’ve ever felt like you’re living half-truths just to keep everyone else comfortable, this episode is your reminder: peace doesn’t come from being perfect—it comes from being real.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We talk a lot about “moving on,” but what does that actually mean when your heart still replays the good parts like a broken Spotify loop? This week’s episode is for anyone still low-key haunted by an old love, a “what if,” or a story that should’ve ended years ago but somehow keeps sneaking into your present...Because you can't move on if you're still waiting for closure — you heal by choosing yourself.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:✨ The sneaky reason you can’t stop thinking about your ex (hint: it’s not about them)✨ How to stop feeding the fantasy and finally see the relationship for what it was✨ The difference between closure and clarity — and why one sets you free✨ How to shift your energy from overthinking to actual healing✨ A few spicy mindset flips that’ll make you say, “Oh… I get it now.”This episode isn’t about moving on — it’s about moving through the ache, the memories, the mess — and coming out softer, wiser, and way more in love with yourself on the other side.Get Started Here: Enroll in the Relationship Detox Program — release the past and reopen your heart in 5 days. Use code: REDOXFR at checkout to get it free.Book a Relationship Clarity Call — get personal guidance on what’s really keeping you stuck.Take the Self-Love Scorecard — find out if your self-love is thriving or quietly surviving.So if your heart’s been craving clarity more than closure, this episode is your sign to finally tune in and set yourself free. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I just need more balance in my life” is the modern-day mantra for I’m one meltdown away from booking a one-way flight to Bali. ✈️We’ve been told that if we can just balance everything — work, relationships, family, self-care — we’ll finally feel calm. But balance? That’s the real burnout.Because life isn’t meant to sit perfectly still while you juggle all the pieces. This episode is your permission slip to stop performing balance and start practicing presence. To trade the pressure of “having it all together” for the peace you actually want. 💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:✨ Why “balance” is just a prettier word for burnout✨ The secret behind flow and why it feels so damn good✨ How to stop living by your to-do list and start following your energy✨ What it really means to feel calm without controlling everything✨ The mindset shift that makes life feel lighter (without quitting your responsibilities)Because maybe you don’t need to manage your life like a spreadsheet — maybe you just need to let it move with you.Ready to go deeper?Take what you learned in this episode and turn it into real-life flow with these free tools designed to help you align, reset, and thrive:🌿 From Chaos to Calm: A Guided Journey to Emotional Balance🧠 Book a Life Clarity Call — start honoring yourself the way you wish others would💌 Take the Self-Love Scorecard — find out if your self-love is thriving or just quietly surviving in the background🎧 Tune in now — and let this episode remind you that peace isn’t found in perfection… it’s found in flow. 🌊 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if forgiveness isn’t about letting someone off the hook but finally setting yourself free? 💫This week we’re diving into the heart-healing power of forgiveness with Grace Grossman—wellbeing coach, yoga teacher, and bestselling author of Chill Out and Cheer Up: A Ten-Step Guide.In this episode, Grace and Sanaiyah unpack how forgiveness becomes the foundation of self-love and how releasing guilt and resentment allows you to breathe easier, love yourself more, and finally move forward feeling lighter. They dive into the surprising ways resentment hides in your body, and the powerful tools that can help you finally release it all.💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:✨ Why forgiveness isn’t weakness, it’s freedom✨ How self-love helps you attract healthier, soul-aligned friendships✨ The power of community in healing and emotional growth✨ How to release guilt and finally make peace with your past✨ Daily practices that nurture compassion, trust, and inner safetyBecause when you forgive, you don’t erase the past—you release its hold on your future. 🌿Want to connect with Grace?📱 Follow her on Instagram: @healinghearts_hubwithgrace🌸 Join her community: The Healing Hearts Hub ✨ Listen now to discover how forgiveness can help you love yourself—and others—more deeply than ever before. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How many nights have you laid in bed, wide awake, solving problems that don’t even exist yet?We call it “being prepared,” but really, it’s just our anxiety doing the cha-cha on repeat. You’re not solving problems—you’re just exhausting yourself in the name of control.This week, we’re getting real about worry: why it feels so addictive, what it’s really protecting you from, and how to finally break free from the mental hamster wheel that’s been stealing your peace. Because let’s be honest—your brain deserves a vacation, not another late-night worry meeting that could’ve been an email.💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:✨ The sneaky reason worry feels productive (but totally isn’t)✨ What’s actually hiding underneath that constant overthinking✨ Simple ways to retrain your mind to trust instead of spiral✨ A grounding practice to help you stop spinning and start breathing again📝 Ready to raise the bar on how you treat yourself?✔️ Grab the Success Blocks Checklist and spot the sneaky self-worth gaps you didn’t even know were there🧠 Book a Life Clarity Call to start honoring yourself the way you wish others would💌 Take the Self-Love Scorecard to see if your self-love is thriving or just surviving in the background.Because peace doesn’t come from controlling everything—it comes from remembering that you’re safe, capable, and more powerful than any “what if” your mind can come up with. ✨ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.