Episode 20: Having a relationship with my future self ( to set and achieve goals!)

I wanted to share with you some announcements.♥️  First, my 60-Day Love, Pleasure, and Play challenge. I'm creating a blog for 60 days, writing posts about bringing more love, pleasure, and play into my life. I hope what I share will inspire you if you choose to bring more love, pleasure, and play into your life. We will explore what it means to bring more love into your life and expand your capacity to love. We will also look at what it means to bring more pleasure into your life, both in the context of sex and outside the context of sex. Same with play! How can we be more playful in our lives?https://www.lisetteostrander.com/blog❤️ My Perimenopause/Menopause Symposium replay is now available!!Use this link to sign up at no cost to access!https://lisetteostrander.myflodesk.com/symposiumreplayThe symposium includes:🍒 Six incredible speakers (30-minute sessions each)  from the health, wellness, sex, pleasure & coaching space. 🍒 A workbook with key takeaways from the symposium. 🍒Downloadable audio of the sessions.Photo Credit: Audra Miller at Miller Studios Reach out if you have any questions! Stay tuned for more events and opportunities to have conversations about sex, pleasure, perimenopause, and menopause.IG: lisette.ostrander Email: [email protected]

This is a clip from a Menopause Symposium I hosted in the fall.   Justin Dawson was one of six speakers. In this episode, Justine talks about eroticism in midlife and the possibilities that open to us during this time to go deeper and tap into our eroticism. She talks about 3 key ingredients.  Justine offers insight and practices!!Justine is hosting a six-week women's coaching circle that begins on January 29, 20204.  It is about intimacy, embodiment, and insight.  It is for women who want to bring more aliveness and insight in midlife. If you have questions about intimacy, the erotic, and embodying spiritual wisdom, this group is for you. Learn More: https://www.justinedawson.com/womenscircleJustine Dawson (she/her), Teacher and guide of Intimacy and Awakening. Trauma-informed erotic aliveness for singles and couples.www.justinedawson.comIG: @JustineADawsonThank you for listening!  Reach out if you have any questions.  @lisette.ostrander

Happy New Year. This is episode 20, about having a relationship with your future self to set and work towards goals.⭐️ In this episode, I talk about how I am building an ongoing relationship with my future self to set and achieve my goals. I give you a look into how I am creating an ongoing conversation with my future self so I can do more than envision my future self but BE my future self on my way to achieving my goals.⭐️ As I step into my future self and BE that version, in January and February 2024, I am going to coach as much as possible. I am offering free 30-minute coaching sessions in January and February. Use the link below to book a session.  In this session, we can explore whatever is on your mind and/or do a before/after goal-setting process. It is a great tool for you to have to start your year off and build a relationship with your future self!⭐️ Schedule a free  30-min coaching call with me: https://calendly.com/mykindofpleasure/free-coaching-sessionsFollow me on IG: lisette.ostranderPhoto Credit: Audra Miller   https://millerstudios.net/

This is  Lisette Ostrander, and this is the My Kind of Pleasure Podcast, where we will explore topics of sex, pleasure, desire, mindset, and emotions and use the information learned to live the life we want and have the sex we want.In this episode I will present a potentially new way to think about libido Briefly talk about what our culture says libido should be Talk about low libido and what message that might be giving us Touch upon libido and menopause journey…specifically post menopause And end with some thoughts about ways to explore our libido.***I am going to start adding transcripts of episodes to my website!! Stay tuned Photo Credit: Audra Miller   https://millerstudios.net/Resources I mentioned: 🍒  October 19th Perimenopause/Menopause Symposium “Let’s Change the Conversation”.  Register and get access to the replay (no cost to register). Six speakers! Once you register I will email the session schedule & topics the week of October 9th. Register here 👇 https://lisetteostrander.myflodesk.com/menopausesymposium🍒 Sheri Winston, author of Women’s Anatomy of Arousalhttps://intimateartscenter.com/about/sheri-winston/🍒 Keep in touch & follow me on IG: lisette.ostrander

Register for the October 19 Symposium - [no cost]- get access to the 3-hour replay : https://lisetteostrander.myflodesk.com/menopausesymposiumSymposium Speakers: (more info coming soon about topics & time slots)Justine Dawson : https://www.justinedawson.com/Heather Corinna: https://heathercorinna.com/Dr. Janet Williams, MD, OB/GYN: https://intimatewellnessshop.com/Bree Luck: https://www.thelovelyunbecoming.com/Falilah “Aisha” Bilal: https://www.falilahlove.com/(one more speaker coming soon!)Resources I mention in this episode:https://www.youtube.com/@drnorthrupThe Wisdom of Menopause (4th Edition): Creating Physical and Emotional Health During the Change- by Christiane NorthrupConnect with me!IG @lisette.ostrander

August is my birthday month and one of my favorites for that reason! I wanted to make sure I recorded my first episode back in August. Also, on August 15, I completed a year-long life coaching certification program.   I always take August to reset and reflect, and in this episode, I wanted to share some of my reflections from this year and a few things I am looking forward to this year.Three takeaways: How important it is to do something that feels a bit out of reach and go for it anyway. Willingness to experience any emotion Always have your back!I am very excited to continue this momentum into my new year and continue to practice and embody each of these takeaways and learnings. I am also going to dive further into the sexuality and intimacy space and join a Sex, Love & Relationship certification program…with a specialty in perimenopause/menopause.Photo Credit: Audra Miller   https://millerstudios.net/Follow me & connect: IG: lisette.ostrander

I am taking a summer pause and returning the week of August 22nd. In this episode, I share how I will take a different approach with a big goal.  I  am also offering 20-min free coaching sessions over the next few weeks. I am getting certified as a life coach and need to practice!Learn more in the episode and sign up using this link: https://calendly.com/mykindofpleasure/20-min-coaching-session-with-lisetteAlso, follow me on IG: lisette.ostrander Photo Credit: Audra Miller   https://millerstudios.net/Have a great summer and see you soon! 

In this episode, I give an update on my impossible goal & also share some ideas about how to get comfortable with being uncomfortable and get good at failing. I also talk about having your own back. What if were as easy as deciding to do it and, from today on, not beating yourself up when you make a mistake or fail at something? Check it out and let me know your thoughts! Follow me and send me a message at IG lisette. ostranderPhoto Credit: Audra Miller   https://millerstudios.net/

❤️ Passive action versus taking massive action: Massive action is what moves the meter. Massive action also inevitably brings failure. We have to fail and fail and learn from our failures to learn and grow. ❤️Getting good at failing: Getting good at failing is an essential skill that we have to all get good at to live our dreams, feel alive, and bring more pleasure into our lives. ❤️Setting impossible goals: Setting impossible goals to expand our brains and skill sets & step into massive action. I talk about my own impossible goal!!!  Stay tuned for progress on my June 2024 goal and becoming the person I need to be to reach this goal. Reach out and say hi and share with me your impossible goal!! https://linktr.ee/lisette.ostranderIn this episode, I mention Brook Catillo. Learn more here: https://thelifecoachschool.com/brookecastillo/Photo Credit: Audra Miller   https://millerstudios.net/

Today I want to talk to you about sexual mindset and two concepts I have been exploring this week, sexual growth mindset and sexual destiny mindset, and how having these mindsets impact our sex life and sexual satisfaction.  In this episode, I also share a  tool to be more intentional with your thoughts and beliefs to retrain your brain to have more empowering mindsets.  ❤️ Sexual growth mindset is the attitude that people can learn to be better lovers over time. Also, people who hold sexual growth mindsets believe that sexual satisfaction fluctuates and that sexual satisfaction can be maintained or improved with effort.Reach out to learn more and connect! https://linktr.ee/lisette.ostranderIn this episode, I mention a set of scales developed by psychologist  Jessica Maxwell that measure  “ sexual destiny mindset” and “ sexual growth mindset. See below for some examples of the questions, and take a moment to think about how much you agree or disagree with the statements below.💜Experiencing sexual problems is a sure sign that a couple is not sexually compatible.💜 Sexual satisfaction often fluctuates over the course of a relationship.💜Sexual desire is likely to ebb and flow (i.e., change) over the the course of a relationship.💜 A passionate sex life is a sign that two partners are meant to be.💜 Communicating about sexual issues can bring partners closer together.💜 Troubles in a sexual relationship signify a poor match between partners.💜 If sexual satisfaction declines over the course of a relationship, it suggests that a couple is not a good match.💜 If sexual partners are meant to be together, sex will be easy and wonderful.💜 Acknowledging each other’s differing sexual interests is important for a couple to enhance their sex life.💜 Even satisfied couples will experience sexual challenges at timesPhoto Credit: Audra Miller   https://millerstudios.net/