263: Mindset Shifts for Better Than Happy Intimacy, with Jody Moore

Do you know what arouses you? Knowing that could completely change the way you show up in the bedroom. In this episode, we dive into the difference between desire and arousal, and why understanding your own arousal triggers is the missing link to greater confidence, deeper intimacy, and more passionate sex in marriage. We cover the history of our scientific understanding of arousal and the sexual experience, including our most recent insights on how context, trust, and emotional closeness play a huge role in arousal—especially for women. We’ll also explore how positive sexual experiences build on each other, creating momentum for more intimacy and joy in your relationship. By the end, you’ll not only understand the science of arousal better, but you’ll also walk away with ideas you can use to strengthen your connection, boost your sexual confidence, and build a marriage that feels more alive and passionate than ever! Don't miss . . .  Our Virtual Getaway – The Anatomy of Arousal (Sept 26–27): a spicy, nourishing, live, at-home retreat for couples, plus so many bonuses! Our Private Facebook Group: Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy

What if the biggest blocker to a thriving sex life isn’t desire, kids, or schedules—but your mindset? In this episode, master coach Jody Moore joins me to show how small shifts in thinking can create big changes in intimacy. We cover: Why “keeping your spouse happy” quietly destroys connection The surprising reason lower-desire partners stay stuck Common mindsets that sabotage sexual arousal  Clean pain vs. dirty pain in marriage And don't miss Jody’s black-belt sex tip! Sextember is on! Make September your 30-day intimacy reset inside the Intimately Us app. Plus: Virtual Getaway – The Anatomy of Arousal (Sept 26–27): a spicy, nourishing, live, at-home retreat for couples Coming next week: Sex Seminar with 25 experts—join our email list for details Ready to think differently and feel closer? Hit play—and let’s get your marriage on.

Masturbation is one of the most controversial topics in marriage—especially in conservative or religious circles. In this episode, we're not going to tell you what to believe, but we will offer a new perspective and framework for thinking about it. Here’s what you’ll discover: The surprising cultural history that shaped Christian attitudes toward masturbation Why shame and secrecy often do more harm than the act itself How sexuality and spirituality can be integrated instead of at odds A simple framework for evaluating any sexual behavior Real stories from couples who moved past guilt and found deeper intimacy Whether you ultimately say yes or no to masturbation in your marriage, this episode will help you replace shame with honest conversation and build safety for true intimacy. 👉 Want to go further? Download the Intimately Us app to reset your intimacy in September with our "Sextember" challenge, and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Get Your Marriage On Program

What if you and your spouse chose one area of your relationship to focus on—and committed to it for 30 days straight? That’s the heart behind our tradition at Get Your Marriage On called Sextember—a month dedicated to intimacy, playfulness, and connection in marriage. In this episode, I share the surprising backstory that inspired Sextember, including a 30-day experiment that transformed not only one woman’s marriage but also her happiness and even her appearance. You’ll hear how this idea grew into a challenge for couples everywhere, why September is the perfect time to reset patterns, and how you and your spouse can join in this year. Plus, I’ll tell you about our upcoming Virtual Getaway: The Anatomy of Arousal—a spicy, nourishing, two-day experience you can enjoy together from home or a hotel. If you’re ready to have fun, grow closer, and see the before-and-after difference in your marriage, this episode will show you how to make Sextember your best month yet!

What happens when the spouse who usually initiates sex suddenly stops—and weeks turn into months of silence? This painful “sexual standoff” can leave both partners feeling stuck, rejected, and disconnected. In this episode, I’ll explain exactly why this pattern happens, share a real couple’s story, and give you four practical steps to break out of the cycle. You’ll learn how to shift focus off of blame, calm the reactivity that kills intimacy, and start rebuilding connection layer by layer. If you’ve been caught in this cycle—or fear you might end up there—this episode will show you how to untangle the knot and spark intimacy again in your marriage. 👉 Want to go further? Download the Intimately Us app to reset your intimacy in Sextember, and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Get Your Marriage On Program

In this episode, I’ll walk you through a complete how-to guide for female ejaculation: What it is and how it works Why it can be such an incredible and bonding experience A step-by-step process to help you and your spouse experience it together Common challenges and how to troubleshoot them We'll also dive into the relationship side—why novelty can be so powerful in marriage, how to avoid performance pressure, and how deeper intimacy is always the foundation of great sexual experiences. Along the way, you’ll hear real stories from couples who discovered squirting later in marriage and how it transformed their intimacy. Whether you’re curious, skeptical, or eager to try, you’ll leave this episode with practical tools, encouragement, and a fresh vision for playfulness in your marriage. 👉 Want to go deeper? Check out the Intimately Us app for illustrated, step-by-step guides and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Get Your Marriage On Program

Want to make intercourse in your marriage more exciting, connected, and deeply satisfying? In this episode, we share 10 game-changing tips—from building anticipation with the 9 to 1 pattern, to eye contact magic, to positions and angles that hit just right. These aren’t beginner basics—they’re for couples who already enjoy intimacy but want fresh inspiration to make it even better. You’ll also learn the 4 biggest mistakes to avoid and why “good enough” sex might be the secret to long-term happiness. Resources & Events: Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Join the Private Facebook Group Get Your Marriage On Program

Hey friends, let me be honest with you - as a man speaking for many men, oral sex is a big deal to us. We love it. It's incredibly pleasurable. But here's what makes today's episode so powerful: I'm sharing a conversation from a wife's perspective about how she finds giving oral sex deeply pleasurable and meaningful. Now, the beautiful thing about oral sex is that it's inherently intimate. You're giving your complete attention and focus to your spouse. There's something vulnerable and connecting about the very act itself. So learning how to genuinely enjoy it - not just on the receiving end, but actually on the giving end - can be an incredible gift to your marriage. I'm excited to bring this topic to you today because this is actually a conversation I recorded a few years ago that's been sitting in the archives. I don't think many of you have heard it, and honestly, the underlying principle is too powerful not to share again. Here's the thing - this isn't just about technique tips for better oral sex, though we'll cover some of that. It's so much deeper. It's about a complete attitude shift and reframe that can transform this part of your intimate life together. If you're ready to think differently about giving and receiving in the bedroom, you won't want to miss this conversation. Resources & Events: Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Join the Private Facebook Group

What’s the difference between having sex and truly making love? In this episode, we’re talking about how to bring your whole self—your body, mind, heart, and soul—into your intimate moments with your spouse. You’ll hear powerful stories of real couples who felt disconnected in their sex lives, even with consistent physical intimacy. Together, we’ll explore what it means to move from mechanical, eyes-closed sex to something deeper and richer: emotional presence, vulnerability, and connection. If you’ve ever felt alone after sex… if your body is there but your heart feels miles away… this episode is for you. You’ll learn what “eyes open sex” looks like in real life, why we sometimes hide from true intimacy, and how small, intentional shifts can lead to transformational closeness in your marriage. Whether you're looking to reignite connection or take your intimacy to the next level, this episode is packed with practical tools, encouragement, and hope. Resources & Events: Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Join the Private Facebook Group

If you’re a woman who’s never had an orgasm, struggles to orgasm consistently, or wonders if what you’ve experienced really counts—this episode is for you. I want you to know this: you are not broken, and there is absolutely hope. In this episode, I share seven key truths about female orgasm, why it matters, and how you can move forward—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. We’ll talk about: Why orgasm is a skill you can learn (you’re not defective!) The importance of creating the right environment How psychological, relational, or spiritual blocks might be getting in the way Why self-exploration and vibrators are powerful, shame-free tools What supportive husbands can do to truly help (and what not to do) I’ve worked with many women who felt hopeless and stuck, and I’ve seen time and time again that healing, pleasure, and confidence are possible. You don’t have to figure this out on your own. You have permission to want this. You have permission to grow. And you are so worth the effort.   🎉 Exciting news! 👉 Our next round of Women's and Men's Only Small Coaching Groups kicks off September 2. 👉 Our brand-new Virtual Intimacy Getaway is happening September 26–27. 👉 You can also watch my free masterclass to learn how hundreds of couples are overcoming their barriers and finding joy in their sexual relationship. Head to GetYourMarriageOn.com for all these and more.   Other Related Resources 252: Cunnlingus Mastery: 12 Tips Every Husband Should Know Before Going Down on His Wife 239: Sharing the Mental Load for Great Sex, with Dr. Morgan Cutlip 121: How I Learned to Orgasm: A Sextimony with Ashley