Shayna - Change Isn't Disappointment

What would it look like for you to solidify who you are?Today I want to introduce you to Shayna, it is something I have come to value deeply the more I live fully as myself the more consistently humans like this one find their way into my life. Shayna is one that I get consistently asked if she is my sister, and aside from having curly hair there are many things I find in that assumption to be a compliment. The way she is unafraid to approach someone and say hello, the way she holds on to the parts of herself that not everyone deserves access to, the strength she has and builds on both physically and as a woman.Shayna is someone who will greet you from a mile away with a smile and give you the confidence that you are seen, capable, and treasured with her whole self.We chat about what it means to have a lot of love to give but at times not be seen for who you are beyond the joy and the energy most see, the value of silence and simply staring at the ceiling, and the way sincerity and honesty allow closeness and trust in relationships in ways even time cannot compete with.She shares how change isn’t the same as stepping into yourself, how we can say life’s moments impacted us, and not changed us. To define solidification of who we are by how the hard times caused us to trust and not apologize for who we were meant to be.We chat about the value of freedom, how being needed in the corporate world stopped being the end goal, how overthinking serves great purpose in the right timing, and allowing our choices to not be second guessed once we make them.Shayna is one I feel I can spend 5 minutes with or 5 hours, 5 minutes that can feel like the hour with a friend that grounds you, and 5 hours that disappears like 5 minutes cause you laughed the whole time.So tune in today and meet Shayna, someone who will remind you that it is more than ok to choose the life you feel whole in, to not give more than you deserve and to love so fullyAnd to you Shayna thank you, thank you for the way you so effortlessly came into my life and how it continues to feel like you were always meant to be there, for the countless chats about everything and nothing, for the simplicity in knowing I never question where I stand with you. Love you so much 

It’s personal Life is personal, it was meant to be feltToday’s episode is a short solo one as I wanted to just share how life and those in mine continue to heal me and  in a way that I hope is able to help you as well 

When someone speaks of how they met you, will it have been a positive interaction? Today I want to introduce you to Brandon, Brandon is one of the friends I have simply because he chooses to say hello; but he has quickly become a friend I can count on, one that holds space for others with sincerity, and one I’m excited to share more of with you todayWe chat about how toxicity in life can be missing out on the chance to experience life and connections. How toxic isn’t just what we put into our bodies, but the idea that passing up on moments to know others and to know yourself is where our FOMO should kick in the mostHe shares what it means to him to be successful, how it isn’t the money, but rather the freedom and the lifestyle hard work allows us to have. He shares how he has been intentional with being present when not working, but how putting in the hours now has allowed him so many of the simple joys in life that he values He shares how a breakup taught him that life can feel heavy, but that everything we feel will pass, to not forget what you have in your life to look forward to, and to even make the most of the way we feel and refocus on our own health and lives. He shares how a goal is only crazy if we don’t put the work in to achieve it, how not wasting your 20’s drastically impacts the rest of your life, and even how our choices one day can either add or steal from the day ahead.Brandon is one that as a human, not just for his age, but overall as a human carries himself with maturity and kindness, he is one who is known by his friends as someone they can count on, and someone who is genuinely lovely to be around. He is one that I believe will change how you view not just what you do, but how you pursue it in hearing this conversationSo tune in today and meet Brandon, a human who will remind you to slow down, to value the sun on your face, the joy in getting to work hard, the reality that we are all given the same hours in a day and you can create a life you love and one that loves others well And to you Brandon thank you, thank you for your willingness to sit down with me, for your open heart and the reminder to show up and not forget the little moments, for being someone I can count on to walk me home at night, and the ease in time with you. I hope you continue to be surrounded by friends, that the work you pour into in career and life always comes back to you, and that the days off feel long and full of life. Grateful to have you as a friend 

Do you know how someone speaks?Today I want to introduce you to Paulina, Paulina is not just a sweet friend of mine but she is also a part of my family here in Mexico. Life can often cause us to question ourselves, our place in the world, and even or purpose, yet community, friends like this one, and the way we love and listen to each other, it has power far greater than anything else this life can do Paulina is one that goes through life with a spark I think many of us forget we possess, the kind of twinkle in her eye that feels like everything she sees is beautiful and worth noticing; and she is one who approaches those around her with the same spark and sincerity She shares the importance of knowing how one loves and not just how we feel love, how we can choose to see effort and care, and how we can miss it without intentionality to see who someone is. We chat about the way we mirror what another gives us and shows us, how not needing to guess who someone is, is one of the greatest gifts we can give another We chat about what it means to go through life with ease, to find joy in what we do, and how life was not intended to be filled or fueled by stress. She shares how speaking what we fear has with those we love and trust has the power to remove fear altogether and how she is proud of letting go of past fears of what life “could be” Paulina shares so much in this conversation that I believe humanity needs to hear, not just how to look at life expecting to see beauty, but also how to look at those and ourselves with eyes to see who they are and how they love, to learn how someone speaks so we do not miss when they tell us we matter to themSo tune in today and meet Paulina, a human, an artist, a woman with a twinkle and spark in her eye, and one I hope you get to hear a small part of the way a soul who chooses to see the whimsy in life carries herselfAnd to you Paulina, Pauchis, thank you, thank you for how you have stepped into my life and felt like I belonged in yours, thank you for the way you speak, the way you laugh and the way you inspire me to see what matters. You are a light and a spark that I treasure, and a friend I am truly honored and grateful to know and live alongside, literally my sweet Nieghbor 

Do you have someone in your life whose door is always open?Today I want to introduce you to Chuy, my friend, my neighbor, a human whose door is always open. I love how life has brought genuine and sincere humans and friends into my life, and even more how those friends add to mine by who they share with me.Chuy is someone who is marked by a smile and joy, he is one who rivals my ability to say hi and start conversation with anyone and genuinely loves getting to meet someone new. He is one who shares space in a way that makes another feel at home, and one I am so excited and honored to share with you We chat about what it means to be the friend others can call no matter what, to not show up in another’s life with expectations but never letting go of what it means told hold your own boundaries.He shares how life shifted for him when his location changed, and we talk about how living in spaces that don’t align with who we are can cause us to hold back from being known in those places fully. How it becomes less a matter of honoring ourselves and more a choice in how much energy we give to be known where we are simply different We chat about the warmth of Mexico, about what it means to take an idea and bring it to life, what presence can cause us to see in ourselves and others, and the impact of showing up for ourselves daily in the little thingsChuy is someone that is a part of my family here at home, he is one that I can call when I need help with the police, if I want to go out and want company, or if I simply would prefer to sit on his couch over mine. So tune in today and meet Chuy, a human that will remind you to be the friend the world needs, to choose a smile and joy because you get to, and to not grant everyone full access to you at all timesAnd to you Chuy thank you, thank you for being a genuine friend in my life. For every time I walk in and you make me feel welcome. There is a rare quality in humanity that shows up in another’s life in such a way that causes us to see and feel at home around them; and you are such a human. I couldn’t be more grateful to call you my friend and my Nieghbor 

When was the last time you did what you wanted to?Today I want to introduce you to Regina, a human that has chosen to learn from, persevere through, and use the life she has built to find joy in the everyday and be space a kindness for those around her I’ve had the pleasure of getting to know this sweet girl since being back in Mexico, and in addition to being a little taste of the east coast honesty, Regina is someone I have come to treasure. She is wise in the ways only our own choices and intentions can bring, gentle with herself and others, and intentionally joyful in a way that makes me smile We chat about what it’s like to face our desires and know when we need to fight for them, bury them, or make peace with them, how choices and priorities for women have shifted in just a few generations, and how that leads to questions we are learning to ask ourselves and hold space for how we individually choose to answer them She shares about a previous life as a trial attorney, how a panic attack and a conversation with a direct voice led her to redesign her life, and accepting the reality that you have to figure it out, and also that you get to figure it out We chat about what it means to be direct, to speak with kindness and clarity, about not having regret because one choice creates an outcome and it all impacts who we become, and how everything in us isn’t always broken but often needs to be understood and masteredRegina is a human that will remind you what it means to be yourself, to choose that person, to pursue the life the voice inside you knows you were meant to live. Regina is one who speaks from a place of sincerity and care when she shares her own struggles, her heart and desire for those that have the ability to make us feel safe, and someone who describes culture in a way I appreciate So tune in today and meet Regina, I promise you will walk away feeling more sure of how life gets to continue to become whatever lies aheadAnd to you Regina thank you, thank you for the way you have become a sweet soul in my life here, for the joy you choose to share, for the intentionality you give to others, the way you speak with conviction and listen as if you see who sits before you. You are a beautiful human with a full heart, and I’m so glad you’ve entered my life. May you continue to be an ever changing force in this world sweet girl  

When was the last time you felt the wind and paused?Today I want to introduce you to Santiago, a human that chooses to view life as not just an observer but in full gratitude for the reality that we get to participate in this life as well Santiago is one of my dear friends here in Mexico, someone who will make time to share tacos, and talk, someone who will text and always extend an invite, and someone who will remind you to pause and appreciate the beauty in the nature around us We chat about what it means to explore life instead of view it as a path that must be defined, how we feel and begin to see time pass as we see those around us age, and how connection is what makes life rich and beautiful He shares how fear of how his dad might respond to something deeply important weighed on him, but also how he approached that conversation with the understanding and acceptance that we cannot please everyone and should not let go of ourselves to do so, but how his father replied in love and how it changed and grew their relationship We chat about stillness, about how loss and being present as someone we love passes is a gift to them and ourselves, and how it’s so important to stay curious about life as we value our own time here Santiago is one that will make you feel like you have paused time when you sit with him, as if you are being brought back to a chance to see slowly and simply what exists around youSo tune in today and meet this sweet friend of mine, and be reminded of what comes when we see who we are, what we get to exist amongst, and who we get to share this life with And to you Santiago thank you, thank you for your joy for the world around you, for your sincerity in sharing time, for the way you genuinely show up in your own life and the lives of me and our friends you are a treasure to me 

What in your life causes you to pause?Today I want to introduce you to Sage, a human that is kind and gentle, one that feels like a warm hug and one who brings out the light in others We chat about the joy in creativity, the peace in knowing how many paths are open ahead, and the way we open up when someone chooses to intentionally seek to know us He shares how expectation is not one sided in relationships, and how learning that early on and holding grace for another’s right to be human allowed him to stay true to himself and love others well We chat about being a friend that shows up, but the importance of remembering to hold your own hand first. We chat about the way being thought of, how someone intentionally makes plans with us, and what it feels like to be invited to share time Sage is one that shares parts of his life in a way that I truly believe anyone can learn from and relate to, parts of how the world has impacted him for better and in its challenges, and is one that will remind you to pause and feel the world around you So tune in today and meet Sage, a gentle soul full of wisdom and a reminder of what comes when we are kind And to you Sage thank you, thank you for your sweet friendship and your trust in this conversation, for the way you intentionally ask to know me, and the way you make me feel seen. Lucky to have you in my life my friend 

How would you describe yourself and would others agree? Today I want to introduce you to Rene, there’s something about a “small town” where everyone knows eachother and there is commonality. In many ways I’ve viewed this as a negative, yet in places like this, when “small town” means meeting people like Rene, it changes…Rene is someone who values creating space for others to feel, to allow his music to create a collective space for humanity to connect and share not just time but create connection. I’ve found Rene to be someone that speaks with a genuine passion for what he feels, something I believe we can all be reminded to allow ourselves to do the same We chat about what it means to live as a creative human, to allow an identity as a dreamer to be something of value in how we show up in the world, and the commonality in what happens when we choose to see another as a holding value first and foremost He shares how fear of losing someone has often caused him to leave first, the reality of what it means to struggle and choose to grow and value our mental health. We chat about the stigmas of past generations and the way we both have seen next generations speak more openly and with encouragement towards caring for our mental healthHe shares how in so many ways becoming an adult, means accepting and learning that we are all broken people and deserve grace as such, how working towards our goals is so much more than just desire, but is intent to push the doors we want to walk through Rene is someone that I’ve found to show up in a way that shares a sense of excitement for life in a way I can at times forget to, how a smile and sense of joy for the present moment of life is something to celebrateSo tune in today and meet Rene, a human who will remind you that you are so much more than what you do, but rather your humanity comes in the moments you share and the space you create for yourself and othersAnd to you’d Rene thank you, thank you for sharing time and so much of your life with me, thank you for allowing me to know you as a human beyond your music and into who you are as a human, you are a beautiful soul and it is a pleasure to know you

Do you feel like a treasure?Today I want to introduce you to Fabiola, a classy woman with an ease and intentionality that tangibly shines through the moment you meet her. I have had the pleasure of seeing her almost every day since I’ve been back in Mexico and it is an honor for me to share a small part of someone who has made my life here feel groundedFabiola is a human that knows how to smile, how to choose well in life, and how to hold space for others to do the sameWe chat about how life has led her from living in Mexico to Malta, and back again, how she has chosen to push herself outside of what she knew to challenge herself, and how she has chosen to hold on to what is familiar within herself and family to continue to build the life she loves and is proud of She shares what it means to be intentional in understanding the ripple effect of our actions, on ourselves and on those around us, her desire to leave a trail of kindness with those that interact with her, and the reality that holding true to oneself does not always mean others will see the best parts of us We chat about what it means to show up as yourself fully to not feel a need to second guess or worry about what someone else is thinking of you over what you think of yourself, and how there is peace in the space we choose to take care of ourselves inFabiola is someone I have and continue to truly enjoy time with, someone who feels like the sun has just smiled at you, and reminds you how deeply it impacts you when someone chooses to pause and see youSo tune in today and meet Fabiola, a human that chooses to be human to other humans, one that is a treasure and in a way I hope we are all reminded of as you listen to her story, that you too are a treasure worth being seen, protected, and valuedAnd to you Fabiola thank you, thank you for taking the time to pause in life, to share your undeniable light, for the way you choose to be so fully yourself and the way you give such a strong reminder to others to do the same. It is a joy to know you and I am so honored to get to share a small part of you here