Difference Between Being Wanted Vs Valued (Consumption Vs Commitment)

Walking away isn’t always about heartbreak—it’s about self-respect. In this video, I share the truth about what it means to leave a man who will never get it. Too often, our ego tricks us into thinking we need to prove ourselves to him, when really, our power comes from letting go.This is about retraining your ego to work for you—to be your bodyguard, not your beggar. It’s about no longer chasing validation from a man who cannot see your worth, and standing firm in the truth of who you are.If you’ve ever found yourself trying to “make him see,” this message is for you. You don’t have to beg for love—you are love. 💫📖Get the book: https://amzn.to/4phcByDThe journal: https://amzn.to/3VGXS2n✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

ALIGNED DATING VS DATING GAMESTired of dating “rules” that feel like games? This episode flips the script. You’ll learn 10 healthy dating rules that help you align with emotionally mature men—plus the ALIGN Checklist, a tool you can use after every date to stay grounded and choose better.So much modern dating advice teaches women to perform for validation instead of aligning with partners who actually fit. But good men don’t play games—and they won’t stick around for them either.In this video, I’ll show you:✅ Why scarcity of good, mature men is real (and how to filter better)✅ 10 aligned dating rules that create clarity instead of confusion✅ The ALIGN Checklist (Authenticity, Lifestyle, Integrity, Growth, Needs)✅ Scripts and post-date questions to keep anxious attachment in checkWhether you’re dating again after heartbreak, navigating the apps, or simply tired of situationships, these rules will help you stop auditioning and start aligning.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

There’s a difference between a man who consumes you and a man who commits to you. In this video, we break down wanted vs valued and consumption vs commitment—how to spot the signs, why we confuse intensity with intimacy, and what real commitment actually looks like. If you’ve felt like “something is missing,” this is your confirmation to trust your intuition and choose love that builds you, not love that drains you.Healing Sundays ONLY on my YouTube channel can be found here:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwGugZ7M2WXmeERAHpePYJzNimNl_3ZLH&si=0D3RBNDvIyA1rBbs✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

We give men like this way too much credit—and we fault ourselves unfairly.He was never going to commit, no matter how loyal, loving, or patient you were.Because commitment was never his intention to begin with.This video is your wake-up call.To stop blaming yourself for how a man mishandled you.To stop romanticizing his potential.And to finally see that his inability to commit had nothing to do with your worth.He had plans to consume you, not commit to you—and the moment you accept that is the moment you set yourself free.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

How to Trust Men Again (Without Betraying Yourself) 💔➡️❤️In this video, I open up about my personal journey of learning how to trust again—starting with trusting myself.We’ll explore:✨ How to rebuild trust after heartbreak✨ Why self-trust is the foundation before trusting anyone else✨ How childhood experiences taught us to ignore our intuition✨ The real reason it feels scary to let your guard downWhether you’ve been hurt, betrayed, or just feel guarded—this conversation is for you. Healing is possible, and trust doesn’t have to feel like a risk when it starts within.🧠 Mindset shifts💡 Real-life reflections🩷 Soft but honest truthsHealing Sundays ONLY on my YouTube channel can be found here:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwGugZ7M2WXmeERAHpePYJzNimNl_3ZLH&si=0D3RBNDvIyA1rBbs✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

If you keep finding yourself staying with men who don’t value you the way you know you deserve to be valued—this video is your wake-up call.It’s not just about them—it’s about what you believe you’re worth, and why you keep negotiating with people who can’t see your value.In this video, I break down: • Why you keep staying too long • How to stop tying your worth to a man’s treatment of you • What it looks like to stand in your value, even when someone else can’t • The emotional shifts that change everythingYou don’t need to prove your worth to anyone. Especially not to a man who can’t even recognize it.✨ You are the prize. Now start acting like it.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.1K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

So many of us have normalized emotional unavailability, confusion, and inconsistency in relationships… and then we wonder why we’re exhausted, anxious, and constantly second-guessing ourselves.But there are emotionally safe, mature men out there—men who communicate clearly, take accountability, and make you feel seen, not silenced. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly what that kind of man looks like, what emotional safety feels like in love, and why you should never settle for anything less.If you’re healing, growing, and protecting your peace—this one’s for you.Watch this video on YouTube next:“Be with a man that loves you more than you love him.”https://youtu.be/gxH8IJZ-HfY✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.1K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

As a woman who loves deeply, I had to learn the hard way that not every man deserves access to my heart. Being loving, nurturing, and emotionally available is powerful—but it also means you need to be selective about who gets to experience that version of you.Most men aren’t emotionally mature enough to handle a woman who shows up with real love, real intention, and real depth. They fumble it, misuse it, or try to dim it.This video is a reminder to protect your heart, not because you’re guarded—but because you know the value of it.💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜My books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (149k followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.4K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

When He Loves You But Doesn’t Like You | My Personal Story & Eye-Opening SignsIn this video, I’m sharing my personal experience of being in a relationship where he loved me—but didn’t actually like me. It took me a long time to realize the difference, and even longer to admit the damage it did to my self-esteem.I’ll walk you through the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs I ignored, what being in this kind of relationship really feels like, and how it slowly chips away at your sense of self-worth. If you’ve ever felt emotionally drained, unseen, or like you were constantly trying to prove yourself to someone who claimed they loved you—this video is for you.✨ Let’s talk about the difference between being loved and being liked—because both matter.📖Get the book: “Toxic Ex Chronicles: Jon” https://amzn.to/3I3fbac✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜Website where you can find my books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.1K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

You think you’re in love with him… but what if it’s just a trauma bond?In this video, I’m breaking down how love bombing and manipulation made me believe I needed a man who was never good for me. If you’re feeling stuck, confused, or emotionally addicted to someone who’s been giving mixed signals and false promises, this is for you.Let’s talk about the difference between real love and toxic attachment — and how to finally break free.✨ You don’t need him like you think you do.✨ You’re not in love — you’re trauma bonded.✨ Here’s how to take your power back & choose yourself.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜Website where you can find my books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.1K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)