94. You Don’t Need Him—It’s Not Love, It’s Manipulation

So many of us have normalized emotional unavailability, confusion, and inconsistency in relationships… and then we wonder why we’re exhausted, anxious, and constantly second-guessing ourselves.But there are emotionally safe, mature men out there—men who communicate clearly, take accountability, and make you feel seen, not silenced. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly what that kind of man looks like, what emotional safety feels like in love, and why you should never settle for anything less.If you’re healing, growing, and protecting your peace—this one’s for you.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.1K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

As a woman who loves deeply, I had to learn the hard way that not every man deserves access to my heart. Being loving, nurturing, and emotionally available is powerful—but it also means you need to be selective about who gets to experience that version of you.Most men aren’t emotionally mature enough to handle a woman who shows up with real love, real intention, and real depth. They fumble it, misuse it, or try to dim it.This video is a reminder to protect your heart, not because you’re guarded—but because you know the value of it.💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜My books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (149k followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.4K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

When He Loves You But Doesn’t Like You | My Personal Story & Eye-Opening SignsIn this video, I’m sharing my personal experience of being in a relationship where he loved me—but didn’t actually like me. It took me a long time to realize the difference, and even longer to admit the damage it did to my self-esteem.I’ll walk you through the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs I ignored, what being in this kind of relationship really feels like, and how it slowly chips away at your sense of self-worth. If you’ve ever felt emotionally drained, unseen, or like you were constantly trying to prove yourself to someone who claimed they loved you—this video is for you.✨ Let’s talk about the difference between being loved and being liked—because both matter.📖Get the book: “Toxic Ex Chronicles: Jon” https://amzn.to/3I3fbac✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜Website where you can find my books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.1K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

You think you’re in love with him… but what if it’s just a trauma bond?In this video, I’m breaking down how love bombing and manipulation made me believe I needed a man who was never good for me. If you’re feeling stuck, confused, or emotionally addicted to someone who’s been giving mixed signals and false promises, this is for you.Let’s talk about the difference between real love and toxic attachment — and how to finally break free.✨ You don’t need him like you think you do.✨ You’re not in love — you’re trauma bonded.✨ Here’s how to take your power back & choose yourself.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜Website where you can find my books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.1K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

💜I Didn’t Do Anything Special to Get a Husband — Here’s What I Did DoSociety tells us we need to be perfect, chase love, or constantly “improve” ourselves to be worthy of a good relationship. But my story? It’s a little different.In this video, I’m sharing how I attracted a healthy, loving relationship without playing games, pretending to be someone I’m not, or overextending myself. I didn’t follow a 10-step “get the ring” plan—but I did do the kind of inner work that changed everything.✨ What you’ll hear in this video: • Why I stopped chasing emotionally unavailable men • The mindset shift that helped me attract a healthy partner • How boundaries and self-worth led me to love • Why “being enough” isn’t about doing more—it’s about doing what’s realIf you’ve ever wondered if love can come without the performance… this is for you.💬 Let me know in the comments: What’s ONE thing you’ve unlearned about love?✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜Website where you can find my books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (39 K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.1K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

Seeking Closure Within | Reclaim Your Power & Heal on Your Own I’m diving deep into the powerful journey of seeking closure within. If you’re waiting on an apology, explanation, or final conversation that may never come—this is for you. I’ll be sharing practical steps on how to process your emotions on your own, release what’s been weighing you down, and finally move forward.Closure doesn’t always come from someone else—it can come from you. And when it does, it can help you reclaim your power, rebuild your peace, and step fully into the next chapter of your life.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜Website where you can find my books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.1K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

In this episode, I dive deep into the topic of self-abandonment in dating—what it looks like, where it stems from, and how it sabotages your sense of self and emotional well-being.If you’ve ever found yourself shrinking, people-pleasing, or compromising your values just to keep someone around, this conversation is for you. I’m unpacking the signs of self-abandonment, how to reclaim your power, and what it means to choose yourself without guilt.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜Website where you can find my books, coaching and more:https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.1K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact

Let’s be real—he’s not confused, he’s just not emotionally available. In this video, I’m breaking down exactly why women need to stop entertaining emotionally unavailable men. No more waiting on mixed signals, no more fixing projects, and definitely no more chasing bare minimum energy.It’s time to choose peace, not potential.If you needed a sign—this is it.

Sometimes, the most painful part of leaving a toxic relationship isn’t the person—it’s the fear of what comes next. The unknown can feel paralyzing. What if I don’t find better? What if I end up alone? What if I made a mistake?In this video, I’m sharing what it was really like to walk away from someone I thought I couldn’t live without, and how fear almost kept me stuck in a cycle I didn’t deserve. If you’ve ever felt torn between staying in the familiar chaos or stepping into the uncertain peace, I see you. I was you.This isn’t just a story about leaving—it’s about choosing yourself, even when it’s scary.Because the unknown isn’t something to fear—it’s where healing begins.If this hit home, please like, comment, and subscribe. What fear are you facing right now? You’re not alone.

Whew—this one’s personal. In this video, I’m opening up about how I finally got over a man I really wanted—a man I was trauma bonded to. You know the kind—the one you you really wanted to be with although he was all wrong for you. I’m sharing my real story, the emotional rollercoaster, and exactly what I did to heal and move forward with my peace (and dignity!) intact.From the hard truths to the healing habits, I’m walking you through the steps that helped me let go, reclaim my power, and stop romanticizing someone who wasn’t right for me. Whether you’re fresh out of a situationship, trying to move on from someone you never even dated, or deep in your feels over someone who didn’t choose you—this one’s for you.If you’ve ever struggled to move on from someone you thought you couldn’t live without, I hope my story helps you feel less alone—and reminds you of your power.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜Books, coaching info and more:https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.1K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact