The Four Intimacies Framework with Roy and Dr. Amy Clark #148

We keep telling boys to “toughen up,” then we act shocked when grown men struggle to name what they feel. Psychologist Gloria Vanderhorst, PhD joins us to unpack how that training starts early, especially when energetic preschool boys get treated like problems to manage instead of people to understand. She explains why boys often arrive with a broader natural emotional range than girls, and how social pressure quickly narrows that range to a small set of “approved” emotions like confidence and anger.We dig into what emotional suppression costs across a lifetime. Gloria shares a vivid story from her clinical work where a three-year-old describes swallowing his tears until they become “rocks” he throws around the room, a child’s perfect explanation for how unprocessed sadness can transform into rage. We also talk about divorce and co-parenting, why many custody schedules serve adult convenience, and how “nesting” can give children more stability by keeping them in one home.Along the way, we explore practical paths forward: men’s groups and retreats, journaling that includes drawing and movement, and therapy models like Internal Family Systems (IFS) and emotion-focused therapy that help people access early experiences stored beyond words. If you care about mental health for men and boys, emotional intelligence, and building stronger relationships, listen now, then subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find these conversations.Send us Fan Mail Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comicWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

The scariest part of leaving a toxic relationship isn’t always the breakup, it’s the moment you realize you’ve been living small for years. I sit down with Joni Woods, a certified life coach and relationship specialist, to talk about what it really takes to walk away from an abusive marriage, rebuild your identity, and stop repeating the same painful patterns. Joni is also the author of Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever, and she shares how journaling through divorce recovery helped her make sense of the past and choose a healthier future.We get honest about dating after divorce, especially the modern reality of dating apps, fast attachments, and the rebound relationship that can feel like “finally” until the red flags hit. Joni breaks down why rebounds are so powerful. We also talk about the “doppelganger” effect, when you date someone who feels eerily similar to your ex, and why collaboration can matter more than confidence if you’re trying to build an emotionally healthy connection.One of my favorite parts is the practical side: simple boundaries, upfront honesty, and the courage to say what you need without apologizing for it. Joni also shares a gut-check for fear-based staying. If you want healthier relationships, better communication, and real self-worth after heartbreak, this conversation is for you.Subscribe so you don’t miss the next one, share this with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a review to help more people find the show.Send us Fan Mail Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comicWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

Your desire isn’t broken, and you’re not “too much.” I’m joined by Satya Lila, a sacred sexuality teacher with over 30 years of experience helping women, men, singles, and couples rebuild intimacy by working with the body, the heart, and the subtle energy underneath it all.We start with a story many people will recognize: trying to make yourself smaller to keep a relationship stable, then watching your sexual energy disappear. From there, we get concrete. We talk about how shame trains us to go quiet, why sound can amplify pleasure, and how playful practice can help you find your voice again without forcing anything. Satya also shares how her work evolved into energetic sexuality, a slower approach that can include touch but doesn’t depend on performance, penetration, or rushing toward orgasm.We dig into the real reasons orgasms get blocked. Satya explains how polarity can build attraction without sacrificing safety, and she introduces her idea of a connection ceremony, a dedicated space for intimacy that removes the goal-driven vibe that shuts so many bodies down. We also touch on full body orgasms and sustained orgasmic energy, plus how people can work with her online and explore free guided meditations at satyaleela.info.If this conversation helps you feel less alone, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review. What’s one belief about sex you’re ready to unlearn?Send us Fan Mail Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comicWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

Swiping promised freedom, but a lot of us ended up with the same result: more chats, more dates, and fewer people willing to build something that lasts. That is why we brought on Jeremy Nelson, the founder of MarryingAmerica.com, a new dating platform for marriage-minded singles who are done playing the numbers game and ready to date with real intention.We dig into Jeremy’s “feast and famine” view of modern online dating: a feast of casual options paired with a famine of commitment. Then we get practical. MarryingAmerica.com is web-based by design (no app to live on), and it limits how you behave.From there, the conversation goes deeper: courtship, going slower, and the idea that love is something you do, not something you say. We also explore a surprising (and unsettling) angle: as AI chatbots and AI companions get easier to talk to than real humans, will people start opting out of human relationships entirely?If you want an intentional dating approach that prioritizes long-term relationships and marriage, listen now, share this with a friend who is serious about commitment, and subscribe and leave a review so more people can find the show.Send us Fan Mail Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comicWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

Sex doesn’t usually fail in the bedroom first, it fails in the hours and days before it, when couples stop asking real questions and start running on assumptions. We sit down with Roy and Dr. Amy Clark, co founders of ARIA Luxury Brands and authors of The Four Intimacies, to map a clear path from “we feel disconnected” to “we know how to find each other again.”We talk through their Four Intimacies framework in plain language: verbal intimacy that opens the door, emotional intimacy that creates safety, physical intimacy that deepens trust and pleasure, and spiritual intimacy that often emerges when the first three are working. Along the way, we get practical about communication skills that actually change relationships, like listening to understand, asking follow up questions, avoiding interruptions, and using “feelings before fixing” when someone is hurting instead of rushing into advice.We also dig into what physical security really means, why many couples need connection long before sex starts, and how shame around sex, including shame rooted in religious messaging, can be unwound with curiosity, honesty, and support. If you want actionable relationship advice, marriage communication tools, and a healthier view of intimacy, you’ll leave with a better blueprint and a lot of hope.Subscribe for more conversations like this, share the episode with a friend who’d appreciate it, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway.Send us Fan Mail Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comicWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

I sit down with relationship therapist Thomas Westenholtz to unpack why anxious daters so often get pulled into avoidant relationships that feel intoxicating at first and miserable later. We map the nervous system patterns behind chasing, criticism, and rumination, then lay out what secure love actually looks like in real dating behavior. • how the anxious-avoidant cycle forms and why it repeats old wounds • why criticism shows up as a desperate attempt to get through • using an internal “compass” across thoughts, emotions, and body signals • recognising persistent anxiety as a signal of inconsistency and confusion • early dating signs of secure attachment including clarity and follow-through • why calm can feel boring when you are used to chaos • trusting actions over words and avoiding fantasy-driven attachment If you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend us Fan Mail Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comicWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

We talk with Cam Jennings from ToyChats about why sex toy shopping still forces people to gamble, and how a dedicated review platform can give consumers real feedback without relying on mainstream social media. We also get practical about safer buying, lube basics, anal play, and what changes as intimacy products go more mainstream. • why sex toy brands struggle to communicate with consumers on major platforms • why returns are limited and why warranties matter • how ToyChats works as a user-generated sex toy review site • how reviewers get paid for approved written and video reviews • what makes certain manufacturers stand out on quality and support • how men’s toys and tech features have evolved over time • what’s real and what’s hype in sex dolls, robots, and AI • why buying intimacy items at big-box stores feels different than an adult boutique • lube safety basics, reputable brands, and why water-based is a smart default • anal play guidance, prostate targeting, and beginner safety rules I really hope that everybody engages with us on Toy Chats, even if you're not looking to be a reviewer. If you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as well. Send us Fan Mail Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comicWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

The phrase “aphrodisiac foods” can sound like a myth, a gimmick, or a menu cliché, so we wanted to get specific about what actually holds up and what doesn’t. I’m joined by Amy Reily, an award-winning cookbook author and the authority behind Eat Something Sexy, to break down how food, desire, and sexual performance connect through real nutrition, food history, and the psychology of anticipation.We talk about why the FDA standard for proving libido claims is so strict, and why that doesn’t mean the whole idea is nonsense. Amy explains a more useful framework: many foods associated with libido support are the same foods that support heart health, energy, and blood flow, which are key for sexual wellness. From oysters (hello zinc and lean protein) to cacao and dark chocolate (antioxidants plus a mild stimulant effect), we dig into what might be happening in the body and why “sexy” sometimes starts with feeling good physically.Then we get practical with romantic dinner ideas you can actually use.  We also cover playful connection builders like sharing an artichoke with garlic butter, when garlic is more friend than foe if you both eat it, and a beautiful non-alcohol drink idea like a pomegranate spritzer.We wrap with the most important romance tip of all: plan for your partner’s tastes, not a fantasy menu you saw online. If you want more confidence, more energy, and a better shot at intimacy at the end of a long day, this one will give you a clear starting point. Subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the show.Send us Fan MailSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comicWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

We talk with dating mentor Shelly Badayos about why most modern dating advice fails once you want something real, and how confidence starts with changing the patterns you bring into relationships. We dig into attachment styles, safety, respect, and the small cues that help you move forward without rushing or stalling. • shifting from performance-based dating advice to internal work that lasts • using attachment style theory to spot repeating patterns and triggers • somatic work and inner child healing to break people-pleasing cycles • understanding safety as a core need for many women • naming respect and being understood as key needs for many men • finding the right pace to avoid the friend zone or coming on too strong • reading open body language and engagement before advancing touch If you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as well. Send us Fan MailSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comicWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

Porn can be “occasional” and still run your life. If you’ve ever said “I’ll stop” and then found yourself right back in the same loop, this conversation puts language to what’s happening and gives you a grounded path forward.We’re joined by GT Tan, a mental and sexual wellness coach and executive reboot strategist, to talk about porn addiction recovery in a way that goes beyond shame and willpower. We unpack what addiction really means when frequency varies, why porn is often a symptom of something deeper, and how stress, anxiety, loneliness, and unresolved pain can turn porn into a default coping tool. GT also explains porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED), including how ED can show up as partial or inconsistent erections, and why it matters to look at the full picture, from relationship dynamics to bloodwork, hormones, sleep, and diet.From there we get practical: identifying triggers, setting boundaries in a culture where sexual content is everywhere, and building long-term sobriety rather than short-term abstinence. We also touch on dating and intimacy, including why authenticity matters and why rejection can be a major relapse trigger if you don’t have a solid foundation first.If you want a healthier relationship with sex, confidence, and connection, listen through and then subscribe, share the episode with a friend, and leave a quick review so more people can find it.Send us Fan Mail Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comicWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077