20 Questions To Ask Yourself About Your Divorce

Send us a textFeeling stuck in the overwhelm of "should I stay or should I leave"?Navigating the mess & chaos of separation or divorce? Reorganising family afterwards?Even though it feels lonely and isolating, you’re not alone in the experience.In this episode, I talk through nine of the most common reasons people seek the support of a divorce coach (me!) and how working with me can help you find clarity, confidence, and a path forward.Whether you’re weighing your options, untangling shared lives, or rebuilding after it’s all over, this conversation offers insights and practical guidance to separate with less stress and divorce with less drama.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textYou Are Not Too Much: Reclaiming All of You in Love, Divorce, and BeyondOwning your desires, speaking your truth, and asking for what you need does NOT make you too much. All of that is an intricate and intimate part of you.In this episode, we explore the fear of being "too much" and how it holds us back from the love, joy, and fulfillment, the deeply connected life (& love) we are inherently worthy of. Whether you’re feeling stuck, unsure of what you want, like you’ve lost pieces of yourself in a relationship, navigating life after separation or divorce, this conversation will encourage you to reclaim your voice and step into your fierce feminine power.To live and love as the whole lotta human that you are.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textLife, Christmas & The Holidays After a Divorce You Didn’t WantThe holidays can be tough after divorce, particularly an unwelcome divorce, and when grief, loss, or betrayal are fresh. In this episode, we explore how to navigate this season with grace and self-compassion.Key Themes: 🎄 Giving yourself permission to feel your feelings 🎄 Grieving infidelity and the marriage you thought you had 🎄 Setting boundaries and protecting your energy 🎄 Letting go of traditions and obligations that no longer serve you 🎄 Creating space for healing and moving forwardThis is your invitation to honour where you are, protect your peace, and take steps forward, even if it feels hard right now.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textThings That Make Christmas & The Holiday Season Hard After Divorce - and what you can do to let them goThis episode is all about the Christmas & the holiday season —  one of the most joyful times of the year, but also one of the hardest if you're going through or healing from a divorce. I share about some of the things that can make Christmas and the holidays feel even more challenging after separation, and, more importantly, what you can do to release some of that weight and reclaim a bit of peace, joy, and light during this season. Whether your separation or divorce is fresh and this is the first holiday season you’re navigating afterwards, or if you're a little further along your divorce healing journey, this episode will help and support you. BOOK A CLARITY CONSULT for deep nurturing support to scaffold you through the holiday season.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textAn exploration of 20 questions you can ask yourself about your relationship breakdown, separation or divorce to expand your awareness & understanding of your relationship, your behaviour, your relationship patterns, and attachment styles, facilitate healing and consciously choose what's next for you after divorce.REFRAME your experience of divorce, and transform it into an opportunity for growth and expansion.Download the questions HERESallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textWhat You Don’t Need to Survive Divorce – Part 2A continuation of last week’s episode focusing on the things you don’t need—the distractions, the unnecessary pressures, and the noise that only make navigating divorce harder.How to simplify your separation / divorce journey and strip away what you don’t need, so you can focus on what truly matters.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textWhat You Don’t Need to Survive Divorce – Part 1When you're going through a divorce, it can feel like there’s so much you need to juggle and a lot you need to sort.But while some things are crucial - sound legal & financial advice, emotional support, a clear strategy and future focus - there’s also a lot you don’t need. In this episode, we’ll explore what you can let go of, the distractions to avoid, how to strip out the noise to focus on what really matters.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textIn this guest episode with Lisa Britcliffe - Mum of 3, Property Advocate - we discuss:🏠 What you can do to ease yourself - practically, financially & emotionally - through selling the family home after separation / divorce🏠 What home means and how that can change after divorce🏠 Important considerations when re-homing yourself and your family after separation or divorce🏠 Tips and advice from the other side of divorce - what we would do differently.🏠 Leaving what appeared to be the perfect marriageAnd more.Connect with Lisa at www.oriumandco.comSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textIt can be especially challenging to leave someone who is a really nice, decent human being.Someone you care about, maybe even still love.This episode is all about divorcing a nice guy / gal. The unique challenges of leaving someone and a marriage that's not "bad" just not what you want, or when you feel that niggling feeling there's more waiting for you, there is more possible for you, than a marriage that's just OK.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us a textDivorce is hard. And when things get hard, it can be tempting to use alcohol to numb, escape, avoid the hard.In this second part of my conversation with Kathryn Elliott, we discuss how reframing your relationship with alcohol when you're navigating divorce can be your superpower.Kathryn is one of Australia’s leading specialist alcohol and binge drinking coaches for high-functioning professionals. Her expertise and comments regularly appear in lifestyle, health, business and women’s media nationally. As a former binge drinker for over 30 years, Kathryn coaches from lived experience and believes sharing our own stories is one of the most powerful tools in healing and finding a more balanced relationship with alcohol.She is also currently in a period of transition having recently separated a 24 year relationship - 22 of marriage - and lives in Melbourne with her three teenage sons; Oscar, Tom & Hugo, and beloved cocker spaniel, Ralph.Connect with Kathryn ⤵️https://www.thealcoholmindsetcoach.com/https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholmindsetcoach/https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathryn-elliott-630ab532Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass Follow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.