Yes, You Can Spank Her Like That—Here’s How to Make It Hot (Not Awkward)

Send us a textWhat happens when a woman truly owns her sexuality?The s*x gets better. The spark comes back. And trust us—he’ll feel it too.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m joined by Dr. Bonnie Comfort—psychologist, author, and expert in helping women ditch sexual shame and step into real, raw pleasure. We’re breaking down how to stop performing, start feeling, and completely transform your sex life—from the inside out.You’ll learn:🔹 What “owning your sexuality” really means (it’s not just being sexy)🔹 The invisible pressure of performative s*x—and how to break free🔹 Why reclaiming your pleasure leads to deeper connection, hotter sex, and more confidence🔹 What men can do to help their partners feel safe and turned on🔹 Actual tools to reconnect with your body, desire, and e r0tic powerWhether you’re single, partnered, or feeling a little disconnected in the bedroom—this one’s for you.Find out more about Bonnie and her book here: https://www.simonandschuster.com/authors/Bonnie-Comfort/234719297You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textLet’s talk about one of the most craved beginner kinks—spanking—and why most people are doing it completely wrong.In this episode, I break down the art and psychology of erotic spanking: how to build anticipation, where to touch before you strike, and how to use your hand to sting, seduce, and satisfy. You’ll learn how to read her body’s response in real time, avoid common mistakes, and make it so good she’ll beg you not to stop.We’re going beyond tired clichés—this isn’t about punishment, it’s about pleasure with precision. Backed by science, psychology, and coaching insights, I’ll teach you how to turn a simple spank into a deeply erotic power move.By the end of this episode, you’ll know:The best positions for safe, sexy spankingWhere (and how) to strikeWhat rhythm and hand placement actually do to the nervous systemHow to read her skin tone and breath like a proAnd why this kink hits deeper than you think✨ Whether you're brand new to kink or ready to level up your skills, this is your permission slip to spank with confidence—and connection.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textLicensed clinical social worker and poly coach Emily Lambert Robins joins me for a no‑fluff guide on coming out as polyamorous—gracefully. We unpack the most common slip‑ups, why it can feel scarier than coming out LGBTQ+, and the essential conversations you need to have before going public. You’ll hear real scripts to make the moment smoother, wild reaction stories (and how to handle them), plus how to address family, partners, and fears around losing it all. If you’re curious about a more expansive way to love, this episode gives you the roadmap, compassion, and tools to do it right.ou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.comUse code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textWe’ve been taught that power is all about being on top. But I’m here to show you why missionary—yes, missionary—is a secret dom move when you know how to work it. This episode is all about owning the position we were told to just lie there in. Because power? It’s not about where your body is. It’s about your intention.You’ll learn:• How to control the angle, rhythm, and pace from below• Verbal cues that act like erotic commands• Why eye contact, moaning, and breathwork are your stealth power tools• Six step-by-step moves to take charge while lying on your back• Plus a bonus on “submission as domination in disguise”And yes—this is science-backed and pleasure-forward.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.comUse code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textThink gender is just “man” or “woman”—and anything else is made up? Then this conversation is for you.Because understanding gender-expansive identities isn’t about being “woke” or politically correct—it’s about being human. About expanding your capacity for empathy, connection, and truth.In this episode, I’m joined by Kate S. Logan, a Marriage & Family Therapist Associate at Gender Wellness Los Angeles. Kate specializes in working with gender-expansive clients and guiding people through identity, relationships, and radical self-expression.We’re diving into: 🧠 What “gender-expansive” actually means—and why it’s different from trans, nonbinary, or queer 💥 The #1 thing people get wrong about gender (and how it hurts everyone—including straight men) 🌱 Real ways to support someone who’s transitioning—or exploring who they are. Whether you’re questioning, curious, or just ready to stop sounding like your uncle in a Fox News comment section, this episode will open your mind and expand your world.Take a breath, stay open, and let’s go.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.comUse code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textYou’ve been doing cowgirl all wrong—and no, it’s not your fault.Most people are never taught how to ride in a way that actually feels good, builds orgasmic rhythm, and keeps your partner completely wrecked beneath you. That ends today.In this episode, I’m breaking down 4 powerful cowgirl techniques that make you feel confident, connected, and absolutely unforgettable on top. You’ll learn:✨ How to ride for your pleasure (and why it leads to stronger orgasms) 🔥 The difference between rocking, bouncing, swiveling, and reverse riding 💦 The science behind why being on top increases orgasm potential 🖤 How to kink it up with power play, praise, submission, and toys 💋 How to ride like you own the room—and their attention for daysWhether you’re new to being on top or ready to upgrade your game, this episode is your ultimate riding guide.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textYou thought dating women would be easier? Think again.This Pride Month, I’m pulling back the sheets on what it really looks like when women date women. Spoiler alert: it’s not just soft touches, flannel, and U-Hauls. There’s bi-phobia, late-in-life confusion, misread signals, and emotional landmines no one warned us about. But there’s also unmatched heat, intimacy, and magic—when you know what you’re doing.In this collab episode, I’m joined by Dr. Frankie Bashan, clinical psychologist, sex therapist, and queer matchmaker extraordinaire. Together, we explore why queer femme/sapphic dating can feel so confusing, how trauma and gender roles sneak into our relationships, and what actually builds real, healthy connection—without losing the spark.Whether you’re queer, questioning, or just curious about what it’s like when two women fall (and sometimes crash) into love, this one’s for you.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textThis Pride Month, we’re celebrating one of the most iconic, empowering, and downright delicious acts: face sitting. Whether you call it queening, throne work, or just your favorite seat in the house—this episode is your step-by-step guide to doing it with confidence, control, and unapologetic joy.We’ll break down:What face sitting actually is—and why it’s more than just a sexy poseThe myths that keep people (especially femmes and queers) from fully enjoying itHow to find the best angles, rhythm, and positions for your bodyHow to build confidence (yes, even if you’re self-conscious about weight, smell, or taking control)Why the science of pressure, dominance, and anticipation makes this one of the most erotic power moves in partnered sexThis episode is for vulva owners who want to own their pleasure, and for lovers of all genders who want to give their partner a front-row seat to ecstasy.Because during Pride—and always—pleasure is protest. And sitting on their face? That’s how you start the revolution. 💋You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/My favorite toys and discounts: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textCan you be a mom and a sexual being? Our culture loves moms—as long as they’re selfless, sleepless, and silent about their desire. But what happens when a mother wants to reclaim her seductress energy?In this raw and radically honest episode, I’m joined by licensed therapist Emma Shandy Anway to take a wrecking ball to the Madonna/Whore complex and everything it’s done to women’s sex lives.We talk about:Why birth trauma and invisible labor silently sabotage libidoThe myth of “bouncing back”—and why it shouldn’t mean bouncing away from sexWhat partners get wrong about postpartum intimacy (and how to show up right)How moms can start feeling sexy again—even if their body feels like a strangerAnd how reclaiming pleasure can actually make you a better parentWhether you’re a mom, a partner, or just sick of purity politics hijacking pleasure, this episode is your permission slip to get turned on—and stay that way.Because sexy isn’t something you lose after motherhood. It’s something you fight to reclaim.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textMost men go straight for missionary, or cowgirl—and completely miss the one position that practically hands her an orgasm on a silver platter.In this episode, I’m walking you through the best sex position you’re probably not using—and exactly why it works. We’re talking G-spot access, A-spot pressure, clit contact without a circus of props or acrobatics.You’ll get:The science behind why this angle turns her onStep-by-step breakdown of how to set it upTips for keeping her in that “right there—don’t stop” zoneWhat to say when she’s on the edge (and how not to screw it up)Whether you’re using a cock or a toy, this move delivers—and it just might become her new favorite. If you want to give her the kind of sex that makes her melt into the sheets and text her best friend about it, press play.Watch my full how-to video here: https://youtu.be/JsoeQLXBDjsYou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!