Arousal Gap: Why She's Not Turned On—And How to Fix It

Send us a textIn this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we’re diving into the surprising ways sex toys are revolutionizing sexual health—and why more medical professionals are finally taking pleasure seriously.You’ll learn:Why vibrators are being recommended by doctors and therapistsThe science behind using pleasure tools to treat conditions like pelvic pain, low libido, and arousal disordersHow integrating toys into your health routine can improve intimacy, confidence, and connectionWhat to look for in a “therapeutic” toy—and where to startWhether you're navigating postpartum sex, menopause, erectile dysfunction, or just want better orgasms—this episode is packed with insight, guidance, and the kind of real talk your doctor should be having.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textEver fantasized about a threesome—but worried it might get… complicated? In this episode, I break down exactly how to plan a threesome without turning it into an emotional mess. From red and green flags when choosing a third to the real reasons you shouldn’t go there, we’re covering the stuff most people skip.✅ Why your reason for having a threesome matters 🚩 Signs the third might be a bad fit 💬 The conversations you must have before anything happens 🔥 And how to set boundaries that keep things hot and healthyWhether you’re just curious or seriously planning one, this guide will help you avoid the drama and do it right.💌 Want a part two on how to actually execute a threesome without wrecking your relationship? Leave a comment with the word “THREE.”You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textWhat happens when bad sex, emotional labor, and a complete lack of foreplay push you to swear off men altogether? In this spicy and unfiltered Pride Month episode, I’m joined by three of my closest queer friends to unpack a rising trend: women “coming out” after a string of terrible relationships with men.We ask the big, controversial question: Can a man be so bad in bed that he turns you gay? Spoiler: it’s not that simple.From religious shame and lesbian bed death to strap-ons, sex toys, and how emotional safety impacts arousal, we dive deep into the raw realities of sexual identity, relationship fatigue, and the fluid nature of desire.You’ll hear:Why some women say “never again” to men—and mean itThe difference between being queer and just being tired of bullshitOne woman’s switch from dating only women to finding true safety with a manHow emotional intimacy and creativity in bed make or break attractionAnd what men actually need to know if they’re worried about their partner leaving them for a womanWhether you’re a man wondering what not to do, a queer woman navigating your own desires, or just someone curious about how love, lust, and fluidity collide—this episode is for you.👉 Want to watch the techniques or get guided self-pleasure practices? Join me on OnlyFans:  https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/💌 Coaching, blog, Substack, and more: https://talksexwithannette.cUse code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textMost people treat hand jobs like a throwaway move—a lazy warmup or a teenage fallback. But done right? A hand job can be more intimate, dominant, and orgasmic than penetration or oral.In honor of National Hand Job Day, I'm breaking down exactly how to use your hands to blow someone's mind—whether you're stroking a penis, massaging a vulva, or pleasuring a nonbinary partner. This is the Ultimate Hand Job Guide you never got in sex ed.🖐️ You’ll learn: • What most people get wrong about hand sex • How to turn your hands into erotic instruments • Step-by-step techniques for penis and vulva pleasure • Where to touch (and how) for mind-blowing orgasms • Why lube is your best friend—and which kind to use • Dirty talk tips that turn touch into domination✨ Bonus: A section on how to adapt these moves for all bodies, all genders, and all types of anatomy—because everyone deserves touch that turns them on.👉 Want to watch the techniques or get guided self-pleasure practices? Join me on OnlyFans:  https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/ 💌 Coaching, blog, Substack, and more: https://talksexwithannette.comIf this episode leaves you wetter, harder, or more confident with your hands—drop a comment and tell me how it went. And don’t forget to subscribe for more sex-positive, shame-free pleasure education.Check out how to touch a clit: https://youtu.be/EQ6Vsz1XIPQHow to give a yoni massage: https://youtu.be/r_GBSSvdvWwYou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textEver wonder why she’s not as turned on—or as fast—as you are? You're not alone. And she's not broken.In this episode, I’m joined by sociologist, intimacy coach, and TEDx speaker Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus to unpack one of the most misunderstood issues in sex and relationships: the arousal gap.We’ll break down: ✅ Why men often feel ready in seconds—and women don’t ✅ What’s really going on when she “seems like she’s not into it” ✅ The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire ✅ How mental load, emotional safety, and shame kill arousal ✅ What you can do to actually close the gap—in bed and beyondWhether you’re a man trying to better understand your partner, or a woman wondering “what happened to my libido?”—this episode is for you.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textIs body shame secretly killing your sex life? In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we're diving into one of the biggest (and most overlooked) blockers of desire and orgasm—body image anxiety.If you're hiding under the covers, turning off the lights, or keeping your shirt on during sex… this episode is for you.You’ll learn: 🔥 Why self-consciousness about your body shuts down arousal and orgasm 🔥 How to use nudity as a power move to rewire your brain for more pleasure 🔥 Step-by-step tips for building naked confidence (solo + with a partner) 🔥 The exact science behind why body shame kills libido—and how to take yours backThis is more than body positivity. This is about reclaiming desire, igniting connection, and learning to be turned on by your own damn reflection.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textIs sex addiction even real?In this bold and much-needed episode, I’m joined by Dr. Sue Milstein and her co-host Charlie for a raw conversation that takes on the myths and misinformation around hypersexuality and so-called “sex addiction.”We talk about: – Why “sex addiction” isn’t actually a clinical diagnosis – How pathologizing pleasure fuels shame and repression – The difference between compulsive behavior and healthy desire – What queer folks, women, and survivors need to know about how this label has been weaponized – And how we can stop framing desire as a diseaseWhether you’ve been told you’re “too much,” “out of control,” or “addicted” to sex—or just want to understand how shame shapes our sexual culture—this one’s for you.Pleasure isn’t the problem. The story we’ve been told about it is.You can listen to Unzipping Taboos here: Check out Unzipping Tabboos: https://open.spotify.com/show/0W4qb8B7nZW8O3GMoQUZ5E?si=3cd730666f3d499aYou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textYou don’t need to touch his penis to turn him on. In fact… you don’t even need your hands.In this how-to episode, I’m teaching you how to seduce and dominate a man using nothing but your feet, your voice, and your eyes.We’re diving into the art of foot play—how to use your toes to tease, your arches to apply pressure, and your whole body to command his attention. You’ll learn:How to give a beginner-friendly footjob (that doesn’t feel awkward)How to use your gaze to control the moment and keep him locked inThe seductive power of verbal domination—and exactly what to sayThis is your step-by-step guide to flipping the power dynamic, igniting his desire, and taking total control of his arousal—without ever taking your clothes off.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textWhat happens when a woman truly owns her sexuality?The s*x gets better. The spark comes back. And trust us—he’ll feel it too.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m joined by Dr. Bonnie Comfort—psychologist, author, and expert in helping women ditch sexual shame and step into real, raw pleasure. We’re breaking down how to stop performing, start feeling, and completely transform your sex life—from the inside out.You’ll learn:🔹 What “owning your sexuality” really means (it’s not just being sexy)🔹 The invisible pressure of performative s*x—and how to break free🔹 Why reclaiming your pleasure leads to deeper connection, hotter sex, and more confidence🔹 What men can do to help their partners feel safe and turned on🔹 Actual tools to reconnect with your body, desire, and e r0tic powerWhether you’re single, partnered, or feeling a little disconnected in the bedroom—this one’s for you.Find out more about Bonnie and her book here: https://www.simonandschuster.com/authors/Bonnie-Comfort/234719297You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textLet’s talk about one of the most craved beginner kinks—spanking—and why most people are doing it completely wrong.In this episode, I break down the art and psychology of erotic spanking: how to build anticipation, where to touch before you strike, and how to use your hand to sting, seduce, and satisfy. You’ll learn how to read her body’s response in real time, avoid common mistakes, and make it so good she’ll beg you not to stop.We’re going beyond tired clichés—this isn’t about punishment, it’s about pleasure with precision. Backed by science, psychology, and coaching insights, I’ll teach you how to turn a simple spank into a deeply erotic power move.By the end of this episode, you’ll know:The best positions for safe, sexy spankingWhere (and how) to strikeWhat rhythm and hand placement actually do to the nervous systemHow to read her skin tone and breath like a proAnd why this kink hits deeper than you think✨ Whether you're brand new to kink or ready to level up your skills, this is your permission slip to spank with confidence—and connection.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!