S2E310: The Resilience Playbook: How to Coach Your Kids Through Failure Without Coddling

Former WNBA player, NY Knicks Coach, and UCLA Hall of Famer and Texas Sports Academy Coach Lisa Willis returns to give us the literal "scripts" for what to do when your kid fails, falls, or feels like they aren't enough- in academics, sports, and life. In Part 1, we identified the dangerous phrase to watch for that sabotages a child's resilience, so be sure to give that a listen if you missed it.We’re going behind the scenes of Texas Sports Academy to show you exactly how to coach "Productive Struggle." You’ll learn:How to find the happy medium between coddling and coachingHow to keep kids in the "growth zone" of proximal developmentWhat mentally strong families do differentlyHow to acknowledge the "suck" of a situation without letting your child stay stuck in itHow small celebrations can sweeten accomplishmentswhy "bouncing back" is actually a waste of a good failureIf you’re ready to help your kids or students build a mindset that lasts, this is the playbook you’ve been waiting for. Let’s get into it.

We are accidentally weakening our kids.In our effort to protect them from "the sting" of failure, we are taking away the very armor they need to survive in the real world.We say we want them to be resilient, but we’re terrified to let them fall.Today, MacKenzie is joined by Lisa Willis.Lisa is a former WNBA first-round pick, the first woman to coach for the New York Knicks, and now a Coach at Texas Sports Academy.In this episode, Lisa and Mackenzie get into the grit of what it actually looks like to build a kid who doesn't crumble under pressure.You’ll learn:The one dangerous phrase that signals a child is moving from a "mistake" into a "downward spiral"The "Bounce Back" Myth and what to replace it withHow to define failure and success in a healthy wayThe "Recover, Quickly, Better" frameworkWhy pressure can be a healthy toolThe importance of helping kids understand the difference between their role and identitySpecific scripts for addressing your kid's failureYour child is capable of handling hard things, but they need you to believe it first. It's time to stop protecting them from the struggle and start preparing them for the win.Stay tuned for Part 2, coming later this week.

In Part 2 of this episode, MacKenzie answers questions from parents, students, and educators navigating everything from boredom in elementary school to implementing AI in classrooms and starting microschools. She shares practical guidance on screen time, mindset shifts, school fit, and where to start, whether you have a toddler or a teen.

In this episode, MacKenzie answers questions from parents and students navigating everything from boredom in elementary school to implementing AI in classrooms and starting microschools. She shares practical guidance on screen time, mindset shifts, school fit, and where to start, whether you have a toddler or a teen.

After polling our Substack community, one request rose to the top: more real, concrete examples of what students and Guides are actually doing during the school day. In Part 2 of this audience-selected episode, MacKenzie is joined by Alpha Guide Cameron to walk through what a day at Alpha High truly looks like in practice. From the structure of the day to the “high standards, high support” culture that shapes confidence and independence, this conversation offers a practical, behind-the-scenes look at how Alpha operates and what students experience firsthand.

After polling our Substack community, one request rose to the top: more real, concrete examples of what students and Guides are actually doing during the school day. In Part 1 of this audience-selected episode, MacKenzie is joined by Alpha Guide Cameron to walk through what a day at Alpha High truly looks like in practice. From the structure of the day to the “high standards, high support” culture that shapes students' confidence and independence, this conversation offers a practical, behind-the-scenes look at how Alpha operates and what students experience firsthand.

In this episode, MacKenzie and Alpha High student Sloka continue their conversation on Alpha's Brain Lift. An ever-evolving compilation of research that students work on all year, the Brain Lift works to deepen expertise and form a strong grasp of knowledge. Parents and educators will get a behind the scenes look into how this type of exercise can be replicated at home or in any classroom.

In this episode, MacKenzie sits down with Alpha High student Sloka to explore Alpha's Brain Lift- an ever-evolving compilation of research that students work on all year. Sloka breaks down how Alpha high schoolers build rigorous, structured expertise around their chosen topics, moving from facts to insights to their own bold "spiky POV." In this episode, parents and educators will get a behind the scenes look into how Alpha guides students toward self-directed, high-level research that fosters genuine mastery and curiosity beyond traditional schoolwork.

In Part 2 of this mini-series on Red Flags, MacKenzie and producer Jay explore the subtle and not-so-subtle signs that a child’s school environment may no longer be serving them well. They cover what patterns to pay attention to, what questions parents should be asking, and how to evaluate whether a learning environment is truly supporting a child’s academic growth, emotional well-being, and long-term development.

How do you know if challenges at school are just part of growing up, or if they're signaling something deeper? In this episode, MacKenzie and producer Jay explore the subtle and not-so-subtle signs that a child’s school environment may no longer be serving them well. They cover what patterns to pay attention to, what questions parents should be asking, and how to evaluate whether a learning environment is truly supporting a child’s academic growth, emotional well-being, and long-term development.