Lessons Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)

Are you really okay? In this episode, therapist Deb Fileta shares the warning signs of anxiety and depression and how to step into healing.So Good Moments: Ways to calm your body down when you’re feeling anxious.What you may need before you reach for the Bible verse. A statement of truth to remember when your trauma feels overwhelming. The truth about counseling and medication when it comes to depression.How to get our minds and bodies on a pathway toward healing.How to assess the severity of depression. What’s helpful (and not helpful) when walking alongside someone who is struggling.Discussion Questions: What stood out to you the most about Deb's story? How can you relate?What are some of the myths Deb exposed about what it means to be a Christian and struggle with mental health?What do you do when something triggers you? And what did you learn from Deb that might be a better approach?Have you ever struggled with depression or anxiety—or have you known someone who struggled? What was the level of severity (as Deb described)? Deb shared a list of what is helpful and not helpful for someone struggling with depression. Is there anything you would add to the list?Resources: Sisterhood NightAre You Really Okay? BookDebra’s Website Learn more about Sisterhood | https://christfellowship.church/groups/sisterhood Ask a Question© 2022 Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Jord A Lil Music (BMI) / Doejones20 (BMI) (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

Are you stuck looking back and dwelling on the past? In this episode, Christine Caine shares about her book “Don’t Look Back.” So Good Moments: How a tiny verse about Lot’s wife speaks to our cultural moment.Why staying stuck impacts generations (but so does living on purpose). The importance of running alongside those who are running toward Jesus.  The difference between people you are on mission with and those you are on mission for. The value of passing the baton of faith to the next generation…and more!Discussion Questions:What was your favorite part of this episode?What areas in your life do you find yourself looking back on or getting stuck? Who is one person you are on mission with, and who is one person you are on mission for?How does offense make us stuck? What’s on your summer reading list? Resources: Don’t Look Back by Christine CaineA21Shownotes PlusLearn more about Sisterhood Ask a QuestionAll Episodes© 2022 Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Jord A Lil Music (BMI) / Doejones20 (BMI) (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

What is God’s design for women? In this episode, Charlotte Gambill shares why God made woman from a rib and how it impacts our calling today.So Good Moments: How Charlotte came up with the idea of Ribology on the Sisterhood podcast!The 3 functions of a rib that are the 3 functions of women in the Body of Christ today.Why women are called to protect the most vulnerable. Why we need each other to fulfill our purpose.Encouragement when you feel invisible…and more! Discussion Questions: What stood out to you about this episode?Charlotte said the rib has 3 functions: 1) To protect the heart 2) to help the body breathe 3) to provide a place for attachment and belonging. Which one do you resonate with the most? Floating ribs can do more damage if they puncture an organ. How does it impact the Body of Christ when women aren’t attached? In what ways do you feel invisible or feel like you’re taking the impact? Do you often struggle to know when to expand or contract (when to speak up or when to hold back)? Resources: Join a Ribology GroupSisterhood NightRibologyShownotes PlusLearn more about Sisterhood Ask a QuestionAll Episodes© 2022 Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Jord A Lil Music (BMI) / Doejones20 (BMI) (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

What lessons in your life are clearer in the rearview mirror? In this episode, Pastor Julie shares about marriage, ministry, and motherhood. So Good Moments: The miracle journey God took Pastor Julie on with her son.What to ask God instead of “why” when you’re in a tough season. How Pastor Julie developed a heart to build God’s Church. The text Pastor Julie stopped Emma Mullings from sending.The difference between your calling and your assignment…and more!Discussion Questions: What was your favorite part of this conversation? What lessons are clearer for you in the rearview mirror? What miracle moments or miracle journeys has God taken you on? If you were to create a mission statement for your life, what would it be?What kind of legacy do you want to leave? Resources: Shownotes PlusLearn more about Sisterhood Ask a QuestionAll Episodes© 2022 Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Jord A Lil Music (BMI) / Doejones20 (BMI) (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

Being single in the modern world is complicated—but it’s also full of purpose! In this episode, you will hear why settling isn’t an option.So Good Moments: The cringeworthy phrases people say to singles.The lies and the truth about singleness.The 3 temptations of this generation. How to navigate being single again.Why settling isn’t an option.Why you can go ahead and get excited about your future…and more! Discussion Questions: What stood out to you about this episode?What surprised you about the lies and misconceptions of singleness?How did you see character and growth during a season of singleness in your life? If you could give advice to your younger (single) self, what advice would you give? Just for fun—are you a good matchmaker, yes or no?Resources: Sisterhood NightSingleness is a Piece of CakeI Never Wanted This to Be My Story, But I Would Do It All AgainShownotes PlusLearn more about Sisterhood Ask a QuestionAll Episodes© 2022 Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Jord A Lil Music (BMI) / Doejones20 (BMI) (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

When was the last time you heard from God? In this episode, Pastor Julie shares the keys to hearing God’s voice.So Good Moments: Why you should never settle for a hand-me-down Word from God.How one epic story started with a praying mom.The roadblocks to hearing God’s voice.How to position yourself to hear from God more often. The one prayer that can change your whole life…and more! Discussion Questions: What was your favorite part of this conversation? What inspires you about the story of Hannah and Samuel?What are some ways you know that God is speaking to you? When was a time that God called you to do something that was uncomfortable?What is one outfit that you would never wear again?Resources: Shownotes PlusLearn more about Sisterhood Ask a QuestionAll Episodes© 2022 Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Jord A Lil Music (BMI) / Doejones20 (BMI) (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

Is FOMO robbing you of your joy? In this episode, you will hear how to say “yes” to God’s best and trust Him with the rest.So Good Moments: How to overcome FOMO and find contentment.Why saying “yes” to God helps eradicate comparison.Why missing out is sometimes the best thing for you. Scriptures to help you trust God and His promises.What Pastor Julie thought was punishment (but now realizes was God’s protection)…and more!Discussion Questions: What stood out to you about this episode? In what ways have you struggled with FOMO? (Fear of Missing Out)What are some things you appreciate about your generation?What is one small decision you made that, looking back, you realize was a big decision in disguise?If you could give a commencement speech, what would be the theme of your speech?Resources: Shownotes PlusLearn more about Sisterhood Ask a QuestionAll Episodes© 2022 Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Jord A Lil Music (BMI) / Doejones20 (BMI) (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

You make 35,000 decisions a day—are they leading you to God’s best? Tune in to this conversation about decisions, direction, and destiny. So Good Moments: Why experience isn’t always the best teacher. How to make wisdom your companion in decision making. Why accountability is Miracle-Grow for your spiritual life. Why God’s will is not a needle in a haystack—it is the haystack.How to pre-make decisions so you can avoid regret. The difference between your calling and your assignment…and more! Discussion Questions: What was your favorite part of this episode? What small decision in your life was really a big one in disguise?What have you learned about calling vs. assignment? What crossroads have you most recently been at? How did you make wisdom your companion as you made your decision? What decision do you look back on and cringe a little? Resources: Shownotes PlusLearn more about Sisterhood Ask a QuestionAll Episodes© 2022 Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Jord A Lil Music (BMI) / Doejones20 (BMI) (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

How do you go from broken to empowering others? In this episode, you will hear how the most vulnerable in Uganda are finding purpose.So Good Moments: How a church in Uganda is rescuing children, raising up leaders, and rebuilding a nation.How the local church helped Pastor Vernita Rwotlonyo  find community and discover her purpose. Why reaching one woman for Christ can change an entire region. Why many girls in Uganda drop out of school upon puberty.What Pastor Vernita would share if she could meet her younger self for coffee…and more! Discussion Questions: What stood out to you about this episode? Vernita mentioned how much the local church impacted her life. What has been the biggest impact for you? What inspires you most about the work Watoto does? On hearing the stories of the most vulnerable women and children in Uganda, how does it shift your perspective on the challenges you face? In what ways has God called you to be His hands and feet to vulnerable people? (Or what burdens has God put on your heart that you need to put into action?)Resources: Support WatotoSponsor a ChildMissions TripShownotes PlusLearn more about Sisterhood Ask a QuestionAll Episodes© 2022 Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Jord A Lil Music (BMI) / Doejones20 (BMI) (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

What would you tell your younger self about priorities? In this episode, Lance Witt shares how clarity + courage + calendar = a great life.So Good Moments: What Lance would tell his younger self about friendships and priorities.How to make sure your calendar reflects your values. Why it’s important to put space between someone’s request and your “yes.” Why we need to define the relationships in our lives.What Lance used to say to his wife that still makes him cringe…and more! Discussion Questions: What stood out to you about this episode? What advice would you tell your younger self about your commitments, calendar, and priorities? Do you put a pause between someone’s request and your “yes”? Lance asks everyone he mentors, “Who in your life can rebuke you?” Do you have anyone in your life who can bring correction or accountability? What is something you used to say or wear that makes you cringe?Resources: Lance WittMore Lance Witt EpisodesLance's ManifestoShownotes PlusLearn more about Sisterhood Ask a QuestionAll Episodes© 2022 Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Jord A Lil Music (BMI) / Doejones20 (BMI) (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.