#69 – I'm Having Trouble Adjusting to a New, Securely-Attached Relationship
Theme: anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, secure attachment, new relationship, dating, self-sabotage in relationships, relationship OCD
So, you've been on the dating scene for a hot minute. You have aaalll the horror stories of dating apps, ghostings, toxic relationships, or even some well-meaning situationships. But here you are; you have met a significant other that respects you, values your time, and wants to create a secure relationship with you.
So why are you freaking out?!
This episode is for you if you are having trouble adjusting to a new relationship with someone that you genuinely want to be with. Let's navigate these beginning waters together!
- Attachment styles book: Attached by Amir Levine
- Work with me one-on-one: myintimacytherapist.com
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