You want less anxiety in your relationships and to enjoy sexuality without shame. Marriage and family therapist and intimacy coach Sade Ferrier speaks on themes of dating anxiety, healthy conflict resolution, and post-purity culture sexuality and spirituality. Instagram: @myintimacytherapist Work with me: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com ____________________________________________________________ Music: "Some Thoughts" by Shaolin Dub No derivative, non-commercial license: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd/4.0/
#69 – I'm Having Trouble Adjusting to a New, Securely-Attached Relationship
13:28Episode Notes Theme: anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, secure attachment, new relationship, dating, self-sabotage in relationships, relationship OCD So, you've been on the dating scene for a hot minute. You have aaalll the horror stories of dating apps, ghostings, toxic relationships, or even some well-meaning situationships. But here you are; you have met a significant other that respects you, values your time, and wants to create a secure relationship with you. So why are you freaking out?! This episode is for you if you are having trouble adjusting to a new relationship with someone that you genuinely want to be with. Let's navigate these beginning waters together! Action Steps Attachment styles book: Attached by Amir Levine Work with me one-on-one: myintimacytherapist.com
#68 – You Can't Heal a Relationship All On Your Own
12:21Episode Notes Themes: communication issues, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, self-help, personal growth, relationship issues You are the type of person to see a problem and solve it. You do all the research on your emotions, your relationship, what you should/shouldn't do...and it has been helping! But up to a point. You're hitting a wall because your partner won't do their work. They won't change. OR, you are fine when single - but as soon as you enter a relationship, you feel triggered again. You're back to square one with the anxiety, the protest behaviors, the old patterns. Tune in to the episode to learn more about the meaning of the phrase: "relational wounds are healed relationally"
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#67 – Negative Thinking Ruins Your Relationships
10:00Episode Notes Themes: criticism, negative self-talk, protest behaviors, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, communication issues, shame, relationship issues, low self-esteem The way that you choose to speak and think can create a personal prison, trapping you in a life that you don't even want. Let's talk about why this is damaging, and how to change it! Work with Me Click "subscribe" to always be updated when a new podcast episode is live! Visit myintimacytherapist.com for blogs, quizzes and activity downloads Schedule a 15-minute consult on my website
#66 – The Difference Between Anxious Attachment Sex and Intimate Sex
19:57Episode Notes Themes: anxious attachment, reassurance sex, anxiety, avoidant attachment, intimacy Have you ever used sex as a means to get the emotional closeness that seemed to not exist outside of the bedroom? If you realize that you want emotionally intimate, relational sex but have been caught in a whirlwind of sexual encounters where you feel anxious about your connection with the person - this episode is for you! We talk about the difference between sex fueled by insecure attachment versus sex in the context of a more secure connection. Work with Me Get blogs, quizzes and downloads at myintimacytherapist.com Follow me on Instagram @myintimacytherapist
#65 – How Fantasy Can Unblock Sexual Shame or Shutdown
24:28Episode Notes Themes: sexual fantasy, sexual shame, purity culture, low libido, low sex drive, intimacy, relationships If you have trouble thinking about yourself or your partner in a sexual way, it can be hard to integrate intimacy into your relationship. You may feel a "block" or even a complete separation from that part of yourself. This episode speaks to what fantasy is, and how you can use it in a constructive way to connect in complete intimacy with your person. Action Steps Download free intimacy resources and quizzes on my website, myintimacytherapist.com Share this episode with a friend! Give the podcast a rating in your Apple Podcasts or Spotify app
#64 – My Spouse is Being Fake in Therapy
21:34Episode Notes Themes: therapy, counseling, change, conflict resolution, communication issues, resentment, relationship issues So, you made it to therapy! You know I'm really excited for you. But there's a common frustration that many clients have when sitting next to their partner in the office: (a) my spouse is being fake in front of the therapist, or (b) why is my spouse changing so quickly when I've been begging them to do the same thing for years? Let's talk about it. Next Steps Relationship and intimacy blogs and downloads are available on my website, myintimacytherapist.com Work with me! Book a free consultation at myintimacytherapist.com
#63 – I'm Annoyed by My Partner's High Sex Drive
23:49Episode Notes Themes: sex drive, mismatched libido, high sex drive, low libido, communication, relationship issues So you are annoyed by your partner's high sex drive. Maybe it's the way they initiate, or they way they touch you. Either way, your interest is beyond low - and has even potentially gotten to a place of resenting them for their persistent need for sex. In this episode, we begin by exploring some reasons that the two of you may have gotten to where you are. Then, we move to the "sexual attitudes" under the surface, and how to have honest and new conversations about what you want your sexual intimacy to look like. That way, you can both feel fully seen, fully known, and fully loved. Similar Episodes Ep 16 - "Try This! Intimacy Questions to Ask Your Boo" Ep 17 - "Storytime! Low Desire & Sex Therapy" Ep 31 - "It's Hard to Open Up: How to Manage Shame in Intimacy" Work with Me! Visit myintimacytherapist.com to book a consultation for a therapy session (GA residents) Also visit the website for free blogs, quizzes and downloadable resources
#62 – How to Be More Open for Sexual Intimacy
15:45Episode Notes Themes: low sex drive, low desire, libido, communication issues You know that your drive is low - but what do you do about it? This episode is focused on what you can do to understand and address the mental or contextual blocks to your drive. PLEASE NOTE: the medical and physiological aspect of your drive are very important components - though not discussed in this episode - and should be addressed with your physician (i.e. hormonal imbalances, medications, recent procedures, muscle tension, chronic pain, etc.). Next Steps Purchase the Intimacy Mindset Makeover Online Course: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/radiant Get free downloads or book a consult call: myintimacytherapist.com
#61 – What to Talk About in a Relationship Check-In
10:49Episode Notes Being proactive about your relationship is a great way to get ahead of any hairline fractures that could lead to deeper issues if unattended to. I love a good yearly (or quarterly) check-in to see how your relationship is doing! Next Steps Subscribe to the My Intimacy Therapist Podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Book a free therapy consultation at myintimacytherapist.com
#60 – Is It Hard to Be Thankful For Your Partner?
10:40Episode Notes This is for your wellbeing as well as your significant other's: remember to be grateful. There are two sides to this coin. Sometimes it is difficult to remember expressing our gratitude... but other times, it can be challenging to receive our partner's expression of love and affection. If you struggle with either, this episode is for you! Next Steps Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Share with a friend! Visit myintimacytherapist.com to schedule a consult or download free intimacy goodies!