74. You Accept the Love you Think You Deserve: Healing Attachment Wounds + Heartbreak, Choosing Self-Respect Over Validation, & Attracting a Healthy Relationship

Allow this episode to inspire a shift in your energy. Allow it to remind you that life is meant to be lived. That joy is a choice. That ease is only as simple as we make it. That thinking about your feelings or journaling about them is not the same as feeling them. That the tools for change in any moment are inside of the gift of your presence. This episode is for my fellow thought daughters, the introspective ones who love to see into their own psyche and pick apart the many caverns of patterns and shed light on their shadow, for those of us who are always looking for the lesson, trying to learn from life, who are committed to being a student of it. I know that you have taken the beautiful responsibility for your life, but have you remembered to also… live it?If you feel like you've been stuck in the cycle of overanalyzing your thoughts, feelings, emotions, and trying to "figure your way out" of wherever you may have found yourself, if you have been on a constant hamster-wheel of striving towards who you want to be and are finding little fulfillment or joy in the process, if you've been doing the inner work but feeling like you're making no progress — this episode is for you. It is a reminder of the power of your subtle energy and is filled with with inspiration from my own discovery with this subject, practices for you to reinstate ease into your life, and a discussion about what choosing joy actually means and how to push through the resistance that will inevitably come when you decide that joy is your priority. You are not a self-help project & healing is not your purpose — living your life and experiencing it: is.xSign up for the Spring Solstice Online Workshop!Discounted / Free Access (Depending on your Tier) in the CommunityFree Grounding & Energy Cleansing Meditation in the FSO Together community <3& Stay Connected through:MY NEWSLETTER (scroll to the end of the page to join!)Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainSubstackIf you liked this episode, you'll like this one too! 47 - Stop Playing it Small & Start Flirting with LifeResources for this Episode: Somatic Shaking Practice + Dance Movement TherapySomatic Meditation for Emotional ReleaseCHAPTERS: 0:00-5:30: the one who asks is the one who receives - you are not a self-help project.5:30-9:30: having corporate america flashbacks in a community sauna?? what I learned9:30-10:50: getting lost in being a student of life (vs a liver of life)10:50-12:30: the influence of your inner teenager + alchemizing in acceptance12:30-16:22: the path of least resistance + finding ease 16:22-20:02: intellectualizing & overanalyzing to reinstating ease: subtle energy shifts20:02-24:00: it takes discipline to be in bliss: joy must be more important to you than fitting in24:00-27:15: time as a portal, being in communion with others 27:15-29:00 code switching & energy shifting 29:00-33:29: co-creation, trust with the divine, opening yourself 33:29-34:27: short practice for cultivating a shift 34:27-38:02: there is more to life than figuring sh!t out (contrary to what you may believe)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today, I turn 25. And on the quarter of a century anniversary of being brought into this world, I realize that to look at aging as a gift or a grievance defines the course and direction of most of our lives. It is a choice made every single day - in how we decide to live, breathe, and be. This episode is about growing up. And also, deciding that we don't have to let that mean anything more than we make it. If you feel you've been jostled by the confusion of coming of age, trying to figure sh!t out but not sure quite how -- well, this episode is for you. xIF YOU ARE A FREQUENT LISTENER OF FSO, RATE THE SHOW ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM! & LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE <3Get first/discounted access to the next workshop <3 (WILL BE ON: GOING BEYOND OUR LIMITS!) Free Grounding & Energy Cleansing Meditation in the FSO Together community!! & Stay Connected through:MY NEWSLETTER (scroll to the end of the page to join!)Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainSubstackIf you liked this episode, you'll like this one too! 40 - Wake Up! Your Life is Meant to be LivedEPISODE CHAPTERS: 0:00-6:10: Navigating Confusion & Quarter Life Crises  6:10 - 11:40: Turning 25 & The Portal of Choices11:40-15:40: Calm Down - You Have Time.15:40-17:00: You Can Start Over Anytime You Want17:00-22:00: The Fig Tree of Choices & What we Can Learn from Sylvia Plath22:00-25:00: Life is a Gift: Release the Expectations of it Needing to be Anything Else25:00-27:00: Death is our Greatest Teacher & Life Itself is Your Career27:00-30:00: We’re Just Five Year Old Adults: Life as a A Gift or Grievance30:00-32:00: A Quarter Life Awakening: Becoming Alive to your Aliveness 32:00-36:00: There is only Going Forward. Every Day is Special. 36:00-38:00: Announcements & Thank You!!!!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

True transformation happens when the discomfort of staying the same becomes more unbearable than the discomfort of change. And change? Transformation? Getting all you dream about? Having the courage TO dream at all? It's not all rainbows. It is certainly uncomfortable. But it is at once ---- Expansive. Heart-opening. Boundless. Miraculous. Remember: life is duality. You cannot have the expansion without the contraction. Healing your limits, learning your power, breaking cycles — it is what you were put on this earth to do. When you begin to transform, it is not a matter of if challenges will come - but how well you can receive them as lessons and opportunities to expand into when they do.So how do we actually use the energetic laws of the universe and our cognitive bias to prove our assumptions right -- to our advantage?This week, we talk about art of leveling up, playing the game of life, seeing the tests in the challenges, and stepping into higher timelines with practices and frameworks that I outline here.This episode breaks down what it means to look at life as an energetic playing field that we are always taking part in and how to understand the mechanics of the law of assumption so that you can see how it is already ruling your life and use your power to wield it's influence back in your favor.Assumption. Contraction. Expansion. Trust: The magic is in the motion. The only thing stopping you —Is you. xIF YOU ARE A FREQUENT LISTENER OF FSO, RATE THE SHOW ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM! & LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE <3Get first/discounted access to the next workshop <3 (WILL BE ON: GOING BEYOND OUR LIMITS!) & Stay Connected through:MY NEWSLETTER (scroll to the end of the page to join!)Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainSubstackEPISODE RESOURCES Overcoming Limiting Beliefs:Episode 66: Is it a Problem or a Pattern? Shifting Subconscious Programming, Becoming Aware, Breaking out of Limiting BeliefsEpisode 24: A Guide to: Identifying Limiting Beliefs, Breaking Patterns, & Creating a new Self-ConceptEpisode 48: Running From What you Don't Want vs Going Towards Wha You Do: The Magic Key to CreationEpisodes on Manifestation + The Law of Attraction Episode 5: Part 1: Living in Alignment, Surrendering, & Trusting Your Intuition Episode 6: Part 2: Romanticizing your Life, Self-Fulfilling Prophecies, & Gratitude into LuckinessEpisode 47: Stop Playing it Small & Start Flirting with Life MEDITATIONS & Visualizations: Free Grounding & Energy Cleansing Meditation in the FSO Together community!! Joe Dispenza Meditation (Audible) Book: "Becoming Supernatural" Other Meditations I love for Visualization!Visualization Meditation 1 (Youtube) Visualization Mediation 2 (Youtube) EPISODE CHAPTERS: 0:00-5:40: Episode Overview & Updates <35:40-10:00: The Power of the Law of Assumption10:00-19:00: The Moment of Reckoning: The Contractions before the Expansions19:00-22:00: The Game of Life: Challenges are Checkpoints25:00-31:00: Why "Manifestation" Hasn't Worked for You & How to get the Most out of Visualization Practices31:00-38:00: Aligning Yourself Vibrationally, Connecting to Higher Timelines, The Butterfly Effect 38:00-43:00: Forget the How! What do you WANT? Trust, Surrender, Rejection is Redirection 43:00-46:00: Side Quests (&When they Turn into Main Quests) 46:00-50:00: Practices for Receptivity, Softening the Space of Your Heart, Asking for More > Settling for Less50:00-52:00: ANNOUNCEMENT!! (Advice Sessions for FSO Together!!!) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You accept the love you believe you deserve. And if you know that you deserve more than you've gotten in romantic relationships but you haven't been able to receive it — this episode is for you. If you've been around the block getting your heart broken or fearing to let it be loved or found yourself in a thousand different ruts dating people who just don't feel right for you — this episode is a foundation for navigating that. If there is part of you that feels or has felt incomplete without a romantic relationship, that feels like you're waiting around to find the person you're meant to be with, that longs for wholeness in the union of you and another — I have one piece of advice for you that rings throughout this episode: Stop looking. Stop searching. And realize that you are already whole on your own. Everything you're looking for is inside of you - including the ingredients it takes to attract that healthy union in your life. Center YOU. Fall so deeply in love with you and your life, that anyone who opens the door to enter it must meet a standard you've set with the love you give yourself in order to walk in. Set the standard for how you want to be treated with how you treat yourself. Become so in love with your hobbies, your friendships, your pursuit of growth - that anyone who enters the wholeness of your life will only compliment it and add value to the bounty you've already created. This episode is about expanding the capacity for what we believe we deserve through the nurturing of a relationship with ourselves. We dive deep into the psychology of romantic relationships and what it takes to attract a healthy partnership into our lives, how to keep it, and why our nervous system gets triggered in romantic relationships and I share my story on figuring this sh!t out over the last couple of years.A meditation aligned with this episode is available in the community, which you can join here xx Meditation for Self-Love, Compassion, & Acceptance - with Journaling PromptsIf you liked this episode, you'll like these too: Episode 34: Confidence, Personal Power, & Magnetic Energy - Rising Above Judgement & People Pleasing Episode 24: A Guide to: Identifying Limiting Beliefs, Breaking Patterns, & Creating a New Self-ConceptEpisode 4: Access to You is a Privilege - Navigating All Types of Love & RelationshipsJoin the Community for Free access all FSO Guidebooks, Discounted/Free access to all workshops, monthly guided meditations, bonus content, + community group chat connection! Free Grounding & Energy Cleansing Meditation on my Patreon :) xIF YOU ARE A FREQUENT LISTENER OF FSO, RATE THE SHOW ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM! & LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE <3& Stay Connected through:MY NEWSLETTER (scroll to the end of the page to join!)Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainSubstackxCHAPTERS: 0:00-5:16: Your Relationship with Yourself Determines What You Accept in a Romantic Relationship5:16-8:00: Decentering Romantic Love & Centering Yourself: Dating Yourself8:00-9:30: Why We Let Some Relationships Keep us Small 9:30-10:30: Building a Relationship with Yourself will Always Lead to More Love in Your Life10:30-13:04: Navigating Heartbreak & Healing 13:04-15:00: Understanding Attachment Styles 15:00-17:30: Anxious Attachment & Protest Behavior17:30-18:56: Avoidant Attachment18:56-22:22: Secure Attachment & The Dynamics of a Healthy Relationship 22:22- 25:16: Self-Awareness in Love 25:16- 27:30: The Trap of Dating Apps & Searching for Love27:30-30:00: Self-Respect > Validation: Letting People Audition to be in Your Life30:00-32:00: Mistaking Infatuation for Love & Situationships32:00- 34:00: The Importance of Wholeness in a Relationship34:00-36:09: Building False Senses of Intimacy has to GO36:09-38:30: The Power of Platonic, Familial, & Self Love38:30-40:00: Being Picky, Non-Negotiables, & Not Being Afraid to Walk Away40:00- 43:00: Healing IN a Relationship & Growing with a Partner, Partnership + Personal Growth 43:00-46:42: The Right Relationship Gives you Freedom 46:42-49:38: Challenging Negative Beliefs about Love & Relationships49:38-57:40: Attracting Positive & Healthy RelationshipsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

"I love you where you are and I love you where you're going,"This is a mantra I have been using in my life for the last few weeks - one I have shared with all of you on this show, and one that defines what this episode is truly about. A few episodes ago, you asked for a template to my personal tracking techniques - ones that have held me accountable and have allowed me to take this The Road Less Traveled. You asked & I listened.On today's episode, I walk you through the specific intentional practices that have changed my life - including one that I created and have used for years called "Threading"This "threading" technique has been the basis for all of my growth - holding me accountable with seasonal, monthly, weekly, and daily goal-setting & checking-in as it relates to my alignment and overall health/wellness. & The older I get, the more I realize that health truly is wealth. In this discussion, I break it all down + give you a peak into my inner world: a Type A, highly sensitive, virgo rising who loves organization but also loves freedom of expression, creativity, and flow - someone who has learned how to manage an ADHD brain without medication and with peace + purpose. This episode is about the devotion to living intentionally while remaining committed to expansion - a hard balance to strike which requires practice.These practices are how I have remained consistent, worked 2 full-time jobs (one corporate, one creative), quit one of them to pursue this podcast full time, all while learning about what it takes to be a friend to myself, and then actually being that friend to myself.I am sharing my template with you, a full in-depth breakdown of how I use it, and how you can format it to fit your needs and adjust to you.We also talk simple every day practices for morning, day-time, and the evening which allow life to feel soft, full, and sweet. Actionable, implementable tips for practicing the art of "I love you where you are, and I love you where you're going."EnjoyxxTHE TEMPLATEJoin the Community for Free access to the Template (+all FSO Guidebooks), Discounted/Free access to all workshops, monthly guided meditations, bonus content, + community group chat connection! Free Grounding & Energy Cleansing Meditation on my Patreon :) xIF YOU ARE A FREQUENT LISTENER OF FSO, RATE THE SHOW ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM! & LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE <3& Stay Connected through:MY NEWSLETTER (scroll to the end of the page to join!)Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainSubstackIf you liked this episode, you'll like these ones too! Episode 71: Consistency is Self-Respect. You are the Only One Standing in Your WayEpisode 56: Conquering Perfectionism & Procrastination: Mastering Self-Discipline with SoftnessCHAPTERS: 0:00-7:17: The Road Less Traveled7:17-11:36: Organizing my Life as a Type-A who Loves freedom and has ADHD 11:36-15:16: Creating a Growth Diary - Your Own Thread of Evolution15:16-17:00: Seasonal & Monthly Eras17:00-20:41: Taking care of Your Human20:41-24:00: Mindful Tracking, Self-Compassion, Accountability24:00-26:00: Breakdown 26:00-29:00: A place of Love vs a Place of Shame29:00-31:00: Daily Check-Ins: A Path to Self Awareness31:00-35:36: Celebrating Progress & Identifying Patterns: Solo Sunday Resets + Weekly Reflections35:36-40:10: Monthly Reviews & Manifestation Hacks 40:10-50:00: Morning Rituals: Intentions, Proclaimed Gratitude, Being Ruthless about Your Peace50:00-54:00: Grounding Practices to Protect your Energy54:00-59:42: End of Day Rituals, Surrendering into SleepSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You are exactly where you need to be to create something only you can create. And the call is not coming from the phone you spend your life connected to – the call is coming from inside the house. It’s coming from inside of you. It's subtle - and you must be open to listen to it. But our entire society has been structured to keep you disconnected from it. We live in an age of over-consumption - the bleak deafening of our senses with more, more, more. With blue light and dopamine. With gazes of longing and attempts to fill our hearts with distraction and commiseration. We run away from ourselves by running straight into the eye of the storm, taking in other people's lives as a past-time to forget our own and taking on the weight of the world as a means to surrender to the powerlessness we feel inside of us.And every day that goes by where we live our lives half-asleep, in the caffeinated neglect to ourselves and our inner being, we drift further from our senses and our ability to wake ourselves up. We are all looking for the same thing – the ability to live awake and embodied and to feel more deeply - yet we reject the feelings that are uncomfortable to hold.And in that, we reject our own unique ability to alchemize them in the way the world most needs. What you want to create is not about you. It is about the collective devotion to something greater than the suffering this world will suffocate us with if we let it. Our lives - messy and undone and beautiful and chaotic - have asked us to create the perfect creations for the conditions we are in - right now. Our lives are always asking us to take a big gulp of air from them and see what comes out when we exhale, see what we do with it, see how we transmute it. We were meant to alchemize, transmute, and be part of something greater than the numbness we have found ourselves apart of.This episode is a wake-up call for anyone who is struggling to push through the cracks of that numbness and live awake.This episode is a wake-up call for anyone who has ran from their intuitive impulses and denied their right to exist boldly, denied their right to be a creator.Your life is asking you to live it.The question is -- are you willing to listen?Youtube Video Here.xIF YOU ARE A FREQUENT LISTENER OF FSO, RATE THE SHOW ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM! & LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE <3Free Grounding & Energy Cleansing Meditation on my Patreon :) Join the Community for Discounted/Free access to all workshops, monthly guided meditations, FSO guidebooks + bonus content, + community group chat connection! + Stay Connected through:MY NEWSLETTER (scroll to the end of the page to join!)Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainSubstackxxIf you liked this episode, you'll like this one too! Ep 14 - Do you crave to be understood but fear to be perceived? Who are you when no one is watching? Inner Child Healing Episodes: 21, 37, & 70 Youtube Video:CHAPTERS: 0:00-6:45: You Were Born to Create 6:45-21:00: Create or be Consumed (a piece written by me)21:00-28:00: The Consumption Trap & The Psychological Effects of Overconsumption28:00-30:00: Express or be Repressed: the POWER of creation30:00-35:00: Stop Scrolling, Start Living: The False Internalization of Other People's Thoughts/Opinions35:00-40:00: Victim Mentality, The Illusion of Ego Satisfaction, What are your Gifts?40:00-47:30: Breaking the Cycle: The Artist's Way, Rebirth, Transformation47:00-56:00: Nothing is Forever & You are the Perfect Person for the Dreams that You Have 56:00-1:00:00: Creating our Mindset: Seek Light & it will Seek you1:00:00-1:10:37: Practical Shifts to Becoming a Creator & Living awakeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The only thing that guarantees our failure in any endeavor is if we give up. Yet, we flirt with our own uncertainty and imposter syndrome more than we embrace our dreams and goals, talking ourselves out of what we want and what it takes to get there instead of talking ourselves into action. We ask: "Is this worth it? Am I doing the right thing? Spending my time in the right places?" We self-sabotage our efforts to self-empower with limiting beliefs we don't realize are running the show. I must ask you:Do you break promises to yourself? Do you avoid the truths you're scared to share? Do you harbor resentment towards others for not being trustworthy or consistent or "there for you"? Do you realize that your world is simply a mirror - reflecting back to you what you move with? Let's make no mistake: We always know what it will take to get us where we want to go. Is it easy? No. Is it simple? Yes. All it takes - is showing up. Showing up with full conviction and alignment one day and showing up scared and unsure the next. Showing up fully, unapologetically, and with all of your fear at the surface ready to be dissolved with your courage. Showing up every day with what you have to give, being honest with yourself when you can give more and being even more honest with yourself when you have nothing to give.This episode is about the deepest form of self-respect we can build: Consistency. Making & keeping promises to ourselves. And getting the f*ck out of our own way.Consistency as a form of self-respect (Video)xJOIN THE INNER CHILD HEALING WORKSHOP ON 1/29!Inner Child Healing Workshop on the New Moon in Aquarius (1/29) Tickets+ Join the Community for Discounted/Free access to all workshops, monthly guided meditations, FSO guidebooks + bonus content, + community group chat connection! IF YOU ARE A FREQUENT LISTENER OF FSO, RATE THE SHOW ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM! LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE <3+ Stay Connected through:MY NEWSLETTER (scroll to the end of the page to join!)Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainxIf you liked this episode, you'll like these too! 66: Is it a problem or a pattern? Shifting Subconscious programming, Becoming Aware of Triggers, & Breaking out of Cycles24: A Guide to: Identifying Limiting Beliefs, Breaking Patterns, & Creating a new Self-ConceptEPISODE CHAPTERS: 0:00-10:00: Consistency: The Key to Self-Respect, Self-Trust, Confidence10:00-12:00: Devotion over Discipline 12:00-16:00: The Miracle that is: You Even Existing at All 16:30-20:00: Why We Are Inconsistent: Broken Promises, Unaligned Action, Burnout 20:00-27:00: Incremental Change & 1% Better: The Ice Cube Metaphor27:00-29:00: You're not Crazy - Your Brain Just Doesn't like Change29:00-37:00: Being Honest: Gentle Measures for Accountability & Tracking 37:00-41:00: Perfectionism & Procrastination: Secret Self-Sabotaging Tactics  41:00-46:00: Maybe YOU Are the Problem; Boundaries; The World is a Mirror 46:00-49:00: Quiet Perseverance outside your Comfort Zone is All it Takes49:00-55:00: Ways to Train Resistance: Long-Term Satisfaction > Short-Term Pleasure 55:00-1:02:00: Imposter Syndrome: What's the difference between someone who has it & someone who doesn't?See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Awaken curiosity where it is confined in your life, allow creation to occur through the expression of your soul, and enable the radical act of romanticization to transform you - because what a tragedy it would be, if you got everything you ever wanted in your life, but you forgot to have fun.JOIN THE INNER CHILD HEALING WORKSHOP ON 1/29!Inner Child Healing Workshop on the New Moon in Aquarius (1/29) Tickets+ Join the Community for Discounted/Free access to all workshops, monthly guided meditations, FSO guidebooks + bonus content, + community group chat connection! xxThis episode is part three of the shadow-work & inner child healing series. Listening to previous episodes is not required before listening to this one, but if you’d like to dive deeper you can find them here: Episode 21: Shadow-Work Series, Part 1: A Beginners Guide to Inner Child Healing, Forgiveness, & Self-DiscoveryEpisode 37: Healing Self-Expression & Actualizing your Dreams Through Your Inner Child - Shadow-Work SeriesxxIF YOU ARE A FREQUENT LISTENER OF FSO, RATE THE SHOW ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM! LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE <3+ STAY CONNECTED THROUGH:MY NEWSLETTER (scroll to the end of the page to join!)Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountain (RIP :,))xCHAPTERS:0:00-9:00: Revisiting Inner Child Healing & Shadow-Work9:00-14:30: What if you got everything you wanted, and forgot to have fun? 14:30-17:00: The Fullness of Emotional Expression, Healing the Pain17:00-26:00: The Inner Children / Inner Teenager as a Conduit of Compassion for Our Present-Day Selves26:00-28:00: Inner Child Healing Workshop!! 28:00-32:00: Practicing Dialogue with Our Inner Child32:00-40:00: Storytime: Healing Anxious Attachment with Inner Child Work40:00-44:00: How to Know if You’re Disconnected from Your Inner Child44:00-50:00: Ways to Connect & Let Them be The Muse50:00-1:00:58: Your Inner Child & Higher Self, The Radical Act of Romanticization & Self-ExpressionSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

“Greet the piece of you that is longing to unravel. Hold it. Move the furniture out of the way so that it can collapse onto the floor like a puddle. Let it simmer in the space between your breath and let yourself taste the salt from the tears you may have never gotten to cry. Fold into your bones. Allow the whispers of what’s left to come through you. Don’t rush to rebury that hatchet. Learn to feel pain and then learn to feel joy.Learn to feel them both fully and boldly,because you cannot have one without the other.Learn to feel. Learn to feel as though one day, you may fall asleep & never wake up — because one day, you will.”  - Words jotted in my December 2024 journalxIF YOU ARE A FREQUENT LISTENER OF FSO, RATE THE SHOW ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM! LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE <3+ STAY CONNECTED THROUGH:MY NEWSLETTER (scroll to the end of the page to join!)Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainI post monthly meditations + guides that go along with the episode on my Patreon. You can also get free or discounted access to monthly workshops by becoming a member! Consider joining to support the show :) CHAPTERS: 0:00-5:06: The Epidemic of Hustle Culture, Phone Addiction, & Chasing5:06-9:56: The Road Less Traveled & Meeting Our Authentic Selves9:56-13:40: Limiting Beliefs will Sit in the Space of Growth before You’ve Grown13:40-17:15: We Are Here to FEEL! Love/Pain are inseparable 17:15-21:41: The Harms of Social Media & Losing our Critical Thinking Skills21:41-27:06: Staying Awake in a Numbed World & Normalizing Love27:06-30:00: Intellectualizing Our Feelings & Reclaiming Our Attention 30:00-32:12: The Pursuit is the Point32:12-38:55: Keeping our Heart Open to Free Ourselves - Creating Space to Feel 38:55-48:14: Belonging, Community, & Connection to Heal NumbnessxIf you liked this episode, you'll like this one too!38 - Unlocking our Heart's Potential: Clearing Energetic Blocks & Accessing a Portal to Profound Love & Inner AlchemySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Slowly but surely: that is the motto for the beginnings of a new year. At a time where the world tells us that it’s the time to be brand new - while all we yearn for is stillness, how do we find reconciliation between setting intentions + and moving with the slow beat our body may crave during the winter-time? This episode is another breath away from all of the noise around needing to be someone else, go somewhere else, and turn your life into something else as we transition into the new year. It is a testament to the power of intention, presence, and surrender — embracing patience, moving intuitively, and taking it one step at a time. On this episode, I discuss the concept of a Winter Arc: a time where we use the coldest, darkest, shortest days of the year to refocus and reground ourselves so that we can bloom when it is time.I give you a guide into the simple daily rituals that ground me and allow life to be a sacred act that is created by every movement and choice, rather than a list of resolutions to accomplish and a new person to become. After all, breathing life into a new year requires that we have the patience to take a full breath.xIF YOU ARE A FREQUENT LISTENER OF FSO, RATE THE SHOW ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM! LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE <3+ STAY CONNECTED THROUGH:MY NEWSLETTER (scroll to the end of the page to join!)Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainxCHAPTERS: 0:00-7:15: The Importance of Reflection & Patience During Winter7:18-13:44: The Winter Arc 13:44-15:25: Rituals for Grounding & Connection 15:25-23:00: Morning Rituals: Greeting the Day 23:00-30:35: Ritualizing Transitions of the Day, Energetic Protection, Creating a Sanctuary for yourself30:35-35:00: Mini Rituals for Romanticizing the Moment35:00-42:00: The Risk of Making our Lives a Means to an End & The Act of Devotion 42:00-46:00: Your Growth is Inevitable - Let Yourself Have the Luxury of Living Your LifexIf you liked this episode, you'll like this one too: 67. Rituals vs Resolutions: Creating the Space for Softness, Celebrating Life, & Resting with Our Interior WinterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.