S6E28: Conditional Confidence vs Unconditional Confidence + What makes the difference?

What does it really take to completely change your life? Host Kylie shares the full story of selling up, leaving the country, and slow travelling the world with Mr P, including the fear, the tears, and the moment in an airplane bathroom mirror that made it all real.In this episode:The full behind the scenes of a huge leap of faithWhy the good girl nearly talked her out of the whole thingOff ADHD meds and overstimulated in Bali, and what that actually looks likeWhat the good girl in your business is actually costing youWhy waiting for life force to speak beats creating from "I should"The squirrel incident (yes, really)Ready to rip off the good girl gag and say yes to your own version of a wild + finally fcking free wild woman led biz + life? Good Girls Do Not Lead Revolutions is a 3-part identity and nervous system activation that shifts you from good girl gagged to wild woman magnetic, so you stop filtering, stop shrinking, and get the f*ck on with changing the world. Join Kylie inside for just $7. __Ready to rip off the good girl gag and say yes to your own version of a wild + finally fcking free wild woman led biz + life? Good Girls Do Not Lead Revolutions is a 3-part identity and nervous system activation that shifts you from good girl gagged to wild woman magnetic, so you stop filtering, stop shrinking, and get the f*ck on with changing the world. Join Kylie inside for just $7.Come Say Hi on InstagramDownload your FREE True Sidereal Human Design chart here 

This is it folks! The last episode before Mr P and I head off on our Gen X gap year. I'm sharing the story of how the wild, self-trusting part of me went quiet, what it took to bring her back online, and the pinch-me opportunity that landed in our laps as a result.In this episode:- the 2011 cold call to a New York wellness centre that led to an internship, a house sale, and my whole family on a plane in six weeks- how a conversation with a real estate agent four months ago cracked everything open again- how five months caretaking brand new beachfront villas on a tropical island landed in our laps, and exactly how it happened- the difference between affirming you're a magnet for opportunities versus actually being open and safe enough to receive them- what I'm noticing about women in that mid-life "wait, is this really what I want?" seasonAnd finally, how I'm planning to show up for you on the road!The wild one is not gone. She was just waiting in the wings for me to say "I AM READY!!!".Enjoy x  __Ready to rip off the good girl gag and say yes to your own version of a wild + finally fcking free wild woman led biz + life? Good Girls Do Not Lead Revolutions is a 3-part identity and nervous system activation that shifts you from good girl gagged to wild woman magnetic, so you stop filtering, stop shrinking, and get the f*ck on with changing the world. Join Kylie inside for just $7.Come Say Hi on InstagramDownload your FREE True Sidereal Human Design chart here 

Most of us place our order with the universe and then quietly cancel it the moment things get hard.Not dramatically. Just... we stop owning it. Stop speaking it. Stop letting ourselves want it as much.This episode is about what it actually takes to place a crystal clear order and hold the identity of someone who receives it, before it shows up in your reality.This is a solo episode and it's a juicy one. Fresh off the back of S6E32 and the "I am my own solid ground" moment, Kylie goes deeper into the inside out identity shifts that actually change what becomes possible in your life and business.Here's what we get into:why most of us are better at holding ourselves through fear than we are at holding ourselves through joy, ease and desirethe ocean of abundance analogy and why so many of us are holding up a thimblewhat placing a crystal clear order to the universe actually looks likewhy identity shifting is the missing piece that no morning routine, mentor or magic pill can replacethe difference between wanting something and being the woman who receives itwhat your values have to do with all of it and where the gaps are hidingStrategy only is not shifting your business or your life. This one is about the inside out work that does. __Ready to rip off the good girl gag and say yes to your own version of a wild + finally fcking free wild woman led biz + life? Good Girls Do Not Lead Revolutions is a 3-part identity and nervous system activation that shifts you from good girl gagged to wild woman magnetic, so you stop filtering, stop shrinking, and get the f*ck on with changing the world. Join Kylie inside for just $7.Come Say Hi on InstagramDownload your FREE True Sidereal Human Design chart here 

There's a version of safety that comes from control. From knowing what's coming, staying in familiar territory, not rocking the boat.And then there's the other kind.The kind that doesn't need circumstances to cooperate. The kind that doesn't need the external world to hold still so you can feel okay.This is a solo episode, and it's a personal one. In the middle of one of the biggest life transitions I've made in years, handing back the keys to our family home and preparing to fly out to Southeast Asia for a Gen X gap year, I had a moment in my kitchen that stopped me in my tracks.Heart pounding. Brain spinning. Fear doing its very convincing thing.And then, through the noise, a single clear message: I am my own solid ground.In this episode I share what that moment actually felt like in my body, the stories fear was running to try to keep me stuck, and why your capacity to hold yourself through fear is directly proportional to how much ease, flow and green lights you get to experience on the other side of it.We also talk about:Why fear isn't your enemy, but it will absolutely lie to youWhat happened in the weeks after that kitchen moment (hint: green light, green light, green light)The two "self-care snacks" I keep coming back to when my nervous system is running hotWhat it actually means to be your own solid ground and why that changes everythingThe question I want to leave you with: what would be possible for you if you truly heard that voice?Fear and freedom really are two sides of the same coin. This episode is about learning to hold both. __Ready to rip off the good girl gag and say yes to your own version of a wild + finally fcking free wild woman led biz + life? Good Girls Do Not Lead Revolutions is a 3-part identity and nervous system activation that shifts you from good girl gagged to wild woman magnetic, so you stop filtering, stop shrinking, and get the f*ck on with changing the world. Join Kylie inside for just $7.Come Say Hi on InstagramDownload your FREE True Sidereal Human Design chart here 

What if burnout isn’t failure?What if exhaustion is your nervous system asking for regulation - not more hustle?In this episode, I sit down with Ms Elizabeth Munoz - founder of Soulhaven and creator of the Radiance Reclamation OS™ - to explore what it really means to reclaim your radiance and rise as a regulated, embodied leader.This is a conversation about nervous system healing, feminine power, sacred sisterhood, and the rise of the Radiant CEO™.In This Episode, We Explore:        •        Elizabeth’s 17-year corporate career and the burnout that changed everything        •        The moment she realised it wasn’t corporate that was the problem - it was dysregulation        •        The “too much / not enough” paradox so many women live inside        •        Why ego isn’t your enemy - it’s protection        •        Heart-brain coherence and becoming magnetic through alignment        •        Sacred sisterhood and healing in community        •        Raising emotionally regulated children in a dysregulated world        •        Why your purpose isn’t prodcutivity - it's joyConnect with Ms Elizabeth Munoz at🌐 Website: www.soulhaven.com📲 Instagram: @mselizabethmunoz 📖 Download the Free Sacred Sisterhood Guide: “Too Much, Not Enough” - A Sacred Sisterhood Guide to Rising Into Radiant Radiance here   __Ready to rip off the good girl gag and say yes to your own version of a wild + finally fcking free wild woman led biz + life? Good Girls Do Not Lead Revolutions is a 3-part identity and nervous system activation that shifts you from good girl gagged to wild woman magnetic, so you stop filtering, stop shrinking, and get the f*ck on with changing the world. Join Kylie inside for just $7.Come Say Hi on InstagramDownload your FREE True Sidereal Human Design chart here 

Nic MacDowall is an authentic astrologer working with the true visible sky. She translates your celestial blueprint through True Sidereal astrology and teaches how to consciously work with the 12th house - the layer of mind that does not respond to force.The work we speak about in this episode centres around Superconscious Scripting: orienting your conscious awareness to what already exists beneath it, without pressure or performance.In part one of this two part episode, we pulled astrology out of abstraction and back into the actual sky above our heads.In part two, we move from structure to depth.From the architecture of the chart…to the layer of mind beneath it. There is a layer of your mind that does not respond to force or control. Most people sense it - but don’t know how to work with it directly.Here, we explore:        •      What the superconscious actually is - and what it absolutely isn’t        •        Why it doesn’t respond to pressure, urgency or “manifest harder” energy        •        How it responds instead - recognition, clarity and conscious direction        •        The 12th House Superconscious Scripting framework Nic created to consciously work with this layer        •        Real stories of how this unfolds in grounded, life-changing ways        •        The felt difference between fear and intuition        •        Where effort supports alignment - and where it quietly sabotages itLinks mentioned in this ep:The 12th House Superconscious Scripting offering here  The 12th Portal community for onoging guidance and communityNic's website here Connect with Nic on instagram hereHerbal Charts - Discover your personalized herbal and spice recommendations based on your astrological birth chart that can energetically support you!  __Ready to rip off the good girl gag and say yes to your own version of a wild + finally fcking free wild woman led biz + life? Good Girls Do Not Lead Revolutions is a 3-part identity and nervous system activation that shifts you from good girl gagged to wild woman magnetic, so you stop filtering, stop shrinking, and get the f*ck on with changing the world. Join Kylie inside for just $7.Come Say Hi on InstagramDownload your FREE True Sidereal Human Design chart here 

Nic MacDowall is an authentic astrologer working with the true visible sky. She translates your celestial blueprint through True Sidereal astrology and teaches how to consciously work with the 12th house - the layer of mind that does not respond to force.The work we speak about in this episode centres around Superconscious Scripting: orienting your conscious awareness to what already exists beneath it, without pressure or performance.In part one of this two part episode, we pull astrology out of abstraction and back into the actual sky above our heads.We explore:        •        Tropical vs True Sidereal - and why your chart may not have fully landed before        •        The houses as the architecture of your life - identity, home, relationships, vocation, retreat        •        Why the world feels too fast - and how that speed disconnects us from ourselves        •        The 12th house as retreat, stillness and sacred withdrawal        •        “I don’t have time” vs “I’m not prioritising myself”        •        External authority vs embodied orientationThis is not astrology as prediction. It’s astrology as gateway to self connection and self mastery.A remembering that your blueprint was never meant to box you in - it was meant to help you navigate.👉 In Part 2, we shift into a direct conversation about the superconscious - what it is, how it functions and how to consciously work with it.Links mentioned in this ep:The 12th House Superconscious Scripting offering here  The 12th Portal community for onoging guidance and communityNic's website here Connect with Nic on instagram hereHerbal Charts - Discover your personalized herbal and spice recommendations based on your astrological birth chart that can energetically support you!  __Ready to rip off the good girl gag and say yes to your own version of a wild + finally fcking free wild woman led biz + life? Good Girls Do Not Lead Revolutions is a 3-part identity and nervous system activation that shifts you from good girl gagged to wild woman magnetic, so you stop filtering, stop shrinking, and get the f*ck on with changing the world. Join Kylie inside for just $7.Come Say Hi on InstagramDownload your FREE True Sidereal Human Design chart here 

This is your call to stop negotiating your powerLet’s name it: most confidence is conditional as hell.It depends on approval. Results. Praise. Progress. Other people behaving nicely.And the moment any of that wobbles? So does your sense of self.In this solo episode, Kylie draws a hard line between confidence that performs and confidence that endures - and why only one of them can actually carry you as a leader, creator, and paradigm shifter.This isn’t about hype, mindset, or “just believe in yourself” nonsense.It’s about embodied, grounded, unshakeable self-trust - the kind that doesn’t disappear when the room goes quiet.In this episode, Kylie explores:Why “I’ll be confident when…” keeps you small and manageableWhy confidence is a state of embodiment, not a personality traitThe visceral difference between borrowed confidence and real powerHow to resource yourself so your confidence doesn’t collapse under pressureHow comparison, consumption, and overexposure quietly dismantle self-trustThis is a rally call for anyone who knows they’re here to lead, speak, disrupt, and reshape what’s possible - without waiting for permission, proof, or perfect conditions.🔸WHAT'S NEXT 🔸🎙️ GENIUS: YOU – Your True Sidereal Human Design decoded for voice, visibility, and purpose. This isn’t another reading – it’s a reckoning with your own brilliance. You’ll receive a 60+ page personalised report and audio intuitive coaching take on your innate genius, magnetic message, and how you’re designed to be seen, heard, and richly rewarded. Introductory offer of 50% off GENIUS: You readings at https://kyliepatchett.com/genius🛒 Explore the store — packed with resources + programs to help you unleash your voice, visibility, storytelling, magnetism, Human Design power, and unapologetic truth… no matter how wild, witchy, or woo woo you are.🔸CONNECT WITH ME🔸 Instagram:   / @kyliepatchettstorytellingFacebook:   / @kyliepatchettonline __Ready to rip off the good girl gag and say yes to your own version of a wild + finally fcking free wild woman led biz + life? Good Girls Do Not Lead Revolutions is a 3-part identity and nervous system activation that shifts you from good girl gagged to wild woman magnetic, so you stop filtering, stop shrinking, and get the f*ck on with changing the world. Join Kylie inside for just $7.Come Say Hi on InstagramDownload your FREE True Sidereal Human Design chart here 

In this solo episode, Kylie dives into the pressure to follow external timelines, business rules, and “expert advice” - and why none of that matters if it doesn’t match your felt sense.This is a grounded, honest conversation about cyclical energy, seasonal rhythms, and why forcing yourself to operate like everyone else is often the fastest way to burn out or disconnect from your genius.If you’ve ever felt behind, out of sync, or like your business energy doesn’t match what the internet says it “should” look like, this episode is for you.In this episode, we explore:Why January doesn’t feel like a “new year” for everyoneSeasonal energy cycles and how they actually show up in real bodies and real livesWhy rest, retreat, and integration are not failures - they’re part of sustainable successThe problem with one-size-fits-all business adviceWhat it really means to honour your resources, energy, and nervous systemHow undefined identity (hello, Blurpreneurs 👀) can amplify conditioning in businessWhy human design and astrology are tools for self-trust, not external authorityThe danger of outsourcing your inner knowing to systems, coaches, or strategiesBreaking free from old paradigm business rules and building in alignment insteadThis episode is an invitation to stop forcing yourself into someone else’s spring when you’re clearly in a winter - and to start listening inward instead.Resources mentioned in this episode:Get your free True Sky Human Design chart👉 www.kyliepatchett.com/freechartExplore Genius U - Voice + Visibility readings & reports👉 www.kyliepatchett.com/genius🔸WHAT'S NEXT 🔸🎙️ GENIUS: YOU – Your True Sidereal Human Design decoded for voice, visibility, and purpose. This isn’t another reading – it’s a reckoning with your own brilliance. You’ll receive a 60+ page personalised report and audio intuitive coaching take on your innate genius, magnetic message, and how you’re designed to be seen, heard, and richly rewarded. Introductory offer of 50% off GENIUS: You readings at https://kyliepatchett.com/genius🛒 Explore the store — packed with resources + programs to help you unleash your voice, visibility, storytelling, magnetism, Human Design power, and unapologetic truth… no matter how wild, witchy, or woo woo you are.🔸CONNECT WITH ME🔸 Instagram:   / @kyliepatchettstorytellingFacebook:   / @kyliepatchettonline __Ready to rip off the good girl gag and say yes to your own version of a wild + finally fcking free wild woman led biz + life? Good Girls Do Not Lead Revolutions is a 3-part identity and nervous system activation that shifts you from good girl gagged to wild woman magnetic, so you stop filtering, stop shrinking, and get the f*ck on with changing the world. Join Kylie inside for just $7.Come Say Hi on InstagramDownload your FREE True Sidereal Human Design chart here 

What if joy wasn’t a reward for success… but the whole damn point?In this solo episode, Kylie shares some long-held news and the deeper realisation behind it: that feeling stuck, flat, or trapped in repetition isn’t a personal failure - it’s a signal.After a heavy year of life and business, this episode is about choosing joy, freedom, and aliveness on purpose and designing both business and life to support that choice.This is the moment where “making it work” gives way to making it feel good.In this episode, Kylie explores:Letting go of grind, obligation, and success-by-enduranceWhy joy is a powerful (and under-rated) business strategyHow Groundhog Day became a catalyst instead of a comfort zoneSaying YES to a to a long-held desire for a grand adventure and taking business on the roadChoosing adventure, simplicity, and lived experience as fuelThis episode is an invitation to stop waiting for permission, stop postponing joy, and start treating aliveness as non-negotiable - in life and in business.🔸WHAT'S NEXT 🔸🎙️ GENIUS: YOU – Your True Sidereal Human Design decoded for voice, visibility, and purpose. This isn’t another reading – it’s a reckoning with your own brilliance. You’ll receive a 60+ page personalised report and audio intuitive coaching take on your innate genius, magnetic message, and how you’re designed to be seen, heard, and richly rewarded. Introductory offer of 50% off GENIUS: You readings at https://kyliepatchett.com/genius🛒 Explore the store — packed with resources + programs to help you unleash your voice, visibility, storytelling, magnetism, Human Design power, and unapologetic truth… no matter how wild, witchy, or woo woo you are. 🔸CONNECT WITH ME🔸 Instagram:   / @kyliepatchettstorytellingFacebook:   / @kyliepatchettonline __Ready to rip off the good girl gag and say yes to your own version of a wild + finally fcking free wild woman led biz + life? Good Girls Do Not Lead Revolutions is a 3-part identity and nervous system activation that shifts you from good girl gagged to wild woman magnetic, so you stop filtering, stop shrinking, and get the f*ck on with changing the world. Join Kylie inside for just $7.Come Say Hi on InstagramDownload your FREE True Sidereal Human Design chart here