23. Sometimes clutter is trauma

I’m chewing on this question: Are all “information binges” attempts to get social needs met? Reflecting on my most recent period of deep receptivity and the fragments of community I found within it. Use what moves you, let go of the rest. And let me know what resonates.   ✨ Instagram: @un.fiving   [email protected] ✨ Music by Sleeping At Last

Learn to recognize the stories that carry fear and keep you from risking close relationships. Reach past them into spirit—toward your highest values and the most expansive and free evolution of yourself. Cultivate your strength and connection to intuition by spending time with your points of power—they could be houseplants, trees, mountains, rivers, or an archetypal guide. The natural world has so much love for you. All you have to do is notice it. ⚡️

“You’re gorgeous! And you deserve a relationship that allows you to be gorgeous in the way that only you are and to share your gifts that only you have to give. Anything short of that is short of that.” A continuation of the previous episode, with more detail, exploration, practices for real growth and healing, and answers to listener questions. Let me know what you think! 💗 * Instagram: @un.fiving * [email protected] * or write a review wherever you listen Music by Sleeping at Last ✨

This one is all about the first stage of dating: preparing. If you want your dating life to look different or bring a different outcome, take a pause and reorient. I give you a few tips and starting places in this episode, including: - Let your mind know what you’re doing and get its support - Get clear on your what and your why - Make your Mary Poppins list (inspiration: https://youtu.be/fNTzp9grp2Q) - Give your mind work: investigate old patterns, outdated and subconscious operating instructions that have been landing you in not-ideal relationships, research dating apps or other ways of meeting people - Recruit trusted others - Recruit spirit 🔥 Bonus tidbit: Learn to differentiate between attractions from your wound and attractions from essence. Not just in romance, but in attraction of all kinds. When you feel yourself drawn to someone or something, ask yourself if the pull is from your wound (wanting to go back in and try for a different outcome), or from a connection of love, trust, and oneness. If you don’t know, commit to just asking the question. Answers will eventually come, and your life will open up in big ways. 💗 This is the first in a series about relationships: romantic, friendships, and others. If you have specific comments, requests, or questions about relating as a Five, send them my way! Find me on Instagram @un.fiving, send an audio message in Spotify, or email me at [email protected]. Music by Sleeping At Last

Announcing a shift: I’m adjusting my focus so that my primary goal is delivering helpful tips, wisdom, reflections, and guidance to help you as you journey along in your Fiveness or search for more insight into Enneagram Fives. I’ll include specific and sometimes personal examples or stories to support that, and still share some personal updates, but I hope to bring a bit of a different energy and focus going forward. That also includes hearing more from YOU, my dear listeners! Reach out! Say hello! Tell me what you want me to talk about, or what you want more clarity around. Share your personal struggles or puzzlements or questions as you live your life as a Five or dig into the Enneagram system itself. Tell me what you think of the podcast. Leave a rating or review. Send me a voice memo by email or through Spotify! I might even give you a shout out or feature you on the podcast. ⚡️ [email protected] Instagram: @un.fiving Send voice messages to me through Spotify: https://anchor.fm/monicabahan/message 💗 Music by Sleeping At Last

Mentions: Euphoria, Harry Potter, Rick Hanson, Tara Brach

Reflections on breaking norms, hormone surges, right timing, shifting between stability and upheaval, navigating by starlight, the hard work of embodying intentions, and probably a few other things I’m forgetting right now.

More rambling reflections from this spiral of personal evolution. 💗 Instagram: @un.fiving Music by Sleeping at Last

This week I’m wading deeper into parts work and relating to my ever-changing inner states from a place of wholeness. This shift from being merged with a feeling to being in relationship with it is a powerful one: it opens up a world of possibilities and allows the feeling to deliver its message and move on rather than getting stuck and blocking our flow. The more feelings get stuck in us, the less available we are to life, to giving and receiving and experiencing. At the end of the episode I share a super simple way to shift out of the merge state and into wholeness. The more you practice, the more flow you’ll feel. Let me know how it goes! Instagram: @un.fiving Music by Sleeping at Last

I’m addressing my inner skeptics with gratitude and farewells as I reconnect with forgotten ways of caring for myself.  I'm also exploring how to honor my inner work while stepping into more outer work: expressing, collaborating, connecting, expanding, engaging, impacting, and making bold moves.  We all have so much beauty, love, and creativity to share with the world.  What happens when we set it free?   My question for you:  What love are you keeping to yourself? How can you give it form, let it be known, set it free? Love and gratitude for Grandma Judie and Bonnie Badenoch. Special thanks to Marie Kondo. __ Instagram: @un.fiving Music by Sleeping at Last