454. Are You Afraid of Being Too Much?

Ever feel like you’re "too much" for others? Like when someone tells you you're too sensitive, too needy, or taking things too seriously?In this episode, I explore why the fear of being "too much" is so common among women and how it limits us from living fully. You'll discover why this vague but powerful fear gets weaponized against women and marginalized communities, and how to start rewiring your brain around it.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/454Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Let's Plan Your Most Audacious Goals for 2026!I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. This call will be happening on two dates: December 30th at 12pm Eastern January 5th at 12pm Eastern You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Join us live for Your Dream 2026 Planning Call here

I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. I’ll also be sharing about our signature coaching program, A Confident Life which closes just a few days after this training. This call is happening on January 5th at 12pm Eastern. You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Click here to sign up for your Dream Life Planning Call: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/dreamlifecallsMentioned in this episode:Let's Plan Your Most Audacious Goals for 2026!I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. This call will be happening on two dates: December 30th at 12pm Eastern January 5th at 12pm Eastern You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Join us live for Your Dream 2026 Planning Call here

Do you ever find yourself paralyzed by the fear of making a mistake at work, no matter how small? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that dive into how we handle fear, stress, and the pressure to be perfect.The first question is from someone working in a high-stakes field, terrified of making mistakes and facing professional consequences. The second question is about dealing with stress-induced habits like overeating or drinking, and the guilt that follows. I show you why you can’t solve the problem by just focusing on behavior... it’s your thoughts and emotions that need attention.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/453Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Let's Plan Your Most Audacious Goals for 2026!I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. This call will be happening on two dates: December 30th at 12pm Eastern January 5th at 12pm Eastern You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Join us live for Your Dream 2026 Planning Call here

I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. I’ll also be sharing about our signature coaching program, A Confident Life which closes just a few days after this training. There are two date options you can choose from for this call:December 30th at 12pm EasternJanuary 5th at 12pm Eastern You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Click here to sign up for your Dream Life Planning Call: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/dreamlifecalls

Why is it so hard to make a decision? So many of us get stuck in a cycle of overthinking, second-guessing, or waiting for external validation before we can make a choice. So in this episode, I’m sharing why women often struggle with decisiveness and how our socialization shapes the way we approach decision-making and risk. You’ll learn why embracing decisiveness is crucial for creating the life you want and get practical tips for using self-coaching to make confident, purposeful decisions that align with your goals. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/452 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Let's Plan Your Most Audacious Goals for 2026!I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. This call will be happening on two dates: December 30th at 12pm Eastern January 5th at 12pm Eastern You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Join us live for Your Dream 2026 Planning Call here

In this Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that are all too familiar if you’ve ever gotten sucked into social media comparison or felt like you’re constantly navigating emotional landmines with family. The first is about how to stop feeling awful about yourself every time you scroll through Instagram, comparing yourself to others or feeling like you’re not doing enough. The second question is about dealing with a family member who’s set boundaries that leave you feeling rejected. This episode will teach you how to separate your feelings from someone else’s behavior, take full responsibility for your emotional life, and stop outsourcing your worth to others. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/451Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Let's Plan Your Most Audacious Goals for 2026!I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. This call will be happening on two dates: December 30th at 12pm Eastern January 5th at 12pm Eastern You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Join us live for Your Dream 2026 Planning Call here

Most of us think self-trust means knowing we'll always make the right decision and that our future self will behave perfectly. But in this episode, you'll hear why this impossible standard actually sets you up to never trust yourself - and how that erodes both your confidence and your ability to create what you want in life. I share examples from my own life and give you practical steps to start creating the kind of self-trust that allows you to handle whatever comes up - not because you'll do everything right, but because you know you can deal with whatever happens. Learn more about A Confident Life here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/aconfidentlife/ Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/450Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Let's Plan Your Most Audacious Goals for 2026!I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. This call will be happening on two dates: December 30th at 12pm Eastern January 5th at 12pm Eastern You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Join us live for Your Dream 2026 Planning Call here

When you’re replaying a breakup, imagining a different version of yourself your partner might have loved more, or worrying that someone is “settling,” the problem isn’t the relationship, it’s the way your brain is using other people’s opinions to try to regulate your self-worth. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions about rejection and attraction that illustrate how quickly your mind will outsource your value to someone else’s thoughts. I break down why your brain becomes so invested in mental rehearsals, fantasies, and what-ifs, and how those patterns keep you from seeing your actual emotional life clearly. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/449Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Let's Plan Your Most Audacious Goals for 2026!I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. This call will be happening on two dates: December 30th at 12pm Eastern January 5th at 12pm Eastern You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Join us live for Your Dream 2026 Planning Call here

Confidence isn’t a magic spell, and it’s not something you’re born with. Over the course of one year working with me and other smart dynamic women, you will learn how to deploy the four skills of confidence – self-knowledge, self-compassion, self-belief and self-actualization – to create any outcome you want in your life. From the incredibly concrete (get promoted to VP) to the most ineffable (love myself more), these four skills will get you where you want to go. Join me for A Confident Life, January 12 – December 8, 2026. Click here to grab your spot or learn more: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/life

When you imagine yourself in the future, what do you see? Are you meditating at 5 a.m. before diving into the picture-perfect morning routine? Are you living by the beach with a business that makes money while you sleep? Are you making holiday cookies with your kids without ever spilling flour all over the floor? In this episode, I'm breaking down a crucial distinction that most self-help exercises about connecting to your future self completely miss: the difference between your future self and your fantasy self. You'll learn specific ways to check whether you're connecting to a helpful future self who has actual advice about your growth, or if you're indulging in a fantasy that keeps you stuck. Learn more about A Confident Life here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/aconfidentlife/ Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/448Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Let's Plan Your Most Audacious Goals for 2026!I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. This call will be happening on two dates: December 30th at 12pm Eastern January 5th at 12pm Eastern You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Join us live for Your Dream 2026 Planning Call here