Why You Chase and He Pulls Away (The Anxious-Avoidant Trap) with Thais Gibson

Have you ever let one reckless thought turn into a full night of regret?Violet kicks off a new Series of Unfortunate Events with two unbelievably embarrassing stories involving a one-night stand, a love confession to a best friend gone wrong, and the kind of confidence that only shows up right before everything goes to hell. You know those nights that should’ve ended one decision earlier? Yeah. It’s that. Because once a line gets crossed, there’s no cute way to walk it back.Get more content on: • @violetbenson on Instagram • @daddyissues_ on Instagram • YouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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They say you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife, but we’d like to think otherwise.At some point in our life, whether we are at the height of our career or living our best single lives, we all want to find that one person we can spend the rest of our life with, right? That one true love we all grew up hoping to find one day. I mean, at the very least, who doesn’t want to be with the best partner and have the best s*x at the drop of a dime?Besties, today we are joined by Hannah Berner! Hannah is the host of two extremely successful podcasts Giggly Squad and Berner Phone, a standup comedian, reality TV star, and now here with us on Almost Adulting! Today Violet and Hannah waste no time getting into things beginning with Violet calling out Hannah for not inviting her to her wedding! Hannah then goes into detail about her transition from hoe life to wife life, what it’s like dating (then marrying) an older guy, falling in love with someone you least expect to fall in love with, and why you should look for a partner that takes ugly photos of you. The two superstars also talk about the harsh realities of their professions and why checking in with yourself mentally is SO important. This episode is jam packed with hilarious stories and advice so sit back and listen up!Thanks to our sponsors:Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you visit Nutrafol.com and enter promo code ADULTING.Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at SHOPIFY.COM/adultingWhat to Listen For:00:00 Introduction00:01:13 The first time I saw you…00:02:44 Oh, cults?00:04:41 Let’s talk about weddings00:08:46 Would you date an older guy?00:13:16 What people don’t know about me…00:17:50 When people hurt other people00:20:54 What’s your definition of happiness?00:26:23 When you open up and stop pretending to be someone else00:28:00 Loving someone you didn’t imagine ending up with00:33:45 Going to the extremes, being emotionally unavailable00:37:11 What is the purpose when you post on social media?00:41:35 What about love that scared you the most?00:45:33 How does it feel to have a life partner?00:50:42 This is how the chase starts00:52:16 Compatibility in marriage00:55:29 Being loved even at your lowest00:56:12 One person can’t be your everything01:05:11 Has your definition of love changed over the years?01:08:30 What I like about his d*ck…Connect with Hannah on:TikTokTwitterInstagramWebsiteGiggle Squad PodcastBerner PhoneGet more content on:@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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WHY DO MEN ALWAYS PULL AWAY IN RELATIONSHIPS!?! Whether beginning, middle, or end, it seems to always happen at some point. That is why Violetta did all the research written by men, re-read "Why Men Don't Love Women Like You" and "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" so you don't have to, TO GIVE YOU THE ANSWER YOU'VE BEEN WAITING FOR.Today, Violetta is set on discussing the psychology behind a man's mind, the three steps to deal with the situation when a man pulls away, and how dating can be beautiful and perfect but it’s all rainbows and butterflies. It often comes with some form of conflict. What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:03 When a man pulls away, it feels like a bad romcom03:33 Reason 1: When they feel overwhelmed or uncertain about their feelings04:23 Reason 2: Some men need space06:03 Reason 3: They are unsure of the relationship06:39 Reason 4: The woman is more invested in the relationship07:35 Step #1: Do not go Britney Spears on him11:46 Step #2: Do not chase him12:57 Men and women do things differently13:34 Imagine that your partner is like a stretched rubberband16:38 Punishing a man when he pulls away is not the right approach21:16 Step #3: Focus on yourself32:20 Dating works but it always comes with some form of conflictGet more content on:@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Is your attachment style running the relationship?This week on Daddy Issues, Violet sits down with relationship expert Thais Gibson to break down why you chase, why he pulls away, and how subconscious wiring shapes the way you date.Thais Gibson is a best-selling author, counselor, and founder of the Personal Development School, known for her work on attachment styles and subconscious relationship patterns.They discuss the four attachment styles, the anxious-avoidant cycle, emotional triggers, and how childhood conditioning shapes the way you give and receive love.If the same dating patterns keep repeating in your life, this episode helps you understand why and how to start changing them.Connect with Thais Gibson: university.personaldevelopmentschool.comThanks to our sponsors:Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/adulting See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Daddy Issues starts now.This week, Violet Benson officially launches her podcast under the name that built her brand. After 12 years of building the Daddy Issues community, Violet shares the moment that pushed her to reclaim the name, protect what she created, and step fully back into the identity that started it all.Then Violet delivers a Russian big sister pep talk. She breaks down why so many women give girlfriend energy to men who can’t even text back, how “potential” keeps you stuck in the wrong relationships, and why confusion in dating usually means one thing: he’s not choosing you.She talks confidence, boundaries, self-worth, and the mindset shift that stops you from auditioning for men who were never going to pick you in the first place.If you’ve been romanticizing someone who gives you nothing, this episode is your reminder.You are the prize.TIMESTAMPS:00:13 - Welcome to Daddy Issues: Violet announces the new podcast name00:30 - Why Violet is reclaiming the Daddy Issues brand02:38 - The moment that forced Violet to protect her brand27:41 - The real episode begins: If he's confusing you, he's not choosing you. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.