Hooking Up With Your Bestie's Ex (Amanda Batula, Ciara Miller & West Wilson)

What actually counts as a divorceable offense… and what’s just relationship growing pains?In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into one of the most complex (and very requested) topics from the Sister Wives community: divorce. From lighthearted “would you leave me for this?” scenarios to deeply personal listener stories, they unpack what really pushes relationships to the breaking point—and what might still be worth working through. The conversation starts off chaotic (as always) with a game of “divorceable offense or not,” covering everything from annoying habits and phone snooping to bigger issues like emotional disconnection, broken trust, and feeling more like roommates than partners. But things quickly shift into deeper territory as they read real submissions from listeners navigating divorce in all its forms. They explore the quiet heartbreak of falling out of love, the complicated reality of staying “for the kids,” and the guilt, growth, and self-awareness that can come from infidelity. Along the way, they also talk about late-in-life coming out stories, what honesty in a marriage really looks like, and whether divorce should ever be “off the table.” Through humor, personal experiences, and a lot of honest reflection, Alix & Kayla break down the gray areas of long-term relationships—the parts that aren’t always dramatic, but still change everything.It’s emotional, messy, surprisingly funny, and deeply relatable—just the way we like it.🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes🎧 Listen on SpotifyFollow WNS on InstagramFollow WNS on TikTokFollow KaylaFollow AlixVisit our retreat center in Nicaragua!Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod  | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspodFollow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tuckerYou can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

What happens when loyalty, love, and timing all collide… and someone crosses the ultimate friendship line?In this Quickie episode, Alix & Kayla dive into one of the messiest (and most talked-about) relationship dynamics: hooking up with a friend’s ex. Using the latest Bravo drama as a jumping-off point, they break down the viral love triangle that has everyone asking the same question—is this ever okay?What starts as a pop culture deep dive quickly turns into a much bigger conversation about friendship, betrayal, and what it really means to be a “girl’s girl.” From secret hookups and overlapping situationships to the emotional fallout of being lied to, they unpack why how something happens can matter just as much as what happens.They also get personal, sharing their own college-era experiences navigating messy friend group dynamics, unspoken boundaries, and the gray area between harmless crushes and real emotional attachments. Along the way, they explore how age, intention, communication, and honesty all play a role in whether something feels forgivable—or friendship-ending.It’s chaotic, opinionated, and a little unhinged—but underneath it all is a very real question: Where is the line… and would you ever come back from crossing it?🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes🎧 Listen on SpotifyFollow WNS on InstagramFollow WNS on TikTokFollow KaylaFollow AlixVisit our retreat center in Nicaragua!Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod  | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspodFollow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tuckerYou can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

What happens when you ask the internet for their most chaotic strap-on stories?In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into one of their wildest listener-submitted topics yet—and you guys absolutely delivered. From TSA agents pulling harnesses out of carry-ons to dogs sprinting through the house with a strap-on in their mouth, the stories are equal parts hilarious, horrifying, and way too relatable.They react in real time to your submissions, breaking down everything from travel mishaps and accidental family discoveries to the universal question: what actually ruins the mood? Along the way, they share their own experiences—like navigating a surprise silicone allergy, testing different materials, and the moment a very wrong-sized replacement showed up.The conversation also gets into the realities no one really talks about: figuring out what works for your body, the awkward logistics of sex toys, and whether people are out here bringing their own to the function (??).Through listener stories, personal chaos, and a few business ideas that probably shouldn’t exist, Alix & Kayla explore the funny, messy, and very real side of sex and relationships.It’s chaotic, honest, and absolutely not safe for family listening.🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes🎧 Listen on SpotifyFollow WNS on InstagramFollow WNS on TikTokFollow KaylaFollow AlixVisit our retreat center in Nicaragua!Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod  | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspodFollow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tuckerYou can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

What happens when great chemistry meets… not-so-great sexual compatibility?In this Quickie episode, Alix & Kayla respond to a vulnerable listener question about navigating intimacy with a “baby gay” partner who’s never been with a woman—and isn’t quite enjoying sex yet. From struggling to orgasm to feeling unsure about what actually feels good, they unpack the many layers that could be at play.The conversation dives into everything from internalized shame and sexual inexperience to the mental side of pleasure and how pressure can completely shut things down. They also talk about the reality that many women—regardless of their partner’s gender—haven’t fully explored what works for their own bodies.Through personal experiences and plenty of humor, Alix & Kayla emphasize the importance of communication, curiosity, and taking the pressure off performance. Whether it’s experimenting with new approaches, making things playful, or simply asking the right questions, they break down how couples can navigate these tricky (and very common) situations together.It’s honest, supportive, a little chaotic—and full of reminders that good sex is something you build, not something you’re just supposed to magically know.🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes🎧 Listen on SpotifyFollow WNS on InstagramFollow WNS on TikTokFollow KaylaFollow AlixVisit our retreat center in Nicaragua!Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod  | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspodFollow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tuckerYou can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

What does it actually mean to be masc or femme… and who decided the rules?In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into one of the most unexpectedly heated topics in the Sister Wives community: masc vs. femme beauty standards. After a TikTok clip sparked a wave of strong opinions, they unpack the nuance behind it all—reading real listener comments, challenging their own perspectives, and asking the bigger question: who is actually setting these standards?From body expectations and androgyny to acne, fashion, and the pressure to “look the part,” the conversation explores how masc and femme identities are perceived both inside the queer community and in the heteronormative world. They also get into the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways misogyny can still show up in queer spaces—and how differently masc-presenting women are treated in everyday life.Of course, it wouldn’t be this podcast without a little chaos—so expect games like “Masc or Straight Man,” tangents about backwards hats, and a surprisingly deep dive into America’s Next Top Model and early 2000s beauty culture.It’s honest, messy, and full of hot takes… but at the end of the day, it comes back to one thing: confidence, authenticity, and saying f** the rules.🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes🎧 Listen on SpotifyFollow WNS on InstagramFollow WNS on TikTokFollow KaylaFollow AlixVisit our retreat center in Nicaragua!Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod  | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspodFollow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tuckerYou can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

Alix and Kayla are back with a quickie—but this one spirals into a very juicy conversation 👀In this episode, they dive into the internet drama surrounding a longtime influencer whose life took a major turn—from young marriage and mommy-vlogger perfection to divorce, coming out, and now… a rumored (and confirmed?) throuple.They unpack everything:The timeline of her relationship and coming outThe internet’s reaction (supportive, confused, and very judgmental)The complexity of labels like “lesbian,” “bi,” and “fluid”What it actually means to be in a throupleWhether polyamory is comparable to queer identityAnd the real-life logistics of relationships that don’t follow the normPlus, Alix and Kayla share their own takes on monogamy vs. non-monogamy, jealousy, parenting in unconventional relationships, and whether a throuple could ever work for them.It’s messy, thoughtful, funny, and full of questions we’re all kind of wondering…👉 Would you ever be in a throuple? 👉 Do labels matter in modern dating? 👉 And can relationships like this actually work long-term?Let’s talk about it.🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes🎧 Listen on SpotifyFollow WNS on InstagramFollow WNS on TikTokFollow KaylaFollow AlixVisit our retreat center in Nicaragua!Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod  | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspodFollow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tuckerYou can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

What actually counts as sexy… and what’s just awkward?In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into a spicy (and very funny) conversation about lesbian sex, flirting, and the little moments that can either turn up the heat or completely ruin the vibe. From being pushed against the fridge to intense eye contact, belt-loop pulling, accidental headbutts, and the infamous phrase “good girl,” they unpack the tiny details that make intimacy work—or make you burst out laughing mid-makeout.Along the way, they also talk about how humor plays a role in relationships, the awkward reality of real-life intimacy versus movie moments, and why some “sexy” tropes just don’t translate in real life.It’s chaotic, honest, and full of the kind of conversations you only hear between married lesbians who have no filter.01:05 The Wi-Fi name that made them laugh 01:40 Ex-Mormon lesbian love story obsession 02:20 Why Mormon stories keep finding them 03:00 How listeners shape the podcast 03:35 Today’s topic: “girls hooking up with girls” 04:00 Beating the algorithm (aka avoiding the phrase lesbian sex) 04:15 Game time: Sexy or Silly 04:40 Being pushed against the fridge 05:10 Whispering “come here” from across the room 05:30 Intense eye contact 05:50 Accidental headbutts during a kiss 06:05 Laughing during a makeout 06:25 Saying “good girl” 06:40 Being called “trouble” 07:00 Sexy texts vs. nude photos 07:25 Pulling someone by the belt loops 07:40 Trying to be dominant but apologizing immediately 08:00 Whispering something sexy… and mispronouncing it 08:10 Making a playlist for the moment 08:30 When the “sexy playlist” completely kills the mood🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes🎧 Listen on SpotifyFollow WNS on InstagramFollow WNS on TikTokFollow KaylaFollow AlixVisit our retreat center in Nicaragua!Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod  | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspodFollow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tuckerYou can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

There’s one very gay show everyone seems to be talking about right now… so naturally, Alix & Kayla haven’t watched it.In this quickie episode, they dive into the internet’s latest obsession — “Heated Rivalry.” From the extremely passionate fan reactions to the very explicit scenes circulating on social media, the show has taken over queer corners of the internet. The only problem? Kayla has a hard time watching shows where the main characters are men.The conversation turns into a hilarious exploration of queer media consumption: why some lesbians love watching gay male storylines, why others struggle to connect with them, and how attraction (or lack of it) affects the way we watch TV. They also talk about supporting queer content even when it’s not exactly your flavor, the differences between lesbian and gay male media, and the constant pressure to show up for representation so these shows keep getting made.It’s a chaotic, funny, and very honest chat about queer TV, internet discourse, and the complicated ways we relate to representation on screen.00:40 Today’s topic: the gayest show everyone’s talking about 01:06 The “Heated Rivalry” obsession online 01:30 The big reveal: we haven’t watched it 01:49 Kayla’s issue with shows led by men 02:14 The misandry debate 02:34 Why Kayla struggles to connect with male-led stories 03:18 When queer media still doesn’t fully resonate 03:58 Why lesbians might not relate to gay male storylines 04:22 The internet’s obsession with the show’s spicy scenes 04:43 Do lesbians actually enjoy watching gay male content? 05:05 The divide in queer audiences 05:31 Supporting queer media—even when it’s not your thing 05:49 Would we watch a male-only queer reality show?🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes🎧 Listen on SpotifyFollow WNS on InstagramFollow WNS on TikTokFollow KaylaFollow AlixVisit our retreat center in Nicaragua!Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod  | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspodFollow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tuckerYou can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

Alix & Kayla dive into one of the most requested topics from the Sister Wives community: the experience of bi women in relationships with male partners. After asking their audience for stories and questions, they unpack everything from “allowed cheating” dynamics and open relationships to the emotional reality of choosing monogamy when you’re attracted to more than one gender. The conversation explores the complicated feelings that can come up in long-term relationships—like grieving parts of your identity, navigating attraction to others, and figuring out what honesty actually looks like in a committed partnership. They also discuss common assumptions people have about bisexual women, including threesomes, monogamy, and whether partners feel threatened by same-sex attraction. Through listener submissions and personal experiences, Alix & Kayla break down the nuances of bisexual identity, relationships, and the messy gray areas that rarely get talked about.01:40 – Marriage “Myth or Truth” Game 04:00 – Living & Recording in Nicaragua 06:30 – Relationship Habits & Fight Dynamics 10:20 – Today’s Topic: Bi Women With Male Partners 11:00 – Is the Word “Female” Offensive? 12:00 – Questions From the Sister Wives Community 14:00 – Do Bi Women’s Partners Support LGBTQ+ Rights? 15:10 – The Stereotypes: Threesomes & Open Relationships 16:20 – Listener Story: Open Marriage With Women Only 18:00 – What It’s Like “Turning Off” Part of Your Identity 21:10 – The “Open Energy” of Being Single vs. Married 23:30 – Grieving a Lifestyle or Version of Yourself 26:30 – Attraction Outside of a Relationship 27:50 – “Allowed Cheating” With Women 30:00 – Do Men See Women as Less of a Threat? 39:30 – When an Old Flame Reaches Out 41:00 – Why Waiting Before Responding Matters 45:00 – Honesty vs. Protecting Your Partner’s Feelings 53:30 – Is It Okay to Talk to Friends About Relationship Problems? 55:00 – Deal Breakers in Relationships🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes🎧 Listen on SpotifyFollow WNS on InstagramFollow WNS on TikTokFollow KaylaFollow AlixVisit our retreat center in Nicaragua!Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod  | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspodFollow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tuckerYou can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

What’s worse: sending a cringe DM… or fumbling someone you already married in your head?In this Quickie episode, Alix & Kayla break down the viral DM moment between Becca Moore and Zoe Boyd that divided the internet. When a flirty (but arguably unhinged) cat-related message landed in Becca’s inbox, the internet split into teams: Was it just a joke? Was it too sexual too fast? Or did both of them fumble the bag?From DM etiquette and Gen Z flirting to “lines,” thirst traps, and how to actually message someone you’re interested in, the girls unpack what works, what absolutely does not, and Alix shares her tried-and-true three-step strategy for sliding into someone’s DMs successfully.It’s funny, chaotic, and surprisingly educational.So… who fumbled? And what’s the best DM you’ve ever received?Let us know, sister wives.00:45 – The Viral Becca Moore & Zoe Boyd DM Drama02:30 – The Cat DM That Broke the Internet04:15 – Too Sexual Too Soon?06:10 – Grace for a Cringe First Message?07:10 – Alix’s Foolproof 3-Step DM Strategy09:00 – Does Gen Z Flirt Differently?10:00 – Should Becca Have Responded?11:40 – When “Lines” Actually Backfire12:40 – DM Etiquette: Do People Even Like Being DM’d?13:20 – Who Fumbled: Becca, Zoe, or Both?14:35 – Best & Worst DMs We’ve Ever Received15:10 – Let the Sister Wives Decide🔔 Subscribe on YouTube for more episodes🎧 Listen on SpotifyFollow WNS on InstagramFollow WNS on TikTokFollow KaylaFollow AlixVisit our retreat center in Nicaragua!Connect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod  | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspodFollow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tuckerYou can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!