Ep. 135 Intrusive thoughts and how to quiet the storm in minutes 🎤 Andrea Drops the Mic 🎤

You are so resourced, but only if you understand what's actually running the show in your head. This one cracks open intrusive thoughts: what they are, why you have them, and why they're not actually trying to ruin your life.   Here's what we talk about in this one: Why intrusive thoughts feel like background noise stealing your energy, and how much time they're actually costing you A real voice memo pulled apart in real time: how "I'm the saddest girl who ever lived" becomes "I'm clearly not the saddest girl, I have too many life lotto moments" Princess OS vs. Queen OS, and how the single word "see" gives away which one you're operating from The "4-year-old guarding the gates" concept: why guilt, fear, shame, and anger are well-intentioned but badly equipped for the job they were hired to do What actually happens when you stop trying to silence intrusive thoughts and instead ask them what they're protecting Why upgrading the emotion (not suppressing it) is what restores presence, connection, and even libido What tends to shift for women by day 14 of doing this work consistently   Remember, you are so resourced. Here are the ones mentioned in this episode: Ignite His Leadership — my masterclass on clearing the walls to receiving support Feminine Velocity — my program for making higher-impact choices with more leverage and less energy   Leave me a voicemail HERE with your question for a chance to have it answered on a future episode! Get notifications when new episodes drop by tapping the "follow" button! And if you loved this episode, [follow me on Instagram @love_andreacrowder & let me know by leaving a review! 👯‍♀️ Share with a friend you think could benefit from this message! 💋 Create your own private podcast feed like this with Hello Audio! You will even get 2 months free using my link!

I'm back after taking my first-ever podcast break, and I'm telling you exactly why. This isn't your typical "my business crushed me" comeback story. Mine is a health one. I'm opening up about a brutal year of severely low ferritin and thyroid levels that left me feeling like a literal prisoner in my own body (dead arms, brain fog, days I couldn't even lift my head) and the very real business fallout that came with it, including having to let a longtime team member go. I'm walking you through the exact protocol that brought my spark back: what I tested, what worked, what I wish a doctor had told me sooner, plus the emotional and energetic work I credit as the real turning point. Raw, honest, and packed with the pattern-recognition lens I want you to apply to your own energy dips, health-related or not.   Here's what we talk about in this one: Why this comeback story is about health, not business burnout, and the hard financial and team decisions I made while my energy was crashing The eldest-daughter, hyper-independent patterns that made it hard for me to receive help, and how that showed up even with my partner My exact testing and tracking process: monthly at-home blood work, chasing ferritin and thyroid numbers instead of guessing The supplement stack that moved the needle (and the one thing no doctor told me about iron + caffeine) The energetic work with Jen from Soulful Footprints — heart wall releases and the thyroid session that turned things around almost overnight Why I believe you have to look at the physical, emotional, and energetic layers together when your energy tanks A preview of the new podcast season all about getting your spark back, including upcoming episodes on business "handcuffs," unworthiness, and knowing when a pattern (not the relationship or business) is really the problem   Remember, you are so resourced. Here are the ones mentioned in this episode: Rhythm — at-home monthly blood work (use your FSA account if you have one) Heart & Soil — Anemia Stack Thorne — Basic Nutrients 2-A-Day multivitamin MTE — energy supplement Jen, Soulful Footprints — Heartwall sessions & emotion code work (code ANDREA10) Ignite His Leadership — my masterclass on clearing the walls to receiving support Feminine Velocity — my program for making higher-impact choices with more leverage and less energy   Leave me a voicemail HERE with your question for a chance to have it answered on a future episode! Get notifications when new episodes drop by tapping the "follow" button! And if you loved this episode, [follow me on Instagram @love_andreacrowder & let me know by leaving a review! 👯‍♀️ Share with a friend you think could benefit from this message! 💋 Create your own private podcast feed like this with Hello Audio! You will even get 2 months free using my link!

Tiffany Marlink spent 25 years in corporate, including time at Ernst & Young and Intel, before walking away from a director-level career to build a life that actually felt like her. Today, she's the host of the Lightworker Diaries podcast, founder of the Intuitive Writers Guild, and a truth teller who helps conscious creatives find their voice and build from joy instead of obligation. In this episode, Tiffany shares what it really looked like to leave an impressive career, sit in the uncertainty, and trust that something better was being built even when nothing had bloomed yet. If you're in a season of pivot or wondering whether the thing that lights you up is worth betting on, this one is for you.   Here's what we talk about in this one: Walking away from a multi-million dollar CFO role at the height of her career, and why she knew she couldn't just rebuild what she'd left The childhood story of being "meant to be seen and not heard" and how 25 years of filtering her voice led her to writing as the tool that set her free Launching the Intuitive Writers Guild: a community built around writing as a path to self-discovery, manifestation, and coming home to your own voice Why the community she could vision so clearly 18 months ago wasn't ready then, and what had to happen first How tracking 285 wins in a single month changed the way her brain registered "enough"   Remember, you are so resourced. Here are the ones mentioned in this episode: Join the Intuitive Writers Guild Follow Tiffany on Instagram Check out Tiffany on Threads Subscribe to the Lightworker Diaries on Substack   Leave me a voicemail HERE with your question for a chance to have it answered on a future episode! Get notifications when new episodes drop by tapping the "follow" button! And if you loved this episode, follow me on Instagram @love_andreacrowder & let me know by leaving a review! 👯‍♀️ + Share with a friend you think could benefit from this message! 💋 Create your own private podcast feed like this with Hello Audio! You will even get 2 months free using my link!

What if the trigger you’ve been managing is actually a doorway to your deepest wisdom? What if the fastest path to sovereignty wasn’t more strategy, but finally letting your body lead? In this conversation, Andrea sits down with her dear friend Tracy Litt, a neuroscience-meets-soul powerhouse and founder of The School of Becoming®, for the kind of conversation that changes you mid-sentence. Tracy Litt is a global visionary and the founder of The School of Becoming®, a premier personal evolution company redefining the way high-achieving leaders rise. She is an international best-selling author, podcast host, TEDx speaker, and a licensed expert in professional coaching, neurology, somatics, and hypnotherapy. Tracy shares how our nervous systems imprint our earliest wounds, why even the most successful women are often living in invisible victimhood, and what it actually means to choose sovereignty when someone you love is doing something that drives you crazy. Plus: the science behind triggers, the story of how The Choice Method was born on a date night gone wrong, and why “offensive self-love” might be the most important concept you haven’t heard yet. This episode isn’t just about personal growth. It’s about becoming so deeply at home in yourself that everything around you has no choice but to shift.   Here's what we play with in this one: Why fullest expression, not expansion, is the key to accessing your true medicine The fear of being misunderstood and what it actually costs you What really happens in your body when you’re triggered (and why coping is not the answer) How childhood nervous system imprints shape your relationships, your patterns, and your power The difference between taking personal responsibility and actually doing something valuable with it Sovereignty vs. victimhood: why even high-achievers are leaving their power on the table The birth of The Choice Method on a very quiet car ride   Remember, you are so resourced. Here are the ones mentioned in this episode: Learn more about Ignite His Leadership HERE! Follow Tracy on Instagram! Download The School of Becoming app HERE Join the waitlist for The Becoming House HERE Learn more about The Choice Method HERE Interested in taking a peek at all that Tracy has to offer? Come look!   Leave me a voicemail HERE with your question for a chance to have it answered on a future episode! Get notifications when new episodes drop by tapping the "follow" button! And if you loved this episode, follow me on Instagram @love_andreacrowder & let me know by leaving a review! 👯‍♀️ + Share with a friend you think could benefit from this message! 💋 Create your own private podcast feed like this with Hello Audio! You will even get 2 months free using my link!

Kate Northrup is the creator of Relaxed Money™, a neuroscience-based method for recalibrating power and wealth for high-functioners. She is the bestselling author of "Money: A Love Story" and "Do Less", named one of Booklist’s Top Time Management Books of All Time. Her podcast, Plenty, ranks in the top 0.5% globally. Her work has been featured by The New York Times, Oprah Daily, The Today Show, Glamour, and Harvard Business Review.   What if your nervous system held the key to your financial freedom? What if the way your body processes stress, pleasure, and safety was literally dictating how money moves in your life? In this electrifying conversation, Andrea sits down with Kate Northrup, bestselling author and money-energy genius, to crack open the truth about wealth. Not just what's in your bank account, but what's living in your body. Kate shares how she hit financial highs that felt hollow and lows that shook her to her core, until she unlocked a new way. A way rooted in nervous system healing, abundance without burnout, and money that actually feels good to hold, spend, and receive. This episode isn't just about making more, it's about feeling more, living more, and finally allowing money to move in your life like it was always meant to.   Here's what we play with in this one: Why your childhood money blueprint is still running the show and how to rewrite it The sneaky ways stress hijacks your ability to hold onto wealth Dopamine vs. oxytocin money circuits: are you chasing the high or settling into true wealth? The unconventional method Kate swears by to rewire limiting financial patterns The surprising role of pleasure, community, and energy flow in your money game   Remember, you are so resourced. Here are the ones mentioned in this episode: Want a custom 90-day plan for your money? Join us in Kate’s free 3-day workshop, Good with Money! Follow Kate on Instagram Learn more about Kate Northrup HERE Listen to Kate Northrup’s podcast with Tracy Goodwin on how your voice is repelling sales!   Leave me a voicemail HERE with your question for a chance to have it answered on a future episode! Get notifications when new episodes drop by tapping the "follow" button! And if you loved this episode, follow me on Instagram @love_andreacrowder & let me know by leaving a review! 👯‍♀️ + Share with a friend you think could benefit from this message! 💋 Create your own private podcast feed like this with Hello Audio! You will even get 2 months free using my link!

What does it actually look like to build a company you could walk away from, and then do it? Britt Holloway, known online as Lawyer Britt, did exactly that. She left her job in the middle of a pandemic, launched her law firm from scratch, and five years later exited as the owner of a thriving 15-person operation. Not because she burned out, but because she built so well that she had the option. And having the option changed everything. Britt now coaches lawyers and service-based professionals through her Freedom Factors framework so they can stop being the operator and finally become the owner. Her flagship program, Proximity, gives high-achievers the strategy and structure to scale without sacrificing the life they actually want. This one is for every woman who's doing everything herself and wondering why freedom still feels so far away.   Here's what we talk about in this one: Why building a sellable company and building a free company are actually the same thing, and how Britt proved it in just over five years The napkin math that made Britt realize she was already living her Plan B Hiring before you feel ready: why speed to delegation is actually the fastest path to scale The people-pleasing pattern that keeps high-achieving women from firing the wrong people, even when everyone else is paying the price Building a business that doesn't need you to survive   Remember, you are so resourced. Here are the ones mentioned in this episode: Follow Britt on Instagram! Design to Scale — Britt's 90-day group program for building a scalable, self-managed company (open now) Smooth Scaling Masterclass — DM Britt the word SMOOTH on Instagram to access Britt’s Secret Podcast — The full story of how Britt sold her firm. DM Britt or comment on one of her posts SECRET PODCAST   Leave me a voicemail HERE with your question for a chance to have it answered on a future episode! Get notifications when new episodes drop by tapping the "follow" button! And if you loved this episode, follow me on Instagram @love_andreacrowder & let me know by leaving a review! 👯‍♀️ + Share with a friend you think could benefit from this message! 💋 Create your own private podcast feed like this with Hello Audio! You will even get 2 months free using my link!

Keri Ford, former Creative Director and ex-corporate leader, now serves as an award-winning advisor to the world's most influential women in business. As CEO & Founder of Elevate with Keri, a global high-performance coaching company, she empowers female founders and executives to achieve new heights through her cutting-edge methodologies in nervous system regulation, peak neuroscience performance, and an embodied approach in leadership. Keri isn't just a coach. She's trained through Dr. Peter Levine's three-year Somatic Experiencing program at the Trauma Institute, and she brings that rare crossroads of nervous system science and high-level business strategy to every client she touches. Because success that looks good but feels like chaos? That's not success. This one will change how you think about your buyers, your business, and your body.   Here's what we play with in this one: The difference between trauma-informed and trauma-trained — and why it matters who you hire The post-pandemic nervous system hangover that's quietly running your buyer's behavior Why the buyer cycle is longer now and what the "trust recession" actually means for your offers The guac and chips model — how to let people date you before they commit Why your low-ticket offer isn't just a revenue stream, it's a nervous system strategy How self-trust (or the lack of it) is the invisible force behind every buying decision What Keri is doubling down on in 2026 that most people are sleeping on The window of tolerance — what it is, why your clients' cups are overflowing, and what to do about it Why in-person events are about to become the hottest commodity in the industry Substack, long-form content, and why slow consumption is making a comeback How to give your clients a quick win from day one — even in a digital program The 86 founder-focused meditations for $27 that helped someone do a $200K launch   Remember, you are so resourced. Here are the ones mentioned in this episode: Follow Keri on Instagram! Follow Keri on Facebook! Learn more about Keri and what she does HERE! Learn more about The Champagne Club HERE!   Leave me a voicemail HERE with your question for a chance to have it answered on a future episode! Get notifications when new episodes drop by tapping the "follow" button! And if you loved this episode, follow me on Instagram @love_andreacrowder & let me know by leaving a review! 👯‍♀️ + Share with a friend you think could benefit from this message! 💋 Create your own private podcast feed like this with Hello Audio! You will even get 2 months free using my link!

You know that moment when strategy makes your whole body cringe? When you open the rubric, the course, the "next step" — and everything in you tightens? That's not a sign you're doing it wrong. It's a sign you're doing it out of order. In this quickie solo episode, I'm breaking down the real reason strategy gets such a bad rap — and it's not because strategy is the problem. It's because we try to manufacture energy instead of following where the current already is. I'm sharing two real client moments that perfectly illustrate what happens when you force it versus when you follow the flow — including the woman who sat by the pool with a glass of Prosecco and channeled the best sales copy of her life. Inside this Episode: Why strategy vs. flow is the wrong debate The difference between manufacturing energy and following the current What to do when something feels forced (it's not what you think) How one client was building a product for the wrong person — and didn't know it The order of operations that makes everything feel like flow How I went from hating ads to being obsessed — and brought in 900+ new customers in 6 weeks The only question that ever matters: where's the current? When you follow it, even strategy feels like flow. When you fight it, even "ease" feels like effort. Stop asking "is this strategy or flow?" and start asking "does this have energy right now?" Want to go deeper? Check out The Met Woman for more tools to build the kind of business that moves with you, not against you.   Leave me a voicemail HERE with your question for a chance to have it answered on a future episode! Get notifications when new episodes drop by tapping the "follow" button! And if you loved this episode, follow me on Instagram @love_andreacrowder & let me know by leaving a review! 👯‍♀️ + Share with a friend you think could benefit from this message! 💋 Create your own private podcast feed like this with Hello Audio! You will even get 2 months free using my link!

In this episode, I'm joined by the magnetic, wildly talented Chellie Carlson — the woman who went from a retail wage and zero savings to $40,000 styling packages in just a few years. And she did it starting at 40. Chellie Carlson isn't just a stylist—she transforms lives through style. As an LA-based stylist working with top executives, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders from around the world. She takes clients from feeling just fine in their clothes to feeling absolutely magnetic every time they walk into a room. With 25 years in fashion and a deep understanding of the psychology and the energetics of style, Chellie created The Method, a game-changing approach that blends closet therapy, strategic shopping, and personalized styling to unlock next-level confidence. Featured in The New York Post and Business Insider, she’s on a mission to help people step into their full power—because when you dress like your most unstoppable self, you become them.   This one will make you look at your closet (and yourself) completely differently.   Here's what we play with in this one: Why your wardrobe is the most underutilized manifestation tool you own The identity shift that took Chellie from $2,500 packages to $40K — and how she held it as a woman Body dysmorphia: the thing every woman deals with (yes, even the powerful ones flying in on private jets) Why "size up, tailor down" is the styling philosophy that changes everything The conditioning from your mother that's still running your closet today How getting dressed every day is neuroscience-backed energy work What happened when Chellie moved to LA with zero clients booked — and had her biggest month ever Style as a daily self-care practice, not a shopping spree The connection between how you dress, what you charge, and who you attract   ✨ Try this: For the next 30 days, get your hot ass dressed every single day — even if you're not leaving the house. Watch how your energy shifts, how people respond to you, and how your confidence compounds. Stack your wins daily. Then DM Chellie and me, and tell us what changed. Remember, you are so resourced. Here are the ones mentioned in this episode: Follow Chellie on Instagram Join The Style Society — Chellie's $55/month membership for women ready to discover their signature look and start dressing as the woman they're becoming.  Book Chellie's private 1:1 styling experience for the full transformation.  The Science of Scaling by Benjamin Hardy Be Your Future Self Now by Benjamin Hardy 10X Is Easier Than 2X by Benjamin Hardy and Dan Sullivan Want to go deeper? Check out The Met Woman - Get Your Feminine Spark Back for more tools to embody the queen energy that has your desires chasing you.

What happens when two people who've done "all the work" move in together and old blueprints come roaring back? In this episode, Andrea and Keith (the Internet's boyfriend) get raw about what really happened when they moved in together after a year of euphoric connection. Andrea shares how she regressed 20 years into "perform for love, earn your safety" patterns. Keith reveals what it's like when your woman is bracing and you can't figure out why, even when you're saying everything "right." This isn't a cute couples episode. This is the biology of what actually breaks relationships down, and how to repair them by staying in your heart even when you're scared shitless.   Key Moments: "Even though I'm so well trained in emotional regulation and I do this for work...he's not my client, he's my partner. I need to know and trust that he's gonna dig in and do his own inner work." "One of the sexiest fucking things you could do or be for your woman is to be sturdy. Not wishy-washy. A solid, truthful, sturdy message." "I had to ask myself: What are my belief systems about men and why do I want them to be true? My answer: I'll be disappointed. Why? Because that way I can prove that I'll save myself." "I was a runner until I met the man I didn't wanna run from." "The second you're like 'let me say this perfectly' to manage their emotions, all the nonverbal biological signals start saying: I don't trust you. I don't trust us. I don't trust this situation." "No conflict can be resolved from your mind. You'll always say the healthy thing if you can stick in your fucking heart the whole time." "We created this devotional practice: If there's conflict, we can't speak to each other unless we can stay in our heart. And if we pop out, we breathe and drop back in." "The first emotion that comes up when somebody brings you something is not the truth. That's your old blueprint. That's a trigger." "I developed an allergy to defending myself. Every single time I did, nothing good happened." "Become the masterclass. When I started clearing all my triggers (sometimes 10 a day) my spine got straighter and straighter. The second I was decisive and held my Queen posture, he was like 'whatever you need, I'm all in.'"   Resources Mentioned: Sterling Men's Weekend (Sterling Institute of Relationship) - Keith's foundational masculine work Heart wall session (Jennifer - DM Andrea for contact) Spine of a Queen - Andrea's 12-month $25K mastermind for established female entrepreneurs (starts Jan 6, 2026, limited to 25 women) The Met Woman - Self-paced program for any woman wanting to create internal safety and become equally met in every room (launching officially January 2026, early enrollment available)