186: Letting Go of Control as a Parent (And Teaching Your Kids to Trust Themselves)

So many women feel stuck in midlife — not because something is wrong, but because they’ve unknowingly given their power away.In this episode, I’m sharing something I recently witnessed that made me pause and reflect on a pattern I see all the time.It’s the belief that someone outside of us is responsible for fixing our lives.Our job.Our partner.Our circumstances.Even the systems around usAnd while those things can absolutely impact us, the moment we believe someone else is responsible for our healing or happiness… we unknowingly give away the very power that could change our lives.In this episode, I’m breaking down 3 signs you might be giving your power away without realizing it, including:• Waiting for someone else to change before you can feel better• Repeating the same story about why nothing ever works• Believing healing or peace will come from something outside of youAnd more importantly, I share how awareness is the first step to reclaiming your power.Because real change doesn’t begin with fixing your life.It begins with noticing the patterns running it.Waitlist for the 21 day journey of awareness to the patterns that are keeping you stuck from living a life you desire.RENAISSANCE 21DAYSOur partner.Our circumstances.Even the systems around us.

In This Episode, Jennifer and Lianne Talk About:✨ The nervous system — in plain EnglishWhy most people don’t actually understand what “nervous system regulation” meansThe problem with trendy buzzwords that sound good but don’t landHow your nervous system quietly runs your reactions, energy, and emotions🔥 Women and expressionWhy so many women apologize for cryingThe fear of being labeled “angry,” “too much,” or “a bitch”How suppressing expression creates more internal stress🧠 Menopause, ADHD, or… stress?The current wave of labeling everything as menopause or ADHDWhy not every shift needs a diagnosisThe overlooked truth: sometimes you’re just deeply stressedHow chronic stress can look like burnout, avoidance, irritability, or shutdown💛 The core messageYour reactions are not randomYour body isn’t brokenThere’s wisdom in your responsesRegulation starts with understanding, not labelingFollow Jennifer on IG @jgrovewellnessFollow Lianne on IG @liannemcaugheyCheck out this book that Lianne mentionedBurnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

In this episode, I share a recent realization around trying to control my kids’ eating habits and what it revealed about projection, fear, and trust.If you’ve ever worried about whether your kids are making the “right” choices — around food, health, school, or life — this conversation will help you release control without disengaging as a parent.We’ll talk about:Why control often comes from fearHow over-managing can disconnect kids from their intuitionThe balance between guidance and sovereigntyPractical ways to step back while still leadingThis is about raising self-trusting humans — not perfectly managed ones.Episode 185: The evolution of the podcastJoin us on March 11th for the PATTERN BREAKER 21 day journey, register herePATTERN BREAKERFollow Lianne on IG @liannemcaugheyReady for your RENAISSANCE, your REBIRTH?If you are a woman in midlife who is craving more connection, soulful conversations and new adventures, join us in Italy for a 5 day bespoke experience,Register here for more info:RENAISSANCE EXPERIECE

Have you ever asked yourself if something in your life has run its course… or if it just needs a pivot?In this honest solo episode of The Spiritual Shift Worker, I share the real question I’ve been sitting with: Is this podcast done? Or is it simply evolving?But this conversation isn’t really about the podcast.It’s about self-trust.It’s about what happens when you feel something shifting — a relationship, a career, a creative project, an identity — and you don’t yet know what comes next.In this episode, we explore:How to know when something is truly over vs. ready for a pivotWhy growth can feel like an endingThe difference between making a decision from impulse vs. inner knowingWhy you don’t need the full roadmap before taking your next stepHow trusting yourself creates clarity and momentumYou’ll also hear about a powerful reminder I received: timing is always right when you’re aligned. The real question isn’t what you decide — it’s where that decision is coming from.If you’ve been feeling uncertain, restless, or on the edge of change, this episode will give you permission to trust your own guidance — even if you can’t see the full path ahead.✨ You don’t need to know the next step before making a decision.✨ Pivoting isn’t failure — it’s growth.✨ When you act from alignment, clarity follows.Journal Prompt:What is the next aligned choice I can make right now, even if I don’t know what comes next?Enjoy the shift — one breath at a time.Book a SIT WITH ME session - A complimentary 20 minute coffee chat to see where you might be ready to PIVOT.Follow Lianne on IG @liannemcaughey

So many women feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and tapped out — yet quietly believe they’re the only ones struggling.In this episode, I’m sharing a realization that became crystal clear for me after attending a women’s retreat: women aren’t broken — their nervous systems are overloaded.We’re often told to “do less,” “let it go,” or “eliminate stress.”But real life doesn’t always allow that.You can’t always quit the job.You can’t eliminate responsibility.And you can’t opt out of being human.So the real question becomes:How do we build the capacity in our bodies to hold life — without collapsing under it?In this episode, we explore the difference between nervous system regulation, capacity, and resilience — and why building internal capacity is often more important than trying to remove external stressors.Why stress itself isn’t the problem — nervous system overload isWhat “capacity” actually means in the bodyThe difference between regulation, capacity, and resilienceWhy breathwork and meditation don’t remove stress — but change how your body responds to itThe fine line between building capacity and knowing when it’s time to release somethingWhy “just let it go” can actually create more shame for overwhelmed womenHow regulation creates clarity instead of urgencyWhy so many women feel alone — even though so many are strugglingHow to support your nervous system in a realistic, sustainable wayYou don’t need a different life.You need a nervous system and a body that can hold the life you’re living.If you’re craving support rather than another thing to fix, I invite you to:Join a Sit With Me session — a guided space for nervous system regulation and co-regulationLearn more about my upcoming retreat, designed to help you build capacity so you can return to life feeling more grounded and resourcedBook a SIT WITH ME Session here Join us in Italy by adding your name to the waitlist hereRENAISSANCE EXPERIENCE

For many women, midlife doesn’t arrive as a crisis — it arrives as a quiet realization.In this episode, I’m joined by Amanda Clark for a grounded conversation about early conditioning, nervous system adaptation, and how we learn — often without realizing it — to trust external authority over our own inner signals.We talk about how these patterns aren’t the result of something being “wrong” with us, but of how we learned to cope, comply, and stay safe in the systems we grew up in. And why midlife is often the moment those strategies stop working — not to break us, but to wake us up.This is not a conversation about fixing your childhood or doing more healing work.It’s about awareness.About noticing how the body has been communicating all along.And about understanding why listening to yourself can feel unfamiliar — even when you’re deeply capable.In This Episode, We Discuss:How early conditioning shapes self-trust and decision-makingWhy the nervous system learns to override the body before we’re conscious of itThe difference between childhood context and childhood “healing”How midlife reveals patterns rather than creates problemsWhat it actually means to feel safe in your body — without self-improvement pressureAmanda is a somatic relationship + Boundaries coach, and Breathwork Facilitator. I help women break the emotional chains of childhood and become the authority of their livesFollow Amanda on IG @its.amandaclarkNo More Good Girl PodcastFollow Lianne on IG @liannemcaughey

Why I Had to Release the 10,000 Steps a Day GoalFor almost two years, I followed the 10,000 steps a day goal without missing a day. Walking became a powerful tool for nervous system regulation, mental clarity, and self-trust. But eventually, I realized something important: what once supported me was quietly becoming pressure.In this episode, I’m sharing the moment I knew it was time to let go—and why releasing the 10k steps goal had nothing to do with quitting and everything to do with listening.Why the 10,000 steps goal can be helpful—but not always sustainableHow a measurable habit can override intuitionThe difference between devotion and obligation in wellnessWhy I was choosing walking over strength training, Kundalini, and meditationThe moment I found myself walking stairs at night just to “hit the number”How numbers on a watch (or scale) can quietly become identityWhy midlife requires responsiveness, not rigid rulesWhat I focus on now instead of hitting a daily step goalNot everything that’s good for you needs to be done every day. And any practice—even a healthy one—that disconnects you from your body deserves to be questioned.If you’ve ever felt controlled by steps, fitness trackers, wellness rules, or perfectionism, this episode will help you reconnect with self-trust, presence, and what your body actually needs in this season of life.Join us for STOP LIVING LIFE ON REPEATFollow Lianne on IG @liannemcaughey

Have you ever felt like something in your life is off—but you can’t quite explain why?In this episode of the Spiritual Shift Worker Podcast, Lianne sits down with Kim Costa, creator of the Wheelhouse Assessment, to explore a piece of misalignment most people overlook: your home and environment.This conversation goes far beyond real estate. We talk about how misalignment whispers before it screams, why so many women feel like they’re living the same year on repeat, and how your physical space can either support your nervous system—or quietly drain it.Kim shares her powerful personal story, including a life-altering accident that forced her to confront how deeply out of alignment her life had become. Together, we unpack how small, intentional changes—rather than blowing up your entire life—can help you reconnect with who you actually are now.If you’re in midlife and feeling restless, stuck, or like your life no longer fits the version of you that’s emerging, this episode will give you language, clarity, and a grounded place to start.Why feeling “off” is often a sign of environmental misalignmentHow your home impacts your nervous system, energy, and mental healthThe difference between staying, renovating, or moving—and how to know which is right for youKim’s Four M’s Framework: Myself, Mastery, Mission, and MatesThe 8 key life areas that determine whether your life feels supportive or drainingWhy misalignment shows up as frustration, clutter, overwhelm, or stagnationHow to make life changes without overwhelming your nervous systemWhy small, intentional shifts can prevent decades of living out of alignmentYou feel stuck in midlife but don’t want to blow up your lifeYou sense you’ve outgrown your space, career, or lifestyleYou’re craving clarity, simplicity, and nervous-system-friendly changeYou know there’s more to your life—but want to move toward it calmly and consciouslyIn This Episode, We Explore:You feel stuck in midlife but don’t want to blow up your lifeYou sense you’ve outgrown your space, career, or lifestyleYou’re craving clarity, simplicity, and nervous-system-friendly changeYou know there’s more to your life—but want to move toward it calmly and consciouslyKim Costa is a real estate professional, author, and creator of the Wheelhouse Assessment, a system designed to help people align their homes with who they truly are. By blending personality theory, life transitions, and environmental awareness, Kim helps clients decide whether to stay, renovate, or move—without regret.

What if self-love isn’t about self-care routines, affirmations, or “treating yourself”—but about integrity with yourself?In this episode, I explore why “I love myself deeply” was the intention I resisted most, and how it revealed the real foundation of personal growth, nervous system regulation, and life change. We talk about the cost of breaking promises to yourself, how self-abandonment quietly shows up in everyday life, and why loving yourself deeply requires discernment—not extremes.This episode is for women in midlife who feel restless despite “doing the work,” who crave a more honest relationship with themselves, and who are ready to stop bypassing their inner truth.What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeWhy self-love is about self-trust, not motivationHow breaking promises to yourself erodes confidence and clarityThe difference between rest and avoidanceHow to work with your shadow without judgment or bypassingWhy discernment—knowing when to push and when to rest—is essential for sustainable growthHow loving yourself deeply creates real, lasting change🎧 Wake the F*ck Up – Private PodcastHonest conversations for women who are done abandoning themselves and ready to live with intention, presence, and self-trust.Grab the PRIVATE PODCAST HERE:WAKE THE F UPBook your FREE "SIT WITH ME" session and get clear on what is holding you back.Ready to start?Start with the 31 DAYS OF STILLNESS , a self-paced daily practice to help you get clear on what you desire, calm your nervous system and start taking action!31 DAYS OF STILLNESSAnd if you are a woman in midlife who has been craving soulful conversations, deeper connection, I invite you to join me this coming October in Florence Italy for the RENAISSANCE EXPERIENCE.For more details join the waitlist hereRENAISSIANCE EXPERIENCE WAITLIST

What if the thing you’ve been taught to soften, hide, or apologize for… is actually your power?In this episode, I’m joined by Brittni Betts, whose work centers around one powerful truth: own your bigness. We have an honest, grounded conversation about what it really means to stop playing small, release people-pleasing, and step fully into who you are — without shrinking, explaining, or waiting for permission.Follow Britni on IG @britnibetts_Catch up on the last two episodes of 2025 here:177: The thing I didn't want to say outloud178: Dear 2025, not a love letterMake sure to leave the podcast a 5STAR review as that helps to get the podcast out to those who need to hear it the most.And if you wish to support Lianne and her mission, you can buy her a coffee here:Buy Lianne a coffee