Sobriety is the Key to a Regulated Nervous System with Erin Treloar

Delanie Fischer joins the pod today to talk all about identity shifts. She’s had a lot of them, from leaving her life as a comedian and reinventing herself into a new career as a podcaster, writer and NSFW mug maker (more on that in the episode!), to getting sober as part of her overall goal of living a healthier and more sustainable lifestyle. Delanie is the co-host of the top rated podcast Self-Helpless and the author of the absolutely wonderful mocktail book, Mocktales. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Alcohol might be one of the longest-standing relationships in your life, and today's episode will give you permission to grieve the breakup. You were taught to put alcohol on a pedestal - a magical substance that ‘would make every experience better’. Realizing that lie might come with sadness, confusion, anger, and...yes, grief. Lean into that. Feel it all. You won't stay there. I’m proud of you. Keep going. Read more about my thoughts on grieving alcohol on my Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/p/on-grieving-alcohol-in-early-sobrietyCommunity makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Real Sober Mom Danielle couldn’t imagine a life without alcohol. Though alcohol didn’t play a large role in her upbringing in the Congo with her missionary family, it slowly began to creep into her life after the death of her grandmother who she’d been taking care of in her early 20s in Colorado. Alcohol showed up for Danielle in her grief, and from that point she began to really love the way it made her feel.Drinking was the norm at the school Danielle began to teach at, which cemented it even more deeply into her lifestyle. More and more each year, she leaned on it to get herself through the grief of a miscarriage and the consistent challenges of being a teacher. Danielle knew she needed to quit, but she had no clue what a positive sober life could look like. It wasn’t until she found this podcast that she began to hear stories of women who actually loved their sober lives. After the loss of a close friend this past summer, Danielle knew it was time to quit. So, she began to search for the joy in sobriety. She is now six months sober and she wants to encourage you to keep going! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Smack dab in the middle of my book The Sober Shift you’ll find my ten things that I want you to keep in mind during early sobriety. This special segment of the book is a really handy support that will help to ground you at any point when your sobriety is feeling overwhelming. Today I’ll give you a lightning fast overview of these ten things. If you want to go deeper with these tips go grab your copy of The Sober Shift! Plus - we’ll talk about what you can expect from The Weekend Reset moving forward.Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you’ve struggled with how to navigate your sobriety journey when your partner still drinks, then this episode is for you. Relationship expert Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins me for a chat about how to navigate big transitions in your long term relationship. We’ll discuss her three books Loving Bravely, Taking Sexy Back, and Love Every Day, and Alexandra will share her thoughts on couples therapy, navigating growth in mid-life, and how to set loving boundaries. Check out my episode on Dr. Alexandra’s podcast with my husband, Russell! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Join us inside of Fresh 30! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today we tackle the dreaded ‘forever’ question as we walk through Chapter 10 of my book The Sober Shift. You don’t have to answer if giving up alcohol is forever. We don’t ask that about any other lifestyle choice, why do we ask it about this? Instead, let me offer you a shift. What you thought of it as ‘sober for good’. Make a list of all the things that ‘sober for good’ might mean to you and see if that reframe gives you the support that you need. It did for me. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Carl Radke of Bravo’s Summer House joins Suzanne and Katie to talk about his sobriety journey and his wonderful book Cake Eater: A Journey of Self Discovery. Carl will share his history with alcohol and cocaine, the challenges he experienced with moderation, how the heartbreaking passing of his brother ultimately led him to choosing sobriety, what it has been like to go through growth in front of reality TV cameras, the importance of community in his recovery, and how sharing his story through his book and his new podcast More Life has helped him find purpose through his story. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When I polled my Instagram community and asked what was holding women back from committing to sobriety the biggest answer I received was FOMO - fear of missing out. Today as we cover chapter 9 of my book The Sober Shift I want to shift this fear for you and ask you to ask yourself the question: what is alcohol making me miss out on? For me and so many women, the realities of what we lost to alcohol only became clear in sobriety. Trust me, there are incredible experiences on the other side. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Health and wellness coach Erin Treloar is here to help you regulate your nervous system so that you can find more calm, joy, and clarity in your life. Erin shares the science behind nervous system regulation, why alcohol can wreak havoc on your nervous system, and what you can do today (right now!) to help your body find inner calm. Plus, Erin will share a bit about her own sobriety journey, and how much more difficult it was for her to quit the second time around. Learn more about Erin’s work at www.erintreloar.comCommunity makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Our society is stuck on the idea that sobriety should be rooted in shame. In today’s episode and in chapter 8 of my book The Sober Shift, I push back on that and argue that your sobriety should not feel like something that you need to hide! I’ll share how I shifted from my sobriety being something I did quietly to something that I proclaim proudly, and how you can make the shift too, in whatever way feels right for you. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.