191: Abortion + Parents of Disabled Kids w/ Alyssa Nutile

What does it mean when a dream brings you to tears before breakfast?In this mini episode, Alyssa and I dive into grief dreams: those vivid, emotional dreams where our children speak, run, play, or show up in ways they can’t in waking life. Sometimes they comfort us. Sometimes they wreck us for the day.We share stories from the community about the longing, guilt, tenderness, and pain these dreams bring up, and how they reveal just how deep our grief can go. If you’ve ever woken up from a grief dream that colors your whole day, this episode is for you!Links:Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update!Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life!Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups!Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.Follow the Facebook page.Join the Facebook group Parents of Children with Rare Conditions.Access the transcript on the website here.

Hormones, cycles, and caregiving—oh my.In this Summer Mini, Madeline is joined by Suzi Boubion to talk about how our menstrual cycles can affect caregiving formedically complex kids. From feeling like a superhero during ovulation to falling apart in the luteal phase, Suzi breaks down the emotional and physical rollercoaster that is living in a cycling body.They talk about the specific ways each phase can show up in caregiving: which days are best for handling appointments, why grief hits harder at certain times of the month, and how understanding your own rhythms can bring clarity and help you embrace self-compassion instead of perfection.If you’ve ever felt like your hormones are sabotaging your ability to cope, this episode might help.

We usually cover a different guest and topic each episode, but this week, we’re peeling back the curtain to get to know Alyssa: the show’s producer, right-hand lady, and longtime member of the community. In this special mini episode, Alyssa shares more about herself, from her life as a caregiver and mom to her love of swimming, salted caramel ice cream, and why getting dressed up feels like the ultimate chore.She talks about going from listener to producer, how she copes with heavy topics, and why she’d rather talk about her hatred of dishes than accept too many compliments. You’llalso hear plenty of lighter tidbits, from her favorite childhood memories to why banana-flavored candy is absolutely not it.This episode is equal parts heartfelt and fun—an honest, vulnerable glimpse into the person behind the scenes.Links:Listen to 140: Alyssa’s Story.Hear Alyssa’s other episodes: 187: Do You Miss Who You Were? BONUS: The Political Climate, 180: Does it get easier?, 179: Exhaustion, 174: Silencing, 171: Financial Strain, 170: Hospitalizations,  125: Travel w/ Disabled KidsFollow Alyssa on Instagram @caffeinated_caregivers!Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life!Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update!Fill out our contact form to joinupcoming discussion groups!Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.Follow the Facebook page. Join the Facebook group Parents of Children with Rare Conditions.Access the transcript on the website here. And if you love this podcast, pleaseleave us a rating or review in your favorite podcast app! 

What does it really mean to care for yourself while raising a disabled child? Not the bubble bath kind of self-care—but the kind that starts with naming your anger, your grief, your jealousy, and not pushing them down just because “good parents don’t feel that way.”In this episode, Amanda Griffith-Atkins joins Alyssa and I to talk about her new book How to Handle More Than You Can Handle: Caring for Yourself While Raising a DisabledChild. Amanda shares what led her to write this book and how the book is structured to be helpful for busy parents of disabled children. Each of us also share sections of the book that we love. This book gives us the tools to explore radical acceptance, emotional self-compassion, and space to feel what we’re actually feeling. How to Handle More Than You Can Handle is out now on Amazon and other book retailers.Links:Get your own copy of Amanda’s book How to Handle More Than You Can Handle.Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update!Fill out our contact form to joinupcoming discussion groups!Follow Amanda on Instagram @amanda.griffith.atkins!Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life!Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.Follow the Facebook page. Join the Facebook group Parents of Children with Rare Conditions.Access the transcript on the website here. And if you love this podcast, pleaseleave us a rating or review in your favorite podcast app! 

Meditation might seem like a luxury when you’re managing meds, appointments, and survival mode. But for some of us, it becomes a lifeline.In this episode, Chrissy McGuire shares how mindfulness helped her survive the NICU, find her footing as a single mom to two disabled kids, and notice the small moments of joy that still exist in the chaos.Chrissy also leads us through a guided meditation, right inside the episode—a short, calming practice you can return to again and again, especially on the days that feel too heavy to carry alone.Links:Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update!Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups!Follow Chrissy on Instagram @chrissy.mcguire_!Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life!Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.Follow the Facebook page.Join the Facebook group Parents of Children with Rare Conditions.Access the transcript on the website here.And if you love this podcast, please leave us a rating or review in your favorite podcast app!

Season 11 is coming to a close, and it’s been one of our most emotional seasons yet. From intense behind-the-scenes chaos to topics that pushed the boundaries of what we’ve covered before—this season stretched us in all the right ways.In this finale episode, I’m joined again by Alyssa to reflect on what made this season both overwhelming and meaningful, from grief and seizures to politics and prenatal diagnoses. We’re also sharing a powerful listener testimonial from Michelle, who describes how her favorite episode from the season helped her feel validated and seen.And of course, we’re giving you a little peek at what’s ahead, including our summer mini episodes (with some solo episodes from Alyssa!), our upcoming merch fundraiser, and a big announcement coming with the Season 12 kickoff.Thanks for listening, for sharing, and for being part of this community. Whether this was your first season or your eleventh, we’re so glad you’re here ❤️Links:Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update!Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups!Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life!Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.Follow the Facebook page.Join the Facebook group Parents of Children with Rare Conditions.Access the transcript on the website here.And if you love this podcast, please leave us a rating or review in your favorite podcast app!

No one expects to be here. But many of us are.In this episode, Alyssa Nutile and I open up a raw and rarely discussed topic: abortion after a prenatal diagnosis. We talk about how these decisions are shaped by love, by fear, by systemic failures, and by the weight of what it means to bring a child into the world when you know what they might face.We also explore what it means to carry both love and grief into that decision-making space and why so many parents are left feeling like there was never really a choice at all.It’s a heavy conversation. And it’s also a deeply human one. If you’ve been there, are there, or just want to understand this conversation better, this episode is for you. Links:Hear Alyssa’s other episodes: 187: Do You Miss Who You Were? BONUS: The Political Climate, 180: Does it get easier?, 179: Exhaustion, 174: Silencing, 171: Financial Strain, 170: Hospitalizations, 140: Alyssa’s Story, 125: Travel w/ Disabled KidsJoin The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update!Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups!Follow Alyssa at @caffeinated_caregivers!Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life!Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.Follow the Facebook page.Join the Facebook group Parents of Children with Rare Conditions.Access the transcript on the website here.And if you love this podcast, please leave us a rating or review in your favorite podcast app!

Sometimes the only place big enough for the weight you’re carrying is the side of a mountain. That’s where Colleen—and dozens of other moms—learned how to let it out.In this episode, Colleen tells the story of her son Owen’s explosive onset epilepsy, her family's long search for answers, and the brain surgery that changed everything. She opens up about the loneliness of being undiagnosed, the emotional whiplash of unexpected good news, and the identity shift that comes with raising a child with complex needs.We also talk about how Electric Love retreats came to be and why sometimes the most healing thing you can do is a tough hike with people who get it.Also, a big thanks to Kate Farms for sponsoring this important episode! Links:Learn more about the many products Kate Farms offers forour formula and tube-fed kids!Learn more about Electric Love Retreats!Listen to Ep 183on Epilepsy with Hailey Adkisson.Follow Electric Love on Instagram @electric_love_retreats!  Follow Colleen on Instagram @raising_owen!Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life!Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update!Fill out our contact form to joinupcoming discussion groups!Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.Follow the Facebook page.Access the transcript on the website here. And if you love this podcast, pleaseleave us a rating or review in your favorite podcast app! 

Grief around our children’s disabilities can take many forms. Some of us are grieving the life we thought we’d have with our child that looks so very different now. Others of us are grieving the very real possibility of losing them too soon.In this episode, therapist and fellow disability parent Amanda Griffith-Atkins joins me to talk about the complicated grief that comes with raising a disabled or medically complex child.We explore how this grief can morph and change, how it shows up in the quiet, ordinary moments, and how deeply human it is to wish things were easier —not because our children aren’t loved, but because they so deeply are. We also talk about why shame so often gets tangled up in these emotions, and what it looks like to let yourself feel without guilt.Also, a big thanks to Kate Farms for sponsoring this important episode!LinksLearn more about the many products Kate Farms offers for our formula and tube-fed kids!Follow Amanda on Instagram @amanda.griffith.atkins!Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life!Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update!Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups!Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.Follow the Facebook page.Listen to previous episodes with Amanda:Ep 182 on HobbiesEp 171 on Financial StrainEp 159 on Sharing the Mental LoadEp 156 on Getting a DivorceEp 153 on Hurtful Things Loved Ones SayEp 147 on Sex and Disability ParentingEp 142 on If My Disabled Child Outlives MeEp 135 on Career and Family RolesEp 132 on Self-CareEp 131 on Chronic StressEp 130 on Anticipatory GriefEp 99 on Family PlanningEp 85 on Parental IdentityEp 81 on Health Anxiety& our holiday season eps: Being Hospitalized During Holidays - Isolating at Home During Holidays & Why Holidays Can Suck.

For the first time in The Rare Life history... we need a little extra time to work on the next few episodes. Not because we haven’t been preparing and planning, but because some current events have thrown a wrench into the works.In this episode, Madeline and Alyssa talk generally about some of the recent events that have come up, how the community has been feeling about it, what it says about the world we’re living in right now, and why some of the upcoming topics needed just a little more time and context before they go out into the world.Join us for this quick mini-episode and check back next week for your regularly scheduled content! LinksJoin The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update!Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups!Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life!Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.Follow the Facebook page.