The Manipulation Expert: How to Spot Hidden Manipulators & Take Your Power Back

In today’s episode, you’ll learn the hidden signs of a manipulative, toxic person from the #1 researcher in the world on dark personalities, Dr. Leanne ten Brinke, PhD.  She is here to teach you how to spot the poisonous people that are hidden in plain sight around you – in your family, your community, and at work.  And, she’s giving you the science-backed guide to understand poisonous people: how they operate, how to spot the patterns early, and what to do when you realize you’re dealing with one.  Dr. ten Brinke is a professor at the University of British Columbia, where she directs the Truth and Trust Lab and has spent nearly two decades studying trust, deception, manipulation, and dark personality traits.  She wants to make one thing perfectly clear: most people are good.  But one poisonous person can create an enormous amount of stress, confusion, and pain.  This episode will help you recognize the pattern, trust what you’re seeing, neutralize their behavior, and know exactly what to do when you’re around them.  In this episode, you’ll learn: -How to spot dark personality traits of narcissism, psychopathy, Machiavellianism, and sadism in daily life -The #1 sign you’re being manipulated -What gaslighting is, what it is not, and what to do when you’re being gaslit -Why many toxic people seem charming at first -How gossip can reveal a manipulative personality at work -The simple ways to become more strategic instead of more emotional when dealing with difficult people After listening, you will know exactly what to do to spot toxic behavior, handle manipulative people, and take back your peace and power.  For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page.    If you liked the episode, check out this one next: 4 Signs of Emotionally Immature Parents & How to Heal Connect with Mel:     Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram  The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok  Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Are you going to keep being controlled by your emotions for the rest of your life?  The answer is no.  Because today, Dr. Marc Brackett, PhD, the world’s leading expert on emotional intelligence is here to tell you,  “Success in virtually every aspect of life – career, friendship, love, and family – is determined mainly by one thing: how we deal with emotions.” Because your emotions are running your life – and you don’t even realize it. Dr. Brackett is the Founder & Director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence whose research proves that your life is being shaped by the one skill that 90% of people were never taught: emotional intelligence. Today, Dr. Brackett will give you his research-backed framework to master your emotions, redirect your energy for more positive thinking, and become more emotionally intelligent in 5 simple steps.  In this episode you’ll learn: -How your emotions are hijacking your decisions, relationships, and goals -How to recognize what you’re feeling before it takes over -Why you suppress your emotions and what you should be doing instead  -How to stop taking everything so personally -How emotional intelligence improves your relationships and your health -How to stop negative thoughts from taking over your life  -How to get less angry and bothered by the people around you Dr. Brackett’s research is clear: You can learn emotional intelligence at any age. It’s never too late.  After today you will know how to deal with what you feel and you will finally change your behavior, your relationships, and your entire life. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page.   If you liked the episode, check out this one next with professor Dr. Katy Milkman, PhD: Change Your Life This Year: How to Get From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be Connect with Mel:     Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram  The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok  Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In today’s episode, you’ll learn how to feel happier and more connected to your purpose in under 5 minutes.  Today, you’re learning from Dr. Dacher Keltner, one of the world’s leading experts on meaning, purpose, happiness, and awe. Dr. Keltner is a distinguished professor of psychology at UC Berkeley, and the founding director of the Greater Good Science Center, one of the most renowned research institutes in the world that studies well-being. He has spent over 35 years researching science-backed tools that you can use right now. You will be clear, focused, calmer, more engaged in your life, even when the world feels overwhelming.  In this episode you’ll learn: -Specific lessons you can apply today that come from 35 years of happiness research -The quick morning practice research shows can boost your happiness and reset your day -The two simple questions that help you find your purpose today -Your most powerful core strength and how to tap into it more - The one thought you need to feel less overwhelmed, exhausted and reduce stress now -How to live a more meaningful life by remembering 2 key things about your past -How to feel more alive today without spending money or making a major life change -The one-minute awe practice Dr. Keltner recommends for anyone who is stressed, anxious, lonely or exhausted -Simple, science-backed ways to live a meaningful life today Whether you feel lost, burned out, anxious about the future, disconnected from yourself, or unsure what you are supposed to be doing with your life, this episode will help you reconnect with purpose and make you feel more alive. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page.   If you liked the episode, check out this one next with Stanford Professors, Dave Evans and Bill Burnett: How to Design Your Life in 1 Hour) Connect with Mel:     Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram  The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok  Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Two simple questions can change the way you make decisions, spend your time, and build your future.  In today’s episode, Mel sits down with Seth Godin, one of the most influential thinkers of our time and one of Mel’s most trusted mentors.  Seth has written more than 20 bestselling books, taught millions of people how to think differently, and shaped the way Mel thinks about success, confidence, purpose, business, and making an impact.  Today, Seth is sharing the advice Mel wishes everyone could hear, particularly when it comes to business and success.  His wisdom will make you rethink how you spend your time, what you say yes to, what you keep avoiding, what you need to quit, and what kind of future you are building.  You can use this advice for anything:  Your goals. Your career. Your business. Your creative ideas. Your next decision. The thing you keep talking yourself out of. The life you say you want, but have not started building yet. Seth will show you how to stop chasing the wrong things, stop measuring the wrong things, and stop trying to be everything to everyone. In this episode, you’ll learn: -The 2 questions that will help you make better decisions immediately -How to know what is worth your time and what is not (this works for everything!) -Why trying to please everyone keeps you stuck -How to stop hiding behind being busy, perfecting the plan, or waiting to feel ready -Why the right decision and the right outcome are not the same thing -How you know when to quit and when to keep going -Why criticism from the wrong people can pull you off track -Why doing work you’re proud of changes the way you feel about your life -How to build a future that feels more honest, meaningful, and aligned This is not just advice about business or career. It is a masterclass in how to think. By the end, you’ll know what habits to cut out, what to start doing, and where to focus your energy so you can build a better future. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page.   If you liked the episode, you’ll love Seth Godin’s first appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast: How to Build a Life That Matters & Get What You Want Starting Today Connect with Mel:     Order Mel’s product, Pure Genius Protein Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram  The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok  Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today, you’re getting exactly what you need to take back your power and make life feel a little easier.  In this solo episode, Mel shares 8 simple reminders that will help you feel stronger, calmer, and more confident.  These are the words to come back to when you need courage, perspective, and a reminder of how much strength you already have.  Through 8 powerful quotes and straight-to-the-point coaching, Mel will show you how to stop taking other people’s behavior personally, pause before you react, protect your peace, take responsibility for your own happiness, and make something good happen today. This episode will help you: -Stop taking other people’s behavior personally and let their mood be theirs -Stop treating every text, mood, comment, or request like an emergency -Pause before reacting and ask yourself, “Is this worth my energy?” -Quit waiting until you feel better, ready, healed, or confident to start living -Slow down and appreciate the life you’re living right now before this season passes you by -Take responsibility for your own happiness, choices, attitude, and next step -Stop wishing you could change the past and focus on what happens next -Create a good day by making one small good thing happen These reminders are more than words. They are tools you can reach for the moment your brain gets loud, your stress spikes, or someone else’s drama starts pulling you off center. If you’ve been giving your energy away to things that don’t deserve it, this episode will help you pause, take your power back, and choose your next move with more strength, courage, and confidence.  For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page.  If you liked the episode, check out this one next: How to Deal with Difficult People & Not Get Stressed Out Connect with Mel:     Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory, which is mentioned in today’s episode  Order Mel’s product, Pure Genius Protein Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram  The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok  Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What if you could walk into any room and become the person everyone remembers?   Someone who can communicate with  confidence, command respect, and create lasting connections?  Today, Mel sits down with Oz Pearlman, a world-renowned mentalist who has spent decades mastering the skills that make people more trustworthy, respected, and likeable.  On stage, Oz creates the illusion of reading minds. But in this energizing conversation, he reveals the tools behind his success that you can use in your own life to read people, talk to anyone, and communicate with confidence. You’ll learn how to pay attention to what 99% of people miss, build instant trust, and become unforgettable in the process.  Whether you want to speak up at work, make a stronger first impression on a date, or go after your dreams, this conversation will show you how to become bold, magnetic, and memorable.  Oz will teach you: -The questions that kill any conversation and what to ask instead -The #1 way to become the most interesting person in any room -How to stop waiting for opportunities and create your own -The “fast-forward” trick that helps you get over dread and finally do what you’ve been avoiding -How to never forget a name or other important details about people again -How to tell when someone isn’t telling you the truth This episode is your guide to becoming more confident, reading people, building instant connections, and becoming more likeable.   For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page.    If you liked the episode, check out this one next with secret service agent Evy Poumpouras: How to Handle Difficult People: 7 Psychological Tricks to Read Anyone, Spot a Liar & Stay in Control.   Connect with Mel:     Order Mel’s product, Pure Genius Protein Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram  The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok  Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode, you will learn how to take back your power when you’re in the midst of change, stress, or uncertainty, and then redirect your energy for self-transformation.  If there’s an area of your life that you’re feeling unhappy about and want to take control over, today’s episode will show you exactly what to do.  Joining Mel in this deeply personal episode is her 21-year-old son Oakley. He candidly shares how he went from feeling stuck and lonely, to finally feeling happy again, and the simple mindset shifts and changes that made the biggest difference.  He and Mel openly unpack how to go from feeling unhappy about a situation you feel like you don’t have a lot of control over, and how to move through it. In this episode, you’ll learn: -How the fantasy version of your past keeps you from seeing what’s possible now -How to know whether it’s you or the situation that needs to change -Why it’s unfair to criticize where you are if you haven’t done this one thing -How long you should give a new situation before deciding if it’s the right fit -The 4 things you may be doing to keep you stuck and unhappy -The signs that you’re “quietly quitting” the situation you’re in -The science of luck and what happy people do to make their own luck -The first thing you need to do when you’re unhappy and want your life to feel different Here’s the hard truth: nobody is coming to rescue you - and that’s good news. It means you have more power than you think. The moment you see what’s keeping you stuck, you can start changing it. After today, you’ll know exactly what needs to change first. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page.   If you liked the episode, check out this one next with Dave Evans and Bill Burnett: How to Design Your Life in 1 Hour Connect with Mel:     Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram  The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok  Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today’s episode will change how you think about your dreams and your entire life. Do you ever wake up from a dream and wonder: What did that mean? Or maybe you’ve had a nightmare and asked yourself: Why did I dream that? Could I stop it? Is my brain trying to tell me something? Maybe you keep having the same dream over and over again. Or maybe you’re the person who says, “I don’t dream.” According to today’s expert, you’re wrong. We all dream. And once you understand what your brain is doing while you’re dreaming, you’ll never think about sleep, your mind, or what’s possible in the same way again. Today, for the very first time on the show, Mel is diving deep into the science of dreaming, nightmares, what your dreams mean, what they’re trying to tell you, and more importantly, how to harness your dreams to unlock the full power of your mind. You’re meeting Dr. Rahul Jandial, MD, PhD - one of the most highly regarded, cited, and distinguished doctors in the world. He is a world-renowned pioneering neurosurgeon, cancer surgeon, and neuroscientist, who is here to teach you what your brain is doing when you dream. You’ll also learn how to tap into the power of your dreams to create deeper connections, solve problems, unlock more creativity, and better understand yourself. In this episode, Dr. Jandial will show you that dreaming is not random. It is not meaningless. And it is not something to ignore. In this episode, you’ll learn: - What your dreams are really trying to tell you - How to know which dreams are worth paying attention to - What recurring dreams and nightmares may reveal about your emotional life - Why nightmares can be an early warning sign that something deeper needs your attention - How dreams can help you solve problems, process stress, and unlock creativity - The simple way to train yourself to remember your dreams - How to use the first 10 minutes after waking up to access fresh ideas and insight - What lucid dreaming is and the exact steps to try it This conversation will change how you think about your life - both the one you’re living while you’re awake and the one you’re living while you’re dreaming. And once you hear it, you will never look at what’s possible the same way again. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page.   If you liked the episode, check out Dr. Rahul Jandial’s first appearance on The Mel RObbins podcast: This One Episode Will Change How You Think About the World & Your Life (From #1 Cancer Surgeon) Connect with Mel:     Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram  The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok  Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today's episode is a MUST listen.  You will learn the surprising science of  exercise and nutrition, the mistakes you’re making, and the simple changes that lead to better health and longevity.  In this powerful episode, Mel sits down with one of her dream guests, Dr. Rhonda Patrick PhD.  Dr. Patrick is a biomedical scientist who has spent her career studying nutrition, aging, and disease prevention. Ever wonder why you can walk every day and still not feel stronger? Or why you’re exhausted, stressed, and carrying more weight around your middle? There’s a reason for that. Today, Dr. Rhonda Patrick reveals why traditional fitness advice doesn’t work, the mistakes most people are making, and the simple changes that can help you build better health, more energy, and a longer life. For way too long, you’ve been taught that getting healthy means more time at the gym, restrictive diets, and no “off” days.  Dr. Patrick says we have it all wrong.  Today, she breaks down the science of what really matters for your health and longevity - and the good news is, it’s way simpler than you think. In this episode, you’ll learn: -What the “talk test” is and how to use it to find the right level of exercise -Where the 10,000-step goal came from - and what to focus on instead -How 9–10 minutes of daily “exercise snacks” can improve your health -What visceral fat is and how to improve fat loss  -Scientifically speaking, why sleep is critical for recovery, stress, and longevity -The simple lifestyle habits that can add healthy years to your life -Dr. Patrick’s daily smoothie recipe for getting more key nutrients After today you will have the small, science-backed actions that improve your health, energy, mood, brain, resilience, and future. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page.  If you liked the episode, check out this one next: Start Where You Are: #1 Orthopedic Surgeon’s Proven Protocol to Feel Stronger & Look Younger in Weeks Connect with Mel:     Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram  The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok  Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Summer is all about having fun: long days, warm nights, and getting together with the people you love. Today’s episode is your playbook for making that time you spend with people more exciting and meaningful.  Mel is joined by Priya Parker, one of the world’s leading experts on human connection. Her book “The Art of Gathering” is the most renowned work on how to bring people together and create moments that feel joyful and unforgettable.  In this episode, she will teach you simple ways to create real connections and make the time you spend with others memorable and fun. Whether you’re planning a gathering, a wedding, a shower, a party, a family dinner, a work meeting, or you just want to make new friends and feel less alone, this episode will change the way you connect with other people.  You’ll learn: -The #1 conversation starter that makes people feel instantly connected to you -How to become the person everyone wants to be around - 7 ways to bring people together and create real connection -How to make any dinner, party, meeting, or family visit more meaningful -How to make family time less tense and more fun -How to build connections when you’ve moved somewhere new -Why “keeping the peace” can quietly damage relationships -How healthy conflict can bring you closer to the people you care about After today you will have the tools and simple steps to create better conversations, stronger friendships, and deeper family connections and have a whole lot more fun, starting today. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page.  If you liked the episode, check out this one next: Do THIS Today to Reset Your Life, Energy, & Happiness Connect with Mel:     Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram  The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok  Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.