#137 Self-Compassion for Perfectionists with Jessica Oschwald

Have you ever experienced a day where you feel so happy and the next moment you can't stop crying? That's literally how my past few weeks have been for me. When we learn to dance in this polarity of feeling extremely high vibe in one moment and frustrated or angry in the next one, we become incredibly resilient. The key is to allow your emotions to be there without judgment, knowing that your emotions don't mean anything about your worth. When we can learn to accept what is and be present with what is, we strengthen a muscle that's going to be incredibly valuable for the rest of your life. This is the final episode of Season 2! Thank you for being a part of our Glow Life Podcast Journey!   You can find the full show notes here: http://martinafink.com/podcast/139   Have you downloaded the free Self-Care Guide for Perfectionist yet? Click here to access it: http://martinafink.lpages.co/success-guide-organic

Sometimes, the only thing that's standing in your way is yourself. If you are an overthinker, you want to do many different things, and feel like you know what you need to do, but still can't take the first step, you're going to resonate a lot with Ale González in this on-air coaching episode. Ale from Mexico has been looking for something to fulfill her. After being intoxicated by a pill a doctor gave her to cure her depression, Ale was ill for almost six months, which made her rethink her life and question everything. She's currently interested in creating a business and has several great ideas, but feels overwhelmed with where to start and doesn't fully believe in herself.   In today's episode, we talk about how to determine what exactly is holding her back why there's more to moving forward in life than just what you think how to release the heavy weight on your shoulder that's keeping you stuck why having clear conversations with loved ones are key for your worthiness why you are ready now (and don't need x, y, or z before you can be ready) how to ask for help without feeling like a failure And so much more!    You can find the full show notes here: http://martinafink.com/podcast/138   Have you downloaded the free Self-Care Guide for Perfectionist yet? Click here to access it: martinafink.lpages.co/success-guide-organic

As a high achieving woman in today's western world, it is so easy to get sucked into the fast paced lifestyle of work, success, full schedules, and not much free time. This often results in you sleeping through the entire weekend, canceling plans with friends, and feeling frustrated with yourself. Jessica is one of my lovely clients who, over the past year, has implemented simple, but life-transforming changes in her lifestyle to quit overwhelm, raise her self-compassion, and put her own needs and desires first: to teach Yoga again. Jessica Oschwald is a psychologist by training and a certified vinyasa Yoga teacher (350h). In 2018, she accomplished her PhD and subsequently a PostDoc at the University of Zurich, where she specialized in the cognitive neuroscience of healthy aging. Today, she works as a data scientist in personalized healthcare and is based in London, UK. Jessica shares her passion through The Mindful Lab, where it is her mission to make the ancient teachings of Yoga blended with insights from modern science accessible to everyone who wants to slow down and live a more mindful and purposeful life.   In today's episode, we talk about how to not freak out when things don't go as planned why being part of a community helps you feel less alone how to lower the expectations you have of yourself how to meet new likeminded people while working from home the key to being compassionate with yourself how to put yourself first and not always be available for everyone and everything why you are in the right place right now how to authentically be yourself again And so much more!    You can find the full show notes here: http://martinafink.com/podcast/137   Have you downloaded the free Self-Care Guide for Perfectionist yet? Click here to access it: http://martinafink.lpages.co/success-guide-organic

Tallia Deljou has a Master's degree in Positive Psychology and is a life coach helping people find their path, honor their gifts, and connect to their purpose. Through her signature coaching program, Power by Purpose, and her Forbes' featured podcast, Sincerely Me, Tallia gives people the tools to break through their fears and stories and pursue meaning with clarity and confidence. Her work continues to be featured across platforms including Forbes, Fortune, Real Simple, Business Insider, and Well + Good.   In today's episode, we talk about how to stop looking for happiness in the "next thing" how to shift out of an overthinking mindset into taking one babystep forward towards your purposeful life why your answers are in your fears how to redefine success in a way that feels good and isn't just achievement based why you can perfectionize your self-care + why you should not do that how to not stress about not knowing what's next And so much more!  You can find the full show notes here: http://martinafink.com/podcast/136   Have you downloaded the free Self-Care Guide for Perfectionist yet? Click here to access it: http://martinafink.lpages.co/success-guide-organic

If you ever find yourself in a situation where you feel like you're the victim and everything is happening TO you, you're going to want to listen to this episode! Shifting out of the victim space into a space where you take full responsibility of where you're at and what you CAN do, has not only changed my life, it is about to change yours, too! In this episode, I am talking to my mentor Zion Kim, the founder of several multi-million dollar companies and an amazing coach, who always gets me to see and uncover things in myself that I'm not able to see myself. In today's episode, we talk about why we can get hurt by uncommunicated expectations the difference between harmony and intimacy how to shift out of being a victim and take radical responsibility why we deserve deeper, more intimate relationships how to shift from feeling powerless to powerful by taking full ownership And so much more!    You can find the full show notes here: http://martinafink.com/podcast/135   Have you downloaded the free Self-Care Guide for Perfectionist yet? Click here to access it: martinafink.lpages.co/success-guide-organic

Joanne Daniels is a 32 year old mum of one who has a high pressured job working as Finance Manager for a London based Asset Manager.  She often reached the point of burn out, putting the demands of her job / needs of others before herself, which was affecting her health and her relationships and she knew something needed to change. She has several perfectionist tendencies, which have served her well in some respects, and not so well in others.  Due to working remotely, especially in the past year, she was able to dedicate more time to herself and finally prioritised herself.  Jo recently graduated from Perfectionist Rehab and said: "This course has changed me as a person for the better, and I feel blessed to be able to share my story with others, to hopefully inspire others that they can do this, they can change and take steps towards the glow life, and it is reachable if you put your heart and mind to it."   In today's episode, we talk about migraines, relationship conflict, and snappy behavior why your feelings as a perfectionist matter how to make new friends where you can share with no fear of being judged how to never again cry behind closed doors why knowing your core values can improve work + your life outside of work how to be in tune with yourself And so much more!    You can find the full show notes here: http://martinafink.com/podcast/134   Have you downloaded the free Self-Care Guide for Perfectionist yet? Click here to access it: http://martinafink.lpages.co/success-guide-organic

If you follow me on Instagram, you might have seen that I had a really bad day last week! Many things went unplanned and unexpected and got me on a whole downward spiral that wanted me to throw everything out the window! Over the years of practicing meditation, conscious self-care, journaling, and other techniques, I have learned how to best handle situations like these - without just packing my bags and leaving the war zone! I'm sharing all about that in this episode.   In today's episode, we talk about how to overcome big life challenges - the glow way how to quickly snap out of a downward spiral and get back into glow state why avoiding your feelings can hurt you even more how to use life-transforming skills for conflict management And so much more!    You can find the full show notes here: http://martinafink.com/podcast/133   Have you downloaded the free Self-Care Guide for Perfectionist yet? Click here to access it: http://martinafink.lpages.co/success-guide-organic

If you're someone who tends to stay up late working from home - sometimes even until 2am - this episode is a MUST LISTEN for you! Daniella González-Toro, who I had the pleasure to work with over the past few months to help her overcome perfectionism was in your shoes until just a few months ago and has found ways to not only work less, but also be more productive and efficient, since her workload hasn't changed - only her mindset. In today's episode, we talk about how she went from working until 2am to putting her laptop aside at 6.30pm why your sleep is a top indicator for your stress levels + what to do about it how to set better priorities and know you should be your no. 1 priority why you should be at the top of your priority list having more time for hobbies like dancing or your dog how to say more NO to others, so you can say YES to yourself And so much more!  Daniella González-Toro is a Doctor in Chemistry. After her PhD studies, Daniella became a Beauty Scientist for a Leading Beauty Company.  She is also an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach and Personal Trainer and soon Life and Success Coach, where she helps people become the best version of themselves and become an expert of their own mind and body through nutrition, regular and dance fitness, mindfulness with a touch of fun science education.   You can find the full show notes here: http://martinafink.com/podcast/132   Have you downloaded the free Self-Care Guide for Perfectionist yet? Click here to access it: http://martinafink.lpages.co/success-guide

Yes, of course I will help you!  Yes, of course I can do this for you! Yes, of course I can skip my workout and meditation today! When you always say yes to everyone and everything, you end up feeling depleted with neither energy nor time for yourself. And you start feeling overwhelmed with all the life responsibilities you've taken on. Time to reestablish some clear boundaries with yourself around when it's time for YOU to recharge and also stick to these boundaries yourself. Catherine Lewis is on this episode for an on-air coaching session, where we will identify what the root cause of her overwhelm is, and what she can do to step out of it and take better care of herself. Over the years, Cath has struggled with weight, PCOS and hormonal issues, high expectations of herself since she was a teenager, and never having time for herself, because she's either working, there for her husband, her dog, friends, and family, which has hugely impacted her mental health and stress levels.    In today's on-air coaching episode, I'm coaching Catherine through how to lower the high expectation you have of yourself that make you feel fuzzy in your head what to prepare and not get overwhelmed when you have to go back to work after a long time in isolation what happens when you're too flexible and too giving all the time (hint: not good!) a powerful heart/emotion exercise to figure out why she's stuck with her self-care how to prioritize yourself when you want to be the best in everything how to set better boundaries with herself the no. 1 (+ super simple!) thing Catherine needs to do now to decrease the overwhelm of life responsibilities And so much more!    You can find the full show notes here: http://martinafink.com/podcast/131   Have you downloaded the free Self-Care Guide for Perfectionist yet? Click here to access it: http://martinafink.lpages.co/success-guide-organic

Perfectionists love controlling... Controlling workouts, what you eat, how you move your body, how many tasks you got done in a day. Perfectionists also like to overthink and often have a very strong inner voice that tends to be extremely mean and loud. Today, I am speaking to my wonderful client, Apryl Franchini, who has been able to fully release control and perfection in her life and learned to shift from her overthinking mind into her beautiful heart. Apryl is, just like myself, a certified Holistic Health Coach (IIN) and she specializes in food freedom and body love. She helps women ditch the scale and eat with zero guilt. Apryl recently moved to Bali and is currently living her very own version of the glow life in paradise. In today's episode, we talk about how she got from feeling confused, lost, overly controlling to becoming her own best friend how she ditched her Apple watch and learned to listen to her body's needs why she was still perfectionizing her eating disorder and basically cheated on herself how she stopped overthinking everything and started trusting her heart what it truly means to be kind to yourself And so much more!  And you can find everything we talk about today in the show notes at https://martinafink.com/podcast/130   Have you downloaded the free Self-Care Guide for Perfectionist yet? Click here to access it: http://martinafink.lpages.co/success-guide-organic