7 Truths Men Were Never Taught to Understand

Men who are trying to be disciplined, responsible, and successful still feel internally restless, scattered, or dissatisfied. They work harder, set better goals, and chase improvement, yet something underneath remains unresolved. The problem is not effort. It’s formation. Many men were never given a clear vision of what masculinity is ordered toward, only pressure to perform and compete without understanding who they are or why they strive. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt name seven hard truths most men are not prepared for, truths about identity, discipline, interior life, spiritual warfare, vocation, marriage, and suffering. These are non-negotiables that reorder a man’s interior world and reshape how he lives, loves, and leads within his vocation. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman Plus for deeper formation and exclusive content:https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 📘 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule (Sophia Institute Press):https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Coupon Code: Gentleman20Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Protecting your wife and family in 2026 looks very different than it did even a few years ago. The pressures facing marriages today are often subtle rather than dramatic. Constant noise, distraction, comparison, stress, and moral confusion now have unprecedented access to the home. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt examine why many men feel stretched thin yet unsure how to truly guard what has been entrusted to them. Rather than reducing protection to control or physical danger alone, John and Devin break down four concrete ways husbands are called to stand between their wives, children, and the forces that quietly erode peace and unity. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 33 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness:https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule:https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/Coupon Code for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If Satan and his demons are going around waging a perpetual war on mankind and seeking whom they may devour, wouldn't it be great if we understood their tactics and strategies? Today John, Devin, and Sam discuss how the Church has grown in her understanding, through Scripture, theology, as well as exorcisms, and how we can use this knowledge to our benefit. We discuss man's need for temptation and how Satan gains entrance into our lives. We unpack why you need to know the tactics of Satan, how understanding this can provide clarity in your lives, and how you can be battle-ready to protect yourself against his attacks. Today we get to answer a question for a listener regarding his insecurities about measuring up while around other men. ✅ If you have any questions that we can answer on the show, please, send your questions to us at [email protected]. If you record yourself on your phone and send us the audio clip we will play it on air. 🔴 🔴 Watch the extended addition, all 1h 30 mins of episode 143 on Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com, and become a part of the movement to become a man and a saint. Help Support the Catholic Gentleman by either signing up for CG+ https://catholicgentlemanplus.com or https://catholicgentleman.com/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do so many men find themselves struggling with the same patterns their fathers struggled with: anger, distraction, work obsession, emotional distance, lust, even despite promising they’d be different? The truth is, fathers pass far more to their children than they realize. Not just beliefs or values, but habits, tone, priorities, and ways of relating that quietly shape the next generation. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose five hidden vices that fathers often pass on without ever intending to. They challenge men to see what their children are already learning from them, and how to break destructive cycles before they become generational. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for deeper formation, exclusive sessions, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Join us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@TheCatholicGentleman 👉 25% OFF Devin’s new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Use coupon code Gentleman25 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Keith Nester spent more than two decades as a Protestant pastor. Preaching, leading, counseling, and absolutely certain he would never become Catholic. Yet his actual conversion story is long, often humorous, at times painful, and far deeper than a simple change of denomination. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt sit down with​ ⁨ @KeithNester  to uncover what really happened behind the scenes: the fears he carried, the pride he had to confront, the moments of grace that broke him open, and the unexpected ways God used marriage, suffering, and friendship to draw him home. But this isn’t just a conversion story, the show quickly turns to truths every man needs to hear. Truths about how to lead, love, and live the faith with integrity. Keith shares the “hard truth” he believes all men must face: that authority without humility collapses, that evangelization begins long before words are spoken, but we still must speak, and that the quiet witness of fatherhood, sacrifice, and joy can transform more hearts than arguments ever will. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@keithnester Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/keithnestercatholic Website - https://down2earthministry.org/ 👉 25% OFF Devin’s new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Use coupon code Gentleman25 for 25% off this Christmas Season. SPONSOR - https://www.vocatiotravel.com Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every parent wonders if their child will grow up successful, strong, capable, and grounded in faith. Most turn to schools, activities, friendships, or strategies to secure that future. But in this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt cut through the noise and uncover what research, psychology, and the Catholic tradition all identify as the single greatest predictor of a child’s long-term success. It’s not more activities, better schools, or the right opportunities. It’s something far closer to home. John and Devin share stories, lived experience, and a practical framework any father can begin living today. You’ll walk away challenged, encouraged, and surprised by how simple, yet demanding, the path really is. If you’ve ever wondered what truly sets a child up for lifelong success, this conversation has the answer.🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 25% OFF Devin’s new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/Use coupon code Gentleman25 for 25% off this Christmas Season.   Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every father faces the immense challenge of shaping his son. In this compelling episode, John Heinen, Devin Schadt, and Sam Guzman confront the critical question: How can fathers avoid leaving emotional wounds and instead raise sons who thrive to be men? Discover the five essential needs every son has from his father. Needs that, when neglected, keep a boy from becoming a man. Join us as we unpack these vital lessons that empower fathers to break the cycle of hurt and build a legacy of strength and integrity. We love to answer your questions so please send them to us at [email protected] 🔴 NEW SESSION ON SURRENDER, now available. You can get this, dozens of talks, sessions, and books inside of CatholicGentlemanPlus.com - Join Us Today! 33 Sessions Now Available - Weekly Extended Episodes - Exclusive Monthly Guest Experts - Daily Saint Quotes and More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when your spouse’s past sins still frustrate your present? When forgiveness has been given, but you find yourself still losing your peace and thinking about it? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt confront a painful and often-unspoken challenge in marriage, how to find peace, confidence, and love when your spouse’s past continues to echo in your life. They discuss why sexual sin leaves such deep scars, how comparison poisons peace, and how Christ’s mercy can restore both love and trust.   Today, they share the theology, psychology, and practical steps that lead to freedom. Whether you’re haunted by your spouse’s past or your own, this episode reveals how God can make what was wounded whole again. SPONSOR - https://www.vocatiotravel.com 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for exclusive formation, daily saint reflections, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s new book The Rule — your roadmap to authentic Catholic manhood: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off.   Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every couple begins marriage with love, purpose, and seemingly endless dreams, but then the kids arrive...and everything changes. Sleepless nights, endless noise, and unrelenting schedules can slowly replace tenderness with tension. Before long, spouses who once felt inseparable find themselves living like teammates or strangers, wondering where the closeness went.  In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt confront one of the hardest truths of married life: intimacy doesn’t die overnight; it fades when it’s no longer pursued. They share how to see, hear, remember, and respect your wife again, and how daily virtue (not quick fixes) restores the bond that children, exhaustion, and the world so easily erode.  🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for 30+ sessions to help you understand how to balance work, how to overcome lust, how to actually prayer, and a ton more: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com👉 Get Devin Schadt’s new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off.  Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno ______________________ 🔴 PLEASE HELP US GROW THIS CHANNEL 🔴1. Don’t miss a Youtube Catholic Gentleman Video: Please click SUBSCRIBE, then Click the "Notification Bell" = 🔔and select “ALL”. This will make sure that you are notified when any new video is released. 2. Please "Like" this video. 👍3. Please share this video on Facebook and Twitter using the SHARE button. ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN -- https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentlemanhttps://twitter.com/catholicgent______________________ Go to our website https://catholicgentleman.com/podcast-listing to join our mailing list Please SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, AND SHARE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most couples believe love and faith are enough to build a marriage. But what if they aren't? Too often, the real cracks appear after the vows because they never talked about what truly matters. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt walk through the questions engaged or serious couples must ask to build a lasting, holy marriage - the ones no one talks about anymore. From intimacy and past wounds to faith, finances, and family culture, this episode uncovers the silent assumptions that quietly sabotage relationships. Whether you’re preparing for marriage or already living it, this conversation will challenge and strengthen you to love with purpose, lead with humility, and live your vows with integrity. QUESTION DOWNLOAD - https://bit.ly/TCG-Pre-Marriage-Questions 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 exclusive formation sessions, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/Use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off. Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices