
168- Mental Load & Mismatched Desire or libido // When You Feel Touched Out, Shut Down, or Disconnected
If you’ve ever thought…
- “I love my partner, but I just don’t want sex.”
- “By the end of the day I’m touched out.”
- “I feel guilty that I’m never in the mood.”
- “Something feels off… but I don’t know what.”
This episode is for you.
Low desire isn’t always hormonal. It’s not always about attraction. And it’s definitely not because you’re broken.
More often than not, it’s about mental load, nervous system overwhelm, and emotional disconnection.
In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the invisible weight women carry — and how that weight directly impacts pelvic floor tension, arousal, pain with intercourse, and overall intimacy.
Because desire doesn’t disappear randomly. It gets crowded out.
In This Episode, We Cover:- What the “mental load” actually is — and why it’s exhausting your nervous system
- How chronic stress increases pelvic floor tension and guarding
- Why feeling unsupported during the day shows up in the bedroom
- The connection between cortisol, safety, and arousal
- How resentment and emotional disconnection subtly affect your body
- The “Mental Load → Guarding → Guilt” cycle many women are stuck in
- Simple ways to rebuild emotional intimacy without pressure or performance
Your pelvic floor does not exist in isolation.
When you’re in fight-or-flight all day — planning, managing, caretaking, carrying the emotional labor of your home — your body does not magically flip into relaxation mode at night.
Arousal requires parasympathetic safety. Pleasure requires softness. Connection requires nervous system regulation.
You cannot feel open in a body that feels responsible for everything.
Practical Ways to Bridge Emotional IntimacyWe discuss:
✔️ Reducing the invisible labor load ✔️ Non-sexual connection rituals ✔️ Regulating your nervous system before initiating intimacy ✔️ Expanding your definition of intimacy beyond performance ✔️ Creating safety in micro-moments, not grand gestures
Because foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom. It starts in how supported you felt all day.
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Inside RESTORE, we cover:
- Breathwork + pelvic floor connection
- Mobility + posture
- Nervous system regulation
- Core control + strength building
- Real-life application to everyday movement
- And how to stop leaking, rushing to the bathroom, or feeling disconnected from your core
You’ll walk away from RESTORE with clarity, confidence, and a body you trust again.
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