Episode 561 - Sober Guy, How Do I Stay Cool When Everyone's Drinking But Me?

Life doesn't stop throwing curveballs just because you quit drinking. The bills still come in, the kids still melt down, and yes — sometimes it can be awkward being the only one at the party who's not drinking.  That's where "Sober Guy… How Do I" comes in. Each short, no-BS episode dives into the real questions guys ask once the bottle's gone and life gets real again. Questions like: Sober Guy, how do I stay calm when I get a flat tire? Sober Guy, how do I deal with stress at work without losing it? Sober Guy, how do I stop comparing myself to everyone else? Host Shane Ramer, creator of That Sober Guy Podcast, keeps it honest, hilarious, and grounded — blending personal stories, spiritual principles, and practical tools that actually work in real life. No fluff. No guru talk. Just real answers for men who want to quit drinking, lead strong, and win at life. This week, Keith from our free online mens community The Victory Circle asks:  Sober Guy, How Do I Stay Cool When Everyone's Drinking But Me?   💡 Takeaways You'll Get from Each Episode: Simple tools to keep your peace when life hits hard How to use recovery principles in everyday moments Ways to stay grateful, grounded, and strong — without the hangover   ⚡ Ready to Go Further? 💬 Join the Victory Circle – our free men's community for accountability, support, and real conversations that help you grow. 📘 Grab Shane's new book, Sober Guy, How Do I… Real Answers for Men Who Want to Quit Drinking, Lead Strong, and Win at Life — available now on Amazon. 🔥 Apply for 1-on-1 Coaching with Shane if you're ready to level up your sobriety, mindset, and leadership. Listen now, laugh a little, and learn how to not let life's flat tires wreck your day — or your sobriety.   Check out Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Join "The Victory Circle", our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout   AMPLIFY Sober Voices Event - https://amplify.soberliferocks.com/     Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days   Work with Shane 1 on 1 Coaching - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching   Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking   For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com   Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/   Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast   Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast    Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod   Music - Going Late courtesy of Humans & Haven Sounds Inc.   National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

🎙️ Sober Guy, How Do I... A new series from That Sober Guy Podcast Life doesn't stop throwing curveballs just because you quit drinking. The bills still come in, the kids still have melt downs, and yes sometimes you wake up to a flat tire… again… and start questioning your luck, your patience, and your entire neighborhood construction crew. That's where "Sober Guy, How Do I" comes in. Each short, no-BS episode dives into the real questions guys ask once the bottle's gone and life gets real again. Questions like: Sober Guy, how do I stay calm when things just aren't going my way? Sober Guy, how do I deal with stress at work without losing it? Sober Guy, how do I stop comparing myself to everyone else? Host Shane Ramer, creator of That Sober Guy Podcast, keeps it honest, hilarious, and grounded, blending personal stories, spiritual principles, and practical tools that actually work in real life. No fluff. Just real answers for men who want to quit drinking, lead strong, and win at life. 💡 Takeaways You'll Get from Each Episode: Simple tools to keep your peace when life hits hard How to use recovery principles in everyday moments Ways to stay grateful, grounded, and strong — without the hangover ⚡ Ready to Go Further? 💬 Join the Victory Circle – our free men's community for accountability, support, and real conversations that help you grow. 📘 Grab Shane's new book, Sober Guy, How Do I… Real Answers for Men Who Want to Quit Drinking, Lead Strong, and Win at Life — available now on Amazon. 🔥 Apply for 1-on-1 Coaching with Shane if you're ready to level up your sobriety, mindset, and leadership. Listen now, laugh a little, and learn how to not let life's flat tires wreck your day — or your sobriety. Join "The Victory Circle", our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout   AMPLIFY Sober Voices Event - https://amplify.soberliferocks.com/     Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days   Work with Shane 1 on 1 Coaching - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching   Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking   For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com   Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/   Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast   Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast    Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod   Music - Going Late courtesy of Humans & Haven Sounds Inc.   National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK (8255)  

We're living in the age of the Reset. Klaus Schwabb calls it the "Great Reset". But were not talking about Klaus Schwabb or his quote that you will "own nothing and like it".  Although some of the following are great things to try, we're also not talking about a reset by cold plunges, breathwork, ice baths. red light therapy or gratitude journaling, either. We're talking about the one "reset" that's actually changing lives, quitting alcohol. In this episode, Shane dives into why so many high-performing men, business owners, leaders, and entrepreneurs, are walking away from the "work hard, play hard" lifestyle and choosing clarity, peace, and purpose instead. You'll hear why Reset Culture is more than just a trend, it's a movement of men who are tired of feeling burned out, anxious, and disconnected… and ready to build a new kind of success story that doesn't come with a hangover. Expect truth, humor, and a few gut punches along the way. (And probably a joke or two about how we used to think tequila was self-care.) 💡 In This Episode: Why high-achievers are trading late nights for early mornings The surprising link between alcohol, anxiety, and ambition How sobriety gives you an unfair advantage in business and life The difference between numbing out and leveling up Why "peace" is the new "flex" ⚡️ Actionable Takeaways: Do a Personal Reset Audit: Ask yourself — "Am I using alcohol to escape or to elevate?" Be honest. That answer can change your life. Find Your Crew: You can't build momentum in isolation. Join The Victory Circle, our free sober men's community, where high-performing men connect, share wins, and stay accountable. Get Real Support: 👉 Join The Victory Circle (Free Community) 👉 Apply for 1-on-1 Coaching That Sober Guy, the number #1 Men's Sober Podcast since 2014 – Helping men quit drinking, take back control, and build the life they were meant to lead.   Join "The Victory Circle", our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout   AMPLIFY Sober Voices Event - https://amplify.soberliferocks.com/     Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days   Work with Shane 1 on 1 Coaching - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching   Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking   For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com   Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/   Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast   Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast    Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod   Music - Going Late courtesy of Humans & Haven Sounds Inc.   National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK (8255)      

Apparently, choosing not to drink now makes you controversial. In this episode, Shane dives into the cultural weirdness around sobriety — why quitting alcohol freaks people out more than drinking too much, how clear-headed men are suddenly being called "radical," and what this says about masculinity, culture, and freedom in 2025. From The Guardian's recent article "Mocktails for MAGA: Why the US Right Is Turning Sober" to the growing trend of men reclaiming their focus, faith, and families, Shane breaks down why a simple glass of sparkling water can now spark a political debate. You'll laugh, shake your head, and probably think twice about why society celebrates dysfunction and ridicules discipline. Because here's the truth, sobriety isn't extreme. It's clarity. It's leadership. It's power. And in a world that glorifies chaos, staying sober might just be the most rebellious move you can make. Key Takeaways Don't let culture define your character — "normal" isn't always right. True masculinity isn't about how much you can drink, but how much you can carry. Staying sober isn't weakness — it's the foundation of real freedom and clarity. Join the Movement If you're ready to level up your mind, health, and leadership: 👉 Join our free men's community — The Victory Circle — where sober, high-performing men are redefining what strength looks like. Or if you're ready to go deeper, apply for 1-on-1 coaching and build a system to help you quit drinking and win long-term. Links are in the show notes below. Join "The Victory Circle", our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout   AMPLIFY Sober Voices Event - https://amplify.soberliferocks.com/   Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days   Work with Shane 1 on 1 Coaching - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching   Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking   For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com   Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/   Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast   Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast    Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod   Music - Going Late courtesy of Humans & Haven Sounds Inc.   National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK (8255)   https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/oct/09/trump-maga-alcohol-drinking  

Today on That Sober Guy Podcast, we're joined by a legend in the speaking and performance world, Joel Bauer. This dude has trained some of the most elite speakers, presenters, and marketers on the planet to monetize their life experience and create real influence, both on and offline. If you've ever seen someone captivate a room and thought, "How the hell do they do that?" - there's a good chance Joel's fingerprints are somewhere in their training. But here's where it gets real, Joel's not just about stage presence and sales. He's lived through and witnessed the dark side of addiction up close, and he's got some powerful wisdom for men who know they've got that "addictive personality" wiring. Instead of letting it wreck your life, Joel breaks down how to redirect that same intensity into something that actually serves you, your business, your relationships, your health, and your purpose. And, of course, we have a few laughs along the way, because if you can't laugh at the insanity of this crazy life, what's the point? A couple of key takeaways from today's episode: Your "addictive" tendencies aren't a curse, they're untapped potential when harnessed with the right structure and intention. Influence isn't about what you sell, it's about the truth you're willing to share and the transformation you've lived. If this episode hits home for you, don't go it alone. Join our free men's community, The Victory Circle , where high-performing men connect, share wins, and stay accountable on the path to sobriety, strength, and purpose. Or if you're ready to go deeper, reach out for 1-on-1 coaching and let's build a plan to help you quit drinking and get your fire back.   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/joelbauerofficial YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@joelbauer Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joelbauermentor/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joelbauer/   Join "The Victory Circle", our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout   AMPLIFY Sober Voices Event - https://amplify.soberliferocks.com/     Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days   Work with Shane 1 on 1 Coaching - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching   Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking   For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com   Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/   Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast   Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast    Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod   Music - Going Late courtesy of Humans & Haven Sounds Inc.   National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK (8255)        

Are men drinking themselves out of masculinity? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, we break down how alcohol quietly strips away the very things men pride themselves on - strength, drive, sex drive, and mental toughness. From the "beer belly badge of surrender" to the not-so-funny reality of whiskey D, we'll dive into the science and the everyday impact booze has on your body, brain, and relationships. We'll also get real about why many men reach for the bottle to feel confident or tough, and how that short-term crutch is often the thing eroding their long-term manhood. This isn't about chest-thumping caveman masculinity. It's about the grit, focus, discipline, and clarity that make men leaders, fathers, husbands, and high performers — and why alcohol is the biggest enemy of all four. Expect some laughs, some uncomfortable truths, and a wake-up call that might just change the way you think about your next drink. Actionable Takeaways: Ask yourself: Is alcohol fueling my manhood or stealing it? Be brutally honest. Replace one "manhood killer" (nightly drinking) with one "manhood builder" (a workout, journaling, cold shower, or just showing up present with your family). If you're ready to sharpen your edge, join our free men's community — The Victory Circle — where other guys are quitting drinking and leveling up together. Or, if you want deeper support, reach out for 1-on-1 coaching and let's build your strongest, clearest, most powerful self.   Join "The Victory Circle", our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout   AMPLIFY Sober Voices Event - https://amplify.soberliferocks.com/     Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days   Work with Shane 1 on 1 Coaching - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching   Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking   For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com   Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/   Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast   Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast    Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod   Music - Going Late courtesy of Humans & Haven Sounds Inc.   National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Every touchdown, home run, and knockout seems to come with a side of beer, or at least a commercial for it. From Budweiser's billion-dollar deal with the NFL, to tequila pouring all over UFC fight nights, to beer practically funding baseball stadiums, alcohol and sports have become inseparable. But should they be? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane takes a look at alcohol advertising in sports. Do leagues like the NFL, MLB, NBA, and UFC owe fans more responsibility when it comes to promoting addictive substances? Why are we okay with tequila logos on jerseys, but we'd never accept Marlboro as the "official cigarette of the Finals"? And is it just hypocrisy to glorify peak performance athletes while cashing checks from companies selling a product that wrecks health and lives? We'll explore: How alcohol ads target not just adults, but kids and families watching games. The normalization of booze as "part of the fan experience." The Big Tobacco playbook—and how alcohol companies are running the same game. Whether banning alcohol ads in sports could actually be a good thing. All with a little humor and sarcasm, because nothing says "family-friendly Sunday football" like pounding tallboys and screaming at the ref who can't hear you. Actionable Takeaways: Pay attention during the next game, notice how often alcohol shows up, and what message it's sending. If you're in early sobriety, set boundaries, mute commercials, watch with sober friends, or create new game-day rituals. And remember, you don't have to do this alone. Join our free men's community, The Victory Circle, where guys like you connect, share wins, and support each other in sobriety. Or, if you're ready to go deeper, reach out for 1-on-1 coachingand let's walk this path together.   Join "The Victory Circle", our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout   AMPLIFY Sober Voices Event - https://amplify.soberliferocks.com/   Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days   Work with Shane 1 on 1 Coaching - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching   Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking   For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com   Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/   Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast   Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast    Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod   Music - Going Late courtesy of Humans & Haven Sounds Inc.   National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK (8255)  

This week on That Sober Guy Podcast, we're sitting down with Corey Warren, a guy who proves that sobriety doesn't have to be boring and that vulnerability is actually a superpower. Corey's not out here spitting drug facts or throwing scare tactics at people. Instead, he shares his own messy, real-life journey while breaking down the very real dangers of alcohol, drugs, vaping, and pills. But it doesn't stop there, Corey also leans into the conversations most people avoid: mental health, peer pressure, and the never-ending battle of knowing your own worth. With over 200K followers on Instagram (@icoreywarren) , Corey's creative videos are reaching people across the world who are ready to step away from alcohol and step into freedom. He's not afraid to laugh at himself, keep it raw, and show you that life on the other side of drinking is not only possible, it's actually pretty damn fun. We swap stories, talk about the power of getting honest, and even have a few laughs at the ridiculous things we used to think were "normal" when drinking. 🎯 Takeaways from this episode: Why being vulnerable is a strength, not a weakness. How to find your identity during early sobriety. Practical tools you can use today to build self-worth and live free. If you're ready to take your next step in building a life without alcohol, join our free men's community, The Victory Circle, where guys just like you are quitting drinking and leveling up in business, health, and family. Or, if you want to go deeper, reach out for 1-on-1 coaching and let's build your roadmap to freedom. Follow Corey's page of over 200K followers on IG @icoreywarren Join "The Victory Circle", our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout   AMPLIFY Sober Voices Event - https://amplify.soberliferocks.com/     Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days   Work with Shane 1 on 1 Coaching - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching   Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking   For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com   Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/   Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast   Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast   Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod   Music - Going Late courtesy of Humans & Haven Sounds Inc.   National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK (8255)    

We've all been there, head pounding, stomach churning, swearing "never again", only to do it all over again the next weekend. So why do we keep falling for the same hangover trap? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, we peel back the curtain on the big lie of hangovers: why we minimize the pain, laugh it off, and even turn it into a cultural joke instead of seeing it for what it really is, a red flag from our body. Here's what we'll cover: The science of hangovers in plain English (dehydration, dopamine crash, no REM sleep, body in full recovery mode). Why hangovers don't actually stop us: alcohol amnesia, dopamine hijack, and a culture that glamorizes misery. How to spot the moment when hangovers shift from "funny story" to "wake-up call." And yes, there will be some laughs along the way. Think: breakfast burritos and bad decisions.  🎯 Actionable Takeaways: Start tracking how often you repeat the "never again" cycle — patterns are powerful. Reframe hangovers as warning labels instead of "badges of honor." If you're tired of ignoring the pain and ready to break the cycle, join our free men's community The Victory Circle, a place for high-performing men to get real about sobriety, health, and growth. Or if you're ready to go deeper, reach out today for 1-on-1 coaching and start building the sober life you actually want. Join our Sober October Accelerator! Go to ThatSoberGuy.com to grab your spot!   Join "The Victory Circle", our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout   AMPLIFY Sober Voices Event - https://amplify.soberliferocks.com/     Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days   Work with Shane 1 on 1 Coaching - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching   Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking   For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com   Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/   Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast   Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast   Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod   Music - Going Late courtesy of Humans & Haven Sounds Inc.   National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK (8255)    

Sobriety isn't just about putting down the bottle, it's about picking up a bigger purpose. In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane shares why your story matters, how to break through the "now what?" moment after quitting, and how to use your clarity as a launch pad for creativity, business, and leadership. We'll dive into: Why sober voices matter in breaking stigma and giving hope How to channel your time, energy, and money into purpose-driven work Real examples of men who've launched businesses, podcasts, and legacies through sobriety Why your story doesn't have to be perfect or dramatic to make an impact Sobriety isn't a limitation, it's leverage. Whether you feel called to write, lead, or build, your sober story has the power to change lives (including your own). 👉 Action Steps from this episode: Write out your story, or write down one area where sobriety has freed up your time, money, or energy. Decide where you can reinvest it this week - creativity, business, family, or leadership. Share your story with one other person. Even a simple conversation can spark change. And hey, if you want to take this to the next level, Shane will be speaking live on January 15th in Orlando, Florida at the first-ever Amplify Sober Voices Conference, part of Podfest Expo. Come connect with other sober leaders and creators who are making their voices heard. Join "The Victory Circle", our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout   AMPLIFY Sober Voices Event - https://amplify.soberliferocks.com/     Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days   Work with Shane 1 on 1 Coaching - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching   Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking   For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com   Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/   Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast   Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast    Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod   Music - Going Late courtesy of Humans & Haven Sounds Inc.   National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK (8255)