How To Stop Being So Judgmental (And The Judgments I’ve Had To Release) - The Quickie

What if the biggest predictor of success isn’t talent... but grit? According to psychologist Angela Duckworth, grit is: Passion + perseverance for long-term goals. It’s the ability to stay committed, even when things feel hard or uncertain. As Winston Churchill said: “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” In today's quickie, we’re breaking down the psychology of grit, and why your ability to stay consistent matters more than IQ, natural ability, or connections. If you’ve ever felt behind, not “naturally gifted,” or unsure of your potential... this episode will reframe everything. Tune in to hear more about: Why grit is the #1 predictor of success Angela Duckworth's groundbreaking studies on success How to stop disqualifying yourself from your potential The link between grit, resilience, and mental toughness Why passion matters (and burnout happens without it) When to quit vs stick it out How to build grit in your own life The connection between grit and happiness If you want to measure your grit, you can take the official Grit Scale by Angela Duckworth: 👉 The Grit Scale Quiz ✨ I'm officially on Substack!!! It would mean the world if you could support my writing by subscribing to my Substack here! For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@[email protected] on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from past episodes that you might have missed.  ADHD in adults is often missed or misdiagnosed... especially in women. We're throwing it back to this insightful info from ADHD coach Shanna Pearson, on the science and brain chemistry behind ADHD, the three types of ADHD and how symptoms differ drastically across gender, and why so many women are diagnosed with anxiety before discovering they have ADHD. Shanna Pearson is the founder of the world’s largest one-on-one ADHD coaching company, working with thousands of adults with ADHD every year, and the bestselling author of Invisible ADHD. Follow Shannon and check out her book: https://www.adhdcoaching.com/  https://www.invisibleadhd.com/  Listen to our full episode here. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@[email protected] on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

What if your biggest self-sabotaging habits are actually the inverse of your love language? We’re diving into the psychology of "loathe languages", and how your unmet emotional needs might be showing up in your toxic traits. After seeing a viral idea about “loathe languages” (the shadow side of your love language), we’re unpacking how the very ways you need love might be the exact areas you unintentionally block it. If you find yourself defaulting to isolation, negative self-talk, avoidance, deprivation, or burnout, understanding and interrupting your 'loathe language' can help you better meet your needs before you spiral. Tune in to hear about:  The connection between love languages and self-sabotaging behavior What your “loathe language” is and how it shows up in daily life Why quality time types may isolate or withdraw from loved ones How acts of service can turn into over-functioning, burnout, and refusing help The opposite side of physical touch (avoidance, disconnection, neglecting self-care) How words of affirmation can become harsh self-criticism and negative inner dialogue Why gift-giving/receiving can manifest as impulse spending or restriction Recognizing when you’re in a self-sabotage cycle How to meet your needs in healthier, more aligned ways For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@[email protected] on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

If the news is ruining your mental health, listen to this.  News anxiety is at an all-time high as we’re bombarded with breaking headlines and social media coverage of... every single shitshow that's simultaneously unfolding globally. And unlike previous periods of unrest throughout history, it's all delivered straight to our phones, 24/7, for us to worry about.   Washington D.C. therapist Steven Stosny coined the term "headline stress disorder" to describe the huge mental health impact of our nonstop news cycle. In this re-release, we explore how to stay informed and consume the news responsibly while protecting our mental health. Because we can't make an impact if we're operating in overwhelm and hopelessness.  Tune in to hear more about: ✅ How the 24-hour news cycle fuels anxiety & fear-based algorithms ✅ Ways to stay informed without feeling emotionally drained ✅ How to break free from doomscrolling & social media-induced panic ✅ Practical strategies to set news boundaries & curate mindful media consumption ✅ Why focusing on what you CAN control is key to mental resilience ✅ The importance of hope & positive news for your mental well-being Looking for uplifting news sources? Check these out: ✨ Good Good Good ✨ Good News Movement ✨ Tank’s Good News 🔗 Read more on managing worry & anxiety at metacognitivetherapy.com.  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@[email protected] on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.  Money can be a major point of shame, anxiety, guilt, and avoidance for a lot of us, so we're throwing it back to this deep dive with financial expert Jessica Moorhouse on the psychology of money and how to heal your relationship with it, so you can stop toxic financial habits and rewire your money mindset. Jessica is a millennial money expert, speaker, Accredited Financial Counsellor Canada®, bestselling author of Everything but Money, host of the More Money Podcast, and a leading voice on personal finance and emotional literacy in financial wellness. Listen to our full episode with Jessica here. Check out Jessica's book, Everything but Money. Follow Jessica on Instagram, YouTube, and her website. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@[email protected] on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Did you know that happy people are less judgmental? Nobody likes being judged… and for the judgmental ones, it doesn’t feel good either. We’ve all been judgy, and the truth is, being overly critical of others is often linked to insecurity, anxiety, perfectionism, and unhappiness. Subscribe to my new Substack! In this week’s quickie, we’re unpacking the psychology of judgment: where it comes from, why we do it, and how to become less judgmental in a world that fuels comparison and criticism about everything from how we parent, to how we look, to how we earn and spend our money. Judgment usually says more about our own wounds than someone else’s behaviour. So we’re exploring the psychological drivers behind judging, and psychology-backed tools to shift into a more curious, understanding, and compassionate mindset. Tune in to hear: Why the ego needs to feel “right” The link between perfectionism and criticism How insecurity and comparison fuels judgment The connection between self-judgment and judging others Understanding the Fundamental Attribution Error The blind spots I’ve had to confront in my own judgments Using curiosity as the antidote to judgment Challenging your assumptions and biases Practicing self-compassion to reduce projection   For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@[email protected] on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from past episodes that you might have missed.  What achievement would feel like "enough" for you? Is there a level of success you'd ever be totally satisfied with? If you're an over-achiever that's always chasing what's next, this one's for you. We're throwing it back to this potent conversation with Leisse Wilcox, where we unpack the never-ending pursuit of more achievement, the 4 "P"s of self-sabotage (from perfectionism to people-pleasing) and how to actually feel like enough.  Leisse is a keynote speaker, leadership consultant, performance coach, emotional intelligence expert and two-times best-selling author. Known as “the Marie Kondo of your Unconscious”, She helps clients and businesses turns self-sabotage into success in each of life's cornerstone areas, combining strategic consulting and therapeutic coaching tools.  Follow Leisse on Instagram and check out her website.  Read Leisse’s bestselling books, To Call Myself Beloved and Alone: The Truth + Beauty of Belonging. Listen to our full episode here. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@[email protected] on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Moving in with your partner? Before you sign the lease, you need to talk about money. As I prepare to move in with my partner for the first time (your girl’s growing up!), I revisited our practical and helpful conversation with personal finance expert and author, Alyssa Davies, about how to navigate your finances when you’re merging lives with your partner, and how to set yourself up for success when you’re moving in together. We dive into the financial conversations every couple should have before moving in — from how to split rent and household expenses when your income is different, to structuring joint finances in a way that feels equitable and aligned with your shared goals. Because merging lives means merging money — and that’s hella vulnerable. Alyssa Davies is a 2x author and the mastermind behind award-winning Canadian personal finance website and YouTube channel, Mixed Up Money, where she dishes out financial content for women who care about their money.  Tune in to hear: Alyssa’s advice for couples who are moving in together The most important money conversations to have Different ways to structure your joint and separate accounts Equal vs equitable expense splitting (and how to divide rent when your incomes are different) How to protect your assets if your partner moves in What to do if you have different spending/saving habits Saving for big milestones together (travel, home, wedding, investments) Avoiding resentment around money and contribution Tools for successful budgeting with your partner Follow Alyssa: mixedupmoney.com/ instagram.com/mixedupmoney/ Alyssa's Budgeting Templates: mixedupmoney.com/shop For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@[email protected] on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.  Your to-do list Is lying to you… not everything is urgent, and productivity isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing what matters most. As Greg McKeown says: “When you prioritize the important over the urgent, you don’t just get more done, you get the right things done.” And that’s the difference between a busy life and a meaningful one. We’re throwing it back to 3 practical steps to master prioritization using principles from productivity minimalism and Essentialism. We cover the Law of Inverse Prioritization, and effective decision-making questions to filter every task and commitment. Listen to our full episode here. Resources mentioned: Greg McKeown’s Instagram video Greg’s book and academy on Essentialism Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@[email protected] on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Feeling lost in your career? Questioning your life direction? So many of us spend our 20s and 30s chasing the job titles we’re told we “should” have, lofty income goals, or status, only to end up feeling disconnected, unfulfilled, and like we’ve sold our soul along the way.What if the answer to career clarity and job satisfaction isn’t ahead of you… it’s behind you?Research shows that people whose adult careers align with their early interests experience higher job satisfaction, better income, and greater educational attainment. If you loved writing, building, organizing, performing, asking questions, leading groups, solving problems, or creating things as a kid, those patterns can still guide what feels meaningful and easeful in adulthood.So in today’s episode, we explore how your childhood interests and your true nature as a kid can offer clues for what will bring you long-term career fulfillment — and why reconnecting with who you were as a child is an evidence-based career strategy.Tune in to hear about:Why so many adults feel lost or misaligned in their careersThe disconnect between societal expectations and your authentic selfHow your childhood “essence” reveals your natural strengthsPrompts to uncover your core natureThe new research linking childhood interests to adult job satisfactionHow interests are often more stable than personality traitsHolland’s RIASEC career theory in the 6 interest categoriesHow to use your younger self as a practical career compassFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@[email protected] on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube