#72 Exploring Sexology and Societal Norms with DeVika Lyles

Send us a textReady to transform your relationship? Tune into a riveting conversation where we promise you'll gain profound insights on deepening emotional and physical intimacy with your partner. Join Tamara and her special guest, therapist Stephie Flood, as they explore how past experiences and childhood influences shape our present-day connections. Stephie opens up about her unique journey into therapy, shaped by her religious upbringing and early marriage, and offers invaluable advice on recognizing and addressing these deep-seated influences for a more fulfilling relationship.Ever wondered how family backgrounds impact your marriage? Stephie and Tamara unravel the complexities of adjusting to different family dynamics, sharing personal stories that highlight how being an only child or growing up in a bustling household affects one's tolerance for chaos. They delve into the importance of understanding each other's attachment styles, guided by insights from the book "Attached" and John Gottman's research, and discuss how these styles influence issues like jealousy and the narratives we create about our partner's past relationships.In today's digital age, maintaining intimacy requires modern strategies. This episode offers practical tips for setting boundaries with social media and fostering transparent communication about online interactions. They also introduce two courses designed to help couples build emotional and physical intimacy, emphasizing the significance of understanding each other's love languages and emotional needs. Don't miss this episode filled with expert tips and heartfelt stories to help you and your partner connect more deeply.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textCan discussing sex openly break down societal stigmas and lead to healthier relationships? Join us for a thought-provoking episode where we challenge the taboos surrounding conversations about sex. Sarah, with her medical expertise, sheds light on how patients often shy away from discussing sexual health issues unless prompted by a physician. JJ offers a personal narrative about navigating sexual stigma from a young age, highlighting the significance of early sex education. This also establishes boundaries to prevent abusive relationships. This chapter underscores that open dialogue about sexuality is crucial for personal growth and building healthy adult relationships.Ever wondered if it's too late to discover your sensuality? Sharla's inspiring journey of embracing her sexuality later in life proves otherwise. We emphasize the need for open communication about sexual health, especially when dealing with medical challenges like cancer or erectile dysfunction. Distinguishing between desire and arousal, we explore how women's interest in sex evolves over time while still achieving fulfilling experiences. The revolutionary impact of Viagra for men and common misunderstandings about its use are also discussed, alongside the unique challenges women face due to the complexity of their sexual health. This chapter stresses the importance of transparent conversations with partners to overcome shame and enhance intimacy.Understanding female arousal involves more than just the physical act. Drawing from Dr. Cindy Messon's research and insights, we delve into the complexities of women's arousal, emphasizing context, mental state, and emotional well-being. We discuss how misinterpretations can lead to relationship issues and highlight the physiological and hormonal factors influencing women's sexual responsiveness, particularly how life events like childbirth can affect arousal. By sharing these insights, we aim to foster open communication and self-awareness, essential elements for maintaining healthy sexual relationships. Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textDiscover the secrets behind the tangled web of modern relationships with our special guest, Quentin, on this episode of Straight from the Source's Mouth. Have you ever felt suffocated in a relationship or struggled with a partner's anxious tendencies? Quentin opens up about his personal journey, shedding light on avoidant and anxious attachment styles, and how these dynamics can lead to a cycle of avoidance and anxiety. Through candid discussions and real-life examples, Quentin provides valuable insights into how childhood trauma and parental influence play a significant role in shaping our romantic interactions.Navigating the complexities of personal needs within a relationship can be daunting, especially when dealing with issues like sensory sensitivities or health conditions such as Bi-Polar Disorder. Quentin shares compelling stories, including a couple dealing with miscommunication around financial support and quality time. We explore how societal challenges, like the lack of parenting guidance, contribute to the struggle of forming secure and healthy connections. This episode encourages listeners to recognize the importance of balancing individual needs with those of their partners, fostering better understanding and harmony.In a world where superficial interactions are often mistaken for genuine connection, Quentin emphasizes the need for authenticity and continual self-improvement. We tackle the pitfalls of idealizing ourselves during early dating stages and how this can obstruct true intimacy. Mental health takes center stage as we advocate for embracing therapy and breaking the stigma around seeking professional help. Tune in for practical advice on self-reflection and personal growth, ensuring you leave with a deeper understanding of yourself and the tools to cultivate healthier relationship dynamics. Don’t forget to share, rate, and tell your friends about this enlightening episode!Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textAll of the couples from Love is Blind could stay together if they knew this information about each other....Unlock the secrets of your subconscious mind with hypnotist Nicholas Spohn, founder of Ministry of the Mind. Discover how unrecognized values inherited from our past can create an intriguing tug-of-war within us, especially when it comes to relationships. Navigate the complex dance between desiring intimacy and fearing the loss of freedom as we uncover how these subconscious values shape your actions and decisions. Nicholas sheds light on resolving these internal conflicts, addressing the often-overlooked impact they have on personal growth.Join us as we explore practical strategies to elevate your relationships by pinpointing core values, rules, and beliefs. Through insightful questioning, we reveal the invisible forces driving your behaviors and how these elements can be ethically harnessed for positive influence across personal and professional interactions. Plus, Nicholas introduces "Living Your Highest Values," a course designed to align your subconscious beliefs with your conscious desires, fostering fulfillment in all life aspects. Don't miss this enlightening episode that offers actionable tools for achieving alignment and empowerment.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textJoin us as we promise to unravel the crucial elements of sexual health education with the insightful guidance of certified sex therapist Melissa Kilbride. Ever wondered how early conversations about body safety, consent, and pleasure can shape healthier adult relationships? Melissa brings her wealth of experience working with both children and adults to show how these dialogues can reduce trauma and anxiety later in life. We underline the importance of parents providing a safe space and language for their children to discuss their bodies, setting the stage for informed and empowering sexual experiences.Melissa helps us navigate the tricky terrain of discussing explicit content, like provocative song lyrics, with kids and underscores the necessity of open communication about sexual preferences in relationships. Tackling everything from the introduction of sex toys in everyday settings to demystifying pornography for adolescents, this episode is packed with practical advice and heartfelt stories. By fostering an environment rich in psychoeducation and empathy, we aim to make conversations about sexual health less taboo and more accessible for everyone. Tune in to equip yourself with the tools to cultivate healthier, more open dialogues about sex at any stage of life.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textHave you ever felt that your relationships could be profoundly transformed by simply trusting your gut? In this episode, we're joined by Masha Ra, a healer whose journey from a Christian upbringing through personal trauma and a toxic marriage led her to discover her true calling. Masha now dedicates her life to helping others achieve self-acceptance and heal through unique methods like tarot card readings, hypnotherapy, and coaching. Listen as Masha shares her insights on how to unravel the deep-seated beliefs that hold us back and embrace our past and sexuality to create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.Trusting your inner wisdom can be the key to finding true connection. This episode also delves into the subtleties of recognizing intuitive signals in relationships. From vivid dreams to internal voices, Masha and I discuss how paying attention to these cues, as well as your body's reactions to meeting new people, can guide you towards genuine connections. We highlight the importance of authenticity and self-awareness in dating and the benefits of exploring multiple connections to better understand your desires. This rich conversation will inspire you to listen to your intuition and embrace honesty in all your relationships.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textHow do societal norms and systems shape our understanding of sex and relationships? Join us for a thought-provoking episode as we sit down with renowned sexologist DeVika Lyles to unravel the complexities of sexology, a field that goes far beyond the physical act to include emotional, psychological, and social dimensions. DeVika introduces her ground-breaking program, the "Seven Sexological Conversations," and discusses how family beliefs, religion, and societal laws profoundly influence our sexual lives. Through this enlightening discussion, you'll gain a deeper appreciation for the myriad factors that contribute to a fulfilling sexual experience.In our deep dive into the intricate relationship between sexuality and societal norms, we confront the cultural barriers to open conversations about sex. From the lingering impacts of colonization on self-expression to the rigid societal rules based on gender and health, DeVika helps us navigate these challenging topics. We also discuss how systemic beliefs and celebrity culture, like the controversial case of Chris Brown, shape our views on relationships and sex. This episode aims to spark more informed and empathetic dialogues about sex and gender, encouraging transformation through candid and open discussion. Tune in to challenge your preconceptions and foster a broader understanding of sex and society.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textEver wondered how to keep the spark alive in a long-term marriage? Sandy joins us to share her invaluable insights on maintaining a fulfilling sex life, even through life's major shifts like post-pregnancy and perimenopause. Learn how understanding and aligning love languages such as touch and quality time can make a significant difference. Sandy's personal stories highlight the importance of open communication and mutual acceptance, even when personalities are very different, emphasizing the need to prioritize the marital relationship for a strong family foundation.Next, we tackle a topic that often makes parents uneasy—discussing sex and bodies with kids. We break down the importance of open and honest conversations about puberty, privacy, and sexual health. Personal anecdotes illustrate how being a trusted adult can guide young people through these sensitive topics, and the role of older siblings in providing consistent, supportive advice. Our aim is to make these discussions less daunting and more natural, fostering a healthier approach to sexual education within families.Finally, Sandy and I dive into the nitty-gritty of relationship communication and intimacy. Discover how early experiences shape our sexual preferences and interactions later in life. Sandy shares the necessity of expressing desires and boundaries to keep the sex life exciting and healthy. We also explore the role of therapy and how embracing the imperfect aspects of intimacy can actually strengthen your bond. Listen for practical advice on finding the right partner and navigating the challenges of dating apps, ensuring you don't waste time on the wrong matches. Don't forget to share this episode with your friends and give us a five-star rating—your support means the world to us!Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textHave you ever wondered how a relationship from your past might have shaped who you are today? Join us for a heartfelt and revealing conversation as I reconnect with my ex, David, to reflect on our past relationship during our time in the Air Force. We take a nostalgic walk down memory lane, recounting the good times we shared and the evolution of our bond. Despite having different communication styles—my anxious attachment versus David's need for space—we remember our relationship fondly. Moreover, we offer insights into how relationship dynamics can continue to be misunderstood.In this episode, we dive into the complexities of emotional and physical connections, sharing amusing anecdotes and discussing the impact of past significant others on current relationships. We explore how personal traits and societal norms around physical preferences can influence attraction and chemistry. From significant moments marked by miscommunication, especially around a memorable Christmas event, to the challenges of achieving deep intimacy, we lay it all out. Listen in for candid reflections, honest admissions, and meaningful discussions about attachment styles, personal growth, and the journey toward greater self-awareness. This episode is filled with laughter, nostalgia, and valuable insights into the intricacies of past relationships.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textUnlock the secrets to attracting the love you deserve with dating and relationship coach, Karina Chapman! Ever wondered why physical attraction alone isn't enough for a lasting relationship? Find out how identifying and matching values is crucial in forming conscious connections. Karina shares her personal journey through several unsuccessful relationships and offers insights into recognizing red flags and trusting your instincts.Discover how your past influences your present. Learn how early childhood experiences shape your perceptions and patterns in relationships, often leading to repetitive cycles of unhealthy partnerships. By becoming aware of these influences and recognizing self-sabotaging behaviors, you can redefine what a healthy relationship looks like. We also discuss unrealistic portrayals of relationships in media and the importance of proper education on interpersonal skills.Don't miss out on practical advice, resources, and a free masterclass to help you increase your confidence and attract the love you truly deserve. And check out her books!Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic