EP 199 | The Confidence Hack No One Says: High-Value Women’s Community

You know you need community. You know isolation isn't the answer. But stepping into unfamiliar spaces to find your people feels vulnerable, awkward, and maybe even a little desperate. This prayer moment is for the woman who's been waiting for her business besties, her prayer warriors, her real support system to just appear. The truth is, they're out there. But the next level of growth requires you to do something uncomfortable first. Rae prays over the woman who's ready to stop going it alone. She asks God to land your name on the hearts of the people He's chosen for you, and to give you the courage to step outside your comfort zone long enough to let them find you. Because the stats are clear: women need each other. And God has a plan to bring you together. This isn't about networking. It's about divine connection. And it starts with a prayer and a leap of faith. Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's a cost to doing it alone that most women don't calculate until they're already paying it. Rae breaks down the research behind why women in community don't just feel better, they perform better, earn more, get promoted faster, and even live longer. But this isn't just about stats. It's about the lightness that comes when you stop trying to solve everything in your own head. If you've been wondering where your people are, or if community is really worth the vulnerability it requires, this episode will give you both the data and the permission you need. Rae shares her own story of stepping back, staying isolated too long, and what changed when she finally found her way back in. This is for the woman who knows she's meant for more but keeps trying to build it by herself. Key Timestamps [00:01:58] Women's networking doubles promotion likelihood   [00:04:18] The 47% credibility boost from being in high-value community   [00:05:08] Stress reduction and the oxytocin effect   [00:07:48] How to find your community: Two simple strategies   [00:09:18] The beach story: Teaching her son to make friends   Memorable Quotes "Being part of a high-value professional community increases a woman's perceived expertise and credibility by not five, not 10%, not 20%, not even 40%, 47%. That is massive." – Rae Irelan [00:04:28]  "Where did I find my best friends? Inside a mastermind. Where did I get some of the biggest results I've ever gotten? Inside a mastermind." – Rae Irelan [00:07:48] "It's such a human thing to be nervous or scared about stepping into a new community, and sometimes we just gotta get over ourselves and say, 'If this is what I want, if this is what God is calling me into, and I see these stats, and I want this, then you just gotta go out and find them.'" – Rae Irelan [00:10:48] Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's a specific kind of exhaustion that comes from believing your vision lives or dies by your effort alone. That the systems have to be complicated. That the team won't show up. That growth requires grinding until you break. This prayer is a reset. It's for the visionary who's been white-knuckling their calling, the creative who's forgotten that God brings the people, and the leader who needs permission to stop agreeing with the enemy's narrative that impact must be heavy. Rae prays over discernment, clarity, and the kind of surrender that actually builds something sustainable. Short, focused, and exactly what you need before you open your project management software today. Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exhaustion isn't always about the mission. Sometimes it's the chaos you've built around it. Stacia Loo is a systems integrator who helps entrepreneurs scale without burning out. In this conversation, she talks about the flood that hit Hawaii, why her business didn't miss a beat, and the identity shift required to let go of being busy. She shares why she still fails every day, how AI has changed the speed of execution, and why money loves speed more than ever before. This isn't about summarizing your week in a dashboard. It's about building a business that supports your life instead of draining it. If you've been wearing burnout like a badge, this one will make you rethink the whole thing. Key Timestamps [00:03:42] How Stacia became a systems integrator without knowing the title existed   [00:12:18] The two types of clients: "Do it for me" vs. "I want to know everything"   [00:15:45] AI and automation: The difference and why it matters   [00:19:20] The identity trap: Why entrepreneurs get addicted to being busy   [00:30:15] The unicorn skill: Being both creative and structured   [00:34:40] How AI speeds up manifestation and visualization   Memorable Quotes "If you do not fail, you would never know how to fix it. I constantly fail. But if we don't fail, then we won't remember or learn what to do next." – [00:09:18]  Stacia Loo "AI can't replace us; your competition can't replace you because you are you, an individual, and you always will be that person that has a unique take or a unique skill of whatever your product or your service is." – [00:27:30] Stacia Loo "Money loves speed. You have no excuse to be broke. You literally could have an idea, or someone can have a problem, and you can go and ask ChatGPT or Claude to solve that problem for you that quickly." – [00:38:50] Stacia Loo About Stacia Loo Stacia is a systems integrator, SaaS consultant, and automation strategist who helps entrepreneurs simplify their businesses and scale without burnout. Known for her no-BS approach, she blends life, business, and systems to help founders stop relying on hustle and start building operations that actually support their lives. Stacia specializes in automation, AI, and recurring revenue models, and is passionate about helping people create freedom through smarter systems, not harder work. Website: stacialoo.com  Instagram: @stacialoo  YouTube: stacia.io/yt  Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes the enemy makes us think God's focus is elsewhere. But this prayer reminds you: His focus is on you, and your obedience in small acts is where He becomes most alive in your mission. Rae prays over the listener who needs scales to fall from her eyes, who needs to see clearly what's actually happening, and who's ready to take authority over the territory God has already claimed as hers. This is a prayer for discernment, courage, clarity, and the kind of focus that commands the enemy to leave in Jesus' name. If you've been waiting for permission to step into what's yours, this is it. Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You're not behind. You're not undisciplined. You're just distracted. And the enemy doesn't need you to fail at your God-given mission. He just needs you busy with everything else. In this episode, Rae exposes the subtle ways distraction pulls you off course, even when you're doing good things. She shares a raw story from her own life and a powerful conversation with friends that revealed how the enemy targets high-achieving women right at the moment of obedience. If you can list ten things you did today but none of them are the one thing God assigned you, this episode will help you reclaim your focus. This isn't about doing more. It's about protecting what's yours. Because if the enemy is working this hard to distract you, it means you're dangerous. Key Timestamps [00:02:15] The difference between lazy and distracted   [00:07:45] A girlfriend's conviction about self-care vs. ministry   [00:15:10] Why your struggle to focus is proof you're called   [00:18:00] The cost of being one degree off course   [00:20:30] How to do a daily distraction audit   [00:23:45] Your mission is waiting for you   Memorable Quotes "I don't think you're lazy. I don't think you're under-disciplined. You're just distracted." – Rae Irelan [00:01:45] "The enemy doesn't actually need you to fail at that thing that God has given you. He just needs you to be really busy." – Rae Irelan [00:03:20]  "Every time you say no to what God didn't assign to you, you're saying yes to what He did assign to you." – Rae Irelan [00:22:10]  Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kerry Tepedino opens this moment with a prayer that feels less like ritual and more like covering. She speaks protection over every listener, provision for what's ahead, and the belief that you're here for a reason, for a specific nugget meant just for you. There's something about standing together, two or more, that changes the weight of what we carry. Kerry prays over the angels at their post, over the divine plan already in motion, and over the strength that comes from leading with heart instead of hustle. This isn't a full episode. It's a pause, a covering, and a reminder that you're not alone in what you're building. Get the first chapter of Kerry's book “One Thought Away” for free: https://onethoughtawaybook.com/ The book includes printables, visualizations, and tools to help you identify the one thought standing between you and your dream life. Available in full on Amazon. Kerry Tepedino Kerry Tepedino is the CEO and Founder of the One Thought Away Project™ and Co-Founder and Managing Partner of Living Beyond The Hustle. With nearly 25 years as an entrepreneur, she's transitioned from brick-and-mortar to global business models and now focuses on helping high-level women align their life, leadership, and legacy without burnout. Kerry is a single mom of three and a fierce advocate for play, adventure, and bringing God into leadership decisions. Website: www.onethoughtawayproject.com   Living Beyond The Hustle: http://www.livingbeyondthehustle.com/equity   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/kerrytepedino Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kerry Tepedino has been an entrepreneur for 25 years. She's built brick-and-mortar businesses, scaled globally, raised three kids as a single mom, and still refuses to miss the moments that matter. But it didn't start that way. There were seasons of exhaustion, of measuring herself against to-do lists, of staying tired because it felt easier than stopping. In this conversation, Kerry and Rae unpack the real cost of hustle culture and why so many high-performing women stay stuck in patterns that no longer serve them. Kerry introduces three core questions that help you identify what's driving your burnout, what it's actually costing you, and whether you're willing to renegotiate the contracts you made with yourself years ago. This isn't about quitting. It's about realigning. If you've ever wondered how to create more success without burning out, or if you're running at full capacity and can't see a way forward, this episode will give you the permission and the framework to build differently. Key Timestamps [00:05:30] Kerry's 25-year entrepreneurial journey and her current focus on high-level women   [00:07:45] Why self-care and play are part of the job description, not a luxury   [00:12:10] Renegotiating old contracts with yourself based on your current season   [00:18:30] Why we keep doing things that don't serve us [00:21:45] Rae shares two powerful journaling questions that shook her this morning   [00:26:00] The cost question: What is it really costing you to stay in this pattern?   Memorable Quotes "I wasn't willing to stay in burnout for an extended period of time. So it wasn't about quitting. That's different. But I renegotiated based on the season I was then in and the things that were now a priority to me." – Kerry Tepedino [00:12:34]  "We keep doing things even if they're not serving us; we keep doing it because we're still getting something from it, right? Or else we would stop. What is it costing me to continue to do this pattern or have this way of being or this way of thinking or speaking? What is it costing me?" – Kerry Tepedino [00:19:10] Get the first chapter of Kerry's book “One Thought Away” for free: https://onethoughtawaybook.com/ The book includes printables, visualizations, and tools to help you identify the one thought standing between you and your dream life. Available in full on Amazon. Kerry Tepedino Kerry Tepedino is the CEO and Founder of the One Thought Away Project™ and Co-Founder and Managing Partner of Living Beyond The Hustle. With nearly 25 years as an entrepreneur, she's transitioned from brick-and-mortar to global business models and now focuses on helping high-level women align their life, leadership, and legacy without burnout. Kerry is a single mom of three and a fierce advocate for play, adventure, and bringing God into leadership decisions. Website: www.onethoughtawayproject.com   Living Beyond The Hustle: http://www.livingbeyondthehustle.com/equity   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/kerrytepedino Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's a difference between wanting something and being called to it. This prayer is for the woman who feels the pull but needs confirmation that what's stirring inside her is real, is hers, and is worth protecting. Rae leads a grounded, intentional prayer asking for clarity on what to nurture and what to release. It's not about knowing the entire path. It's about recognizing the resources already in front of you and stepping forward anyway, hand in hand with something bigger than your own agenda. Short, focused, and meant to be returned to whenever you need to remember: the desire matters, the timing isn't yours, and you're more ready than you think. Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The door doesn't open for the person waiting to prepare after the opportunity arrives. It opens for the one who's already been preparing in secret. Rae shares a raw story about missing an opportunity because she didn't obey when God told her to prepare. It's a vulnerable look at how the enemy uses waiting as a shield against fear, and how disobedience creates space for lies to take root. This isn't about hustling harder or forcing doors open. It's about recognizing that preparation itself is an act of faith, and your obedience in the unseen is what positions you to walk through the door when it finally swings wide. If you've been telling yourself you'll start when the timing is right, when you have more clarity, or when you feel ready enough, this episode will challenge you to stop worshiping the opinions of others and start taking the one action that proves you trust Him. Key Timestamps [00:03:45] The story: How Rae missed an opportunity by not preparing [00:08:12] When the enemy gets in during disobedience [00:16:45] 10 empowering beliefs to claim over your calling [00:25:40] Grace and the second chance to prepare with excellence [00:30:50] The performance that glorified God through preparation [00:36:10] Preparation is the practical expression of faith Memorable Quotes "Preparation is not presumptuous. It's the practical expression of trust in what God has already spoken." – Rae Irelan [00:17:42]  "The delay is not rejection. It's really just development." – Rae Irelan [00:34:15]  Connect With the Host Website: https://raeirelan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raeirelan/ Join the Evolved Influence Academy Community today! https://www.skool.com/evolved-influence-academy/about?ref=28c7243ce169469eb9979bbc4226a76a Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices