Meeting Your Soulmate (While Married) and Breaking Free From "Good Girl" Conditioning with Amber Rae

Delanie Fischer is joined by Michelle “MACE” Curran—former fighter pilot, combat veteran, and the second woman in history to fly lead solo for the U.S. Air Force Thunderbirds—to share lessons from a demanding, high-stakes career. They discuss tactics for managing fear and self-doubt, navigating pivots and reinvention, and the importance of following your evolving excitement and sense of adventure.Plus:+ A Breakdown of G-Force, G-Lock, and Going Supersonic + The Treasure Chest Tip: Turning Missteps into Momentum+ The Life Lesson Behind Call Signs (and How MACE Got Hers)Mace's book, The Flipside: https://macecurran.com/flipside/Self-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comEPISODES RELATED TO THIS TOPIC:15 Tips For Managing Stage Fright In Work And Life with Em Schulz and Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/21e3bc9e/15-tips-for-managing-stage-fright-in-work-and-life-with-em-schulz-and-delanie-fischerWhen Your Dream Job Ends with Sam Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23660c46/when-your-dream-job-ends-with-sam-fischer“You’re So Sensitive”: Understanding Everyday Microaggressions, Implicit Bias, and Best Practices with Billie Lee & Dr. Gina Torino: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2396d366/youre-so-sensitive-understanding-everyday-microaggressions-implicit-bias-and-best-practices-with-billie-lee-and-dr-gina-torinoDefiant Dreams with Sola Mahfouz and Malaina Kapoor: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/226e5e22/defiant-dreams-with-sola-mahfouz-and-malaina-kapoorSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by Behavioral Change Expert and Bestselling Author, Karen Salmansohn, to discuss insights from her latest book, Your To-Die-For Life: How to Maximize Joy and Minimize Regret . . . Before Your Time Runs Out. Karen combines neuroscience, psychology, philosophy, and personal stories to share effective mindset hacks, exercises, and the core values that will help you avoid the top regrets of the dying, be present, and have more fun—more often.Plus:+ 7 Core Values That Ward Off Top Regrets of the Dying+ The Marble Jar, Greater Than Sign, and Your To-Die List+ Beast Mode vs. Best Mode and Pleasure vs. HappinessSelf-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comEPISODES RELATED TO THIS TOPIC:Flip the Script on Aging: Strength, Vitality, and Purpose with 74 Year-Old Icon Babette Davis: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23c49ad2/flip-the-script-on-aging-strength-vitality-and-purpose-with-74-year-old-icon-babette-davisOvercoming the Fear of Death with Kelvin Chin: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/20d70e6d/overcoming-the-fear-of-death-with-kelvin-chinCompounded Grief: Coping With Multiple Losses At Once with Stephanie Edwards: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/250aef7a/compounded-grief-coping-with-multiple-losses-at-once-with-stephanie-edwardsMy Dad Was Diagnosed With Lewy Body Dementia with Erika Martin: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/21b228bf/my-dad-was-diagnosed-with-lewy-body-dementia-with-erika-martin20+ Years Thriving With Stage IV Cancer with Kris Carr: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22f2b084/20-years-thriving-with-stage-iv-cancer-with-kris-carrWhen I Found Out I Had A Brain Tumor with Athena Trombly: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/25e37bb7/when-i-found-out-i-had-a-brain-tumor-with-athena-tromblySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by Billie Lee—comedian, activist, and the first openly transgender cast member on BravoTV’s Vanderpump Rules—and Dr. Gina Torino, psychologist and microaggression expert, to share insights from their book, Why Are You So Sensitive?: Navigating Everyday, Unintended Microaggressions. They discuss why microaggressions aren’t “micro” at all, the devastating impact they can have on wellbeing, livelihood, and safety, how to raise our own awareness to become better allies, and practical tips for handling unintended microaggressions with grace—whether you’re the receiver, the giver, or a bystander. This conversation is judgment-free, we’ve all committed and experienced microaggressions, whether we realize it or not.Plus:+ The #1 Thing to Do Before Taking Action on Someone’s Behalf+ Assumptions We Make Based on Gender, Age, Race, and More+ 3 Common Microaggressions Disguised as ComplimentsWhy Are You So Sensitive?: Navigating Everyday, Unintended Microaggressions: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Why-Are-You-So-Sensitive/Billie-Lee/9781524873493Self-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comEPISODES RELATED TO THIS TOPIC:Cultural Appropriation vs. Cultural Appreciation with Trevia Woods: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2505c934/cultural-appropriation-vs-cultural-appreciation-with-trevia-woodsSpiritual Activism with Racial Justice Educator, Rachel Ricketts: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/255a24cd/spiritual-activism-with-racial-justice-educator-rachel-rickettsCancel Culture vs. Accountability with Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/38432784/cancel-culture-vs-accountability-with-sonya-renee-taylorThe Body Positivity Movement: What’s Working vs. What’s Not? with Jessamyn Stanley: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/e814d362/the-body-positivity-movement-whats-working-vs-whats-not-with-jessamyn-stanleySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by Sam Laura Brown, host of The Perfectionism Project and Founder of Perfectionists Getting Shit Done, to discuss how to approach your personal and professional goals in a way that works with your brain, not against it. Sam shares insights on Power Planning, the importance of clean rest, and an astounding reason why we procrastinate and consistently burnout—it'll change your world forever.Plus:+ The 1 Thing To Screenshot Today To Decode Your Schedule+ Optimal vs. Sufficient (What Perfectionists Must Remember)+ Screw 100% Follow-Through—Why 80% Is Your New Best FriendSelf-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comEPISODES RELATED TO THIS TOPIC:Cracking The Code To Behavior Change: Troubleshooting Tiny Barriers That Destroy Big Goals with Molly Maxwell: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24e651e8/cracking-the-code-to-behavior-change-troubleshooting-tiny-barriers-that-destroy-big-goals-with-molly-maxwell12 ADHD Life Hacks with Em Schulz: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/252910dc/12-adhd-life-hacks-with-em-schulzHurry Sickness And The Busy Brain Cure with Dr. Romie Mushtaq: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/243d15fa/hurry-sickness-and-the-busy-brain-cure-with-dr-romie-mushtaqWe Need Your F*cking Art! For Health, Community, and More with Amie McNee: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/25b6ee3e/we-need-your-fcking-art-for-health-community-and-more-with-amie-mcneeCreating A Life Brief And Getting "Fuzzy Clear" with Bonnie Wan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/251bf5df/creating-a-life-brief-and-getting-fuzzy-clear-with-bonnie-wanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by Dr. Tara—Tenured Professor of Relational and Sexual Communication and Quantitative Research at California State University Fullerton, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, and Co-Host of the iconic radio show Loveline—to unpack the “whys” behind infidelity. Dr. Tara shares the 3 main reasons people cheat, how to begin healing from betrayal, and what to consider for creating healthier relationship dynamics.Plus:+ 2 Sexual Health Myths Debunked+ Serial Cheaters vs. Serial Monogamists+ A Breakdown of Catastrophe TheoryMore episodes related to this topic:When My Husband Came Out: Sexuality, Betrayal, and Healing with Jessica Frew: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/229e6642/when-my-husband-came-out-sexuality-betrayal-and-healing-with-jessica-frewMeeting Your Soulmate (While Married) and Breaking Free From "Good Girl" Conditioning with Amber Rae: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/21afaab6/meeting-your-soulmate-while-married-and-breaking-free-from-good-girl-conditioning-with-amber-raeDiagnosed Narcissist (Lee Hammock) and Clinical Psychologist (Dr. Ramani) Offer Insights Into Manipulation And Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/241deda3/diagnosed-narcissist-lee-hammock-and-clinical-psychologist-dr-ramani-offer-insights-into-manipulation-and-narcissistic-personality-disorder-npdDeceptive Affection, Betrayal Trauma, and Multidimensional Healing with Támara Hill: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24cc8b07/deceptive-affection-betrayal-trauma-and-multidimensional-healing-with-tamara-hillYour Burning Relationship Questions Answered with Rachel DeAlto: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/3f1ddb9c/your-burning-relationship-questions-answered-with-rachel-dealtoIs It Porn Addiction? Inside the Impact, Neuroscience, and Recovery with Steve Moore and Mark Kastleman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2230ec70/is-it-porn-addiction-inside-the-impact-neuroscience-and-recovery-with-steve-moore-and-mark-kastlemanSelf-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by Astrologer Madi Murphy, Founder of CosmicRX and Author of In the Cosmic Zone: Embody the 12 Astro Archetypes to Unleash Your Genius and Activate Your Authentic Self, to discuss all things astrology—history, skepticism, archetypes, planetary transits, and leveraging your unique natal chart to create a life that feels like you. Madi also shares how her husband went from astro skeptic to believer, how she integrates a variety of tools and modalities into her practice, and even gives Delanie a live reading based on her own birth chart to explore life transitions, purpose, and what may be on the horizon.Plus:+ Does Your Sign Actually Dictate Your Relationships?+ Nodal Return, Jupiter Return, and Retrogrades Explained+ The Big Dream Madi Manifested a Little Too HardMore episodes related to this topic:What’s Your Human Design? with Krystle Alfarero: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/4eebd9b0/whats-your-human-design-with-krystle-alfareroEnneagram Personality Test Results with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/93ee0232/enneagram-personality-test-results-with-taylor-tomlinson-kelsey-cook-and-delanie-fischerMyers Briggs Personality Test Results with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/82eb04b2/myers-briggs-personality-test-results-with-taylor-tomlinson-kelsey-cook-and-delanie-fischerThe 4 Attachment Styles (And Our Quiz Results): https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2283b7fd/the-4-attachment-styles-and-our-quiz-resultsThe 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/dd3a637b/the-5-love-languages-by-gary-chapmanThe Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/dfdf5c79/the-four-tendencies-by-gretchen-rubinKelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer (Attempt To) Read Their Birth Charts: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2857914b/were-reading-our-birth-chartsSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by Amber Rae, author of Loveable, to unpack what it was like to meet her soulmate—while still married to her ex-husband. Amber shares her feelings about experiencing a lonely marriage, the days leading up to her decision to leave, how she transformed internalized shame, where she and her ex-husband are now in life and love, and lessons learned—as well as those still a work in progress. This episode offers a very honest perspective on the sometimes messy, imperfect ways relationships can start and end, and what can keep us stuck in environments that aren’t meant for us.Plus:+ 3 Game-Changing Tips for Writers and Creatives+ What Your Anger Might Be Telling You+ Amber's Favorite Journaling ExerciseMore episodes related to this topic:The 4 Intimacy Styles with Dr. Viviana ColesWhen My Husband Came Out: Sexuality, Betrayal, and Healing with Jessica FrewMy Parents Kept Their Divorce A Secret For 3 Years with Nishima GuptaCraving A Healthy Relationship? Understand Your Attachment Style with Thais GibsonHow Being Children of Divorce Has Influenced Our RelationshipsHow To Un-F*ck Your RelationshipsGetting The Love You Want by Harville HendrixSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by Lisa Lange, Senior Vice President of Communications for People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals, to share what to consider before bringing an animal into your home, how to adopt ethically, and everyday care tips for promoting health and longevity. Lisa also debunks common myths, gives us insider details often kept from the public, and outlines three ways to help combat the nationwide animal homelessness and overpopulation crisis (tens of millions of animals are overwhelming shelters, abandoned on streets, etc.). This information is coming to you judgment-free—Delanie even shares about her own missteps with animals, and what she’s doing differently these days. Whether you're looking to adopt, already caring for animals, or want to be a more effective advocate, this will rattle you in the best way.Plus:+ Can Dogs Be Hypoallergenic? Are Cats Really Low Maintenance?+ What Pet Stores and Breeders Don't Want You To Know (YIKES)+ Why Open Admission Shelters Need Urgent Support (3 Ways To Help)More episodes related to this topic:7 Things To Keep Out Of Your Closet (For Good) with Trend Expert And Animal Advocate Ashley Frohnert: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2550df3e/7-things-to-keep-out-of-your-closet-for-good-with-trend-expert-and-animal-advocate-ashley-frohnertMaking World History with Cattle Rancher Turned Sanctuary Founder, Renee King-Sonnen: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/23a747f0/making-world-history-with-cattle-rancher-turned-sanctuary-founder-renee-king-sonnenWhy I Couldn't Stand Vegans Before Becoming One with Ed Winters: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/31e36189/why-i-couldnt-stand-vegans-before-becoming-one-with-ed-winters10 Ways To Be An Activist with Jamie Logan and Justina Adorno: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2699ec8c/10-ways-to-be-an-activist-with-jamie-logan-and-justina-adorno50 Simple Compassionate Product Swaps: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/1f47872a/50-simple-and-delicious-vegan-swapsGoing Vegan with Preacher Lawson: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/1def48a2/going-vegan-with-preacher-lawsonSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by Danielle Hayden, CEO of Kickstart Accounting, Inc. and reformed corporate CFO, to help you build a simple, shame-free budget—no stuffy suits or cold offices required—based on your Money Personality Type (Perfectionist, Free Spender, Saver, Balance Seeker). If money stresses you out in one way or another, we get it—and Danielle shares how organizing your finances now can unlock major breakthroughs in your life and work for years to come.Plus:+ What Money Conversations Are REALLY About+ Danielle's Top 4 Finance Tools and Apps+ Your First (or Next) Step Tailored To Your PersonalityMore episodes related to this topic:We Should All Be Millionaires with Author, Rachel Rodgers: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/49826912/we-should-all-be-millionaires-with-author-rachel-rodgersHow To Build Wealth with Delyanne, The Money Coach: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/1f2d8edd/how-to-build-wealth-with-delyanne-the-money-coachThe Biggest Mistakes We’ve Made With Money: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24ab6fec/the-biggest-mistakes-weve-made-with-moneyLet's Define What Enough Means To YOU: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/20310cb2/lets-define-what-enough-means-to-youGrowing Up In "The Poor Family" with Ron Fischer (Delanie's Dad): https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/25c5f83b/growing-up-in-the-poor-family-with-ron-fischer-delanies-dadTransform Your Finances with Certified Financial Planner, Hilary Hendershott: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/d8a76b01/transform-your-finances-with-certified-financial-planner-hilary-hendershottSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer is joined by Kelly Chase, co-host of the Cosmosis podcast and writer and executive producer of Cosmosis: UFOs & A New Reality (Amazon Prime and Apple TV), to discuss UAP, anomalous experiences, and the limitations of human perception. Their conversation covers the 2023 congressional hearings, the crossroads of science, history, psychology, and spirituality, leading theories about UAP, and connections to art, media, folklore—as well as phenomena like premonition dreams, intuition, synchronicities, and apparitions. Regardless of your beliefs, this is a fascinating topic worth exploring.Plus:+ The Most Compelling Evidence Something Unusual Is Happening+ Why Do Some People Experience UAP and Others Never Do?+ How Kelly Went From Skeptic To Seeker (And What Changed Her Mind)Thank you to our Patreon community for voting on this topic!More episodes related to this topic:Spiritual Experiences (Coincidence or Woo-Woo?): https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24707c31/spiritual-experiences-coincidence-or-woo-wooThe Importance of Your Dreams (Literally) with Claudia Barfoot: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2078ac9f/the-importance-of-your-dreams-literally-with-claudia-barfootRethinking Intuition, Belief, and The Nature of Reality with Vincent Genna: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/23db0212/rethinking-intuition-belief-and-the-nature-of-reality-with-vincent-gennaExploring the World of Lucid Dreaming by Stephen LaBerge: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/22f0eeb2/exploring-the-world-of-lucid-dreaming-by-stephen-labergeAre We All Clairvoyant? With Kira Soltanovich: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/b6b1ce85/are-we-all-clairvoyant-with-kira-soltanovichSupport the podcast, vote on topics, and more: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.