354 - Don't Just Change What You're Doing. Change Who You're Being.

The whole point of this podcast is not just to change what you’re doing. It’s to change who you are being. For that, we look at repetition and beliefs.  In this episode we discuss how the our identity is shaped by our habits. And how the identity we choose determines the habits we need to create. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/354   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

We often say that porn is not the problem, it's the solution. And when we let go of porn we are left with one thing: our needs. But just how do we get our needs met? On this episode, I share a counterintuitive approach, you can use, to meet almost any need.   Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/353   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching    

Have you ever felt guilty that you have not lived up to your potential? That because of your past something you were destined for will never be achieved. On this episode, we reframe this mindset with a hopeful alternative where nothing has been lost and even more is to be gained. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/352   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching    

This episode is a fast follow-up to PFR 350- Pure Freedom, where we discuss Rich Litvin's "three distinctions around freedom." In this show, Matt asks some prompting questions to help you get more clarity about your freedom. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/351   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

In the episode, we are going to focus on the concept of pure freedom. Master coach, Rich Litvin describes pure freedom as "the freedom to make decisions moment by moment. The freedom to be yourself... a place to come FROM, not a place to get to." Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/350   Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/350   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

We're back on PFR asking the question, “when are you going to stop living like you're never going to die?”  Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/349   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

In this episode, we explore the idea of "high bottom" porn use—when your life isn't falling apart, but you're still stuck and it's costing you. We discuss how people in this situation can break through denial and rationalizations to take more action. There is more freedom to be had! Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/348   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com   Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

One of my podcast heroes, Dan Miller, had a goal setting practice which I love.  “When I set my goals for the new year, I ruthlessly eliminate 15% of the things I’ve been doing to make room for the new things I want to do.” — Dan Miller, 48 Days Podcast Dan shares how it's important eliminate things you're doing before creating new commitments. In this episode, you'll learn how this goal setting practice is easily adapted to recovery and our big goal of being porn free. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/347   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com   Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

In this episode, I’m joined by my brother Sam Dobschuetz, as we open the Porn Free Radio mailbag answering questions like… What percentage of guys that do coaching with you achieve a porn free life? Any recommendations on a porn blocker or firewall? What is it actually like when you are in recovery for 60, 90, 200 days, a year, 5 years? How does the struggle change? Can you ever go back to the way things were, in any area of life? And finally… what constitutes a relapse and what constitutes a slip? Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/346   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com   Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

We just picked a new president here in the States. Maybe you heard? This season, I noticed my news consumption went way up. As I look back now at my feelings and motivations, I found some interesting connections to my old porn struggle. On this episode, I consider my vulnerability with consuming content and media as a recovered man. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/345   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com   Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching